Twenty Somethings

[My Own Way]

Please believe I am not saying anything particularly about you when I say this...

But I hear this all the time... usually from a girl who just broke up with a total asshole. Me, being the nice guy I am (It ain't just a name =P) am there to talk to them about it. They vent, they cry.. I hug and console them... they tell me they wish there were more guys like me out there... then go off and hook up with another total asshole =P

Starts to get really annoying after a while! Hehe...makes me wonder if I should try being an asshole for a while (Not that I actually could =P)

Rant mode off!

On a positive note, though: I started school this week, working on an Associates of Arts in Business, probably gonna move up to a Bachelor's in Information Technology!

LOL....well I wish I could say that I've recently broken up with a boyfriend...not that I'd want all the heartbreak and such...but at least that would mean I'd had a boyfriend in the past 5 months....

Anyway...I see what you mean NG....but I also think that what I'm looking for is really what everyone is looking for. I'm not looking for the perfect guy...knight in shining armor on a white horse kinda thing...I much prefer a man in armani driving a BMW I think we're all just looking for that one person who is not necessarily perfect, but instead is merely just perfect for us.

Congrats on starting school NG....you'll have to let us know how it goes!!!

 

[My Own Way]

ROFL... Dude, I'm with you on that. Not to sound a downer about it, but my best guess is, you may have a much better chance with MyOwn.

Me, on the other hand, I may have lots of great qualities about myself, but I think I have learned thus far that I'm COMPLETELY inexperienced when it comes to affection. Hell, I don't feel happy or good when a girl gives me a hug. I feel nervous and awkward. Another part of me thinks when it comes to hugs that with my broad shoulders, masculine arms, I'd probably crush somebody if I were to hug them.

I hope though, that someday I'll drop all my defenses and be more open. Everybody tells me there's somebody out there for each person.

FYI....Guys with broad shoulders and masculine arms give the BEST hugs....

 

[BXGemini20]

I'm sick of rain. Well at least I have a reason to study. Back to studying I go after looking around Lit a bit more.

 

[Munachi]

as for the more experience with affection - i am wondering, isn't the way to get this experience only by... well, getting it? sitting around and waiting doesn't really get experience...

apart from that i wish that cute brazilian guy that just checked in would want to give some affection... or well, something similar... erm... too bad the reception was full, i wanted to flirt with him but the other people looked somewhat impatient. can't they understand this is important?

 

[My Own Way]

as for the more experience with affection - i am wondering, isn't the way to get this experience only by... well, getting it? sitting around and waiting doesn't really get experience...

apart from that i wish that cute brazilian guy that just checked in would want to give some affection... or well, something similar... erm... too bad the reception was full, i wanted to flirt with him but the other people looked somewhat impatient. can't they understand this is important?

I agree Munachi...the only way to get experience is to try a few times, maybe you fail, but to keep trying till you suceed. You get no where by simply not trying.

As for the brazilian...Mmmm...just that fact makes him sound simply heavenly....I could use a little affection right about now....

 

[Munachi]

I agree Munachi...the only way to get experience is to try a few times, maybe you fail, but to keep trying till you suceed. You get no where by simply not trying.

As for the brazilian...Mmmm...just that fact makes him sound simply heavenly....I could use a little affection right about now....

wonder if i should have told him to check out the hotel bar... i finish work in two and a half hours and will probably head there for a few drinks myself... and i have been learning portuguese for a while now, so it would be a good way to connect "studying" and fun... ah well - he is probably gone into the city now though... ah well, there are cute guys here all the time though, but of course talking to the receptionist is not really their priority

 

[HybridCrow]

FYI....Guys with broad shoulders and masculine arms give the BEST hugs....

If that's the truth, then I need to hurry up and get rid of the awkward feelings I get when people hug me.

Hmm... no offense MyOwn, but I don't like BMWs... they're too small in my opinion. I'd much rather have a pickup or an SUV when I can get one.

And as for NiceGuy: I've never had the experience of consoling weeping maidens in distress, but I DO know what you mean about what MyOwn is saying. I get sick and tired of hearing that stuff myself, but as a friend of mine says, "Women are fickle creatures."

However, I HAVE heard that most women like a guy who can be himself. Pretty much brings up the confidence thing.

Welp... off to study for my test tomorrow. Laters!

 

[BXGemini20]

I'm sick of studying! Tomorrow going to be hell. I got a test and and an advisement appointment for class selection. I can't wait for next weekend. I could use a brain massage right now.

 

[Munachi]

If that's the truth, then I need to hurry up and get rid of the awkward feelings I get when people hug me.

Hmm... no offense MyOwn, but I don't like BMWs... they're too small in my opinion. I'd much rather have a pickup or an SUV when I can get one.

And as for NiceGuy: I've never had the experience of consoling weeping maidens in distress, but I DO know what you mean about what MyOwn is saying. I get sick and tired of hearing that stuff myself, but as a friend of mine says, "Women are fickle creatures."

However, I HAVE heard that most women like a guy who can be himself. Pretty much brings up the confidence thing.

Welp... off to study for my test tomorrow. Laters!

well in my experience it goes both ways, in a way, though... like a lot of guys go for the bitchy annoying girls, and wonder why she is bitchy and annoying. and also, a lot of guys keep telling me how they don't like make up and girls who dress up too much etc., but when they point out girls they like, it is always those with lots of make up etc. - erm, what i mean is just, people are not logical... and there are lots of nice girls wanting nice guys, and nice guys wanting nice girls, they just seem to be unable to recognize each other.

 

[HybridCrow]

well in my experience it goes both ways, in a way, though... like a lot of guys go for the bitchy annoying girls, and wonder why she is bitchy and annoying. and also, a lot of guys keep telling me how they don't like make up and girls who dress up too much etc., but when they point out girls they like, it is always those with lots of make up etc. - erm, what i mean is just, people are not logical... and there are lots of nice girls wanting nice guys, and nice guys wanting nice girls, they just seem to be unable to recognize each other.

Well, HONESTLY, I never go for the bitchy, annoying girls. I can't even stand them. In my experience, they've always been mean to me and as the describing goes, they're bitchy and annoying.

One of the things I hate about women is the fact they like to complicate things. Sure, guys can do that too, but there are guys that DON'T do it. For instance, the body language, subtle hints, and certain words, actions, etc. that indicate something and I can't figure it out. Which is why, nowadays, I completely ignore everything. If a woman wants something, she's going to have to be straightforward with me about it. I like a game now and then, but not ALL the time. By games, I mean the body language, words, actions, etc.

Ok, think I'm done ranting now.

 

[My Own Way]

well in my experience it goes both ways, in a way, though... like a lot of guys go for the bitchy annoying girls, and wonder why she is bitchy and annoying. and also, a lot of guys keep telling me how they don't like make up and girls who dress up too much etc., but when they point out girls they like, it is always those with lots of make up etc. - erm, what i mean is just, people are not logical... and there are lots of nice girls wanting nice guys, and nice guys wanting nice girls, they just seem to be unable to recognize each other.

I am SOOOO happy to have another woman here Munachi!!!

 

[My Own Way]

Well, HONESTLY, I never go for the bitchy, annoying girls. I can't even stand them. In my experience, they've always been mean to me and as the describing goes, they're bitchy and annoying.

One of the things I hate about women is the fact they like to complicate things. Sure, guys can do that too, but there are guys that DON'T do it. For instance, the body language, subtle hints, and certain words, actions, etc. that indicate something and I can't figure it out. Which is why, nowadays, I completely ignore everything. If a woman wants something, she's going to have to be straightforward with me about it. I like a game now and then, but not ALL the time. By games, I mean the body language, words, actions, etc.

Ok, think I'm done ranting now.

It's not a "game" I believe it's called flirting....something that both sexes do as part of the mating ritual....not a "game"

 

[Munachi]

I am SOOOO happy to have another woman here Munachi!!!

glad to hear that! i was a bit worried, if i am kind of intruding in the conversation by just joining this thread, since all of you already seem to know each other a while... but i just had the impression this was quite a friendly thread, so i decided to join... glad to see i was right!

 

[BXGemini20]

Muniahci is a girl? That's good. Nothing like more ladies on this thread. Since it seems everyone talking about thier types. Might as well join the party. I just want an average girl. No model type. A great personality is a huge plus. I'm big dude wieght wise so maybe girls who want a big teddy type would like me. I just want a girl who is homest and staight up. Maybe I'm setting my standards too high

 

[BXGemini20]

Hey My! How about them Red Sox. Yankees killin' them!

 

[My Own Way]

Hey My! How about them Red Sox. Yankees killin' them!

Oh shut up Gemini....

 

[BXGemini20]

Oh shut up Gemini....

Do I have to???

 

[Munachi]

Muniahci is a girl?

last time i looked i very much appeared to be one, at least...

as for types... hard to say... the weird thing is, that lately a lot of times guys bore me quite quickly... but might just be due to the fact that so much is going on in my life right now...

but actually i can never quite put into words what is my type... has to be someone i can talk with about whatever nonsense for hours, without getting bored...

 

[HybridCrow]

Muniahci is a girl?

I was constantly thinking the same thing. I kept leaning towards girl because I can't think of a guy going for a name like Munachi. Sounds feminine, in my opinion.

 

[My Own Way]

I was constantly thinking the same thing. I kept leaning towards girl because I can't think of a guy going for a name like Munachi. Sounds feminine, in my opinion.

Hmmm...I never thought she was anything BUT a woman....

 

[HybridCrow]

It's not a "game" I believe it's called flirting....something that both sexes do as part of the mating ritual....not a "game"

As I said, I don't pay attention to that anymore. It causes confusion, and people DO end up getting hurt somehow. And if the "mating ritual" part were true, don't you think I'd be laid plenty of times by now?

It IS a thought.

Anyhow, love ya girls!

 

[HybridCrow]

Hmmm...I never thought she was anything BUT a woman....

Ok, OK!! A woman then!

for you MyOwn.

 

[Munachi]

hehe, that is interesting, i always thought it was very obvious i am a girl... but true, it is sometimes hard to know - in a different forum i thought for ages this one girl was a guy, just because her username sounded kind of masculine...

 

[Munachi]

As I said, I don't pay attention to that anymore. It causes confusion, and people DO end up getting hurt somehow. And if the "mating ritual" part were true, don't you think I'd be laid plenty of times by now?

It IS a thought.

Anyhow, love ya girls!

hm i think flirting should be seen as something on its own right... after all, one can also flirt in situations where both know it won't lead to anything (like, flirting with a gay friend, just for the fun of flirting)... it depends a bit how the flirting is done.

BUT part of the excitement can also be not knowing where it will lead to. someone who only flirts to get laid will probably be less succesful, at least with me, because i will feel that it is pointless. he has to enjoy the flirting itself, and that also makes him sexy to me. so, no, i think it is not just a mating ritual.

 

[HybridCrow]

hm i think flirting should be seen as something on its own right... after all, one can also flirt in situations where both know it won't lead to anything (like, flirting with a gay friend, just for the fun of flirting)... it depends a bit how the flirting is done.

BUT part of the excitement can also be not knowing where it will lead to. someone who only flirts to get laid will probably be less succesful, at least with me, because i will feel that it is pointless. he has to enjoy the flirting itself, and that also makes him sexy to me. so, no, i think it is not just a mating ritual.

You're right, which is why I don't try reading into it. RATHER, I try to enjoy the conversing and having fun. If something happens, it happens.