Today I learned...

[DiscusDave]

Today I Learned:

That survivors of sex trafficking, because of the nature of what goes on (sex in exchange for something, even if what is exchanged goes to someone else), are disqualified from EVER donating blood, and those (like myself) who engage in any sexual activity with any survivor of such circumstances will have to have I abstained from doing so for 12 months before they can donate blood.

While I somewhat understand the logic... talk about a slap in the face to those brave people who have escape such horrors.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Today I Learned:

That survivors of sex trafficking, because of the nature of what goes on (sex in exchange for something, even if what is exchanged goes to someone else), are disqualified from EVER donating blood, and those (like myself) who engage in any sexual activity with any survivor of such circumstances will have to have I abstained from doing so for 12 months before they can donate blood.

While I somewhat understand the logic... talk about a slap in the face to those brave people who have escape such horrors.

What is the logic from excluding one person because of their sexual history, yet allowing another person back into the system after a year based on their sexual history with the same person? Is the worry that the person who was trafficked will continue having sex that might expose them to dangerous diseases, even though they have been delivered from the bad situation?

And you're right, as though your partner hasn't been treated poorly enough. I'm sorry to hear that.

 

[DiscusDave]

What is the logic from excluding one person because of their sexual history, yet allowing another person back into the system after a year based on their sexual history with the same person? Is the worry that the person who was trafficked will continue having sex that might expose them to dangerous diseases, even though they have been delivered from the bad situation?

And you're right, as though your partner hasn't been treated poorly enough. I'm sorry to hear that.

The question that disqualified that person is simply "Have you ever exchanged sex for money, drugs, or anything else as payment?" And then it asked if you have engaged in any sexual activity with someone that fit that criteria in the past 12 months.

I think the logic is that there is a very good chance that the person who was in that exchanging situation (whether or not it was a willing or conscious decision is not considered ) most likely would not be able to track all of their sexual partners to be able to safely say they wouldn't be disqualified for any potential exposure to disease or the like. Hence why I somewhat get it, but I feel like there has got to be a better way to figure out some of those things. And the tacking on of 12 months for anyone engaging in sexual activity with them just seems so damn arbitrary. I was speechless though. Because I have given blood many times in the past and had never seen that question before. Then I took a hiatus from donating because while I did research in Africa I contracted malaria. So wasn't sure I would ever be able to give blood after that. Turns out, 3 years as asymptomatic for that is fine, but I got disqualified because of a person I shared my bed with's traumatizing past.

It's just a disheartening moment. I just felt heart broken for her. Talk about insult to injury.

 

[MeekMe]

What is the logic from excluding one person because of their sexual history, yet allowing another person back into the system after a year based on their sexual history with the same person? Is the worry that the person who was trafficked will continue having sex that might expose them to dangerous diseases, even though they have been delivered from the bad situation?

And you're right, as though your partner hasn't been treated poorly enough. I'm sorry to hear that.

http://www.fda.gov/BiologicsBloodVaccines/BloodBloodProducts/QuestionsaboutBlood/ucm108186.htm

Defer indefinitely an individual who has ever exchanged sex for money or drugs.

There are a lot of restrictions like this. It was a big controversy when the mass shooting happened in Orlando because of this:

Defer for 12 months from the most recent contact a man who has had sex with another man during the past 12 months.
Defer for 12 months from the most recent contact a female who has had sex during the past 12 months with a man who has had sex with another man in the past 12 months.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I see. So sorry for what your partner has gone through, and unfortunately will continue to be "punished" for, it sounds. That just sucks. Maybe you could celebrate their life in some way, the fact that they are alive and free. A dinner, flowers, a walk, a picnic, anything. Shake it off and go on, sometimes it's all you can do

The question that disqualified that person is simply "Have you ever exchanged sex for money, drugs, or anything else as payment?" And then it asked if you have engaged in any sexual activity with someone that fit that criteria in the past 12 months.

I think the logic is that there is a very good chance that the person who was in that exchanging situation (whether or not it was a willing or conscious decision is not considered ) most likely would not be able to track all of their sexual partners to be able to safely say they wouldn't be disqualified for any potential exposure to disease or the like. Hence why I somewhat get it, but I feel like there has got to be a better way to figure out some of those things. And the tacking on of 12 months for anyone engaging in sexual activity with them just seems so damn arbitrary. I was speechless though. Because I have given blood many times in the past and had never seen that question before. Then I took a hiatus from donating because while I did research in Africa I contracted malaria. So wasn't sure I would ever be able to give blood after that. Turns out, 3 years as asymptomatic for that is fine, but I got disqualified because of a person I shared my bed with's traumatizing past.

It's just a disheartening moment. I just felt heart broken for her. Talk about insult to injury.

http://www.fda.gov/BiologicsBloodVaccines/BloodBloodProducts/QuestionsaboutBlood/ucm108186.htm



There are a lot of restrictions like this. It was a big controversy when the mass shooting happened in Orlando because of this:

 

[DiscusDave]

I see. So sorry for what your partner has gone through, and unfortunately will continue to be "punished" for, it sounds. That just sucks. Maybe you could celebrate their life in some way, the fact that they are alive and free. A dinner, flowers, a walk, a picnic, anything. Shake it off and go on, sometimes it's all you can do

Thank you for your support. The next opportunity I have to talk to her I will pass on the sentiment that she has all sorts of people out there rooting for her. I will definitely take some time to celebrate with her in some way, but then again doing mundane every day stuff is a celebration and an act of defiance in and of itself. So I will save yo some celebratory laundry and ask her if she would be up for a trip to the laundry mat next time I get to talk to her.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Thank you for your support. The next opportunity I have to talk to her I will pass on the sentiment that she has all sorts of people out there rooting for her. I will definitely take some time to celebrate with her in some way, but then again doing mundane every day stuff is a celebration and an act of defiance in and of itself. So I will save yo some celebratory laundry and ask her if she would be up for a trip to the laundry mat next time I get to talk to her.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I can still make a guy nervous to talk to me. Though the guy i question seems to have always had a crush on me. Felt nice to be found attractive again.

 

[MyNameIsNO]

If you stand up too quickly when you're anemic and bleeding you could pass out.

I mean, I knew this theoretically and have close calls, but yeah... It really happens.

 

[Misshotndeep]

When the past comes calling it normally dangles a pretty nice looking carrot in your face. Run like you stole something in the other direction.

 

[Cakecups]

If you stand up too quickly when you're anemic and bleeding you could pass out.

I mean, I knew this theoretically and have close calls, but yeah... It really happens.

Oh no! Did you pass out?

 

[MyNameIsNO]

Oh no! Did you pass out?

I plead the fifth.

 

[Cakecups]

I plead the fifth.

Eeek!! Be careful!!

 

[NoeMasks]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Cakecups View Post
Oh no! Did you pass out?


MynameisNo:
I plead the fifth.
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Who's to say that love needs to be soft and gentle?

Whatever our souls are made of, his and mine are the same.


*Taps foot* and you were going no to tell me when?

 

[DiscusDave]

TIL: The Glen Miller Orchestra makes great traveling music for hours on the road.

 

[NoeMasks]

TIL: The Glen Miller Orchestra makes great traveling music for hours on the road.

The Catalog of original music, and covers, are massive, from him.

 

[DiscusDave]

The Catalog of original music, and covers, are massive, from him.

Not only massive, but filled with a lot of driving beats, which make for well.... Good driving!

 

[NoeMasks]

Yes they are, and do not for get, the Band is different, from the orchestra, and his solo work. He really was as talented as any of the greats, but some how, does not get the recognition he deserves.

 

[MyNameIsNO]

*Taps foot* and you were going no to tell me when?

I just did
*sticks out tongue*

You're supposed to love me and cuddle me. Not tap your foot at me.

 

[NoeMasks]

I just did
*sticks out tongue*

You're supposed to love me and cuddle me. Not tap your foot at me.

We both know the cuddles happened after I knew you were okay.

 

[MyNameIsNO]

This weekend (because I've been gone) I've learned:
- He's great at ruining good times
- It is inappropriate for children to quietly have thumb wars whilst waiting for dinner to arrive
- It is appropriate to scream and berate your wife in a restaurant full of people because you're too lazy to turn on your GPS
- It's also appropriate to try to get into a physical altercation with another older man on the beach and when he tells you he'd send you to jail, by all means, follow the man and kick dirt at him.
- I'm getting a dictionary for Christmas, and that's it.
- He is becoming worse everytime I see him and I don't think I can wait another year.
- Thankfully my boys know this is not how you act.
- They like me best.

 

[JoanneA]

confirmation that I suck at this. All of it.

You can take it.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

TIL that some well-educated white collar professionals forget how to use punctuation and capitalization on their way to the pm box.

 

[Farawyn]

TIL
I gained 7 pounds during The Biggest Loser contest at work. Don't try to diet during a divorce.

 

[gracie920101]

Today I learned how really tired/distracted the holidays have made me when I realized halfway thru brushing my teeth that I hadn't turned on the electric toothbrush. I hadn't even missed the vibration, just stood there holding it against my teeth like an idiot.