The Last Taboo

I think that male homosexuality is still a taboo subject for an enormous number of straight men. It's not simply a matter of avoiding stories where the reader can't identify with a character. It's about the fear of being identified with that subject matter by others. English Lady mentioned "homophobia." Phobia. There may be women who are homophobic, but I don't know any.Whether or not we identify with lesbian characters in a story, if there is something else that draws us, we'll read the story. There are any number of stories at Lit where girl/girl sex is a component of the story, but the "sex object," if you will, is a male character who appeals to me. So I read the story. I'd be willing to bet that men are far less comfortable reading stories where male homosexuality is a component - even if at the end, you straight guys are invited to a potluck dinner with a tubful of naked virgins, if there are two other guys getting it on in the same story, you're going to avoid it. It's taboo.

No?
 
destinie21 said:
It's a pity really that time of the month tends to put a damper on the lip service.:rolleyes:

the Mrs who thanks god for fingers strap ons and vibes

:p :kiss: D, if the AV is an accurate pic of you, any day of the month is more than Ok with me.:kiss:
 
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destinie21 said:
It's a pity really that time of the month tends to put a damper on the lip service.:rolleyes:

the Mrs who thanks god for fingers strap ons and vibes

:p :kiss: D, if the AV is an accurate pic of you, any day of the month is more than Ok with me.:kiss:
 
destinie21 said:
It's a pity really that time of the month tends to put a damper on the lip service.:rolleyes:

the Mrs who thanks god for fingers strap ons and vibes

:p :kiss: D, if the AV is an accurate pic of you, any day of the month is more than Ok with me.:kiss:

:)rose: This is a triple post but I think it's worth repeating twice so I won't delete this.:kiss: )
 
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Sub Joe said:
A taboo is something forbidden -- it's entered the language from Freud, who wrote "Totem and Taboo".

A taboo is very far from looked down on: The opposite is closer: Rather, it's feared. Freud described how certain tribeseman considered having sex as taboo before they went hunting, becasue they believed that this would take away their power (I guess that depended on how good the sex was).


This is exactly the sense I meant when I said gay male sex is the last taboo for most men. For the majority of men (& not necessarily here on Lit, where we have a kind of skewed sample of the population at large), I think guy-on-guy sex is terribly troubling and threatening. It's something they don't even want to think about, something that makes them shudder. That to me is "taboo".

---dr.M.
 
I'd say eating one's partner is kinda taboo, as that case in Germany demonstrated.

I do see dr m's point, though, there's a lot of (almost) murderous hostility around male/male stuff. It's the issue splitting churches, and-- judging by a Republican spokesman last night on CNN-- a chosen presidential election issue ('gay marriage').

It seem like one could judge by a) reactions of others, or
b) number of practicers. Gay stuff is pretty high in negative reactions of others. In terms of number of practicers, it's maybe 10-20% or higher depending on 'one time' encounters.

Parent child incest is far rarer, and by b) more taboo. Eating, even more.
 
dr_mabeuse said:
This is exactly the sense I meant when I said gay male sex is the last taboo for most men. For the majority of men (& not necessarily here on Lit, where we have a kind of skewed sample of the population at large), I think guy-on-guy sex is terribly troubling and threatening. It's something they don't even want to think about, something that makes them shudder. That to me is "taboo".

---dr.M.

Some straight men, maybe even the majority, might have antsy feelings about their own sexuality, but the entire society is militantly opposed to incest, especially when children are involved. There is a certain amount of gay bashing going on, especially by certain Neanderthal types, but known child molesters are at risk of lynching anywhere they go. I wouldn't say there are no taboo feelings about gay men but they pale compared to the anti-child abuse attitudes.
 
I'd say that the majority of men is of the opinion that "Gay sex is ok, but not where I have to see it." On the other hand, most don't want to witness ugly people getting it on either. Or scat sex, or sheep. It's the same thing, something that just plain visually or by association is a turn-off, that jinx the mood of the rest of the story/movie/live event/whatever.

Bondage gear is a major turn-off for me. A story can be really good, filled with just the right tension and eroticism. Then some bugger brings out the nipple clamps, and all that was good about the story goes down the drain. Is that my clampophobia? Or can it just be a matter of personal taste?

#L
 
Liar said:
Bondage gear is a major turn-off for me. A story can be really good, filled with just the right tension and eroticism. Then some bugger brings out the nipple clamps, and all that was good about the story goes down the drain. Is that my clampophobia? Or can it just be a matter of personal taste?

Sweetie, maybe they were too tight. Try it again.

:devil:
 
I have one anecdote supporting dr m.
I wrote a story brimfilled with incest bro/sis sis/mom bro/mom and so on; there was a para about forced homosexual act (BJ).
I rec'd a letter saying the story was very hot, but the act had ruined it; and, iirc, the letter writer seemed to think he should have been warned; i.e., that I was violating a rule of common porn, no guy/guy stuff; and should let readers know.
 
Pure said:
I have one anecdote supporting dr m.
I wrote a story brimfilled with incest bro/sis sis/mom bro/mom and so on; there was a para about forced homosexual act (BJ).
I rec'd a letter saying the story was very hot, but the act had ruined it; and, iirc, the letter writer seemed to think he should have been warned; i.e., that I was violating a rule of common porn, no guy/guy stuff; and should let readers know.

I LOVE that! A Porn Rating Board.

With warning labels.

Better yet, color-code the text of your stories so that we readers can scan past the parts we don't like. Blue text = guy/guy; pink = girl/girl. Red, white & blue = married man and woman, man on top.
 
shereads said:
I LOVE that! A Porn Rating Board.

With warning labels.

Better yet, color-code the text of your stories so that we readers can scan past the parts we don't like. Blue text = guy/guy; pink = girl/girl. Red, white & blue = married man and woman, man on top.

A novel idea there!
 
shereads said:
I LOVE that! A Porn Rating Board.

With warning labels.

Better yet, color-code the text of your stories so that we readers can scan past the parts we don't like. Blue text = guy/guy; pink = girl/girl. Red, white & blue = married man and woman, man on top.
As yet another proof that people invest too much in their smut, there is a whole code system for this. (M/F, F/f, F/m and various codes, inc/nc/ds for different kinks) Lit don't use it, but many other sites do.

#L
 
Liar said:
As yet another proof that people invest too much in their smut, there is a whole code system for this. (M/F, F/f, F/m and various codes, inc/nc/ds for different kinks) Lit don't use it, but many other sites do.

#L

But without a warning of what might happen to you if you read these stories, the codes are meaningless.

Speaking of which, what does "inc" mean? Incommunicado, as in "wearing a gag?"

Curious in Florida
 
shereads said:
But without a warning of what might happen to you if you read these stories, the codes are meaningless.

Speaking of which, what does "inc" mean? Incommunicado, as in "wearing a gag?"

Curious in Florida

It means incest.
 
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