Submissive "Thought of the Day" Calendar

[catalina_francisco]

March 7th - words of Esclava

"I must admit I do not have a maso bone in my body. What I need from my Doms is for Him/Her to control my submissiveness. To show me that His/Her pleasure is superior to any desire I might have. I have been told that some pain is necessary and desireable - but if I am looking for maso pain, it will not be found from the Doms I serve now. And what they give me is EXACTLY what I was seeking. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7677594#post7677594

Catalina

 

[Esclava]

March 8th

I've not been visiting the boards long enough to know where to find a quote from someone else, so here is my own.

Dare to dream of whatever you desire; for in those dreams are your realities waiting to come to life. And if your desires are strong enough, they will breathe life into your dreams and bring beauty to your soul - much like a rose when it blooms after a spring rain.

Thank you, Catalina!

Esclava

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: March 8th

I've not been visiting the boards long enough to know where to find a quote from someone else, so here is my own.


Esclava

Thanks, that was very true. As to finding quotes, they are just taken from any thread where you find something you like said by someone who identifies as a submissive/slave, or switch talking about their submissive side. Just highlight and copy and paste to this thread, then copy the thread address at the top to put under the quote incase anyone wants to read more of what was being discussed, and that is it. Thanks again for contributing.

Catalina

 

[Esclava]

MARCH 9TH

Thought for the day:

Thank those who have listened, offered advice or in some other way have helped you on your journey.

catalina_francisco,

I want to thank you for a gift you don't know you've given me. The gift is the hope I feel when I look into your av.

In it, I see the image of Francisco as a shelter (the cloak which covers), defender (elbows extended which can be closed to shield), protector (strong hands gently covering areas easily injured - your heart), lover (the kiss that reaches into your soul), and Master of your life (the unity achieved as the two of you meld into one - separate, but never separated).

I see the image of Catalina as Chosen (the loving embrace itself), supporter (while you stand beneath "His Shelter", He will never fall), submissive (body facing forward, arms open and raised - a sign that tells me you are secure in the safety of His arms), and lover (the kiss - need I say more?).

All of what I see gives me hope that I may find love that is as deep and powerful as the one you share. If your love is as I have seen it, I thank you for allowing me a glimpse into the beauty of it. I have been made stronger for it.

Esclava

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: MARCH 9TH

Thought for the day:

Thank those who have listened, offered advice or in some other way have helped you on your journey.

catalina_francisco,

I want to thank you for a gift you don't know you've given me. The gift is the hope I feel when I look into your av.

In it, I see the image of Francisco as a shelter (the cloak which covers), defender (elbows extended which can be closed to shield), protector (strong hands gently covering areas easily injured - your heart), lover (the kiss that reaches into your soul), and Master of your life (the unity achieved as the two of you meld into one - separate, but never separated).

I see the image of Catalina as Chosen (the loving embrace itself), supporter (while you stand beneath "His Shelter", He will never fall), submissive (body facing forward, arms open and raised - a sign that tells me you are secure in the safety of His arms), and lover (the kiss - need I say more?).

All of what I see gives me hope that I may find love that is as deep and powerful as the one you share. If your love is as I have seen it, I thank you for allowing me a glimpse into the beauty of it. I have been made stronger for it.

Esclava

Wow, thanks. You have so beautifully analysed the AV, and it fits so well also. I am happy we have been able to give you hope as without it, the road is a lot harder and longer to reach your destination safely. We are indeed blissfully immersed in each other and our love, and it seems to grow each day, much more than I ever thought possible. Many say after the first year it becomes more a settled pattern, a cooling of sorts into complacent acceptance....I am overwhelmed to find the opposite is true for us and we give thanks every day for the rare gift we have found in each other.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 10th - words of angela146

"Trust is required to be built on both sides. He needs to trust that I will accept more domination and pain at each step and that I'm not just saying it.

At first, it was very difficult for him to take the risk of my saying "Well I didn't mean *that*!" Now it is much easier because we know each other very well.......

I don't think we had a "dip the toe" versus "jump in head first" mindset. We took a series of steps, like walking down a staircase into the pool......

We also have not quite yet reached the level of abandoning our safe-phrases, so I don't think we have achieved full domination.

As for testing the trust, we test it every time we push ourselves to another level. We have not yet failed the test. There have been times when I've said (the next day) that it was too much. But there has never been a time when I felt that he had crossed the line."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=232537

Catalina

 

[Moose's Lady]

Thought for today:

I need to learn that my use of a safeword doesn't disappoint him, it only teaches us that we all have limits. Limits to test, to stretch, to learn, to trust.
Using a safe word isn't saying he's done something wrong, only that I'm overwhelmed by what I'm feeling, and that some discussion of it is in order, so that we both understand...

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 11th - words of serijules

"Part of what made it so easy for me to open up and meet people after I discovered the lifestyle, was the fact that a majority of the people involved in BDSM are bigger. Aka, they are not perfect, and don't expect anyone else to be either. It is that acceptance, that ability to not judge someone on something as silly as their looks, that made me most comfortable.

I don't think that the fact that someone is big has any link to BDSM desires, but rather, that the community as a whole is overall very accepting and non-judgemental, which makes it easier for more folks to 'come out' so to speak, and embrace their desires. If the community were so hung up on looks, I'm sure that a majority of the people involved publically (clubs, meets, parties) would be slender and 'perfect'. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=157909

Catalina

 

[Moose's Lady]

posted by Shadowsdream

submission is a NEED that consumes the mind the heart and almost every waking moment. A passion that NEEDS to be fullfilled even if it takes a lifetime of searching for that reality.

I also agree that submission is a gift but the gift has no value if the Dominant is supposed to be GREATFUL for it. It has no more value than the pair of socks you get every Christmas under the tree. It must be a well chosen gift with meaning to the particular partners and be recognized as a trading of gifts between the Dominant and the submissive. Each layer of outside wrapping to be removed with pride to expose the true gift of understanding of what they share together.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=112046&highlight=submissives



thank you

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 12th - words of Justina123

"But this "tolerance" is still different from really LIKING- that's what I find kind of fascinating. Yes, my nipples now are less sensitive and can take more...but I've gotten to the point where I WANT them to hurt some, where it is an erotic experience for me... and I think that is at least half (if not more) psychological rather than physical. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=142760



Catalina

 

[Esclava]

March 13 - Words of Moose's Lady

...He told me I had the libido of a man.. and I countered with... Does a man's libido have to be higher than a womans?

I do have a high libido, I freely admit it. I'm wanton, constantly in need, in heat, however you want to describe it.
I don't think it's because I'm submissive, I think its because we're now free enough to admit our desires, free enough to show them, and give them....not hide them. We're free enough to tell a man what we like, and what we don't like.

Or perhaps..... in my submission...... I'm more honest about it?

Something else to think on... [/QUOTE] https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7798883

Esclava

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thanks for the help with the calendar Esclava and Moose's Lady...it is always welcome and appreciated.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 14th - words of Moose's Lady

" True, the Master would guide, teach, train, and slowly the discovery comes.....
but it is still within the heart of the girl. No manner of training makes a submissive into a slave. It comes from within, then and only then is it given.
Yes, I'm owned, every single inch, every thought, every temper fit (which I still occassionally have, and do pay for ) But as much as I give him..... my heart and soul knew I was slave, before him.
If he had not found me, i would still .......be slave. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=234599&pagenumber=1

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 15th - words of s'lara

" Elusive and fleeting. Recognize it when you have it and don't treat trust like a disposable commodity. If you do ... shame on you. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=69600


Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 16th - words of malcah_ms

" To establish trust you need competance, reliability, honesty and caring -- have the 4 of those in some degree and you have trust. Trust is crucial and key to most D/s and M/s relationships. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=69600

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 17th - words of bunny bondage...

" i have very little experience with this, but i have cruised alt.com and have decided that men who post pics of their cocks instead of their faces do, in fact, deserve to be immediatly passed over."

...and Emmeline

"Some guys don't seem to see the correlation between cock av's and people not talking to them. My thoughts are this - if your entire personality is based on how gorgeous you think that your cock is, I don't even want to get to know you."


https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=178726

..LOL, maybe this will get the message across to some of the hopefuls and blissfully unaware?!!

Catalina

 

[Esclava]

March 18th - Words of MissTaken

I really enjoyed this post.,...

The sense I get is that there is freedom in slavery. To trust completely, whether with ownership or simply with your vehicle repairs does offer freedom and comfort. ...

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=234599&perpage=25&pagenumber=1


Yes, it most certainly does - especially if one has been a single parent and had to shoulder the responsibility alone for an enormous time.

Esclava

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 19th - words of WynEternal....

" After the dreaded silence has passed and the weight of your actions fall upon you. The disappointment in your Master/Mistress' voice as you are told the magnituted of your errors lingers in your thoughts. Your mind cries to beg forgiveness as you are told to leave their presence for a certain amount of time."

...and WillowPuss

" It was not a comfortable (for me) silence - but one that made me feel sick. Sick with shame and aprehension and dread and ... well, all sorts of things. It was a silence I had earned because I had disappointed Him.
He began the silence with a stare and raised eyebrows.
The silence was finally ended with me seeking permission to speak and explain."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=157226

Catalina

 

[BlueSugar]

"Either kill me or take me as I am, because I'll be damned before I ever change..."

Marquis de Sade

 

[Esclava]

March 21st

Be honest enough to admit when you have come to a realization. I was forced to say this to Master last night:

"I am a selfish, recalcitrant child. You have taught me the value of patience and I have allowed selfish desires to blind me to the deep love and patience I receive from you."

I learned more from having to make that statement than in the 19 months I have been working under Him.

Esclava

 

[Limbhugger]

March 22, Words of s'lara...

i do recognize the tentativeness as any offerance of comments and/or ideas which do not originate from the Dominant can make you feel like you're trying to run the show. However, i don't see the problem if you discuss your scenes afterward and let Him know what you think would enhance the experience for you. There's no crime in expressing what you feel to Your Dominant and to withhold those feelings from Him only creates a feeling of resentment on your side. You shouldn't let your unsaid feelings retard the relationship to a point where you aren't satisfied with its progression. It might be a good idea to ask for permission to speak freely before talking it over.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=236357

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 23rd - words of cymbidia

"I am never going to be a sexually Dominant woman. I don't want to be a Domme. I don't even like to Switch, and -so- i do it badly. It's not comfortable for me, not erotic.

I take pride in being a good submissive. I have honed and polished my skills over many years and i take pride in my abilities in this area. Not everyone is suited to sexual submission, just as not everyone is suited to either of the others. Sexual submission is a thing of who i am at a very basic level, perhaps even a genetic level. It's not a fucking choice or something i got as the booby prize cuz i wasn't good enough to get promoted into Dommehood.

Dominants, Switches, and submissives are all necessary to the balance and flow of healthy BDSM sexality. None is inherently better than the others. There is no fucking "graduation" or natural progression from starting as a lowly, unformed, take-orders-from-any-asshole submissive to the unbounded glory of issuing those orders to lowly cringing know-nothing subs.

Fuck that. That's not what my life, what all my years as a submissive, have been about at all.

One is what s/he is."


https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=81786

Catalina

 

[redelicious]

March 24 - Words of ownedsubgirl

while i see here for some it is the "shut up" that speaks to them...for me it is more the "take it" that presses my buttons...often my Master tells me this, in one form or another...an impatient, "be still, bitch"...a tender, even loving, as he kisses my tears, "awww..Daddy knows, Daddy knows it hurts..but it just has to be sweetie...take it"....the knowledge that i must always endure it, always bear it, always deal with it, always "take it"...because that is my place and purpose. it very much helps keep me centered and focused.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=235174&perpage=25&pagenumber=1

 

[Esclava]

March 25th - Words of Quint

We're actually going in a direction another submissive mentioned on this forum---replacing "red, yellow, green" words with feedback on what's going on if it gets to be too much. "I'm about to pass out" is a lot more revealing than "Red," and it also relieves my fear of topping---technically, if T wants me to pass out, he will listen to me say those words and keep doing what he's doing until I'm unconscious. But it won't be an act committed in ignorance. That's what I consider safe submission.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=235767

Esclava

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 26th - words of Desdemona

"As time passes, it gets harder and harder to say goodbye at the end of our time together. He is so much a part of my life and I feel whole when we are together. The laughter, the time spent doing even mundane things together is such an important part of our relationship. The only thing I know that helps is to keep talking and to grab every minute you can get together while holding on to dreams of a future together on a 24/7 basis."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=236588

Catalina