Women of Lit: A Safe Place To Share

[FrenchLopBunny]

It's one of the last warm summer days, mornings and evenings are already cool, but right on the heat limit during the day.

It's 44°F (7°C) here right now, predicted high is 71°F (22°C). I love Fall!

 

[Strixaluco]

It's 44°F (7°C) here right now, predicted high is 71°F (22°C). I love Fall!

+25°C here today, so... We're definitely above average for this time. But I found some autumn leaves already!

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Didn't know this was a thread. I know a lot of people are curious why I feel the way I do about Lit, but I have been here 20 years off and on, and I have experienced everything from "hey slut!" messages to ghosting to being manipulated and psychologically abused to actual IRL stalking (though thankfully it wasn't precise stalking). In fact, so many of my experiences here have been negative, that I sometimes question why I remain. But, right now, I don't have a social scene after having moved, so I try to use it as a social outlet.

Anyway, if anyone needs to talk about or vent about someone here being awful toward them, my own DMs are open. Trust me, I sympathize. I do wonder why some of the men here have decided to alienate their own supposed audience. If you want to interact with women, why not be a decent person?

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Also, apologies if I busted in. I read the OP so I may not have posted in the right spirit.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Also, apologies if I busted in. I read the OP so I may not have posted in the right spirit.

You're okay Desiree. This is the perfect place to vent, you'll find a lot of kindred souls here. Welcome!

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

You're okay Desiree. This is the perfect place to vent, you'll find a lot of kindred souls here. Welcome

It's nice that there is a space here free of (most of) the patriarchy that thinks it owns Lit. Thanks, everyone.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Our moderator is @ToPleaseHim. If we get invaded, and we occasionally do, it's a simple matter of reporting to her and she'll handle it. We didn't always have her, but with her on "overwatch" (as my hubby would say) things are much improved. Our Founder also has a wicked sharp tongue and I've used some of her retorts in my own posts.

 

[stickygirl]

Hi there's a thread over in the GB about Taylor Swift's appeal with some interesting contributions. I'm seeing her as a gift for young girls today, even if I don't especially like her music. Someone pointed out how safe they felt at one of her big concerts.

 

[KatieDoes]

Hi there's a thread over in the GB about Taylor Swift's appeal with some interesting contributions. I'm seeing her as a gift for young girls today, even if I don't especially like her music. Someone pointed out how safe they felt at one of her big concerts.

I sprained an eyeball over there, rolling it at the guy that said he doesn’t find Taylor attractive, but if he had the opportunity he would fuck her.

Honey. You won’t have the opportunity.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I don't know much about Taylor, but I'm a huge fan of Ilona Maher, Women's Rugby Olympian. She's all over the socials. Samantha Sullivan is another; rugby Olympian, active-duty Army captain, and Lego freak!

 

[KatieDoes]

I don't know much about Taylor, but I'm a huge fan of Ilona Maher, Women's Rugby Olympian. She's all over the socials. Samantha Sullivan is another; rugby Olympian, active-duty Army captain, and Lego freak!

I might be in love with Ilona Maher

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

Didn't know this was a thread. I know a lot of people are curious why I feel the way I do about Lit, but I have been here 20 years off and on, and I have experienced everything from "hey slut!" messages to ghosting to being manipulated and psychologically abused to actual IRL stalking (though thankfully it wasn't precise stalking). In fact, so many of my experiences here have been negative, that I sometimes question why I remain. But, right now, I don't have a social scene after having moved, so I try to use it as a social outlet.

Anyway, if anyone needs to talk about or vent about someone here being awful toward them, my own DMs are open. Trust me, I sympathize. I do wonder why some of the men here have decided to alienate their own supposed audience. If you want to interact with women, why not be a decent person?

This is exactly why I'm on lit.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

I might be in love with Ilona Maher

I'm right there with you, girl! I'm in love with all the women Olympians this year, USA or not. They showed such power and grace, win or lose. This might have been the best Olympics for women in recent memory.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

I don't know who that is. I am not in love with Swift because I think the cult of personality thing is very weird, but I also am glad that she is a safe space for young women. Her music is pretty annoying, though.

 

[Barbelle]

My heart fills with joy for one and all who experienced her awakening during these Olympics

 

[stickygirl]

I don't know much about Taylor, but I'm a huge fan of Ilona Maher, Women's Rugby Olympian. She's all over the socials. Samantha Sullivan is another; rugby Olympian, active-duty Army captain, and Lego freak!

There's a great YT video about Ilona here ( although it has a political twist ). The Olympic coverage in the UK was pretty narrow so I didn't see much of the rugby-7s and didn't know anything about her. Thanks for raising her profile here

 

[genzsub]

I don't know much about Taylor, but I'm a huge fan of Ilona Maher, Women's Rugby Olympian. She's all over the socials. Samantha Sullivan is another; rugby Olympian, active-duty Army captain, and Lego freak!

You ladies inspired me! I put up a post for Ilona Maher in the "Female Athletes for Ladies and Lesbians" thread!

P.S. I'm a little disappointed that it is "Female Athletes" instead of "Women Athletes" but the intent is in the right place.

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

There's a great YT video about Ilona here ( although it has a political twist ). The Olympic coverage in the UK was pretty narrow so I didn't see much of the rugby-7s and didn't know anything about her. Thanks for raising her profile here

I have this video playing in my head where she is standing behind a podium giving her body positive message when a skinny dude tries to interrupt her she grabs him like a rugby ball and puts her hand over his mouth then goes right back to her message.

 

[stickygirl]

I have this video playing in my head where she is standing behind a podium giving her body positive message when a skinny dude tries to interrupt her she grabs him like a rugby ball and puts her hand over his mouth then goes right back to her message.

There was a lot in her back story that was pretty relatable in terms of body shaming/policing. The vlog mentioned a new mangled word, transvestigation. Sheesh - we've come so far that someone had to invent that word

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

There was a lot in her back story that was pretty relatable in terms of body shaming/policing. The vlog mentioned a new mangled word, transvestigation. Sheesh - we've come so far that someone had to invent that word

With all the hubub over Imane Khelif I was a bit surprised that the haters didn't come after Ilona during the Olympics. I should have known they'd eventually find her.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Good on you for making this space @InCNCestBangPie! the ladies of lit should absolutely have a space like this.

100% agree. I just learned this was here and I need it!

 

[MidwestPrincess23]

Hey friends... rough couple days over here... anyone have any good jokes? memes? anything to make a sister smile?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Credit where credit is due, @Bellinah 's post: Women on here? helped give me a push.

Since so many of us ladies on here have had absolutely horrid experiences with men on this site, alone, I thought we should be able to comfortably share these things with one another. Call it online group therapy.

To that end, responses from men are not welcome in this thread; no, you're not as witty as your testosterone tells you.

Please feel free to tell us how you've been shocked, hurt, angered, or otherwise disrespected without worrying about if said jackass is reading your post. Fuck 'em. This is for us to get the weight off our minds and find relief/fellowship through our shared experiences.

Shortly after I joined lit I had a couple of days where some guy sent me a link entitled “Doberman puppies” and when clicked brought you to a forced rape video. I nearly threw the phone across the room.

The day prior I had been playing with someone and had laid out clearly what my lines were for the session and he after a pleasant bit he broke all of them with violent crude behavior and I logged off in immediate disgust. Shaking. And because there’s no permanent ignore every couple months he reaches out again because he’s forgotten he did that.

If it weren’t for the friends I had made here and my husbands support I wouldn’t have come back.

The next week was the guy who despite being told over and over that I didn’t video or voice started a video session mid chat. “I just got so excited!” He said as if I had no agency or say at all.

The topper a few weeks back when a man wrote me through the forums saying he knew he wasn’t what I was looking for but he loved my pictures and though he figured out where I lived. I deleted every photo from the forum and will never do it again.

I love parts of this place but so many of the men are monsters.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Hey friends... rough couple days over here... anyone have any good jokes? memes? anything to make a sister smile?

Poor sticker placement or perfect sticker placement?

https://imgur.com/a/i3cyyfB

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Hey friends... rough couple days over here... anyone have any good jokes? memes? anything to make a sister smile?

I tried to apply for a job making jigsaw puzzles, but the hiring manager said I wouldn’t be a good fit for the position.