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[PhoenixPrime01]

To WillowPuss:

From my perspective, intelligently, honestly, respectfully and in rt submissively. BTW, unlike many Masters I don't have mine keep their eyes averted or lowered. I much prefer to see what they are thinking and feeling. Words can lie, but it'd damned hard for the eyes to lie as well.
VT is a bit different as a submissive can't 'be see' so it's up to them to describe the action(s) they would be doing in rt to convey and display that submissivness.

 

[WriterDom]

w. puss',

There was discussion about submissive behavior on the boards. Is that what you are asking, or real life behavior between a Dom and his sub?

 

[WillowPuss]

Please, WD, bear with me.

I was trying to asceratin how a submissive, especially a submissive woman is suppose to behave on boards, this borrd in aprticular. I read in this thread that many seem to think that submissive (women in particular) do not behave as they should on the internet.

Now - typing is a poor medium to get acroos ones feelings - but by using the written word it is impossible to get across ones demeanor whilst speaking, ones tone of voice, ones expressions.

Look back over this thread and see that more than one dominant (Dom and Domme) has called the submissiveness of women who are on the net into question.

I am a gentle type soul - and it pains me, calls me to question if I am coming across all wrong - so I was trying to ascertain just how one is expected to behave.


In real life, Robuck would expect me to converse with others. If there was a difference of opinion, He would expect me to state mine clearly and calmly - He wouldn't expect me jst to bow down to another's opinion if it went totally against my knowledge or beliefs. However, He would expect me to be polite and well mannered - to allow others the right to their voice and to their opinion.

If there was ever a disagreement between the two of us (and there have been 3 in the 25 years we have been together) we would dicuss it, talk it out ... and His would be the final word.


I hope that has made my question clearer.

 

[PhoenixPrime01]

Willow, for me personally, just as you did with your last post. *s*
To convey with words those like 'says quietly or gently', etc could do that.
As for being a doormat... I'm glad you don't fit that description.
Wow!! 3 times in 25 years? I'm tremendously impressed. *BS

 

[Sandia]

So how would a Dom Dominated message board differ from this one? One where a Dom wrote the rules. One where for much of it's life, only a handful of female subs dropped in.

WD, I wish I knew how to answer this question.

I guess I'd say doms seem less willing or interested in sharing feelings or insecurities, or in creating or maintaining a tight-knit community... so in a certain way it's hard to imagine such a thing.

On the other hand, they're less willing to tow the line... and more willing to speak up, if they feel like something's wrong.

So. Maybe foced is right. Maybe balance is good.

 

[Sandia]

Please, WD, bear with me.

I was trying to asceratin how a submissive, especially a submissive woman is suppose to behave on boards, this borrd in aprticular. I read in this thread that many seem to think that submissive (women in particular) do not behave as they should on the internet.

Now - typing is a poor medium to get acroos ones feelings - but by using the written word it is impossible to get across ones demeanor whilst speaking, ones tone of voice, ones expressions.

Look back over this thread and see that more than one dominant (Dom and Domme) has called the submissiveness of women who are on the net into question.

I am a gentle type soul - and it pains me, calls me to question if I am coming across all wrong - so I was trying to ascertain just how one is expected to behave.


In real life, Robuck would expect me to converse with others. If there was a difference of opinion, He would expect me to state mine clearly and calmly - He wouldn't expect me jst to bow down to another's opinion if it went totally against my knowledge or beliefs. However, He would expect me to be polite and well mannered - to allow others the right to their voice and to their opinion.

If there was ever a disagreement between the two of us (and there have been 3 in the 25 years we have been together) we would dicuss it, talk it out ... and His would be the final word.


I hope that has made my question clearer.

Willow:

Where to begin?

The language is confusing, so I'll just wade in and hope for the best, if you don't mind.

First of all, I don't (as you should - I hope - know by now, if you know me by my posts) claim any special knowledge or credentials here. And naturally, I'm speaking for myself - as I think everyone should, always.

Your posts "sound" "submissive" to me -- "I know I don't belong here," for example, and asking if you can ask a question.

Generally I've noticed doms don't do those things. Typically they jump right in and say what they think. They don't ask permission first, or ask if they belong.

That's just an observation, and a generalization.

That may be why they piss some of the subs here off?

As far as posting styles go, as far as I'm concerned anyone can post in any style they like.

I find telling someone - in a serious way - that they're not posting like they should distasteful and rude.

It leads to pointless strife.

Note: I read Lance's post on the subject as a momentary flippant remark, not as a serious attempt to question anybody's sexuality, or to tell them how to post.

I don't think anyone should feel like they have to post in a particular way.

Especially someone as gentle and kind-hearted as you.

 

[Sandia]

well, yes, I suppose it will be a second question!

Ok - here goes.


I have read on this thread that people do not think that the women who claim to be submissives on this forum are submissives. Or rather - they do not act in the way a lifestyle submissive would act.

Now, I am a submissive in a 24/7 TPE relationship with my Master (who is also my husband).
I consider myself a true submissive
Others I have met also consider me a true submissive.

I have behaved here as I behave anywhere.


My question .... how do each of you expect a submissive to behave, to speak, to write?



I am asking - not to rake up an arguement - but to learn.
Thanks

I expect a submissive to behave exactly as she wants to behave.

The only place I'd expect a submissive to be submissive

is

in

bed.

 

[WillowPuss]

Thank you PhoenixPrime and Sandia.


I would love to hear the views of the other Dom's (or even the Dommes that occasionally come here) though ... if I may.

 

[WriterDom]

If you had just asked your question rather than asking if you could ask, I wouldn't think any less of you as a submissive, but that kind of curtesy is nice.

I don't think sub to Dom protocol fosters the kind of open discussion you can have when everyone is on the same level. Content is more important than delivery to me. I would never question someone's submissiveness by their posting style. However, I have wished at times there was a cyber penis gag.

 

[BBD]

My question .... how do each of you expect a submissive to behave, to speak, to write?

Like herself, a real person...definitely not like something out of a Gor book. I'm really not a big fan of using third person to refer to oneself...or even to refer to me. But to each their own, I suppose.

I won't get into the debate over how to behave on this board except to say this much. Unless I have some sort of personal contact outside of responding to a few posts here and there I don't expect them to come across in any particular way. There's not enough for me to go on without actually learning a bit more about the person in question on a deeper level, and I don't believe that I should be given any respect other than common courtesy simply because I might capitalize my name or say I'm Dom. *shrugs*

 

[WriterDom]

I tried to build a pussy torture device once. I started with a wooden ring about the size of a basketball hoop I found in the craft section at Walmart. I drilled 12 holes about equally spaced all the way around. Then I attached springs on the inside of the ring, and attached clothespins to the springs. I was going to center the pussy in the middle and clip 6 pins to each pussy lip. The springs would contract spreading her open. But the wood was really weak, something like balsa, and it collapsed before I got a chance to try it out. It might be worthwhile to do another one day. I think a metal ring would be a better choice.

 

[Lancecastor]

Perhaps...

...the frame of tennis racquet?

I'm thinking we should start an office pool for the return dates of those lurking to active duty....except there are only about 4 of us left to chip in, so, what....$10,000. each?

Lance "Firing Cannons Down The Halls" Castor

 

[artful]

Re: Perhaps...

...the frame of tennis racquet?

I'm thinking we should start an office pool for the return dates of those lurking to active duty....except there are only about 4 of us left to chip in, so, what....$10,000. each?

Lance "Firing Cannons Down The Halls" Castor

Whew,...that cannon ball just missed my nuts,... Damn be careful with that thing Lance. Ok,... I will throw in $10,000.00 to the pussy, (err,...uhm
I meant to say kitty), but this may be more difficult to construct than a "pussy torture device".

 

[A Desert Rose]

Originally posted by WillowPuss
Please, WD, bear with me.

I am a gentle type soul - and it pains me, calls me to question if I am coming across all wrong - so I was trying to ascertain just how one is expected to behave.


One of my posts was called into question the other day. I also posted to this thread and was gently chastized for it. I have since seen many women post here.
Like you Willow, I have been wondering if my posts are not appropriate or do not follow some sort of etiquette.
What I type here is pretty much the way I would speak to most everyone in RL, and like you Willow, I think I am a fairly nice person. I am curious about how one fits in here so I just keep reading.

 

[artful]

The switches have their "Switch Space."

The Dom Lounge is a place for Doms to get together for some light to medium conversation about anything that comes. It's not a big place. Right now there is only one table and four chairs, lots of beer, and a deck of cards. Yeah, it's semi-exclusive. We don't mind an occasional serving wench or stripper dropping by. And nothing personal against subs, switches, and Dommes. But in terms of voice and number, they seem to be the lions, tigers, and bears of the board's jungle.

The Lounge is now open. All Doms are welcome. Grab a beer and put a dollar in the Juke Box. If you have a topic you want to open, then jump right in. I wont be around much today but the key is under the mat.

Personally,...I like the idea of serving wenches, as long as they come into our lounge wishing to serve.

This post is not to offend board members,...but to remind them of the PURPOSE for this Dom Lounge.

Though we can't prevent others from posting in a serious manner in here,...I will not knowingly encourage them to go against the thread's stated purpose.

I however, love to respond to issues on other threads. Submitted with respect for ALL.

 

[areacode613]

Again Just Don't Respond

If you don't like the questions the serving wenches are asking; IGNORE them with your steely silence, they will go away. Here is my $10,000.00 chit. I'm in.

The torture device beinging kiched around, not sure about the design, but Don't use springs, she will not be able to wear it, use bolts/set screws wich are adjustable, same goes for all evices, springs just go from painful to pulling right off, screws give adjustment and control.....yes control, thats the ticket,....control!!

 

[Lancecastor]

DomLounge Office Pool

My 10k is in the kitty.

I believe that by Full Moon on Thursday, say 11pm Eastern, the lurking and absent will have returned.

Oh, and while I'm here.....Bob Vila has a new book out with Master Carpenter Norm Abrams, entitled "The This Old House Guide To Hand-Crafted Torture Devices"...I saw it and thought it might be helpful to the do-it-yourselfers in the Lounge.

Cheers

Lance

 

[WriterDom]

I say Sunday at midnight eastern.

 

[Sandia]

Originally posted by WillowPuss
Please, WD, bear with me.

I am a gentle type soul - and it pains me, calls me to question if I am coming across all wrong - so I was trying to ascertain just how one is expected to behave.


One of my posts was called into question the other day. I also posted to this thread and was gently chastized for it. I have since seen many women post here.
Like you Willow, I have been wondering if my posts are not appropriate or do not follow some sort of etiquette.
What I type here is pretty much the way I would speak to most everyone in RL, and like you Willow, I think I am a fairly nice person. I am curious about how one fits in here so I just keep reading.

Some people will post without asking permission, witness Never, RNAB, and Ruby (some of my all-time favorite women).

Other people worry about fitting in.

There's nothing wrong with either way.

Unfortunately, "fitting in" is a matter of trial and error. You just have to keep posting until you figure out who fits in with you, who you like, and who you want to ignore.

That's the best advice I can give.

As for women coming in here... the more the merrier, I always say.

Personally I think this place would be a goddam bore with just the likes of these guys in here...

 

[A Desert Rose]

As for women coming in here... the more the merrier, I always say.

Personally I think this place would be a goddam bore with just the likes of these guys in here...




Thank you Sandia, for your kind words. I have been taking your advice and reading and posting. I have met some very nice ladies, i.e Miss Taken, WillowPuss and Sexy Susan to name a few. They have been helpful, kind and inclusive. I do know it takes time to be known and understood and recognized. I hope to make this my "home", for awhile at least.
Thank you, again.

 

[zipman]

A new arrival in the lounge!

*Swaggers in, pinches the ass of a serving wenches, opens a fresh beer and introduces himself to the Doms in the lounge*

Hello all,

I'm new to the boards here at Lit (though not the stories) and have been slowly working my way around. I just found the lounge and thought, why, where else would I go to have a beer?"

I have been reading all of the posts in the lounge and have two comments.

WriterDom - You are fucking hysterical!! A few of your posts had me laughing out loud - at work no less!

Willowpus - Here are my thoughts on how a submissive should post. I think that the nature of this lounge is that it is for Doms, and for you to post to it might be interpreted as an intrusion. Having said that, I think that you (and that goes for other subs as well) should preface an interruption with an apology such as (pardon the intrusion, please excuse me but I was curious about etc...). After that, conversation would go normally, in other words, there would be no need to say that on each and every post, just the first new one. I think it would help maintain the dominant integrity the lounge. I also think that many true Doms would appreciate your submissiveness in the room.

While this does not constitute a rule, I know I would be more likely to answer you, or respond to your questions if they were prefaced in that manner. Personally, I think having a few subs around can be a good thing.

Of course, the thread is WriterDoms' and as such, I leave it to him to either create, enforce or ignore the issue. These were just my opinions.

*takes a deep swig of beer and gets down off of the soapbox*

 

[WriterDom]

As for women coming in here... the more the merrier, I always say.

Personally I think this place would be a goddam bore with just the likes of these guys in here...

The purpose wasn't to exclude females but to draw the Doms to a place where they'd feel comfortable. That's why in the beginning there was only 4 chairs. I wasn't expecting very many. But, we have quite a crowd in here at times now.

All posters are welcome. Just send me the 2 dollar cover charge by paypal.

 

[Sandia]

Or just leave your panties at the door.

 

[Ebonyfire]

<Poking into the lounge.>

Are you guys out of control again?

Ebony

 

[artful]

Re: Re: The Dom Lounge

Personally,...I like the idea of serving wenches, as long as they come into our lounge wishing to serve.

This post is not to offend board members,...but to remind them of the PURPOSE for this Dom Lounge.

Though we can't prevent others from posting in a serious manner in here,...I will not knowingly encourage them to go against the thread's stated purpose.

I however, love to respond to issues on other threads. Submitted with respect for ALL.

I won't edit my prior post,...as often the INTENTION of editing is misconstrued on purpose.
I will with this post FORMALLY apologise to Willow in particular, and ALL others as relates to my prior post.

I took the opening post SERIOUSLY in word and content. WD has since then changed the INTENT of his FIRST post,...and I have no problem with that either.

Sincerely,..."art-fucked up again-ful"