Twenty Somethings

[My Own Way]

hm i think flirting should be seen as something on its own right... after all, one can also flirt in situations where both know it won't lead to anything (like, flirting with a gay friend, just for the fun of flirting)... it depends a bit how the flirting is done.

BUT part of the excitement can also be not knowing where it will lead to. someone who only flirts to get laid will probably be less succesful, at least with me, because i will feel that it is pointless. he has to enjoy the flirting itself, and that also makes him sexy to me. so, no, i think it is not just a mating ritual.

I agree. But I do feel that it is a part of the mating ritual...and by mating ritual I mean it's part of relationships. Honestly...I flirt with everyone...it's just part of my personality...but I like to think it's a part of the sweet, nice aspect of my personality. I never flirt with a goal to hook up or get laid, I just flirt to be nice...you know? I do also think that flirting is at least something you should have a basic knowledge of...both how to do it and how to be on the receiving end of it...it's a natural part of relationships of every kind...

 

[Munachi]

I agree. But I do feel that it is a part of the mating ritual...and by mating ritual I mean it's part of relationships. Honestly...I flirt with everyone...it's just part of my personality...but I like to think it's a part of the sweet, nice aspect of my personality. I never flirt with a goal to hook up or get laid, I just flirt to be nice...you know? I do also think that flirting is at least something you should have a basic knowledge of...both how to do it and how to be on the receiving end of it...it's a natural part of relationships of every kind...

which is why i said it is not JUST a mating ritual... it can be of course... currently i often mean it as such but the guys i flirt with seem not to get it (and i am shy *blush*)...

 

[HybridCrow]

Hey MyOwn, I was wondering if you have any new pictures of your sexy legs? I'm just dying to see more angles.

 

[BXGemini20]

Okay. This may sound like a dumb question, but define flirting. Is just give compliments to a memeber of the opposite sex or is there more to this. Sometimes with the way I talk I think accidently flirt when I just want to make polite conversation.

 

[Munachi]

Okay. This may sound like a dumb question, but define flirting. Is just give compliments to a memeber of the opposite sex or is there more to this. Sometimes with the way I talk I think accidently flirt when I just want to make polite conversation.

hm... not sure really... there is something more playful about it than just compliments... i mean, compliments can be flirting but don't have to be.

 

[HybridCrow]

hm... not sure really... there is something more playful about it than just compliments... i mean, compliments can be flirting but don't have to be.

Hmm... I guess I've been flirting a bit too much with the boss ladies then. I mean I'm just having conversations with them and they'll be laughing or giggling like school-girls about something I say, and one or two of them seem to blush a bit when I talk.

I'll never understand women. Anyhow, off to bed I go, for sure this time.

 

[My Own Way]

Okay. This may sound like a dumb question, but define flirting. Is just give compliments to a memeber of the opposite sex or is there more to this. Sometimes with the way I talk I think accidently flirt when I just want to make polite conversation.

I don't think flirting is something that can be defined....it just....is. For that matter, everyone flirts in a different way, and everyone interprets flirting differently as well.

 

[BXGemini20]

I don't think flirting is something that can be defined....it just....is. For that matter, everyone flirts in a different way, and everyone interprets flirting differently as well.

All right, My. You would say it is a matter of opinion. That acutally makes sense. I think Crow is right about men never understanding women. Some things are to remain unknown.

 

[surfwabo]

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I don't think flirting is something that can be defined....it just....is. For that matter, everyone flirts in a different way, and everyone interprets flirting differently as well.

I like your way of thinking....cheers !

 

[Munachi]

I'll never understand women. Anyhow, off to bed I go, for sure this time.

well, i will never understand men. or other women. i usually don't even understand myself. people are confusing...

 

[1stClassNiceGuy]

Me? I suck at flirting. I also suck at picking up when someone is flirting with me. I'm not quite sure if it has to do with me being bad at picking up signals, or just self doubt. Either way, I suppose. I say I suck at flirting because no matter how hard I try to flirt, people just tend to pick it up as me bing silly (Which I am also prone to do, hehe) But, regardless of how people perceive it, its still damn fun =D

 

[HybridCrow]

Me? I suck at flirting. I also suck at picking up when someone is flirting with me. I'm not quite sure if it has to do with me being bad at picking up signals, or just self doubt. Either way, I suppose. I say I suck at flirting because no matter how hard I try to flirt, people just tend to pick it up as me bing silly (Which I am also prone to do, hehe) But, regardless of how people perceive it, its still damn fun =D

Hey, I'd say the same thing, but as MyOwn mentioned, each person has their own way of flirting.

Way I see it though, my best guess and solution for you is to do what I do. Simply be yourself and don't think into it. Just have a casual conversation. Don't make interpretations, just converse. You may not know it, but eventually you'll end up flirting and you won't need to think if you're doing it or not. Just be yourself. However, from personal experience, don't always try to be funny or silly or a smart-aleck. It starts to wear off and the girls will get bored.

You'd think with all the good qualities I have and the fun I have, I'd have a g/f by now.

 

[1stClassNiceGuy]

For the most part, I'm just me. If is taken as flirting then so be it... the problem lies in that the poeple that see it as flirting are people I have no interest in... the ones I have interest in always think Im just being me. I have no problem with me... I like me just as I am... just I wish people would notice that me has lot to offer sometimes =P

the bottom line is: I like me... other people like me, just not always in the way I wish they would, hehe.... but I suppose I should take what I can get and be happy with it. I'm not the kind of person to change who I am just to get something or somewhere. If ya like me, great, if ya don't... I don't really lose anything.

 

[HybridCrow]

Yeah, that's right. Like I said, don't think much into it. Just converse. And if the people who you're not interested in are taking it the wrong way, that's really their fault. They're thinking into it. Well, that or they ARE interested in you for some reason whether or not it's from conversing.

I feel the same way a lot nowadays. If somebody likes me, that's cool, and if they don't, it's still cool cause there's always going to be somebody else.

 

[My Own Way]

well, i will never understand men. or other women. i usually don't even understand myself. people are confusing...

I second that....I don't understand people 99.9% of the time...And I'm giving up on men...at least this week

 

[My Own Way]

For the most part, I'm just me. If is taken as flirting then so be it... the problem lies in that the poeple that see it as flirting are people I have no interest in... the ones I have interest in always think Im just being me. I have no problem with me... I like me just as I am... just I wish people would notice that me has lot to offer sometimes =P

the bottom line is: I like me... other people like me, just not always in the way I wish they would, hehe.... but I suppose I should take what I can get and be happy with it. I'm not the kind of person to change who I am just to get something or somewhere. If ya like me, great, if ya don't... I don't really lose anything.

Of course you have a lot of offer NG....you're the best stalker I've ever had

 

[Munachi]

just a short and tired hello... had two wisdom teeth taken out just now and in fact want to sleep except the pain is keeping me from it...

 

[BXGemini20]

Poor Munchai. Eat some ice cream and feel better. I hate dentists. Lately my mother has been telling me I should use whitening strips becuase she thinks I don't brush enough. I'll go do some laundry after looking around Lit.

 

[Munachi]

thanks... ate some ice cream, and some pasta, the pasta was difficult to eat though but i guess only ice cream is not healthy either...

hm, whitening strips? i think brushing is healthier. whitening strips means you are bleaching the teeth, and i heard that destroys their natural defense... not sure, i just always thought whitening strips are not actually healthy...

 

[HybridCrow]

I don't know much about the whitening strips, but I do know those breath strips are rather nasty to me. Luckily I didn't waste any money on a small pack that they were giving out for free at the college book store.

 

[BXGemini20]

thanks... ate some ice cream, and some pasta, the pasta was difficult to eat though but i guess only ice cream is not healthy either...

If you are worried about the bad stuffs of ice cream then yogurt. I always wanted to try yogurt to be honest.

 

[HybridCrow]

If you are worried about the bad stuffs of ice cream then yogurt. I always wanted to try yogurt to be honest.

What?!?!?! You never had yogurt? Anyhow, I been wondering, besides getting fat, what's wrong with ice cream? Nothing ever hurt nobody for eating ice cream.

 

[My Own Way]

If you are worried about the bad stuffs of ice cream then yogurt. I always wanted to try yogurt to be honest.

It's pretty good. I've been eating frozen yogurt for forever now. I don't even remember the last time I really had ice cream. It may taste a little strange at first, not as rich and creamy, but you get used to that after awhile.

 

[My Own Way]

What?!?!?! You never had yogurt? Anyhow, I been wondering, besides getting fat, what's wrong with ice cream? Nothing ever hurt nobody for eating ice cream.

Actually, getting and being fat isn't exactly healthy. While ice cream is a good source of calcium, the fat intake is so high because of it being made from whole milk that it's just not good for you. So while ice cream in particular won't kill you, if you eat too much of it combined with other fatty foods you have a good chance of developing many health issues that will one day kill you instead.

 

[HybridCrow]

Actually, getting and being fat isn't exactly healthy. While ice cream is a good source of calcium, the fat intake is so high because of it being made from whole milk that it's just not good for you. So while ice cream in particular won't kill you, if you eat too much of it combined with other fatty foods you have a good chance of developing many health issues that will one day kill you instead.

Umm... I'm not saying I'm proud to be on the chubby side, w/ a masculine look, however, don't you think that all the stress with dieting and (unless you feel great doing it) working out will be the ULTIMATE killer?

Although I'm keeping at it, I'm getting stressed out because I'm not seeing as much results from working out. I think that's the main reason people get stressed out about exercising and watching what they eat. No, I don't expect results right away. I'm just not feeling any different than I was a week ago.

Come to think of it, I actually do feel like I felt a week ago and that's TIRED.