The ability to let go during sex

[Boat1]

I struggle with sexual inhibitions, especiallly now that I’m older. I’m very self-conscious about the way I look now (middle age dad bod), the way I sound during sex (do I sound stupid? weird?), and especially to admitting what I want in bed. It’s very hard for me to get outside my own head long enough to fully enjoy the experience. My libido is an angry tiger in a cage. He wants to hunt and feed and roar….but he’s confined. Has anyone else struggled with this, and if so, any practical tips on how you managed to let go?

TBH, I'm "hardwired" to be more concerned with giving, than receiving, as that's how I get the most pleasure.
Therefore, I find it impossible to hold back (obviously, unless her body language signals me to hold back)