The validity of online relationships.

[Ausus_girl13]

This shit just got real.

Falls the fuck over, tears running down her cheeks from the laughter.

 

[Light Ice]

We have never met, and I have a spouse IRL. I honestly could care less how people judge me. If you think I'm a coward, a liar, or any other label. Save it, it won't effect me. You have not walked in my shoes, you know a fragment of who I am. She knows me, knows who I truly am, and when the shit hits the fan and it really matters she has always been there for me, and I her. Even when we feel like we are falling apart inside we find a way to give to each other a little more than we have in the past. Even when I had to let her go and she did not understand why I did it, she still loved me, and I her.

That is what real love is. She forgives me my faults, helps me rise above my weakness, revels in my strengths, and she is always there for me. She will forever be a part of my heart and my soul no matter where life takes us.

That is what love means to me, and it can happen from a thousand miles a way.

So long as you have the comfort of an oblivious wife to fall back on, right? Because, if wifey found out about your online darling, she'd probably ruin your world on the way to the door. Can't have that, right?

Very noble.

 

[Ahren]

We have never met, and I have a spouse IRL. I honestly could care less how people judge me. If you think I'm a coward, a liar, or any other label. Save it, it won't effect me.

Maybe what we say won't affect you, but the whole thing blowing up in your face might.

I say keep a camera on yourself at all times so we can witness the exact moment when it occurs.

 

[Light Ice]

Maybe what we say won't affect you, but the whole thing blowing up in your face might.

I say keep a camera on yourself at all times so we can witness the exact moment when it occurs.

Stop it. Don't judge him. He's in-love. Not with his wife who he stood beside and pledged himself too, mind, but some other woman he's never met. The fact he loves her makes it perfectly OK.

Imagine what his kids would think?

"Why did your parents split, FDad's kid?"

"My dad was secretly cyberbanging someone on a porn site and mom found out."

"..."

 

[Hikari]

I really appreciate your feedback and you being able to understand some of what I said. Only thing I have to add is, you said I can't call it love. You can't tell me how I felt or can feel about someone no matter where I met them. Love is something that comes from the heart and I know without a doubt I did. Nothing you nor anyone else can say can change that for me. I'm not at all saying that to be confrontational, just being honest.

A feeling does not determine the reality of a situation. People in suicide cults might feel as though they are one with their messiah.

However when the FBI raids the place and they are made to look realistically at what happened, they see they were in fact taken advantage of by a money grubbing asshole with narcissistic personality disorder.

It's all about perception. You perceive those feelings as real so therefore it is real for you. The perception of a single person does not dictate the reality of what happened. Especially if they weren't emotionally stable.

 

[Firmhanded_Daddy]

So long as you have the comfort of an oblivious wife to fall back on, right? Because, if wifey found out about your online darling, she'd probably ruin your world on the way to the door. Can't have that, right?

Very noble.

Because you have always been the picture of nobility by which others should be judged? I have yet to see you have a conversation with another person in which there are opposing points that has not ended with you reduced to name calling.

Instead of projecting you're bitter view on the rest of the world look in a mirror first. Everyone has faults LI. Even you.

Maybe what we say won't affect you, but the whole thing blowing up in your face might.

I say keep a camera on yourself at all times so we can witness the exact moment when it occurs.

I don't believe in camera's Ahren. They steal the soul you know. You don't really know the specifics of my situation so it would not be wise to comment on it.

If it does blow up in my face don't worry I will make sure to send you a few photos of my smile.

 

[Hikari]

I have been on the sidelines following this thread for a while and I can't hold my peace any longer.

Love is not simply a physical response to another person's bodily chemistry. It is amplified by the touch of those you are lucky enough to be close too, but to express it, to feel it... that ability dwells within the soul. Love does not even have to be returned to be experienced. It also has many different manifestations, different potencies. I fully believe you can love several people in different ways.

I understand many do not agree with these ideals and that is perfectly fine. However that does not make you an authority, or give you the right to belittle anyone else for their emotions. Everyone is different, everyone feels things differently, deals with them differently, and rationalizes them differently.

I came to this site with the express purpose of writing stories. I even started out with another SN in the non-SRP area. It didn't work out and instead I came to the SRP area. To make a long story short I made my way into the lounges and made some great friends. I also met someone who did more than just capture my heart. She knocked me off my feet, she thrilled me down the core of who I am. Just the thought of her has always had a profound effect upon me. She showed me parts of me I never knew existed, she stirred my passions for good (and admittedly sometimes for bad). She knows me in a way few people have ever taken the time to know me. She can read my moods like a book even to this day. We built each other up during a time of great hurt, we both needed each other. Even when that need faded the love did not. Even now that our relationship has evolved and changed I still love her, and I will never stop.

We have never met, and I have a spouse IRL. I honestly could care less how people judge me. If you think I'm a coward, a liar, or any other label. Save it, it won't effect me. You have not walked in my shoes, you know a fragment of who I am. She knows me, knows who I truly am, and when the shit hits the fan and it really matters she has always been there for me, and I her. Even when we feel like we are falling apart inside we find a way to give to each other a little more than we have in the past. Even when I had to let her go and she did not understand why I did it, she still loved me, and I her.

That is what real love is. She forgives me my faults, helps me rise above my weakness, revels in my strengths, and she is always there for me. She will forever be a part of my heart and my soul no matter where life takes us.

That is what love means to me, and it can happen from a thousand miles a way.

She let you stick it her e-pooper didn't she?

 

[Ahren]

I agree with LI. I like you.

 

[xOxCherryxOx]

She let you stick it her e-pooper didn't she?

Wow, that was classy, truly. I'm astounded by that response as it was so adult of you.

insert snark here

 

[Ahren]

Only this forum where someone can admit to basically cheating on their wife and the people who make fun of him for being such a slime are the ones considered immature.

 

[Light Ice]

Only this forum where someone can admit to basically cheating on their wife and the people who make fun of him for being such a slime are the ones considered immature.

That's generally what started all this. I posted about how the forums had turned into such a ridiculous pile of histrionics that cheating on your wife was considered perfectly fine. Meanwhile, calling that behavior disgusting and cowardly, was mean and cruel. Amazing.

It's fucking disgusting.

 

[Hikari]

Wow, that was classy, truly. I'm astounded by that response as it was so adult of you.

insert snark here

Hey I'm not the one cyber fucking a married man.. I think you're hardly in a position to be discussing tact at this point.

 

[xOxCherryxOx]

Hey I'm not the one cyber fucking a married man.. I think you're hardly in a position to be discussing tact at this point.

Good to know. Neither am I. Thanks for sharing.

 

[Ausus_girl13]

To be honest I am sort of speechless right now. I don't really know what to say. I really feel as if I am sort of holding my hands up, like what do y'all want me to do at this point. To be sure, I pushed it along. Mostly cause I like pushing LI when I can, Ahren too.

This thread was a lark. This issue kept being brought up in the other threads so I figured I'd just see what happened. Light Ice laughed at me when I posted it. Said I was starting hell just to raise hell. I do these things sometimes.

So to the majority of the lounge I'm sorry! Consider this another of Aus's little games (I'm sure my level of villainy will only grow).

Furthermore, boys take a step back? Please?

And Cherry, try not to get too upset at Hikari, she didn't know the history here.

Now we can do this one of two ways. I can ask you to get the hell out of this thread. Or I can kick you the fuck out. How would you all like to play it?

 

[Ahren]

I really don't know what you expected. You're a smart person, you should have realized what you were instigating.

To be honest, this whole thread was actually more civil than I anticipated.

 

[Hikari]

Good to know. Neither am I. Thanks for sharing.

You sure the guy wasn't married?

 

[Ausus_girl13]

I really don't know what you expected. You're a smart person, you should have realized what you were instigating.

To be honest, this whole thread was actually more civil than I anticipated.

That's like what one? Two compliments? Aww Ahren.. you're so my favorite.

Now get the fuck out.

 

[Firmhanded_Daddy]

That's generally what started all this. I posted about how the forums had turned into such a ridiculous pile of histrionics that cheating on your wife was considered perfectly fine. Meanwhile, calling that behavior disgusting and cowardly, was mean and cruel. Amazing.

It's fucking disgusting.

Actually what started all of this was someone asking questions in an attempt to get answers without judgement, and without the over the top insults that are so prolific by some.

Follow directions first time given.

Hey I'm not the one cyber fucking a married man.. I think you're hardly in a position to be discussing tact at this point.

So because you think you understand her situation it somehow lessens the fact that your comment lacked any bearing on the subject and was just an attempted barb?

Ah I see.

Well this ended up about as I anticipated it would. Instead of honest attempts to contribute to the conversation it has dissolved into an uncivil discussion without any real point. No surprise there. Enjoy yourselves.

 

[Hikari]

To be honest I am sort of speechless right now. I don't really know what to say. I really feel as if I am sort of holding my hands up, like what do y'all want me to do at this point. To be sure, I pushed it along. Mostly cause I like pushing LI when I can, Ahren too.

This thread was a lark. This issue kept being brought up in the other threads so I figured I'd just see what happened. Light Ice laughed at me when I posted it. Said I was starting hell just to raise hell. I do these things sometimes.

So to the majority of the lounge I'm sorry! Consider this another of Aus's little games (I'm sure my level of villainy will only grow).

Furthermore, boys take a step back? Please?

And Cherry, try not to get too upset at Hikari, she didn't know the history here.

Now we can do this one of two ways. I can ask you to get the hell out of this thread. Or I can kick you the fuck out. How would you all like to play it?

I say we all play drunken musical chairs, wake up after having some weird orgy we don't remember involving a clown and a gimp, and never speak of it again.

 

[Light Ice]

I really don't know what you expected. You're a smart person, you should have realized what you were instigating.

To be honest, this whole thread was actually more civil than I anticipated.

She realized it. She'd intended on this turning into a knock down, however, with you and I on the receiving end. That was her goal here. When it turned around because of a couple posts by two more friends of hers, it suddenly wasn't going as expected.

Had this been a couple pages back when we were getting histrionics thrown at us for being mean and judgmental it'd still have been perfectly fine.

 

[Ahren]

She realized it. She'd intended on this turning into a knock down, however, with you and I on the receiving end. That was her goal here. When it turned around because of a couple posts by two more friends of hers, it suddenly wasn't going as expected.

Had this been a couple pages back when we were getting histrionics thrown at us for being mean and judgmental it'd still have been perfectly fine.

Oh yeah, I guess that makes sense.

I dunno why it's even disguised at this rate. May as well just make the 'Anti-LI/Ahren' thread and let people get it out of their system.

 

[Hikari]

So because you think you understand her situation it somehow lessens the fact that your comment lacked any bearing on the subject and was just an attempted barb?

Ah I see.

Well this ended up about as I anticipated it would. Instead of honest attempts to contribute to the conversation it has dissolved into an uncivil discussion without any real point. No surprise there. Enjoy yourselves.

Dude you are cheating on your wife and acting like it's a good thing. You lack the balls to pick a relationship to stick with and then expect me to take you seriously?

I don't give a shit if your wife is the biggest bitch in the world. Everyone is at least deserving of honesty in a relationship when it comes to fidelity.

My boyfriend knows what I do here. He doesn't care. Because he knows that I am faithful to him. He knows I'm not going to have some kind of online romance and profess e-love to someone I've never met. He knows that cyberfucking is just cyberfucking and isn't the same thing as being in a meaningful relationship with someone.

You, however are having an emotional affair with someone and your wife has no fucking clue.

That makes you an asshole undeserving of polite conversation or respect.

So excuse me if I find fault with your reasoning and failed to deliver a meaningful comment to your manifesto of romantic deceit.

 

[Asa]

On this site I have casual friendships and my husband knows I come here to write and actually has read my writings here and has no problem with it at all. I write here get the creative mind going and then work a lot on our books we are writing together and it works out great.

To any of my friends on here sorry bout the poof from this asinine thread but had better things to do with my life for a while.

 

[Light Ice]

Because, as far as I understand it, she genuinely isn't anti-Ahren/LI. She just knows that when it comes to things like this we won't take it to heart and cry. That allows her to engage this kind of thing without feeling she has to watch our feelings.

 

[Asa]

Dude you are cheating on your wife and acting like it's a good thing. You lack the balls to pick a relationship to stick with and then expect me to take you seriously?

I don't give a shit if your wife is the biggest bitch in the world. Everyone is at least deserving of honesty in a relationship when it comes to fidelity.

My boyfriend knows what I do here. He doesn't care. Because he knows that I am faithful to him. He knows I'm not going to have some kind of online romance and profess e-love to someone I've never met. He knows that cyberfucking is just cyberfucking and isn't the same thing as being in a meaningful relationship with someone.

You, however are having an emotional affair with someone and your wife has no fucking clue.

That makes you an asshole undeserving of polite conversation or respect.

So excuse me if I find fault with your reasoning and failed to deliver a meaningful comment to your manifesto of romantic deceit.

For it not to be cheating the spouse/bf/gf/whatever needs to know you come here and be okay with it but I refuse to judge anyone. There are those who feel their life is such crap they have to escape and have some little secret to make them feel like they have power over some little portion of their lives. Or a passive aggressive get back at who they feel has done them wrong... to each their own... Life is too short to care what others do unless they are family and they are harming themselves.