The Psychology of Pain

[Deadly Guardian]

I agree with Mys Cynthia. I love giving my slave pain. Watching her writhe in agony begging for more. Suffering until I want her to release and enjoy. Her going through subspace excites me so much I wish to hurt her even more.

 

[jdmct]

dentist

If you don't like the dentist,then you are NOT a masochist

James

 

[Deadly Guardian]

You dont need to be a dentist to cause pain. Look at those who work for the IRS.

 

[catalina_francisco]

A bump in honour of the recent sightings of our cherished Ebonyfire.

 

[Hester]

i feel pain as pain, not pleasure. but i get off on it in the right context. i think it's about intensity and breadth of experience for me.

i also get off on inflicting pain at times.

 

[Temptress_lee]

Here is a another question for Dom/mes and subs alike. I would appreciate it if submissives speak from their own point of view, and dominants give their perspective on the submissives that have encountered (past or present).

Thanks.

Do you consider your self to be a masochist, a person who like pain for its own sake, or a submissive, who enjoys pain because it becomes pleasure?


In may case, I have the later. My male subs enjoy pain because it becomes pleasure.

Eb

I'd say i'm a little bit of both. I enjoy mild pain, but preferably i'm more of a sadist most of all. I like to bite, and scratch, or spank really hard if the person will let me do it.

 

[leeroy jenkins]

Here is a another question for Dom/mes and subs alike. I would appreciate it if submissives speak from their own point of view, and dominants give their perspective on the submissives that have encountered (past or present).

Thanks.

Do you consider your self to be a masochist, a person who like pain for its own sake, or a submissive, who enjoys pain because it becomes pleasure?


In may case, I have the later. My male subs enjoy pain because it becomes pleasure.

Eb

Some how I feel kinda cheezy for quoting something that is like 3 years old.

Some of the stuff I do is pure bliss being stuck with a needles was like that also having a branding done gave the same feeling. Then stuff like flogging and caning its about the sensation that the pain give me because it sates my masochist. I know that if I get get enough pain that it could help break me and I have catharic experience and deal with some of my demons that I have.

 

[Arden]

Do you consider your self to be a masochist, a person who like pain for its own sake, or a submissive, who enjoys pain because it becomes pleasure?

My enjoyment of pain comes from that which is seen within His eyes, and felt beneath His hands.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

A bump in honour of the recent sightings of our cherished Ebonyfire.

Agreed.

Which goes to show that sometimes things are not black or white. There are nuances and shading that perhaps means we have a little of both in us.

Eb

Nice to have you back Eb.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Some how I feel kinda cheezy for quoting something that is like 3 years old.
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I won't tell anyone if you don't tell anyone!

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

Agreed.

Nice to have you back Eb.

Why thank you!

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

Good pain vs. bad pain

When I think of the dentist, I think of bad pain. To me, bad pain is bad in every context, and there is no lessening over time. No matter how many times I go to the dentist, that needle hurts, and it does not matter how much numbing gel he uses.

But I see a difference in good pain. When a submissive is new to me, his pain threshold may be rather low if he is not a masochist. But over time, the distance betweem pain and pleasure gets smaller, and his ability to take the "good pain" totally relies on his ability to associate pleasure with what I am doing. Sometimes it is more, sometimes it is less, but he is always surprised at how his pain threshold has changed over time.

Any one care to add to this discussion?


Eb

 

[RJMasters]

When I think of the dentist, I think of bad pain. To me, bad pain is bad in every context, and there is no lessening over time. No matter how many times I go to the dentist, that needle hurts, and it does not matter how much numbing gel he uses.

But I see a difference in good pain. When a submissive is new to me, his pain threshold may be rather low if he is not a masochist. But over time, the distance betweem pain and pleasure gets smaller, and his ability to take the "good pain" totally relies on his ability to associate pleasure with what I am doing. Sometimes it is more, sometimes it is less, but he is always surprised at how his pain threshold has changed over time.

Any one care to add to this discussion?


Eb

Perhaps it is not only just developing a higher tolerance to pain, or neccessarily an association of pleasure with pain. To be sure those two things are part of the mix, but perhaps a more sutble thing which is over looked is that over time, feelings towards you and pleasing you deepens. I think there is something to be said about how far someone will go in order to please another. I think as a relationship deepens between two people over a peroid of time, that too will naturally lead to one enduring more and more simply because they want to give more of themselves to you. Just my thoughts.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Perhaps it is not only just developing a higher tolerance to pain, or neccessarily an association of pleasure with pain. To be sure those two things are part of the mix, but perhaps a more sutble thing which is over looked is that over time, feelings towards you and pleasing you deepens. I think there is something to be said about how far someone will go in order to please another. I think as a relationship deepens between two people over a peroid of time, that too will naturally lead to one enduring more and more simply because they want to give more of themselves to you. Just my thoughts.

Thank you for adding your thoughts. I think you have made a very good point.

Eb

 

[nytemist]

A little bit of both maybe? I like the physical sensation of pain, but I also like the emotional feeling of knowing that I'm willingly allowing someone to inflict pain on me.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Pain....wow...have I ever come to crave giving it more and more over the years...sometimes pain just for pains sake and other times simply to test endurance or obedience...but none the less I am discovering I am less and less turned on by those who have a low pain tolerance and are only looking for sensation.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Pain....wow...have I ever come to crave giving it more and more over the years...sometimes pain just for pains sake and other times simply to test endurance or obedience...but none the less I am discovering I am less and less turned on by those who have a low pain tolerance and are only looking for sensation.

I was talking to a submissive the other day and I told him that the older I get, the more sadistic I get. I too find that testing endurance or obedience is my goal. I am told my smile is very diabolical when I am administering a painful experience to my submissive.

Eb

 

[MorfeuV]

Why?

I have never been in a D/s relationship.

I remember a freind-of-mine that liked piercings.

She was complaining on how guys are pussies and that even her boyfreind wouldn't pierce her ears.

I was did not want to do it at first, but I ended up doing it anyway.

I disinfected safety pins (they were those big ones for denim) and started to pierce her ears, I wound up putting about 15 - 20 safety pins on the left side of her face and she liked it.

I was reluctant the first few times but the expression on her face turned me on. I forgot what happened after that.

It's wierd but I have this thing with chains.

I want to be choked with one, hard & I want to be whipped with one (among other things).

I'm not talking about those skinny chains that people use to lock up bicycles, I'm talking about elephant chains.

I don't think it is the pain that turns me on, (I don't think it was pain that turned on my friend) I think it is the idea that turns me on. I don't know if that makes any sense.

 

[dexfantasy]

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[Hester]

Nothing is more attractive to me than a beautiful woman that wants to hurt me... badly.

i get this.

 

[navarre]

I had a nice post all typed out. Then I read Shadowsdream's post. She just said it all for me.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

For me its the pain first and foremost. I crave it, I need it, I'll beg for it if necessary. I have wondered if I 'use' submission just as a way to get the pain...

 

[Ebonyfire]

I had a nice post all typed out. Then I read Shadowsdream's post. She just said it all for me.

Hi Navarre!

Eb

 

[navarre]

Hi Navarre!

Eb

Hi Eb. Been a very long time. Way too long.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Hi Eb. Been a very long time. Way too long.

It certainly has.