Validity of the Daddy/girl dynamic

[LunarKitten]

OH! I believe that is Together in Leather, not SELF. You mentioned Southeast Leatherfest and that is what SELF stands for, but they are in Georgia, so I was confused. They run the Southeast Master/slave contest that feeds into International Master/slave. Unfortunately Together in Leather's website appears to be down.

*slaps forehead* Sorry, had a blonde moment...and I thought I'd covered those pesky blonde roots well enough with the red dye lol

 

[elizabeth22673]

do any of you daydream about the 24/7 relationship...having a live-in daddy, etc. perhaps some of you have this and i'm absolutely jealous as hell.

i love my son, please don't get me wrong on that, but sometimes when things are crazy all around me, i have this secret desire to leave my life as it is now and find someone to take care of all responsibilities both financial and otherwise and my one and only duty is to please my daddy and obey his every command as long as he promised to love me unconditionally

 

[Etoile]

do any of you daydream about the 24/7 relationship...having a live-in daddy, etc. perhaps some of you have this and i'm absolutely jealous as hell.

i love my son, please don't get me wrong on that, but sometimes when things are crazy all around me, i have this secret desire to leave my life as it is now and find someone to take care of all responsibilities both financial and otherwise and my one and only duty is to please my daddy and obey his every command as long as he promised to love me unconditionally

I think everyone feels that way sometimes. Not just pyl's, but PYL's too and even non-kinky people.

 

[elizabeth22673]

I think everyone feels that way sometimes. Not just pyl's, but PYL's too and even non-kinky people.

Thank you...I'm glad it's normal to feel that way. I guess since things are not that great at home right now, I crave it quite a bit more than usual....

 

[Little_Kitten]

Thank you...I'm glad it's normal to feel that way. I guess since things are not that great at home right now, I crave it quite a bit more than usual....

I crave it too... A whole lot... but that's more because I feel there isn't much left for me in my current life. Things aren't as great here either. I can't wait to be with my love... But I have a whole lot to solve before that.
What you're feeling isn't wrong

 

[elizabeth22673]

I crave it too... A whole lot... but that's more because I feel there isn't much left for me in my current life. Things aren't as great here either. I can't wait to be with my love... But I have a whole lot to solve before that.
What you're feeling isn't wrong

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[Little_Kitten]

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[elizabeth22673]

just a big hug for you since you said things aren't going well right now...
i'm sorry if i offended

 

[Etoile]

just a big hug for you since you said things aren't going well right now...
i'm sorry if i offended

I can't imagine a hug would offend anybody, I think she just didn't know what it meant!

LK, often (((hugs))) or {{{person}}} means you are hugging them, the more ((( or [[[ or {{{ you have, the bigger the hug.

 

[elizabeth22673]

I can't imagine a hug would offend anybody, I think she just didn't know what it meant!

LK, often (((hugs))) or {{{person}}} means you are hugging them, the more ((( or [[[ or {{{ you have, the bigger the hug.

oh!!!! didn't think of that. i think i've been online too damn much lol

 

[Little_Kitten]

Oooh! I just didn't know what it meant

Well I'm glad I could make one person slightly happier.

Lots of hugs to you too

 

[lil_slave_rose]

The argument I heard was that Daddy/girl relationships aren't really D/s because they are not as committed to the structure. That it isn't as intense as a "real" M/s dynamic. That it is more "fluffy" than what a real D/s dynamic is.

I've also been told that Daddy/girl relationships, they won't call them dynamics, are inherently temporary. That little girls always out grow their Daddys.

*squirms* I don't feel the need to justify who I am and what I do, but i really would love to know why they think this way.

*shrugs* i know for us our Daddy/babygirl dynamic is more 'fluffy' than our regular Master/slave..however, it's just as intense and valid as anything else. and someone said if Daddy beats His lil girl than it's D/s...well not all D/s relationships are about 'beating' or 'pain' either so i don't think that works either *smiles* just my two cents......things are as you make them, if it's valid to you, then it's valid.......period......

 

[ecstaticsub]

And is there anythig wrong with "fluffy" ? I ,for one enjoy a bit of fluffy with my floggings.

 

[Little_Kitten]

There isn't anything wrong with fluff... In fact... Why is it that all D/s relationships have to be stern? Fluff is good and makes things funner
We need fluff in our life!! Who's with me?

 

[VaGentleOne]

I think I tend to be more fluff, at least what I would define as such, so I am with you.

We all need kindness and in some cases just someone to pay attention to us. A friendly voice can go so much further than rude obnoxious people. So if a Daddy needs to take care of his little one, and to reassure her when she needs it, to hug her when she needs it, to kiss her boos, then please count me in. I love it that my girl comes to me for strength and just maybe when she needs a pick me up. On the flip side when we get to play, then its Daddy in charge, which allows her to just sit back and not have to think about anything but pleasing the one she loves. And as a Daddy, I love the fact she gives herself to me completely.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Before coming to Lit I had never heard of D/g relationships. Even though my Dom told me to call him Daddy I never thought of myself as a little girl or our relationship as D/g (because I had never heard of it as a type of D/s relationship) And it's hard to think of myself as a little girl when I am 5'8", the mother of two preteens and having to deal with the mountain of responsibilities that are thrown at me on a daily basis.

But yeah, when I am stressed and feeling needy it is my Daddy who I run to. He always encourages me to tell him everything and not hide any of my emotional stress from him. Though I really need the sterness too, just not at all into formality.

 

[FluteMaster]

I always have a stock of velvet gloves on hand....the steel one that is.

(Yep...fluff is a good thing to have in the repertoire)

 

[tanijaana]

I've been meeting many people who do not think that the Daddy/girl dynamic is not a valid expression of D/s or M/s; that it doesn't have the same level of commitment.

I have never been able to understand this mindset at all. The D/g dynamic is one of the most beautiful kinds of relationships I have ever seen, and is even more so when it is applied to D/s. While it can and does exist away from D/s, that does not make it any less valid than other kinds of relationships. It isn't ALWAYS kneeling and whips and leather. Sometimes it's softness and nurturing and innocence and indulging the inner child or parent. This is the kind of relationship I am striving for with my partner.

 

[Little_Kitten]

I have never been able to understand this mindset at all. The D/g dynamic is one of the most beautiful kinds of relationships I have ever seen, and is even more so when it is applied to D/s. While it can and does exist away from D/s, that does not make it any less valid than other kinds of relationships. It isn't ALWAYS kneeling and whips and leather. Sometimes it's softness and nurturing and innocence and indulging the inner child or parent. This is the kind of relationship I am striving for with my partner.

Im just confused, cos that was what I thought D/s was about too... Is D/s only the stern, bondagy part of it all?

 

[elizabeth22673]

I think I tend to be more fluff, at least what I would define as such, so I am with you.

We all need kindness and in some cases just someone to pay attention to us. A friendly voice can go so much further than rude obnoxious people. So if a Daddy needs to take care of his little one, and to reassure her when she needs it, to hug her when she needs it, to kiss her boos, then please count me in. I love it that my girl comes to me for strength and just maybe when she needs a pick me up. On the flip side when we get to play, then its Daddy in charge, which allows her to just sit back and not have to think about anything but pleasing the one she loves. And as a Daddy, I love the fact she gives herself to me completely.

*melty heart here........you said that very well Daddy

 

[HottieMama]

How do you have the D/g dynamic without D/s? i can understand having the D/g dynamic without BDSM...but not without D/s. As a "babygirl" or whatever you choose to call it, naturally i would be submissive to my Daddy. After all, he is there to guide me, teach me, protect me...etc. If i don't listen to Him and allow Him to shape me and mold me the way He wants then what is the point? "Daddy" would just be a meaningless word to me otherwise...

 

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[MasterPhoenix]

As someone who is a Daddy-Dom/ Master/ Sadistic Bastard/ Loving Boyfriend to rose, I felt compelled to chime in.

Claiming that one way of living this life is more "valid" than another is ridiculous. Due to a lot of factors in our lives, not the least of which is the 2253 miles separating us physically our power exchange as of this moment is expressed more often in a D/g manner. When I am more in the Daddy side of my personality, I dispair at using the term fluffy because that has demeaning connotations, so instead I will say that it takes the focus of the submission off of the "service" aspect, whilst still leaving a bond of a power exchange. It is also more of a nurturing side of me, as I am Daddy and going to protect and guide my little girl though her tribulations, rather than in my more "Master" headspace where I am more focused on her service to me.

The power exchange, while very "valid" as she is my little girl and is going to listen to her Daddy, and relish in Daddy's love and guidence. She knows that her Daddy loves her unconditionally.

 

[Netzach]

How do you have the D/g dynamic without D/s? i can understand having the D/g dynamic without BDSM...but not without D/s. As a "babygirl" or whatever you choose to call it, naturally i would be submissive to my Daddy. After all, he is there to guide me, teach me, protect me...etc. If i don't listen to Him and allow Him to shape me and mold me the way He wants then what is the point? "Daddy" would just be a meaningless word to me otherwise...

Little girls can have submissive Daddies.

HORSIE RIIIIDE....AIEEEEEEEE!!!!!

 

[LunarKitten]

Little girls can have submissive Daddies.

HORSIE RIIIIDE....AIEEEEEEEE!!!!!

Giddiup!!! Wooohhooo!!!