The little things you've never done.

[cookiecat]

I have never been with 2 women at the same time..... need to rectify that soon!

I'm unclear why two is better. It's just more junk to mess with. As I typed that, I guess that's the appeal...

I've had threesomes, foursomes, moresomes. Frankly, I prefer onesomes. Well - I guess that's a twosome. I'd rather spend my time, energy, focus on one person. Some of the threesomes were organized and orchestrated. Those lacked something. Energy? It was more of a performance, I guess. The organic, spontaneous group things were more fun. I did tend to get all twisted up in the logistics of what went where, who was doing what and that was a drag. If you get the opportunity, remember to relax.

I don't know that I ever really considered the labels much. What originally began as attempts to flesh out and understand the physical forms of expression/preferences I had, ended becoming like most things practiced in excess. A crutch. Covering for something. So I couldn't say if I thought of myself as anything other than straight, even when I wasn't practicing it. As for multiple partners, that's never meant anything other than a thrill to me, ego, fleeting. Not my thing.

But luckily, I'm hyper aware now of what I like, want, am, so it was all worth it for the most part. I regret nothing other than the time I wasted at certain points.

I've never been to Iceland, I'd like to though.

What you say about it being fleeting and ego is right on. I was with someone who wanted this fantasy for so long, it's like he chased that instead of enjoying me/us.

I will say I did (do) get turned on by guys who are more gender fluid. Who don't get all freaked out by looking at or having another hard cock in the room. When I've been with people where guys kissed guys as an expression of being comfortable with the sex that was happening, it was magic. It wasn't labeled.

Iceland's on my bucket list!!!

 

[cookiecat]

Perhaps it would feel better if you considered yourself to be in rare company? In the United States, prepared coleslaw is a $3.3Billion business. Worldwide, about 70.1 metric tons of cabbage are produced each year, only about 1 million of that in the United States. And yet, you might take comfort in knowing that the Chick-Fil-A chain recently dropped coleslaw from its menu in favor of more healthy-appearing items, such as a kale salad.

I'm relieved. I've never turned to Chick-Fil-A for comfort.

I wonder how long a kale salad on the menu will last.

 

[Bluespark]

I'm unclear why two is better. It's just more junk to mess with. As I typed that, I guess that's the appeal...

I've had threesomes, foursomes, moresomes. Frankly, I prefer onesomes. Well - I guess that's a twosome. I'd rather spend my time, energy, focus on one person. Some of the threesomes were organized and orchestrated. Those lacked something. Energy? It was more of a performance, I guess. The organic, spontaneous group things were more fun. I did tend to get all twisted up in the logistics of what went where, who was doing what and that was a drag. If you get the opportunity, remember to relax.




What you say about it being fleeting and ego is right on. I was with someone who wanted this fantasy for so long, it's like he chased that instead of enjoying me/us.

I will say I did (do) get turned on by guys who are more gender fluid. Who don't get all freaked out by looking at or having another hard cock in the room. When I've been with people where guys kissed guys as an expression of being comfortable with the sex that was happening, it was magic. It wasn't labeled.

Iceland's on my bucket list!!!

Playing catch up here with these interesting topics.

I'm in the "two to tango" camp. A fun fantasy and probably an ego boost too but the intamacy and connection when it is on-on-one is so beautiful and cam be so intense that I think it would be spead to thin to really be as profound in a multiple partner situation. YMMV but it works for me.

As to the other conversation. No bi experiences. Far too boring and uninteresting for that but it's really about more than sex. I'm straight. That's just the way I am. Others are gay or bi. But we are all humans. A cock can be beautiful and arousing for a man or a woman. So can a pussy. Society is so quick to slap labels on people. We are attracted to people not their genders and if at some point we can move past gender politics we can hopefully reach a point where we realize that nobody really masculine or feminine or straight or gay. We are all of those and none of those. We are human and what we are attracted to is each other's humanity.


Oh and I've never been to Memphis.

 

[TheSilverLining]

My sister isn't British fwiw, but she went to uni here. I let people buy me drinks, and I am happy to buy them drinks. A date isn't about how the bill is split I think. Though being treated can be delightful, taking advantage is not I think. I have no feminist stance on this; I think some people feel it's important to split bills evenly for equality and some feel it's important to be treated for male dominance or whatever. I don't. It's never going to be equal. Chances are he won't spend as much in shoes and hair and outfits and back up outfits as I will, and our incomes might not be the same and frankly; I don't care. I won't put myself in discomfort, but I am happy for a date to be drinking a bottle of water holding hands in a free park as I am for it to be sipping champagne in a restaurant. No fois gras. Never again after Christmas; I was so sick !

I simply meant "Take me out" to mean "go on a date" (however you define it). It wasn't meant to be a reflection of who pays the bill, or otherwise. Ironically I do have a fairly feminist stance on most things. It's almost mandatory from my 9-5 persona.
Apparently I'm just not very articulate today. Sorry for the confusion, Elle. I'm probably lacking in sleep.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[TheSilverLining]

I'm very much a loner, but I've never lived totally alone. My teenager is here the majority of the time, but she likes to go and spend weekends away with extended family in lieu of a father who isn't deserving of the name.
I need the solitude and I value it when I get it.

 

[Bluespark]

I am pretty much all other you on preferences by twosomes. But I also think I only am interested in intimacy where I have some sort of genuine connection now; probably love. Not necessaily the kind of love I have with G but love, care. Lovers with whom I can be vulnerable and feel
Safe which is harder than I think it might appear from my postings here

Yes intimacy with connection is the only kind but also so many kinds of love most of them beautiful.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I'm unclear why two is better. It's just more junk to mess with. As I typed that, I guess that's the appeal...

I've had threesomes, foursomes, moresomes. Frankly, I prefer onesomes. Well - I guess that's a twosome. I'd rather spend my time, energy, focus on one person. Some of the threesomes were organized and orchestrated. Those lacked something.

I hear that. I've been polyamorous most of my adult life, I've certainly enjoyed relationships with more than one person at once. But even back when I was in a triad (three people all dating one another) it was hard to handle three in a bed with everybody feeling involved. Not saying it can't be enjoyable! But it generally ended up as "two at a time".

ps Iceland is fantastic.

 

[Farawyn]

I don't know if I would kiss a girl. I can't see a context, now, in my life, where it would even present itself.
That being said, I love women. I think women are beautiful and smart, and I love the kinship. The boobs. I flirt very easily with women, and touch them and have them touch me as well. My GFs are always grabbing my boobs, petting my hair. Because they love me, not because they want me.
I don't think.
No matter. I don't want a woman. My boundaries are looser with women because I am one. Because I feel safe. Not because I want to fuck a woman, or be in love with a woman.

I can't see a reason to be with more than 1 person at a time. I need the connection. I don't think I would never do it again. It's kind of a deal breaker for me.

Cookie, I too have had guys in my life that were so into seeing me with another woman that it put me off. I felt a loss of a connection with that man after he pressed it, and that was that.

 

[Farawyn]

I'm going to Iceland. Someday.
I've never been, either.

 

[twister947]

I'm going to Iceland. Someday.
I've never been, either.

 

[_Necrosomantic_]

What you say about it being fleeting and ego is right on. I was with someone who wanted this fantasy for so long, it's like he chased that instead of enjoying me/us.

Iceland's on my bucket list!!!

There's nothing wrong with wanting that, to try it, but I'd much rather just have that one person that is everything, than even two people that I have some split affection for, and certainly not one I care for , and another whose just a warm body. I don't see the appeal.

I had my time, just like everyone else, but now I'm only interested in one thing. One woman. Even the bad or regrettable ( we've all got 'em ) helped bring me here, and there's nothing to regret about that. I'm just done with it, I figured out what I wanted to, so it doesn't hold any draw for me anymore. I'm not sharing, myself or her, and that's just fucking fine

And yeah, Iceland is totally going to happen someday

 

[Farawyn]

I've never booked a trip to Iceland, but it looks like a few of us are going.

 

[Plane_Guy]

I've never been to Iceland either.
Sounds fun though!

 

[HisArpy]

Am I alone in my non-cabbage eating ways?

I would be willing to believe you HAVE eaten 'cabbage'.

Cabbage is a cruciferous vegetable. It has LOTS of relatives, which are all cabbage by the way. The best known alternative versions of cabbage are either brussels sprout or broccoli. Cauliflower is probably the next best known and eaten alternative.

https://www.gardeningknowhow.com/edible/vegetables/vgen/cruciferous-vegetables.htm

 

[Bramblethorn]

Cookie, I too have had guys in my life that were so into seeing me with another woman that it put me off. I felt a loss of a connection with that man after he pressed it, and that was that.

mmm. Sex should not be a matter of "gotta tick off this box".

 

[Farawyn]

mmm. Sex should not be a matter of "gotta tick off this box".

It was when I was younger. Once boxes started getting ticked, though? That's when I started realizing what I really wanted.

 

[Eva_Star]

I have never lived alone either. I've been a mom as long as I've been an adult.

 

[gracie920101]

Polyamory. I understand but yet I would worry about someone being slighted so it's not for me. I enjoy multiples at times but for long term I'm happy with just a twosome although I've always fantasized about a petite, pixie cut, black haired, fair-skinned little girl brought to me by Jhereg as a special reward.

Iceland? No thanks! But I'll knit socks for everyone!

Never taken a single college course but I consider myself well educated without it.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Hypoxia]

I have never been on a 'date'. We just got together and fucked.

I have never been to seven USA states; that may change in a few months. I've also skipped three Mexican states and two each Canadian provinces and territories.

Even though ordained more than once, I have never officiated at a wedding, divorce, baptism, exorcism, holy service, religious riot, blessing, or damnation.

I have never played a Mellotron, nor tweeted, nor tested positive for an STD.

I have never performed an underwater ballet nor square-danced.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Miles Long]

I have never hitch-hiked.

 

[TasteTheRaynebow69]

I've never been out of the country.