Would you marry the love of your life....

[Byakuya]

I already am married to the love of my life. and she's not into BDSM unfortunately.. of course I didn't really know I was all that interested in it either until after I was married.. but I don't have any regrets.. I'm not sorry I married her..

 

[marieR19]

Yes, definitely. Thought about it very seriously, back when I was dating Beth. She wasn't as into bdsm as I was, and now she admits that she only did it 'cause she knew I liked it so much. If we ever get back together (there is a chance), I know there would be no bdsm-aspects to our relationship, but I love her so much that it wouldn't matter to me.


Heather

 

[lettinggo]

I ached for it when I didn't have it, but it might be because of other attentions I was lacking in my last marriage. When I got together with my now husband, it had been nearly 15 years since we'd met and had an intimate relationship. Back then it was very vanilla. This time around I was so madly in love and so regretted all those years without him that I'd have married him in a heartbeat even if it meant staying vanilla for the rest of my life. Fortunately for me, one of the reasons the sex was so great the first time around was because he was attentive to my needs. This time it took hardly a hint for him to catch on to my new turn ons and he's far exceeded my expectations. But as amazing as it's been, I'd be lacking for nothing if staying with him meant I could never have it again.

 

[HB1965]

I can't separate the two. If a person is my soulmate then he would be into it. It would be as much a part of his life as it is mine. I would never be with anyone, and I mean reallywith them, unless they were like that. It wouldn't be able to completely trust them otherwise.

 

[twysted73]

even if they weren't into BDSM whatsoever?

Just wondering if your significant other, the love of your life, the person you potentially want to spend the rest of your life with was NOT into BDSM, D/s, bondage and all that would you still want to marry and/or spend the rest of your life with them?

Funny you should say this. I have a very good friend, we'll refer to her as "K". K is currently engaged to "J" and has known him since they were both 17. (8 yrs ago) During this time she has had a sickness that had her close to death at one point, J has lost a mother and they've both been through life-long relationship affirming moments that would bind and bond any couple.
However...this is where life steps in.
She loves him very much, but she has come to terms with who she is inside. And her needs for completion (to include alternative sexual practices as well as BDSM) were her deciding factors.
As much as she loves him, her tendancies, she knew, would hurt him/drive him to resentment/would ruin what close, loving connections they do enjoy eventually.

She knows her mind, her desires, her curiousities and appetites would overwhelm him. He wouldn't be able to understand that vital part of herself nomatter how much he loved her. (infact, she feels it's his kind of unrelenting love that would stop him from being able to weather this point in her life and see her through it) Some would say K's being selfish. But I would have to commend her for her truthfulness, her strength to make such a hard choice and to have the courage to go through with it not knowing what life has in store for her after she loses this comfort blanket that J's been since high school.

You must think long and hard on this. What can you live with....and what can't you live without. Make those decisions, follow your heart and nomatter the outcome...you'll always be able to look back and say you made the right move for you at that time. I wish you the very best of luck.

 

[TheBlackDahlia]

The ideal love of my life would have to match my needs sexually. So, in other words, no.

 

[MechaBlade]

even if they weren't into BDSM whatsoever?

Just wondering if your significant other, the love of your life, the person you potentially want to spend the rest of your life with was NOT into BDSM, D/s, bondage and all that would you still want to marry and/or spend the rest of your life with them?

Yes. I mean, she'd have to like an occasional light spanking, but that kind of thing is very marginally BDSM.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

My experience with NEVER, NO WAY, NO HOW is: About the time you get the words out of your mouth The Exception comes along and upsets your apple-cart. I've seen people, who did wild shit every day of their lives, put it down when the right man or woman came along.

 

[Puman]

By all means, marry the bitch. You might win a prize for being the one millionth poster to start a "How do I change my spouse thread?"

LOL. You have such a way with words...

Then there's me... vanilla couple...vanilla marriage... discover kink... panic... calm down... slowly unwrap and discover the kink in both of us.

But I suppose that pretty much breaks most moulds

 

[LittleJade]

My partner isn't at ALL into kink.


I plan to marry him and love my life with him. He is my best friend, he is my partner... he is beautiful to me...

*shrug*


Kink is a part of me that I can satisfy in other ways... with his consent.

 

[hottscorpio24]

even if they weren't into BDSM whatsoever?

Just wondering if your significant other, the love of your life, the person you potentially want to spend the rest of your life with was NOT into BDSM, D/s, bondage and all that would you still want to marry and/or spend the rest of your life with them?

Yes i would definitely still marry him. I love him with all of my heart. I have been waiting for a man like him. Therefore this would be a small loss for me considering how much i would gain. Now if he wasn't a as sexual as i am that would be a different story

 

[EmpressFi]

I did marry the love of my life. And while he is into BDSM, he's a submissive like me and neither of us were into it that much when we got married.

I am lucky in that I also have my Master. The other love of my life. I am loved beyond what I deserve...

 

[FurryFury]

It's easy to say what you would do when you are in love. A few years down the road things might look very different.

 

[Bandit58]

I have married the love of my life, and yes He is a Dom....but the relationship itself comes first. The D/s is the icing on the cake - it enhances our life together but it's not the be all and end all.

There are times when kink has to take a back seat here, because of His health. I fulfil my submissiveness by caring for Him. If he never weilded a crop again, we'd still love each other.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

If he never weilded a crop again, we'd still love each other.

If I never wielded a crop again, rose would be a happy girl.... floggers on the other hand...

 

[Sir_Joe]

i'll marry the love of my life

even if she doesn't have anything to do wtih BDSM

 

[nightschild6996]

I would think the love of my life WOULD be into BDSM, so no, I don't believe I could.

 

[h_i_s]

even if they weren't into BDSM whatsoever?

Just wondering if your significant other, the love of your life, the person you potentially want to spend the rest of your life with was NOT into BDSM, D/s, bondage and all that would you still want to marry and/or spend the rest of your life with them?

No. Absolutely not.
I could toss out the B and the S&M but I NEED the D for disapline and dominance [yeah I NEED the control].

I've married the man of my life ......... after He took Ownership of me.
Difficult to decide which of those two milestones were the best of any decision He ever made for me... but I would toss the ring before I would toss the collar if I were made to choose.

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

It's easy to say what you would do when you are in love. A few years down the road things might look very different.

Ditto. As the saying goes, If I only knew then what I know now (about myself that is). *sigh*

 

[twysted73]

I can't separate the two. If a person is my soulmate then he would be into it. It would be as much a part of his life as it is mine. I would never be with anyone, and I mean reallywith them, unless they were like that. It wouldn't be able to completely trust them otherwise.

Same. It's not that I'd meet someone, fall for someone and THEN see if they like it. It would be part of the build up and learning process already. I don't see a reason why I'd look for this trait in my partner any less then I would for them to also be loving, thoughtful, considerate and a good lover. Better to wait for what you want then to take what you can get and regret your choice or, worse, long for another who does have what you seek.

 

[h_i_s]

It's easy to say what you would do when you are in love. A few years down the road things might look very different.

Been there, as well as where i am now, Fury.
Didn't marry that one though. Phew!!!