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Depends on the sub and on whether it is punishment or funishment.
I am not inclined toward punishment. I prefer to deal with adults, not brats. Thus, if an adult can't behave properly, I am inclined to end the relationship.
Funishments, however ...
One of my favourites, for subs who like anal play, is a soapy, cold water enema. Induces some nasty cramps and burning butthole. Quite unpleasant, but can lead to great forgiveness sex.
I am not inclined toward punishment. I prefer to deal with adults, not brats. Thus, if an adult can't behave properly, I am inclined to end the relationship.
Funishments, however ...
One of my favourites, for subs who like anal play, is a soapy, cold water enema. Induces some nasty cramps and burning butthole. Quite unpleasant, but can lead to great forgiveness sex.
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I'd like to take it from a girl with an 8 inch black leather strap on nice and rough and hard. Then I have a super orgasm at the endd submitting to her and asking for more
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You didn't read the topic did you?
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To me, emotional punishments are far worse than physical ones. Your minor punishment would make me cry. Your major one...I couldn't handle that at all
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To me, emotional punishments are far worse than physical ones. Your minor punishment would make me cry. Your major one...I couldn't handle that at all
Yes. Me too.
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Not sure it's a favorite...
The major one I use when I just need to get through is complete orgasm denial. I don't like it, as part of MY fun and enjoyment in a relationship is making my Sub cum her brains out by my touch, and her knowing that I am the one causing those orgasms. Generally multiple a day.
So, from going from multiple orgasms a day to orgasm denial is a "you've really screwed the pooch" kind of situation. (Metaphor for those who don't know the saying.)
The major one I use when I just need to get through is complete orgasm denial. I don't like it, as part of MY fun and enjoyment in a relationship is making my Sub cum her brains out by my touch, and her knowing that I am the one causing those orgasms. Generally multiple a day.
So, from going from multiple orgasms a day to orgasm denial is a "you've really screwed the pooch" kind of situation. (Metaphor for those who don't know the saying.)
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y'all are fucking mean...lol
Shunning?
Writing out your own dismissal?
God damn sadists...
Not only is that psychologically damaging, but it just pisses me off
I think after shunning me, I'd gladly write a dismissal...Of the Dom..
Shunning?
Writing out your own dismissal?
God damn sadists...
Not only is that psychologically damaging, but it just pisses me off
I think after shunning me, I'd gladly write a dismissal...Of the Dom..
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y'all are fucking mean...lol
Shunning?
Writing out your own dismissal?
God damn sadists...
Not only is that psychologically damaging, but it just pisses me off
I think after shunning me, I'd gladly write a dismissal...Of the Dom..
I'd like the nipple clamps. Or clothespins.
And yes, RA. I agree. Big time.
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Easy. Defecating and urinating on people.
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To me, emotional punishments are far worse than physical ones. Your minor punishment would make me cry. Your major one...I couldn't handle that at all
Same here
Favorite punishments
It's a bit different for every sub depending on their respective fetishes, likes and dislikes. That said, two of my favorite punishments are making my sub wet her panties and washing her mouth out with soap when she's been mouthy
It's a bit different for every sub depending on their respective fetishes, likes and dislikes. That said, two of my favorite punishments are making my sub wet her panties and washing her mouth out with soap when she's been mouthy
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Minor psychical- orgasm control. A lot of edging and teasing all day leading to one single orgasm, that I make sure is short and unsatisfying.
Minor mental- comfort restrictions. Not being allowed to wear certain clothes or having to sit a certain way.
Major physical- harsh spanking. My sub really enjoys spamming but we got one paddle that turned out to be to much. If she's earned it usually only a few seats set her straight again.
Major mental- affection denial. My sub is very touchy and likes to be held and cuddle. I do it gladly but especially if she's being good. If she deserves this punishment then I do not touch her for a whole night and only speak in short sharp sentences.
Minor mental- comfort restrictions. Not being allowed to wear certain clothes or having to sit a certain way.
Major physical- harsh spanking. My sub really enjoys spamming but we got one paddle that turned out to be to much. If she's earned it usually only a few seats set her straight again.
Major mental- affection denial. My sub is very touchy and likes to be held and cuddle. I do it gladly but especially if she's being good. If she deserves this punishment then I do not touch her for a whole night and only speak in short sharp sentences.
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my favorite would be what works best for a particular sub. I don't really have much long-term experience of a relationship that even involved punishments, so I don't have a favorite one from a life.
I however have a few preferences.
As pain goes I like bastinado and the idea of hot sause.
As other things go I like tickling and humiliation. Making her walk around the house naked, or with dildoes/anal plugs fixed inside of her would be a good ones.
I never imagined myself in a lifestyle relationship. But if I think about some non-sexual punishments - writing lines and standing in a corner comes to mind.
I however have a few preferences.
As pain goes I like bastinado and the idea of hot sause.
As other things go I like tickling and humiliation. Making her walk around the house naked, or with dildoes/anal plugs fixed inside of her would be a good ones.
I never imagined myself in a lifestyle relationship. But if I think about some non-sexual punishments - writing lines and standing in a corner comes to mind.
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I prefer mental punishments. Act like its okay and go about business as normal but just when theyre about to cum you stop and leave telling them they have to behave better to get to finish and then ignore them for a little while to get them wanting it more.
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ok, as sarcastic as I usually am (and I'm not trying to hold back on that now, either, but..)
As sarcastic as I usually am....as appalled by this as I am... I'm genuinely curious if subs really respond to this ignoring and shunning?
I mean, behavior modification and positive/negative reinforcement I understand, but I can't wrap my brain around any good that comes from the ignore/shun/dismiss method of training? Seems like it's an extreme measure for a brat, and then, hell, who knows? Maybe the brat just likes pissing the Dom off enough to get that kind of reaction?
Again, I'm clueless on this subject. I do know I don't believe in it and would find myself hard pressed to counsel someone to stay in a relationship where the punishments exceed the crime, so to speak?
Are there any subs that can speak on their experience with this that didn't end with them leaving the relationship as a result?
As sarcastic as I usually am....as appalled by this as I am... I'm genuinely curious if subs really respond to this ignoring and shunning?
I mean, behavior modification and positive/negative reinforcement I understand, but I can't wrap my brain around any good that comes from the ignore/shun/dismiss method of training? Seems like it's an extreme measure for a brat, and then, hell, who knows? Maybe the brat just likes pissing the Dom off enough to get that kind of reaction?
Again, I'm clueless on this subject. I do know I don't believe in it and would find myself hard pressed to counsel someone to stay in a relationship where the punishments exceed the crime, so to speak?
Are there any subs that can speak on their experience with this that didn't end with them leaving the relationship as a result?
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Can't help you there, because I would be walking away after being treated like that.
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I think shunning and ignoring may work with some people, but it doesn't mean it's good.
Some people (women more often than men) depend strongly on the relationship and the emotional connection. When it gets distorted they'd do everything to fix it, to get their loved one's attention and love back. So as subs they may behave better.
BUT
That's basically exploiting your sub. Not guiding her into obedience with punishment and reward, but blackmailing her and threatening her with the emotional coldness and ending the relationship.
That's a dick move to do. It's an emotional blackmail, and it's not nice or sexual. It may WORK with some women, but you are exploiting the things that should be cherished and protected - love, emotional connection, affection to each other.
There are plenty ways of punishing the sub - and not only physically - and NOT play with fragile and meaningful parts of your relationship.
In my opinion trust is the main driving point of a DS relationship (any relationship, really). When you ignore your sub to punish her - you are breaking that trust, because she now can't count on you to always be there for her, or in the worst case scenario she begins doubting if you could leave her if she doesn't behave very well.
That's not a way to go. Instead, the sub should know that you are always there, always have her and her training in your mind, that every action will get a response out of you. That you care for her deeply enough to train her and correct her even when you are displeased with her.
At least that's how I imagine lifestyle DS chemistry - I have no hands-on experience.
p.s. I realize I slipped into a pattern of assuming the sub is a girl - because it's closer to me. But I imagine the same works with men, it's just that on average men are more emotionally durable and will take the emotional abuse easier.
Some people (women more often than men) depend strongly on the relationship and the emotional connection. When it gets distorted they'd do everything to fix it, to get their loved one's attention and love back. So as subs they may behave better.
BUT
That's basically exploiting your sub. Not guiding her into obedience with punishment and reward, but blackmailing her and threatening her with the emotional coldness and ending the relationship.
That's a dick move to do. It's an emotional blackmail, and it's not nice or sexual. It may WORK with some women, but you are exploiting the things that should be cherished and protected - love, emotional connection, affection to each other.
There are plenty ways of punishing the sub - and not only physically - and NOT play with fragile and meaningful parts of your relationship.
In my opinion trust is the main driving point of a DS relationship (any relationship, really). When you ignore your sub to punish her - you are breaking that trust, because she now can't count on you to always be there for her, or in the worst case scenario she begins doubting if you could leave her if she doesn't behave very well.
That's not a way to go. Instead, the sub should know that you are always there, always have her and her training in your mind, that every action will get a response out of you. That you care for her deeply enough to train her and correct her even when you are displeased with her.
At least that's how I imagine lifestyle DS chemistry - I have no hands-on experience.
p.s. I realize I slipped into a pattern of assuming the sub is a girl - because it's closer to me. But I imagine the same works with men, it's just that on average men are more emotionally durable and will take the emotional abuse easier.
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Okay
This seems like a good place to address a few things.
First, I enjoy how it's always naturally assumed that it's the sub's/m's/etc.'s shortcomings that need corrected, without ever once addressing the elephant in the room. Just because you have a dominant personality, doesn't make you infallible. If you find yourself in situation in which your other half is constantly " disappointing " you or not willing to do what you say, perhaps you're the one that's screwing up ( THE VERY IDEA! ). Withholding affection, shunning, making them apologize verbally or via writing for " failing you " or berating them, doesn't denote strength. It makes you look like an insecure child that has to keep someone they're supposed to be cherishing and taking care of down for the sake of their own overwhelming ego and blaring insecurities. You're taking someone who trusts you intimately, and emotionally abandoning them when you don't get your way... You know what, I'll just call it what it is. Being weak. With very few exceptions, most don't like being emotionally tortured. Read through the vast majority of threads on the subject in here if you want proof, so many people come out of these encounters feeling abused. It's also ironic how I see so many running around screaming about how important earning trust and emphasizing communication is, only to admit they purposely go around shutting down and doing the EXACT OPPOSITE when things don't go their way. Well played. Yes, the silent treatment, because it worked so well when you were four...
Don't misunderstand, there's nothing wrong with punishment, but if it's the overarching theme of the relationship, that warrants serious inquiry. " Funishment " is one thing, discipline another, and punsihment should be the last resort, not your go to. Yes, I'm aware that it's a word commonly used and associated primarily with the S/m dynamic. But there's a world of difference between a hard m who's constantly begging to be " punished ", and feeling the need to regularly " Alpha roll " your sub because he or she isn't " living up to your expectations ". You want to be a big bad Alpha? Okay, fine. Yes, you get to eat first and call the shots. But you are also only to make decisions for the benefit of those in your care, not your over inflated sense of worth, you don't sleep until you make sure what's yours is taken care of, and you be the first to step up to plate when things get rough and you don't get to quit. Not willing or able? Then I'll go ahead and do what so many " Doms " are soooo quick to tell subs that don't fit their bullshit mold. You're not a Dom, you're not a Sadist, and you're sure as shit not an Alpha, wolf or anything else impressive for that matter... Actually, if I'm doing the animal thing, it means you're a male lion. Meaning, you're a big, fat, lazy pussy that isn't good for much other than making a lot of noise and requiring others to do everything for you short of scratching your ass.
and yes, get offended.
Fin.
This seems like a good place to address a few things.
First, I enjoy how it's always naturally assumed that it's the sub's/m's/etc.'s shortcomings that need corrected, without ever once addressing the elephant in the room. Just because you have a dominant personality, doesn't make you infallible. If you find yourself in situation in which your other half is constantly " disappointing " you or not willing to do what you say, perhaps you're the one that's screwing up ( THE VERY IDEA! ). Withholding affection, shunning, making them apologize verbally or via writing for " failing you " or berating them, doesn't denote strength. It makes you look like an insecure child that has to keep someone they're supposed to be cherishing and taking care of down for the sake of their own overwhelming ego and blaring insecurities. You're taking someone who trusts you intimately, and emotionally abandoning them when you don't get your way... You know what, I'll just call it what it is. Being weak. With very few exceptions, most don't like being emotionally tortured. Read through the vast majority of threads on the subject in here if you want proof, so many people come out of these encounters feeling abused. It's also ironic how I see so many running around screaming about how important earning trust and emphasizing communication is, only to admit they purposely go around shutting down and doing the EXACT OPPOSITE when things don't go their way. Well played. Yes, the silent treatment, because it worked so well when you were four...
Don't misunderstand, there's nothing wrong with punishment, but if it's the overarching theme of the relationship, that warrants serious inquiry. " Funishment " is one thing, discipline another, and punsihment should be the last resort, not your go to. Yes, I'm aware that it's a word commonly used and associated primarily with the S/m dynamic. But there's a world of difference between a hard m who's constantly begging to be " punished ", and feeling the need to regularly " Alpha roll " your sub because he or she isn't " living up to your expectations ". You want to be a big bad Alpha? Okay, fine. Yes, you get to eat first and call the shots. But you are also only to make decisions for the benefit of those in your care, not your over inflated sense of worth, you don't sleep until you make sure what's yours is taken care of, and you be the first to step up to plate when things get rough and you don't get to quit. Not willing or able? Then I'll go ahead and do what so many " Doms " are soooo quick to tell subs that don't fit their bullshit mold. You're not a Dom, you're not a Sadist, and you're sure as shit not an Alpha, wolf or anything else impressive for that matter... Actually, if I'm doing the animal thing, it means you're a male lion. Meaning, you're a big, fat, lazy pussy that isn't good for much other than making a lot of noise and requiring others to do everything for you short of scratching your ass.
and yes, get offended.
Fin.
