What is the Significant of subs on left side of a Dominate?

[shy slave]

Having to walk on his left, is something that i am requred to do. I presumed it was some sorta ritual, it certainly is now.

Interesting, as im blind in my right eye, so i collide with him often, it would be so much easier for me, if it were the right. But my initial request and reasons did not outway his. So, that'd be me, on the left, bumping into her Sir. Very gracious, not!

Thats sounds confusing to me.

He prefers you to continually bump into him when walking rather than make the time more comfortable for himself?

Have you ever asked him why he chooses to do that?

Is he aware that you may risk falling over his feet and injuring yourself because you can't see properly?

 

[sweet_belle]

Just wanted to say thanks to all that responded...now if i can improve my spelling or at least double check things before i post i am good to go. In my own research, i found that with some it is a ritual that goes way back, by having their submissives on their left, it leaves their right hand free to defend them if needed... hmmmmm so anyway, thanks everyone for all the input...
belle

 

[graceanne]

I've heard of this, but only here and there. I really think it's a 'to each their own' type thing. I've tried to walk beside K, but he's freaken slow. Like mollasses on a cold winters day. He's 10" taller than me and at a slow walk I'm faster than him. It's never bothered him.

Come to think of it - I have really bad depth perception. When I do walk beside him I also run into him. Probably why he doesn't mind me being ahead. Especially if I'm pushing a grocery cart - their's no one stupid enough to walk ahead of me when I'm pushing a grocery cart.

 

[PrivatePleasure]

Woohoo.. first post

Interesting comments.. I enjoyed all of them.
Around this castle, slave is to kneel and walk on the left while collared. It is one of those things she is getting used to. As mentioned above, I suppose the left was chosen as a natural submissive position. (I'm guessing here)

In public, on the right. We too, do not publicize our relationship in public.

Actually, the side is only important to us.
We know the significance of the side and that is good enough.

 

[Andante]

(....) Here's another hypothesis; sometimes, some dominants just make shit up, and say that it represents this or that, and going along with Their line of crap ends up being a part of your submission.

That's what it sounds like, to me!

And shy slave is right when she says I usually walk on her outside, nearest to the traffic. That's what I've always done with those I felt responsible for, like my wife and kids. Very often we hold hands, as we both like that. If she was to walk behind me, she would soon loose sight of me, as she walks quite slow and I like to walk fast.

 

[timberwolf05]

Ok not sure if it has been asked before i tried doing a search but some reason wasn't working correctly.
So i was wondering, and i am sure i will get different opinions on this, but what is the significants of submissives walking or sitting on the left side of a Dominate?

Thanks so much in advance
belle

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welllllllllllllllllllll?????????????????
try this
if you walked on the right..........you'd be squished between the domm/domme and food isles, wouldnt ya?
ya cannot walk on the right...
if ya walked on the right, you'd get squished between the car and dom/domme

no matter where ya go, ya gotta walk on the left
and also?
its easier for people to turn-left walking than it is to turn right,...
it is a psychological block.....

therefore

always walk on the left

 

[sincerely_helene]

that bit about access weapons strikes me as odd... as a right handed person carries their sword on their left hip.

Though I feel the need to address the above statement, it will have to wait for the time being. Sleep is higher on my list of priorities.

Nite nite.

 

[Kajira Callista]

G'nite Kiddo! Sweet dreams.




That's It!!! That's the 'modern' reason/ explanation for dogs being taught to heel to the left side of the master, to stay on the opposite side of the person from traffic! (It's been a little while since I've helped with training a dog)

your reference to dogs is starting to annoy me.

 

[FurryFury]

your reference to dogs is starting to annoy me.

LOL!

I kinda like it!

Fury

 

[Kajira Callista]

LOL!

I kinda like it!

Fury

but im a pussy cat *swishes tail* and i am surely in no way trained to behave like a dog

 

[FurryFury]

but im a pussy cat *swishes tail* and i am surely in no way trained to behave like a dog

You are so right! I'm so perverse!

And you are a very pretty pussy cat too! Can I pet the kitty? *trails cat nip from fingers and waits hand outstretched*

Fury

 

[Kajira Callista]

You are so right! I'm so perverse!

And you are a very pretty pussy cat too! Can I pet the kitty? *trails cat nip from fingers and waits hand outstretched*

Fury

rubs against your hand and purrrss.

 

[FurryFury]

rubs against your hand and purrrss.

*grins and strokes, scratching lightly*

Few things are better than soft fur in your hands and a purr in your ears sweet pussy cat!

Fury

 

[timberwolf05]

be very careful.......


cats have claws


(grins)

 

[FurryFury]

be very careful.......


cats have claws


(grins)

*chuckles*

How well I know!

*winks*

Fury

 

[Kajira Callista]

*grins and strokes, scratching lightly*

Few things are better than soft fur in your hands and a purr in your ears sweet pussy cat!

Fury

*mew*

 

[Blushing Bottom]

We, if right handed, as most of us are tend to carry objects we value in the left hand so that it can be protected with the right and not be in the way if sword play is needed. It stands to reason when one considers this that a submissive often the most treasured posession of a Dominant would be on the left side and more easily protected if needed. Especially if some silver tongued devil comes along and trys to run off with such a prize. This is it IMHO

 

[the captians wench]

I have a friend who has limited perifrial (sp ) vision in his right eye, so while he recognized that most of the masters (in this area anyway) keep their slave on the left, he prefered his on the right so that she would be able to warn him, or tip him off if anyone aproached from behind him on that side. He only kept submissives on his left if he didn't trust them, this way he could keep a better eye on them. So the fact that he kept me on his right really makes me feel the strength of our friendship. Well that's my bit anyway.

 

[BeachGurl2]

That's what it sounds like, to me!

And shy slave is right when she says I usually walk on her outside, nearest to the traffic. That's what I've always done with those I felt responsible for, like my wife and kids. Very often we hold hands, as we both like that. If she was to walk behind me, she would soon loose sight of me, as she walks quite slow and I like to walk fast.

This is the way we do it as well. He walks on the side closest to traffic or any other possible dangerous situation in order to protect me. Sometimes that's the right and sometimes it's the left.

 

[catalina_francisco]

That's what it sounds like, to me!

And shy slave is right when she says I usually walk on her outside, nearest to the traffic. That's what I've always done with those I felt responsible for, like my wife and kids. Very often we hold hands, as we both like that. If she was to walk behind me, she would soon loose sight of me, as she walks quite slow and I like to walk fast.

Gentlemen are so rare these days. F also insists on this rule for traffic or any situation where he feels he sees danger, thus wants to be between me and any possible threat. As for walking behind him, he prefers me where he can see and talk with me and would die before expecting his slave to physically protect him...something to do with male pride and ego I suspect, not to mention Spanish chivalry.

Catalina

 

[Caitlynne]

Once, while I was thinking of the origins of "Women walking behind the men", it occurred to me that it might be something entirely different than we've come to believe.

I think I found a reference in some American Indian Myth, but for the life of me I can't remember what triggered the idea in my pea brain or even if it is an original thought at all.

Anyway, it occurred to me that instead of women walking behind so they could watch a man's back, or even because they were somehow 'less', it might be that a man walked in front of a woman in order to protect *her*. Much the same as a man walking on the traffic side, if any danger comes along, the man would encounter it first and be able to defend *her*. I might not be because women were "less than" but because they were/are so valuable that extra precautions were taken to protect them when traveling.

Well............. could be. It's really all in how you look at something.

In any event, it's my story and I'm sticking to it.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

What side you walk on...

really depends on the tradition you are falling back on.

Military tradition is that subordinates walk to left and rear of the senior. There are any number of reasons given about "why" this is so. The real reasons are probably lost in antiquity, but the most common, that it leaves the right side free to draw and ready a weapon has already been given.

Since military traditions are the ones that the gay leather "Old Guard" used, that's why they had their boys behind and to the left. Het practitioners wanting to emulate their "Old Guard" predecessors followed suit.

Chivalrous tradition requires that the male walks to the "traffic" side of his female companion. This stems from a time when carts and carriages would roll by and might splash mud and other yucky stuff up off the road, the male would "shield" the female from much of the muck.

Oriental (and other cultures) require that a woman walk behind her father or husband to show deference to his leadership. The side they would walk to would depend on the culture. For instant, in Islamic culture, the left side is the "unclean" or "lesser" side.

*grins and shrugs*

Use what works for you in your relationship.

 

[Purple Sage]

Ok not sure if it has been asked before i tried doing a search but some reason wasn't working correctly.
So i was wondering, and i am sure i will get different opinions on this, but what is the significants of submissives walking or sitting on the left side of a Dominate?

Thanks so much in advance
belle

Perhaps somebody has offered this already, but the basic answer is this: most people are right handed, when men wore sidearms, especially swords, they wanted to keep the right arm unemcumbered, so dogs at heel and ALL women were kept on the left side. It doesn't really have anything to do with BDSM except to the degree that the dominant is considered the 'protector' of the sub. It's basically a legacy of a practically-oriented custom that came to be regarded as standard good manners. It was originally a convention like driving on the right side of the road- helps avoid accidents.

 

[Thrall_67]

It gets really fun in a poly relationship.....

i had to add my two cents again.......
In a poly situation, like i had with my Mistress, i was directed to walk to Her left as per most protocal. However when W/we were in the presence of Her Master, She would be to the left of Him (as primary sub) and i was to take my place to His right (ok, so He liked being flanked on both sides by females .....go figure ). Often there was jostling for "position" depending on the situation - when She and i were alone, She often kept moving leftward when walking (something She was used to when with Him) and since i needed to stay to the left ...... yeah, i bumped into walls alot!

W/we also confused alot of people at the local Tim Horton's coffee shop - when putting on overcoats (i wait while She puts His on, then i put Her's on.......), then opening of doors...... then opening the car door (i wait while She opens His door then i open Hers)............. was very comical at times.........

sigh...............i miss those days

 

[chris9]

I'm not in a D/s relationship, but when my bf and I walk, I'm often a bit (like half a step) behind him, especially when holding hands (most of the time). This probably has to do with protection (he gets to road crossings and such first, and checks for traffic) and guidance (I usually don't really know where we are very well). And I feel very safe when we walk like this, like I don't have to pay attention, that he's there to take care of me.