Extended, intense Edging

[lady_jennaxx]

Is this an appealing concept to many? I'm not speaking of the kind of tease that goes on for a few minutes before the subject is allowed grateful release.

I'm referring to the kind of tease that escalates over hours, perhaps even days, before what can only be described as "life-changing" release is granted, and the subject is alternately exhausted, exhilarated, vulnerable and ravenous, as the experience has introduced them to a side of themselves they had no idea was so starved for that kind of unique attention.

I believe for those with slightly sub tendencies, the notion of offering the right person that kind of power is frightening yet very simple and freeing. It can lead to a lovely friendship if the chemistry is favorable.

If this topic has sparked curiosity, feel free to reach out. Well written, thoughtful PMs are encouraged.

 

[Mei5ter]

Is this an appealing concept to many? I'm not speaking of the kind of tease that goes on for a few minutes before the subject is allowed grateful release.

I'm referring to the kind of tease that escalates over hours, perhaps even days, before what can only be described as "life-changing" release is granted, and the subject is alternately exhausted, exhilarated, vulnerable and ravenous, as the experience has introduced them to a side of themselves they had no idea was so starved for that kind of unique attention.

I believe for those with slightly sub tendencies, the notion of offering the right person that kind of power is frightening yet very simple and freeing. It can lead to a lovely friendship if the chemistry is favorable.

If this topic has sparked curiosity, feel free to reach out. Well written, thoughtful PMs are encouraged.

Hello Jenna,

Yes, I'm sure plenty of submissives would love this. And it also had the big plus of being something which works excellently when two people are geographically distant.

There are lots of other ways to introduce authority beyond A giving B control of their physical craving and need for release. B might give A daily instructions on exactly how to edge or play, in as much detail and with as many specific requirements as they please. Or A might be ordered to keep a daily denial diary, either for B's eyes only or perhaps to be publicly visible as a blog.

I'm sure this has been talked about here previously, and I see that you're asking people to message you directly, but I'd be very interested to hear more from both sides of the slash if they felt like discussing this publicly?

 

[cookiecat]

Extended edging in theory is an amazing, arousing thought. I love that feeling where I feel like I'd do anything in order to cum and I wish that feeling would never go away.

The times I have edged more than a day, however, seem like it's been challenging to keep the delicious aroused feeling sustained. Instead, it just turns inward - physically and mentally - and becomes annoying. Especially if I have to attend to other things like work.

I couldn't find a way to keep it on the aroused end of the spectrum. I didn't want to be at work unfocused on my work. It didn't feel sexy or submissive - it just felt annoying.

I haven't done it in a long time and wonder if it was me? My crappy attitude? Was my partner encouraging enough? I don't recall all the details.

as an aside: seela has a great thread here in Talk about not cumming for a year. Good insight in to super extended edging.

 

[Coatcheckgirl912]

I'm ON BOARD

So, I have experienced short term edging, but never successfully more than say, an evening. I agree that sometimes that delicious feeling is exceedingly difficult to sustain unless you have the ability to focus on upping the ante on a regular tease. The idea is titillating, literally, but realistic?

If anyone has technique to share, I have pen and paper ready to take notes.

xxxo
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Is this an appealing concept to many? I'm not speaking of the kind of tease that goes on for a few minutes before the subject is allowed grateful release.

I'm referring to the kind of tease that escalates over hours, perhaps even days, before what can only be described as "life-changing" release is granted, and the subject is alternately exhausted, exhilarated, vulnerable and ravenous, as the experience has introduced them to a side of themselves they had no idea was so starved for that kind of unique attention.

I believe for those with slightly sub tendencies, the notion of offering the right person that kind of power is frightening yet very simple and freeing. It can lead to a lovely friendship if the chemistry is favorable.

If this topic has sparked curiosity, feel free to reach out. Well written, thoughtful PMs are encouraged.

 

[Mei5ter]

Extended edging in theory is an amazing, arousing thought. I love that feeling where I feel like I'd do anything in order to cum and I wish that feeling would never go away.

The times I have edged more than a day, however, seem like it's been challenging to keep the delicious aroused feeling sustained. Instead, it just turns inward - physically and mentally - and becomes annoying. Especially if I have to attend to other things like work.

I couldn't find a way to keep it on the aroused end of the spectrum. I didn't want to be at work unfocused on my work. It didn't feel sexy or submissive - it just felt annoying.

I haven't done it in a long time and wonder if it was me? My crappy attitude? Was my partner encouraging enough? I don't recall all the details.

as an aside: seela has a great thread here in Talk about not cumming for a year. Good insight in to super extended edging.

Hello Cookie,

I think it's the control, and the ritual, and the instructions which make it work. If I understand rightly, part of the issue for you was that you couldn't sustain the sensation of being on edge for long periods, and found it annoying on the occasions this did happen? Sorry if I've misunderstood. I often do.

I was thinking of something a little different, where A wouldnt expect B to be constantly physically aroused throughout the day. It's more that B would spend that day knowing she was expected to edge that evening in a particular way, for a set duration, at a particular time, and describe her feelings afterwards. It's making B focus on what she can't have, by only allowing her to play for three minutes with orgasm forbidden, rather than being constantly on edge. She's thinking about it rather than feeling it. But as the one giving the instructions, I've seen the results - which can be amazing - but am not best placed to describe what's happening in my partner's head. Anyone?

And Seela's nonut journal is fascinating, and she should probably write it up as a PhD thesis.

 

[Enchanted_DreamSam]

Hello Cookie,

I think it's the control, and the ritual, and the instructions which make it work. If I understand rightly, part of the issue for you was that you couldn't sustain the sensation of being on edge for long periods, and found it annoying on the occasions this did happen? Sorry if I've misunderstood. I often do.

I was thinking of something a little different, where A wouldnt expect B to be constantly physically aroused throughout the day. It's more that B would spend that day knowing she was expected to edge that evening in a particular way, for a set duration, at a particular time, and describe her feelings afterwards. It's making B focus on what she can't have, by only allowing her to play for three minutes with orgasm forbidden, rather than being constantly on edge. She's thinking about it rather than feeling it. But as the one giving the instructions, I've seen the results - which can be amazing - but am not best placed to describe what's happening in my partner's head. Anyone?

And Seela's nonut journal is fascinating, and she should probably write it up as a PhD thesis.

I think you worded this perfectly. This is something I've always wanted to experience, I just never have as of yet. I'm sure it would happen through out the day, it would be very intense and pleasuring when you are finally allowed to climax. I rather be constantly on edge and teased.

 

[phil1955]

Extended edging might work well for woman but at least for older men, I think this would raise hell with the prostate.

 

[WannabeMontrealSlut]

I actually lasted 18 days once, edging a couple times each days. I was playing alone but it did lead me to a state of sex obsession. The entire body becomes over sensitive... Just touching your own neck ends up giving pussy shivers. Very powerful. I actually overdid though... I was a bit sore. And for concentration at work, it was not a good idea. For long term, I think a bit of edging, not every day, might be interesting. Enough to make you crave sex all the time but not so much that you can't concentrate on work and life in general.

 

[ChuckWolf]

My story, Nudist Retreat Humiliation involves a scene of prolonged edging.

 

[ChasBozwell30]

I've experienced something like this when i had my prostate massaged, i could probably have been kept on the edge all day. holding back for as long as i did was mind melting, i cant imagine what even longer would feel like.

At a certain point of pleasure, though, the mind almost cant take it. i can imagine waves of arousal, and then the pleasure waning, only to build again, but i wonder how long you can sustain such a cycle. Imagine giving someone that control, and in turn giving them that kind of pleasure...! Beautiful x

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I've experienced something like this when i had my prostate massaged, i could probably have been kept on the edge all day. holding back for as long as i did was mind melting, i cant imagine what even longer would feel like.

At a certain point of pleasure, though, the mind almost cant take it. i can imagine waves of arousal, and then the pleasure waning, only to build again, but i wonder how long you can sustain such a cycle. Imagine giving someone that control, and in turn giving them that kind of pleasure...! Beautiful x

It is beautiful, Chas

 

[massageguy1]

Days?

I've very much enjoyed edging sessions with a playful, take-charge ladyfriend, but anything over an hour or two just gets painful...can't imagine sustaining it for days...

Handing over power like that is freeing, exciting, scary,

Wonderful...

And I make such a spectacular mess!

 

[lady_jennaxx]

I've very much enjoyed edging sessions with a playful, take-charge ladyfriend, but anything over an hour or two just gets painful...can't imagine sustaining it for days...

Handing over power like that is freeing, exciting, scary,

Wonderful...

And I make such a spectacular mess!

Add "enthralling" to "freeing, exciting and scary"

 

[massageguy1]

As you wish.

As you wish.

And I mean that from the heart of my bottom...

 

[lady_jennaxx]

As you wish.

And I mean that from the heart of my bottom...

Such a tease.

 

[massageguy1]

Tease? Moi?

Moi, a tease?

It's only teasing if you refuse to follow through...

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Moi, a tease?

It's only teasing if you refuse to follow through...

Point taken ☑

 

[massageguy1]

You can have it

You can have the point, the tip..whatever it takes...

 

[lady_jennaxx]

You can have the point, the tip..whatever it takes...

Someone is full of...jokes today.

 

[2xshyblushingwife]

As someone who has been denied for months at a time, I can tell you it can be insane. Only with the consistent checking in of the person who controlled my orgasms was I able to do it. He would allow me to talk about what the weird spikes of hormones we’re doing to me both mentally and physically. Talking about it would often cause me to become even more aroused and I’m sure he knew this and enjoyed the squirming result immensely. We were long distance so this was an excellent way I could give him control.
I guess what I’m trying to say is...
I’m a HUGE fan of prolonged (days/weeks/months/) orgasm denial and edging!

 

[massageguy1]

Wow

Thanks for sharing your experience...

For guys, semen builds up in the epididymis, and becomes quite painful after a day or so. Blue balls are a real thing, even though the pain doesn't come from the testicles. Nature relieves the pressure through nocturnal emissions, or wet dreams. Even without stimulation, I've never managed to go 2 weeks without some kind of ejaculation

Voluntary, conscious, or not...

 

[massageguy1]

Wow

Thanks for sharing your experience...

For guys, semen builds up in the epididymis, and becomes quite painful after a day or so. Blue balls are a real thing, even though the pain doesn't come from the testicles. Nature relieves the pressure through nocturnal emissions, or wet dreams. Even without stimulation, I've never managed to go 2 weeks without some kind of ejaculation

Voluntary, conscious, or not...

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Thanks for sharing your experience...

For guys, semen builds up in the epididymis, and becomes quite painful after a day or so. Blue balls are a real thing, even though the pain doesn't come from the testicles. Nature relieves the pressure through nocturnal emissions, or wet dreams. Even without stimulation, I've never managed to go 2 weeks without some kind of ejaculation

Voluntary, conscious, or not...

Good to know.

 

[lovehim2011]

Is this an appealing concept to many? I'm not speaking of the kind of tease that goes on for a few minutes before the subject is allowed grateful release.

I'm referring to the kind of tease that escalates over hours, perhaps even days, before what can only be described as "life-changing" release is granted, and the subject is alternately exhausted, exhilarated, vulnerable and ravenous, as the experience has introduced them to a side of themselves they had no idea was so starved for that kind of unique attention.

I believe for those with slightly sub tendencies, the notion of offering the right person that kind of power is frightening yet very simple and freeing. It can lead to a lovely friendship if the chemistry is favorable.

If this topic has sparked curiosity, feel free to reach out. Well written, thoughtful PMs are encouraged.

Hello. My partner did this to me for a period of more than three months at the beginning of our relationship. It was a bit like being ill, but also a time that I remember fondly and completely transcendent. I describe it to him but I don’t think he fully understands what it did to me psychologically. I think I handled it well because I was very much in control of my physical self at the time. He still does it to me frequently, but only for a day or two.

 

[lady_jennaxx]

Hello. My partner did this to me for a period of more than three months at the beginning of our relationship. It was a bit like being ill, but also a time that I remember fondly and completely transcendent. I describe it to him but I don’t think he fully understands what it did to me psychologically. I think I handled it well because I was very much in control of my physical self at the time. He still does it to me frequently, but only for a day or two.

Thank you for sharing