❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[AlexBailey]

Oh hey! Remember me? No? Totally fine. Want a question. Good! I have one!

04.22.24

Let's talk spank banks!

Do you have sexual encounters that after a time still spark your sexual imagination in the same way they did when they occurred? Are you ever surprised by what memories stay in your erotic imagination? Is your spank bank lovingly curated or do you have a wealth of material to pull from? Can you even use memories to get you off or do you need fresh material?

For bonus points, feel free to share one of your special memories. Don't worry. It's a safe place.

My wife is not vanilla but she is compared to me. Fortunately I’ve had a lot of fun and varied kinky experiences and a good memory that I can tap into anytime.

I did many things earlier in life that are only crazy fantasies for most people. Many of the choices I’ve made are now limiting my options but I have no regrets. I see them as roads I chose instead of others and I love the life I have.

Being a toy for a married couple, having ecstasy orgies where I was the only ‘guy’ among more than a dozen participants… yeah, those and many other experiences were things dreams are still made of.

 

[Apisto42]

Oh hey! Remember me? No? Totally fine. Want a question. Good! I have one!

04.22.24

Let's talk spank banks!

Do you have sexual encounters that after a time still spark your sexual imagination in the same way they did when they occurred? Are you ever surprised by what memories stay in your erotic imagination? Is your spank bank lovingly curated or do you have a wealth of material to pull from? Can you even use memories to get you off or do you need fresh material?

For bonus points, feel free to share one of your special memories. Don't worry. It's a safe place.

Oddly maybe, but there’s three encounters that could have happened but I didn’t pull the trigger. The fantasies of what could have happened have always stuck with me.

One was a stripper I worked with. She had been dating one of the bartenders I worked with for years. I had spent many many hours at their house over the years. Do we knew each other well and I never got any indication that she fucked around on him.

One day I was chilling at home and she just showed up at my door. Asked me for a massage before she went to work. Stripped off and got in the bed. So I gave her a hell of a massage and then sent her in her way.

I knew she wanted to fuck, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it and then work with her boyfriend.

Turns out she skipped town the next week without any warning.

Should have railed the shit out of her.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

 

[Joxlrg]

Open all the way.. And unlike some today.. I can even see and try to understand their point of view.. Even if I disagree.. Hey were all on this spinning ball... Let's get along!!

 

[RosewoodTulip]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

Hmm I am happy to talk about simple easy things - small talk I guess - for a little while as I try to figure out if it's someone I could risk being a bit more open with. I don't think I hide who I am but I know I can be guarded.
I definitely get more chatty as I become comfortable around someone.

In person I have sometimes been called snobby because I'm quiet but I think I'm just an introvert with a little RBF.

There's nothing that makes me want to talk more than when a stranger points out how quiet I am in front of a group of people . Super helpful

 

[Wriggle]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I'm a both here, too.

I'll talk all the bollocks to anyone, but then suddenly some will connect with my way of conversing and how my mind flows and then our conversation will go anywhere and everywhere.

 

[NRJLIVES4ever]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I think it's a little general chit-chat and small talk at first, then the floodgates open once I sense you're a real person. So...a little of both?

 

[orangecurious]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

Usually one of two... manic talking about nothing, especially personal or silence.
I was told i was too shy, so tend to revert to the former and talk utter shit.
In terms of getting to know people, i usually don't as very few people are interested in someone who talks utter crap and, generally, avoids any personal info. If someone does get further, then i am very wary and distrustful until i know them better and i open up more and calm.
There a couple of people on Lit i am like that with and about the same in real life.

I get on better with animals (except dogs and spiders)

 

[hotwords229_A]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I’m not sure how to answer this one. Both?

I tend to reveal myself through humor and extreme statements. That seems to cut down on the majority of people who might have an interest in me, so then I can start to refine what I really think and believe and all that when getting to know someone.

I’ve been told it takes about three years to get to know me and even then I’m a walking contradiction.

I certainly don’t show up ready and open, but, in a weird way, I think I also present exactly who I am and what I’m about right out of the gate without actually committing to anything I say.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I'm definitely more of a grower. I find initiating conversation awkward unless I have a specific point of connection and small talk only gets me so far. But if you want to discuss kink dynamics or the failures of the modern American church - I'm a show-er loud and proud baby.

ETA - Like @hotwords229_A it takes a while to crack into my candy shell bc I'm cautious and stubborn and probably make too many assumptions. But I think my gooey center can be worth it.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

Definitely more of a grow-er. Very rarely I'll find some spark with someone and connect right away. 99% of the time I'm a lot more reserved and hold a lot of myself back. I've gotten burned putting too much of myself out there too soon.

 

[Shenanigans90]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I would consider myself a grow-er with someone I’m just getting to know. I love to meet new people but my default is always either humor or sarcasm which can lead to bad first impressions. I get so worried about coming across rude or thirsty that I probably seem boring as hell.

 

[GhostOfFAS]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

Online I’m good to go. Pretty much a show-er. It’s a lot easier when I’m not looking at someone’s face. In person, I’m much more of a grow-er. I’m much better in social situations than I used to be, but it still takes a while for me to warm up and get comfortable.

 

[Indie]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I'm pretty sure I'm a show-er. I love getting to know new people (online, not so much in person haha). I'm pretty much an open book if the other person is interesting and engaging as well. I think I'm a slow-release boring girl though. After a couple weeks, I've told you everything and if we keep talking it's because we actually like each other, even the boring bits.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'm pretty sure I'm a show-er. I love getting to know new people (online, not so much in person haha). I'm pretty much an open book if the other person is interesting and engaging as well. I think I'm a slow-release boring girl though. After a couple weeks, I've told you everything and if we keep talking it's because we actually like each other, even the boring bits.

I need a class on how to jump in there and get to know people.

 

[Indie]

I need a class on how to jump in there and get to know people.

Whispers exchange friendly vag

 

[hairball18]

I am a bit of both. Both online and in real life.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Whispers exchange friendly vag

How does the exchange work? Do we both count to three?

 

[Indie]

How does the exchange work? Do we both count to three?

You first

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

You first

Sent

 

[Indie]

Sent

Brat.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.07.24

What's something that you're just a little bit of a hypocrite about?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.07.24

What's something that you're just a little bit of a hypocrite about?

1. Sending PMs. Hell I started an annual event around my overthinking PMs. I want more community and interaction (site wide) but I am not always the change I want to see.

2. Assuming. I hate people assuming things about me without just asking because I'm a pretty open book when asked. But yall, my imagination is wild and I will assume the craziest things and then find out the reality and be so internally embarrassed. I've started a thing this year where when my mind starts to do that I always choose the most generous assumption. It helps be frame people more positively and generally just keeps my brain buzzing on a happier frequency.

 

[Photog1rl]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I am a grower mostly because it takes awhile for me to decide I will trust someone. Once that happens I share, share and share some more.
Recently a new friend referred to an audio I sent as a Vocaroo Marathon. I’m choosing to believe they liked it.

06.07.24

What's something that you're just a little bit of a hypocrite about?

1-Not catching feelings online.
At first I thought it could not happen and then I thought people that did it were kind of dumb(yes I make rash judgments/decisions but I may change them just as rapidly). Then I caught feelings
Now I understand the level of connection and intimacy relationships (be it friendships or more than friends) online can have. I will still say catching feelings is dumb but I know I will do it again just not to the same level.

2-shopping
I preach to my kids about saving money and being money smart and yet I totally overshop. I know it’s different because they are staring out and I am more established but…no one needs the number of purses, pairs of shoes, or amount of clothing and lingerie I have.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

06.07.24

What's something that you're just a little bit of a hypocrite about?

Advice

I think I give great advice. You have something on your mind or a big decision? I will totally talk it through with you and try to be as objective as possible.
Can I do the same for myself?
I can not.