What do you tell the kids

[FurryFury]

Good point, Ginger. I couldn't imagine submitting to my kids. That would be stranger than lying to them about being submissive to my husband. Submitting to kids and lying to kids are both unacceptable in my world.

Me either.

Personally, I think there are some things you don't tell your kids or expose them to, because it's none of their business and won't help them to know it. I don't consider that lying to them.

 

[ownedsubgal]

I don't think anyone is advocating having sex in front of the kids. You can be gay without having sex in the presence of others- you're still gay. You can be submissive (or dominant) without having sex in the presence of kids- but you're still submissive- UNLESS your dominance or submission is a bedroom role playing thing. In that case, you're right. My comments were not about those types.

exactly. this is not about flaunting your sex life in front of children. it's not about your sex life, it's about simply LIFE. and i agree with you that pretending to be something you are not and living a life opposed to not only your nature but your values, is what would truly be harmful (not to mention confusing) to children.

in this household, we believe in male supremacy, female submission, and this is something obvious and natural to my Master's son as it's the lifestyle he's been exposed to all of his life. as he's gotten older and able to comprehend such things, we've explained to him that these are OUR ways and beliefs, and that other households may work differently. he's not pushed to grow up D/s himself any more than he's pushed into becoming a Christian by being exposed to his father's religion.

 

[intothewoods]

Good point, Ginger. I couldn't imagine submitting to my kids. That would be stranger than lying to them about being submissive to my husband. Submitting to kids and lying to kids are both unacceptable in my world.

I don't lie to my kid, but I do tell him things that are age-appropriate. Sometimes when he asks me hard questions, or I'm struggling with what to tell him, and I don't want to lie (not about D/s, actually questions about death, God, heaven, etc.), I ask myself if I'm struggling with the answer or feeling bad about a half-truth because I'm worried about him, or because it makes me feel bad. There are a lot of times that we as parents make choices because we want to feel better, not because we are actually considering our kids best interests. I am as guilty of this as the next person, but I just think it's food for thought.

 

[Bandit58]

I'm submissive, and I've also raised two children. My son was fairly easy going, hardly ever had to raise my voice with him. Daughter on the other hand is affectionately known between Sir and myself as the "Junior Domme". She's got her father's (my ex's) stubbornness . Both kids knew that if I got angry it was time to toe the line. They were hardly ever spanked - a look or angry voice was enough most times, and sending them to their rooms worked wonders.

I posted earlier in this thread about when my daughter came to visit and there were clashes between us - that has all been resolved now, she's 20, still the Junior Domme in a lot of ways but a lot more mature than she was then at just 18.

I am out to both of them as bi but there's been no mention of BDSM at all. While they were here for the wedding they saw the dynamic but it was just like I was a loving caring wife - they've seen that before with my parents cos mum was my dad's carer for many years. I see no reason to even bring it up, it's really no one's business except ours. They're young adults and I've got no desire to know about their sex lives, why would they want or need to know about mine?