❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Deleted member 6592667]

How would you feel knowing your were part of someone's fantasy?

Very likely to be into it.

What about a couples play?

Also very likely to be into it.

Does that feel icky or interesting?

Interesting af

Do you let people (speaking of Lit people specifically) that you've had filthy thoughts about them or do you keep those fantasies internally?

If I feel a comfort level with them I'll share.

Even more broadly, do you fantasize at all? Do you fantasize about people you know, here or elsewhere, or do you keep your fantasies unspecified?

A lot of times it's about someone specific. But the fantasies are inspired by general fantasies. Like "What would it be like if we did this?" Sometimes I have general fantasies, but it's so much more substantial and satisfying if it involves someone specific.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

How would you feel knowing your were part of someone's fantasy?

It depends on the person, but generally very, very hot.

What about a couples play? Does that feel icky or interesting?

It can be icky if I’m not in the mood or the setup isn’t right, but when it works for me…incredibly erotic.

Do you let people (speaking of Lit people specifically) that you've had filthy thoughts about them or do you keep those fantasies internally?

Sometimes I do. It depends if I think they’d enjoy hearing about it. If I know they do, that can actually make it even more fun to fantasize about them next time, or include them in a couples fantasy, and then talk to them about it afterwards.

Even more broadly, do you fantasize at all?

I sure do

Do you fantasize about people you know, here or elsewhere, or do you keep your fantasies unspecified?

My fantasies almost always include someone I know well or have connected with here or elsewhere. Unspecified, like random e-boning, isn’t usually very exciting to me.

 

[Dribble]

Holy fuck that's a lot of questions. I just wanna see your boobs

 

[MedicalMuse]

03.06.23

I want a sexy question today.

How would you feel knowing your were part of someone's fantasy?

I have been told some in vivid detail.

What about a couples play?

I’m not opposed but it can’t feel forced.

Does that feel icky or interesting?

Interesting sometimes. Sometimes terribly icky.

Do you let people (speaking of Lit people specifically) that you've had filthy thoughts about them or do you keep those fantasies internally?

Oh now that depends on the person. If we’re close, absolutely I share.

Even more broadly, do you fantasize at all?

Yes.

Do you fantasize about people you know, here or elsewhere, or do you keep your fantasies unspecified?

Yes. It’s hard to get excited by someone without some kind of interest. Random encounters don’t work for me, as a general rule.

 

[Uk_Guy_93]

How would you feel knowing your were part of someone's fantasy?

It would depend who I’m hearing it from but 9.99 times out of 10 it would be a huge turn on!

What about a couples play? Does that feel icky or interesting?

Definitely sounds interesting, not something I’ve experienced before but I’d be down with the right couple!

Do you let people (speaking of Lit people specifically) that you've had filthy thoughts about them or do you keep those fantasies internally?

Well I’m still finding my feet but I’m sure once I’ve gotten to know everyone better I will get the chance!

Even more broadly, do you fantasize at all?

I’m full of fantasies! It keeps me up late haha

Do you fantasize about people you know, here or elsewhere, or do you keep your fantasies unspecified?

A little of column A and a little of column B. Some are people I know/have met, others are unspecified people in specific fantasy scenarios

 

[gga]

Do you let people (speaking of Lit people specifically) that you've had filthy thoughts about them or do you keep those fantasies internally?

Oh now that depends on the person. If we’re close, absolutely I share.

And I thought we were close.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.06.23

I want a sexy question today.

How would you feel knowing your were part of someone's fantasy? What about a couples play? Does that feel icky or interesting? Do you let people (speaking of Lit people specifically) that you've had filthy thoughts about them or do you keep those fantasies internally? Even more broadly, do you fantasize at all? Do you fantasize about people you know, here or elsewhere, or do you keep your fantasies unspecified?

It definitely depends on the who and what but overall I've enjoyed knowing a lot. I've only known about two couples (threw depending on how you count it) and it is incredibly hot to me. A couple has a total different threshold for pleasing fantasies and when you find out you check all the boxes. *drip*

I don't tell everyone. I try to make sure they'd like knowing. I'm not trying to creep anyone out but I do have a good and deviant imagination. And as a couple we've only told.... well...
I fantasize often and I enjoy people I know or have some idea of.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

03.14.23

Bouncing off another thread discussion about PMs -

If you're good at initiating PMs, do you have a normal starting topic? What about length?
If you aren't the best at initiating, how do you give someone the green flag that you'd like them to reach out? Do you ever feel like you've missed connecting with someone because neither of you will start the conversation?


Can we normalize putting a in a response if you're open to talking??

 

[Bry1313]

03.14.23

Bouncing off another thread discussion about PMs -

If you're good at initiating PMs, do you have a normal starting topic? What about length?
If you aren't the best at initiating, how do you give someone the green flag that you'd like them to reach out? Do you ever feel like you've missed connecting with someone because neither of you will start the conversation?


Can we normalize putting a in a response if you're open to talking??

I’m decent at PMs, others may disagree. There are a few ice breakers that can get discussion going but no script. Everyone is different.

I’m pretty open to anyone reaching out but most likely clumsy in stating it.

Oh I’ve absolutely missed out on here and in real life, so hard to read signals sometimes.

That green ball is fun

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

03.14.23

Bouncing off another thread discussion about PMs -

If you're good at initiating PMs, do you have a normal starting topic? What about length?
If you aren't the best at initiating, how do you give someone the green flag that you'd like them to reach out? Do you ever feel like you've missed connecting with someone because neither of you will start the conversation?


Can we normalize putting a in a response if you're open to talking??

I usually start with "Hey bitch, here's a dick pic." and go from there.

No totally just kidding, But yeah, I have no problem saying a quick hello first if someone seems cool or they made me laugh. I'm not really shy in that regard.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

I’m not the best conversationalist, but that doesn’t stop me from starting them. So I’m curious to see these responses.

For what it's worth you seem interesting and well spoken from what I've seen in the threads. I'm sure the ladies love PMing with you.

 

[MedicalMuse]

03.14.23

Bouncing off another thread discussion about PMs -

If you're good at initiating PMs, do you have a normal starting topic?

Oh I send random messages sometimes. Especially if I see someone say they don’t get many. I feel like those people maybe have something to offer that is somehow overlooked.
It’s usually a response to a post so I lead with that

What about length?

Short!

If you aren't the best at initiating, how do you give someone the green flag that you'd like them to reach out?

This may not apply to me, since I feel like I initiate well enough. I just never expect a return message.

Do you ever feel like you've missed connecting with someone because neither of you will start the conversation?

Oh yes. Which is sad sometimes. Some of the best relationships I have here have come from random PMs. Some I wish I’d have never answered.

Can we normalize putting a in a response if you're open to talking??

Yes!!

 

[LadyLascivious1]

03.14.23

Bouncing off another thread discussion about PMs -

If you're good at initiating PMs, do you have a normal starting topic? What about length?
If you aren't the best at initiating, how do you give someone the green flag that you'd like them to reach out? Do you ever feel like you've missed connecting with someone because neither of you will start the conversation?


Can we normalize putting a in a response if you're open to talking??

There’s nothing shy about me, so I never hesitate to PM someone if I’m inclined. Definitely no standard topic. I write about whatever it is that made me want to talk to them. I keep it pretty short to start with and see where it goes. There is zero angst or worry on my end about any of this

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

Bro, I’ve already told you that it would be my honor to open for you at NRJ-Unplugged. You don’t have to keep buttering me up.

Omg yes! Let's do this!

Oh yes. Which is sad sometimes. Some of the best relationships I have here have come from random PMs. Some I wish I’d have never answered.

Look, I apologized for that.

There’s nothing shy about me, so I never hesitate to PM someone if I’m inclined. Definitely no standard topic. I write about whatever it is that made me want to talk to them. I keep it pretty short to start with and see where it goes. There is zero angst or worry on my end about any of this. NRJ is my favorite anyway.

Fixed that for you.

 

[MedicalMuse]

*pssssssst* ask her about decor.

I am!

 

[Booboobear84]

If I'm not interested in them sexually it's easy. Why? Because if I'm platonically PMing then there was something interesting in the threads that I want to talk about, and they have indicated caring about that subject. More than once that has led to other things (usually to my surprise, in fact the unfortunate woman sometimes has to use a large cluestick to get my attention).

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

There is zero angst or worry on my end about any of this

I don't mean you specifically but using this comment --
There are those of us that think far too much about and there are folks that don't worry nearly enough about the way they come off or the things they say.

Again - not you

 

[LadyLascivious1]

I don't mean you specifically but using this comment --
There are those of us that think far too much about and there are folks that don't worry nearly enough about the way they come off or the things they say.

Again - not you

Those are very good points.

First, you are awesome so you really don’t need to overthink that part. You seriously should PM anyone you think is cool. They’ll love you.

Second, humanity in general could use a bit more thoughtfulness. I don’t worry about reaching out, but as a general life motto I do consider what and how I say things. I’m also quick to apologize if I inadvertently come across poorly or hurt someone.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Those are very good points.

First, you are awesome so you really don’t need to overthink that part. You seriously should PM anyone you think is cool. They’ll love you.

Second, humanity in general could use a bit more thoughtfulness. I don’t worry about reaching out, but as a general life motto I do consider what and how I say things. I’m also quick to apologize if I inadvertently come across poorly or hurt someone.

Well you're sweet and biased. And generally, the exception to the rule.

 

[jason28053]

03.14.23

Bouncing off another thread discussion about PMs -

If you're good at initiating PMs, do you have a normal starting topic? What about length?
If you aren't the best at initiating, how do you give someone the green flag that you'd like them to reach out? Do you ever feel like you've missed connecting with someone because neither of you will start the conversation?


Can we normalize putting a in a response if you're open to talking??

I don initiate them on occasion but I don't have a normal starting topic. Usually we have corresponded in the threads already so that what the conversation starts with. I guess I will always wonder if I missed out, I have a serious case of FOMO

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

My reasons for overthinking PM initiation are thus -

1. Do I have a reason to PM?
   1. Have they posted something interesting or personally relatable?
      1. If so, do I think they want to hear from me about it?
   2. Am I just curious about the person?
      1. If so, how do you say “hey I want to know more about you!” without saying it because I don’t like it when people say generic things like that to me.
2. Will the person think I just want to get sexy with them?
   1. Am I just interested in friendly banter?
      1. I give this extra thought if this is a female Litster because I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.
      2. How open am I willing to be?
   2. Am I interested in getting sexy?
      1. What if they aren’t?
      2. What are they into?
      3. What if we aren’t interested in compatible things?
      4. Will they understand my special circumstances?
      5. Will they get too serious? Let’s face it. I’m easy to fall in love with.
3. Is this person just interesting on the threads and really difficult to keep a conversation going with?
   1. Or am I interesting enough to hold a conversation today?
4. Do I have the bandwidth to sustain a conversation today?
   1. Will work or life get busy and make me end up leaving someone hanging?
5. Does this person already have a preconceived idea about me and how will I have to change or confirm that?
6. If you’ve gotten this far send me your venmo so you I can send you my therapy copay because you deserve it!!

Seriously though… This is why I started the July PM Challenge. It’s just easier!

 

[StacyLeigh]

03.14.23

Bouncing off another thread discussion about PMs -

If you're good at initiating PMs, do you have a normal starting topic? What about length?
If you aren't the best at initiating, how do you give someone the green flag that you'd like them to reach out? Do you ever feel like you've missed connecting with someone because neither of you will start the conversation?


Can we normalize putting a in a response if you're open to talking??

Good at initiating - Yes and No? I likely won't send a PM unless I have something to say. But if I have something to say (even just a kudos for a good post) I have no issues sending it. Who doesn't like a quick note of positivity??

That being said, I'm also very self-aware that I'm THE worst at responding to PMs so it often feels unfair for me to even send them (Overthinking Thought #673: "Am I now obligating them to an act that even I know I likely wouldn't do?" haha)

As far as missing out - I'm pretty happy to let friendships happen serendipitously, so no fear here

 

[Bry1313]

My reasons for overthinking PM initiation are thus -

1. Do I have a reason to PM?
   1. Have they posted something interesting or personally relatable?
      1. If so, do I think they want to hear from me about it?
   2. Am I just curious about the person?
      1. If so, how do you say “hey I want to know more about you!” without saying it because I don’t like it when people say generic things like that to me.
2. Will the person think I just want to get sexy with them?
   1. Am I just interested in friendly banter?
      1. I give this extra thought if this is a female Litster because I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.
      2. How open am I willing to be?
   2. Am I interested in getting sexy?
      1. What if they aren’t?
      2. What are they into?
      3. What if we aren’t interested in compatible things?
      4. Will they understand my special circumstances?
      5. Will they get too serious? Let’s face it. I’m easy to fall in love with.
3. Is this person just interesting on the threads and really difficult to keep a conversation going with?
   1. Or am I interesting enough to hold a conversation today?
4. Do I have the bandwidth to sustain a conversation today?
   1. Will work or life get busy and make me end up leaving someone hanging?
5. Does this person already have a preconceived idea about me and how will I have to change or confirm that?
6. If you’ve gotten this far send me your venmo so you I can send you my therapy copay because you deserve it!!

Seriously though… This is why I started the July PM Challenge. It’s just easier!

How did you get my flowchart?

 

[Cat]

My reasons for overthinking PM initiation are thus -

1. Do I have a reason to PM?
   1. Have they posted something interesting or personally relatable?
      1. If so, do I think they want to hear from me about it?
   2. Am I just curious about the person?
      1. If so, how do you say “hey I want to know more about you!” without saying it because I don’t like it when people say generic things like that to me.
2. Will the person think I just want to get sexy with them?
   1. Am I just interested in friendly banter?
      1. I give this extra thought if this is a female Litster because I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.
      2. How open am I willing to be?
   2. Am I interested in getting sexy?
      1. What if they aren’t?
      2. What are they into?
      3. What if we aren’t interested in compatible things?
      4. Will they understand my special circumstances?
      5. Will they get too serious? Let’s face it. I’m easy to fall in love with.
3. Is this person just interesting on the threads and really difficult to keep a conversation going with?
   1. Or am I interesting enough to hold a conversation today?
4. Do I have the bandwidth to sustain a conversation today?
   1. Will work or life get busy and make me end up leaving someone hanging?
5. Does this person already have a preconceived idea about me and how will I have to change or confirm that?
6. If you’ve gotten this far send me your venmo so you I can send you my therapy copay because you deserve it!!

Seriously though… This is why I started the July PM Challenge. It’s just easier!

.... But... You do not know me, I do not know you...

Yet - I think you are pretty darn cool and likeable!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

.... But... You do not know me, I do not know you...

Yet - I think you are pretty darn cool and likeable!

But.... but... you might be wrong! Lol