❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

My first year of college. I went to a school where I was completely alone. No friends, no family, and no teachers who had preconceived expectations based on my reputation. Coming from such a strict, sheltered background it was quite the culture shock. I hated that year, but it gave me that chance to decide who I wanted to be, not who everyone else wanted me to be. So much painful growth that year for an introvert stuck in a dorm of extroverts. lol

 

[Mrtenant]

But I don't see my name on your list?

Yea. I'm not on that list either.

 

[Mrtenant]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

It's all relative. When I was in highschool, I was largely invisible, because I wanted to be. But, people knew who I was. That one long haired, scary looking, freak that drove the loud ass hotrod Mustang. Teachers and Principal wanted me gone. Few would interact with me. But, I was very much appreciated by my coworkers and and friends that were not in highschool.

When my kids were in elementary school, I felt very invisible at home. Like nothing else mattered except the kids. But at work, I helped many many people navigate their insurance problems and they seemed to appreciate my presence.

It's all relative. Idk.

 

[Dribble]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

I actually prefer being invisible in society. Who? Now...when it comes to relationships...that is part of why she is the ex.

 

[StacyLeigh]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

Much like Mr. T and Dribble, I often choose invisibility. (makes me sound like a super hero!)

I spend much of my time front and center as a leader in the company I work for...which makes me a happily self-proclaimed wallflower outside of that environment. There are certainly people and situations where I like to be a little less invisible , but I kind of enjoy quietly blending in.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I spend much of my time front and center as a leader in the company I work for...which makes me a happily self-proclaimed wallflower outside of that environment. There are certainly people and situations where I like to be a little invisible , but I kind of enjoy quietly blending in.

^^^ What she said.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

When I was a kid. Once I got a job and access to a car, things changed.

 

[cheekygirl75]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

In school, both at school & home, from about 4th or 5th grade to after senior year in high school. And still occasionally with my family. Oh and at parties/social events until about my 30s. And still sometimes on here. I’ve felt invisible a lot.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

In school, both at school & home, from about 4th or 5th grade to after senior year in high school. And still occasionally with my family. Oh and at parties/social events until about my 30s. And still sometimes on here. I’ve felt invisible a lot.

I keep telling ya to flash yer boobs.

 

[gga]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

TLDR version - Have almost always felt invisible except for work, a small circle of friends, and a circle of Lit friends.
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For the most part, I have always felt invisible. And it hasn't really bothered me.

In HS i hung with a very small crowd. People probably knew my name, but would have a hard time picking me out in a lineup.

In college, I was a commuter student in a school that was probably close to 90% on campus residency. I was also working one, and sometimes two, jobs, so there wasn't much time to stick around campus for social activities.

Since then, still primarily invisible. I have a very small circle of good friends IRL. To them I don't feel invisible. To my coworkers, again another small group of about 14, I am pretty much in a technical leadership role, and they know they can count on me to get things done and to support them. So for the most part, not to invisible there.

On Lit I have a circle of people I would call real good friends. People who support me both when I'm up and when I'm down. These folks pretty much all make their home in the Chaos thread. I lovey friends here.

Outside of that thread, yeah pretty much invisible everywhere else.

Which, again, I've gotten used to and don't really minds.

@cheekygirl75 Personally, I don't think you're invisible at all. But it's not how I think, it's what you feel. So bring it in my friend.


(Or follow Bambi's advice.)

ETA: Holy crap I need to learn when to stop typing.

 

[Xerxes82]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

We'd save time if I described the significantly smaller list of times when I felt visible. But honestly, I've long since come to terms with it. Well, mostly anyway.

Now I just scream into the void anyway. So who really cares if anybody is listening?

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

I was a stay at home mom for several years and that's probably the point in my life that I felt most invisible. I lost contact with friends and co-workers and was just mom and wife all day, every day. Coincidentally, that's also when I found Lit again. I needed people. I needed to be part of something. Maybe that's why I'm here again.

Oh yes, I can really relate to this, too.

 

[Karabare]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

When I had a young child. I was always there but didn't have an identity.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

I was subject to abuse in one of my first "relationships". Rumours were spread and I felt so invisible at the time, but in hindsight everything I did was being scrutinised by everyone I knew. I just didn't have a single friend to speak to for a good portion of it.

I'm not sure I've ever really been invisible. I can slip away unnoticed from group situations, is that what is being asked? I've felt "unseen" by not having anyone to relate to, though that is changing thanks to this place.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.07.22

What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try? What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

 

[base10]

06.07.22

What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try? What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

I think I'd be an exceptionally poor fisherman (like the Deadliest Catch guys), but I'd be curious to see just how crazy it really is.

 

[cheekygirl75]

06.07.22

What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try? What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

Oh, actress for sure... I want to know all the real Hollywood gossip!

 

[Orchidea73]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

I don't think I've ever felt that way. I was always loved an spoiled by my parents and siblings. Being the youngest has its benefits. And neither I've felt that way with friends. I've always been very social and animated, so being "invisible" hasn't been an issue.

06.07.22

What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try? What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

Pilot, or a Tank driver. But military strategist is kinda my passion.
I don't know if I would've been awful at it though. I've always had great vision and sense of orientation. Albeit it's not all. I wouldn't have been a great strategist though. Not good at chess. lol

Speaking of chess. My dad was a great chess player, and I remember the first time I asked him to teach me play chess. I was very young. His answer was, " Chess is for smart people."

Leave it to my dad to keep me grounded. lol I had the greatest dad. Although, I suppose all daughters say so.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

06.07.22

What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try? What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

I'd be the worst opera singer ever. But I'd still love to do it.

As for a career where I'd like to know the secrets... either a professional chef or someone who does practical special effects for movies.

 

[Orchidea73]

I'd be the worst opera singer ever. But I'd still love to do it.

As for a career where I'd like to know the secrets... either a professional chef or someone who does practical special effects for movies.

I like that too. Not just special effects but most of the things that has to do with making a movie. This is why I love to watch extra/bonus material of a movie. Indeed, I keep many of them on my archive.

 

[Orchidea73]

Second half of my first marriage. It was a lot of "what sacrifices and compromises can you make to make this miserable person happy?" Turns out way the fuck too many. She was just a horrible partner. None of my feelings or wants mattered.

Also probably my last year of high school as I was finishing. I was entering adulthood, and at a time in my life that I desperately needed guidance. Instead of that, my parents announced their divorce, my mom became an abusive lunatic, my brother became an abusive druggie who regularly stole from me, and I was there feeling completely abandoned. It all escalated to a point where I attempted suicide. Thankfully I failed. And I'm still here, tying to sort through all this garbage. But in a better place.

 

[AveryElle]

05.31.22

When in your life did you feel the most invisible?

As the mom of an infant. No one gives AF about you.

 

[Mrtenant]

06.07.22

What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try?

I would probably be awful as a stripper. Might be fun to try though.

What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

I would try politician, just so I can know what those dirty bastards are really up to.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

06.07.22

What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try? What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

I would honestly like to be a truck driver for a while. I know deep down that I would most likely not be good at it. But I dunno, they make decent money and get to see a lot of cool places. They have a house on wheels. I would be terrible at getting the load there on time, I get lost easily and can't read a map and was never able to learn how to drive stick.

Oh yeah the second part fo the question; A pastry chef. I've heard that it is hard work and you really need to be organized and detail oriented, but I would love to know all the tricks to getting that stuff to look and smell and taste so perfect.

 

[dadbod4u]

06.07.22
What's a career that you know you'd be awful at but you still want to try?

I'd be a godawful spy, but part of me has always been curious about that career path.

What's a career you'd try just to know the professional secrets?

Probably something in politics or "big tech".