What’s the most interesting thing you learned about your sexuality?

[TravisAW]

That the longer I've been with Mrs AW, the less possessive I've got. It's odd that love has grown but that I'd not be devastated any more if she turned round and said she was fantasising about fucking other men (and/or women).

 

[5by5]

It's not exactly ground breaking, but as much as I love being independent and head strong, I find the idea of being dominated in the bedroom very appealing.

 

[RachelWalsh]

It wasn't quite as I thought

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I learned that taboo and forbidden turns me on (i.e. daddy/ ddlg, race play, sex club, porn theater, threesome, anal, spanking, choking, name calling etc).
So Im open to things that most women, my age and race and religious beliefs, arent into. Im a rare breed apparently

We aren't rare. We were just raised to believe anything outside of "acceptable" racial & religious norms was radically unsafe, unhealthy, & unwanted.
Turns out, we're fucking craved by many .

 

[desire30]

two wonderful things.
one...my feeling are true for me.. I am a mix of very openminded sexually, I can love my step dad physically with out shame as well has feeling a growing love for another woman..
two... the damnness things can turn me on when not to long ago never entered my mind.

 

[PG564E]

mmmmmmm

It's so fucking hot. . . I'm a man, and I want two cocks fucking me in the ass, and sucking another dick taking care of 3 studs at a time.

 

[Abdelkaoolomocro]

That it is ok. My sexuality is ok

 

[PG564E]

two wonderful things.
one...my feeling are true for me.. I am a mix of very openminded sexually, I can love my step dad physically with out shame as well has feeling a growing love for another woman..
two... the damnness things can turn me on when not to long ago never entered my mind.

That is so awesome. Your honesty and sensuality. I have sex with mostly other men now, but enjoyed straight sex for decades. My mind is similar to yours. I love sex and am not afraid of the filthy things that turn me on so much. It feels like my mind is free of all those chains, and I love being this way now.

 

[Easyvirtue]

#1- I sucked another man’s cock. I never ever saw myself ever doing that! There were so many gators involved that night but the stars and moon aligned and there I was.
#2- Humiliation. Recently entered a season of enjoying personal humiliation, mostly on line and yet to have an opportunity to experience it in real life. But knowing I enjoy it makes me wonder.

These are not earth shattering but they are “what I’ve learned about myself.”

 

[Stef2424]

It really happened during sleep, long time ago.
I learned that I like exhibitionism even if I wouldn't call it this way then.
One night I had that special dream that I was on a beach among a lot of people. For unknown reason I had to remove my swimming trunks. It was strange but I could not resist. Once naked I felt so relaxed and happy even if a bit ashamed among all of them looking at me. It was so satisfying feeling. I wish it was real life experience. Would I do it in real crowd?
But if asked, I would disrobe for anyone .

 

[wanger69]

I was amazed by the degree to which humiliation and degradation turns me on.

What ind if degredationand humiliation?

 

[PleasuringPixie]

That the more I am aroused intellectually, the more am aroused physically the right connection makes anything possible!

 

[1960curious]

That I love my wife, but love sucking cock and being fucked in the ass by a hard cock!

 

[WonderPonder]

That I've fully embraced having a small penis and finally after 30+ years of fantasizing of being a cuckold my wife has met a man she likes and is comfortable with. I'm happy she has a boyfriend now and is getting satisfied by him regularly with his above average thicker cock. With my health issues I can't have intercourse and love the handjobs she gives me.
I find it interesting that in a few months I should be back to normal but honestly I'd rather have him continue having intercourse and receiving bj's from her while I get only handjobs and giving her oral.

 

[Mason9653]

I discovered that my shyness was hiding a humiliation fetish.
When I'm naked in front of others, clothed or not I get really turned on, even if the comments are kind of difficult to take.

 

[UK_Jill45]

The best thing for discovering my sexuality was having an affair, it wasn't the affair that did it but the aftermath when telling my husband. That seemed to put the cards on the table between us and everything came out, secrets that we both held. From there we worked on our sex life, it started with me allowing him to have sex with my friend as he had more of a sex drive. I then got involved with them and it went from there, I can't believe that I didn't do this earlier in life. My husband had hinted it and I didn't want to get involved at that time.

 

[Lady2020]

That I'd do things I'd never thought I'd do to please a man. Up to a certain point.

 

[PersonalFavors]

You can cheat. Only if I can watch.
Personally I don't think she is up to it which explains why saying it pisses her off.

 

[PG564E]

That later in life my sexual journey led me to crave and perform homosexual acts to men I don't even know. I just want to blow them and swallow each load with appreciation.
So, I have been straight but am not anymore. The best of both sexual world's is mine.

 

[Vitriolhack]

That later in life my sexual journey led me to crave and perform homosexual acts to men I don't even know. I just want to blow them and swallow each load with appreciation.
So, I have been straight but am not anymore. The best of both sexual world's is mine.

We all mature sexually with age.

It’s great to experiment we feelings and sensations.

 

[PG564E]

Your 1000% right. This is an amazing experience I can't quite describe well enough. I'm sure both of us are really happy we found out about much more of ourselves than a lot of people do. I was 55 when I became bicurious. I was 63 when I learned I was queer, and just love cock so much.

 

[Vitriolhack]

Your 1000% right. This is an amazing experience I can't quite describe well enough. I'm sure both of us are really happy we found out about much more of ourselves than a lot of people do. I was 55 when I became bicurious. I was 63 when I learned I was queer, and just love cock so much.

So old dogs can learn new tricks?

 

[PG564E]

This one did. I learned fast and made a lustful effort to improve each blow job, to make it better than the last one I gave. I truly fucking love it. Tell me some things about yourself. Don't want to talk about me all the time. I like meeting new guys who have the interests that I do.

 

[ZfrkS62]

You can cheat. Only if I can watch.
Personally I don't think she is up to it which explains why saying it pisses her off.

Probably because it takes away the thrill of sneaking around, or that you aren't jealous enough of the attention she gets, to get angry. It's not cheating if the other partner is spectating.

That one's a deep psychological rabbit hole. Good luck with it.



In the last 3 years, especially the last 6-7 months, I've stopped caring about "what it means". It turns me on, so maybe explore it? Maybe. There are a couple things I don't see myself exploring and just keeping as a very dark, secret fantasy, but I'm ok with them and no longer feel weirded out that I think about it, or get insanely turned on by something I thought was gross or "wrong" 20-25 years ago.

I'm more comfortable with certain aspects of porn that I would feel grossed out by years ago, when I was watching more of it. My porn habits are pretty much limited to posts here.

All that being said, as more relaxed as I've become, I'm still not comfortable divulging a lot of this to my wife, who hasn't kept up with my, growth, if you will. Mainly because I haven't dragged her along. A lot of this has been borne of frustration and boredom due to some frigid years before and after the pandemic. But I don't plan on taking it all to my grave..

 

[PG564E]

Very well said. We have much in common. I love sex too much not to jack off and feel the heat of any fantasy that turns me on. We are human once. Enjoy this without fear or judgements.