Your Sex Ed

[Rob_Royale]

In 1979 I was in the 6th grade, in the Long Island, NY public school system. Sex education was "how babies are made". In my school years to follow they added STDs and birth control. That's about it.

 

[Sweetn3ss]

What did you do to figure things out?

A lot of trial and error lol. I feel lucky that I can say I found my own way, but i’d also be remiss if I didnt say that it still affects me to this day.

 

[ronde]

Was it useful information that was shared? Or were you all still fumbling around your first times?

I think most guys fumble around their first time. The problem with most of what boys read or hear from their dads is mostly male fantasy. We learned the mechanics and a few "tips" about how to get a girl out of her bra and panties, but most were just either imagination or bragging about something that probably never happened. What was missing was any specifics about how women aren't all the same and what to do about it.

Every woman I've been with seems to be different. Some are aroused by just a little manipulation of their nipples while for others that's too much stimulation until they're already pretty aroused. Some are ready for some clit play pretty much from the get-go, but others need to wait until they're already pretty ready to be penetrated. Some like slow and steady strokes, others like fast and short. Since most women don't know what they like a man to do with them their first time, they can't tell him. If a man doesn't "feel his way" so to speak, the experience isn't all that great for either partner.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

How was your sexual education like?

Learned as I went along. Then a drill Sargent told me to wash my dick if I stick it in a crazy hot hooker cause I’m not the only one she love a long time.

Do you think it prepared you for being a sexual being?

fux yes

Where did you learn the most - school, parents, friends, books, online?

see above answer

What was something you wish you learned before your sexual debut?

There’s no need to tip a hooker once your buddy’s buy the puss for you. #Nuremberg the wall

p.s. Never trust a hooker that fuxs with sailors either …lol

 

[Fingerfuxs]

On Literotica I’ve learned about cyber sex. The quicksand words or phrases that can sink you into traps . Of assumptions. Those things can ruin it for someone.

I’ve also learned the art of PM seduction , the mistakes will make you better at it overall. It’s a risky business, in box e-boning , flirting , finding boundaries with strangers that have the potential to be mutual masturbation partners.

 

[Nudeblackgirl]

I don't know, I barely remember any sex education in school, if we had any I might have skipped class that day. Or maybe I just went to school stoned that day.

My recollection was that most people I knew didn't take it serioisly or even mocked it. It was offered years too late for a lot of us.

 

[RachelPost]

Sex Ed? Don't or go to hell. End of discussion

 

[bill4672a]

Nothing from home--sex was a taboo. School - Have sex, and the girl gets pregnant while you die from horrific diseases. Church - No sex of any kind until marriage or go to hell What I learned about sex, I learned from books and from my fiance

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

 

[ericalauren]

My sex education class was trash. This was in 1990's New Jersey in the USA. Also, I learned a lot from magazines, the Internet, and books. I've never had any type of sex, so no idea how accurate my sex education (both formal and informal) was.

 

[OuietlyLooking]

Right then Brit 1970's style sex education program. This was delivered in a British forces school somewhere near Minden, Germany.

My parents were given a "sealed" envelope in which was the authorization to show us two sex films. After being duly signed, I returned to my school, handed it in and a day later in a mixed class room of girls and boys, of about 13-14 year old's, we got two public information films, from the 1950's. One was about how babies were made, black and white drawings of penis and vaginas. The other was family planning and how to prevent having babies. This was, I think, pre the pill, but that must have been close on the heels there.

At the end a teacher went and stood in front of the class and asked if there were any questions, (wait a heartbeat), and then we were sent off to the next class.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Mostly Porkys movies and Penthouse Letters.

 

[Deadbed1968]

Mostly Porkys movies and Penthouse Letters.

Same!

 

[Lady2020]

I think most people on here still need sex ed.

 

[~Elizabeth~]

How was your sexual education like? Do you think it prepared you for being a sexual being? Where did you learn the most - school, parents, friends, books, online? What was something you wish you learned before your sexual debut?

Unfortunately, mine was due to abuse of myself and my little sister at 8 & 5 years of age, by a cousin. My mom bought a book explaining things as part of therapy.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

My first time publicly talking about it was in High School in a sex ed class. The teacher (naturally my football coach) talked about how semen had a lot of natural sugars in it...to which a girl a few rows behind me whispered,

"Then why does it taste so bitter?"

 

[TheEternalBeachBum]

TBH, I’m still learning. Sure, I’ve had plenty of partners, and had some fun. But if Lit is a reflection of the breadth of sexuality in society today, I’ve still a long ways to go.

As for the traditional sex ed venues?:

Family/parents=zero
Public school=useless
Peers=misinformed
Articles in Playboy=helpful if not mystifying

 

[Donotrustanybody]

How was your sexual education like? Do you think it prepared you for being a sexual being? Where did you learn the most - school, parents, friends, books, online? What was something you wish you learned before your sexual debut?

On the job training with much older women.

 

[dkak001]

We had the basic birds and bees stuff in school. Health class, if I remember correctly.

Most of my sex ed came from the internet in college. Any time I could learn about sex I did. There were only a few 'sex positive' sites (not all that much internet out there, really). Dr. Ruth sort of stuff, even some forums similar to this one back then. A few books as they came my way. I was always a very sexual person, and am a pleaser, so learning about female anatomy, hormonal cycles all helped understand my 'target audience'. I'm still trying to learn. I still read books on the subject, and participate on this forum to talk to people and learn. Unfortunately, very few things about sex surprise me anymore. There are only a few things I'd still like to try.

Overall sex ed is lacking, in that it doesn't cover sex in a positive light. The stuff being taught in school around here is "Don't!". I think that's wrong. It's driven by a lot of factors, the church, right wing politics, old family values, etc.

The one subject that I'm still somewhat unfamiliar with is sexual trauma, and hearing what some people have gone through makes my stomach turn. There are some members here and some people I know in real life that have dealt with stuff NO ONE should have to deal with. I know that has already disrupted, or will disrupt what should be a wonderful part of being human.