❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I feel the same way

I really have no idea how I am perceived here, so

It's not Lit specific.

 

[Photog1rl]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I’ve been told I’m intimidating. I think I am just direct and outspoken.
I do know what I say is sometimes misinterpreted and that it must be at least partially due to my communication skills. I guess I wish people knew my intentions are almost always good.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I know people don't see me how I see myself and I'm very grateful for that because my self image is god awful.

If I could change anything?
I think I'm tougher than some people assume. My quietness and efforts to always be kind have sometimes been interpreted as me being too fragile and naive. I'd like that to be recognised I think

 

[Deleted member 6568729]

I think people are intimidated by me. Cos of me being so scary.

Guilty as charged.

 

[Yesok1]

I know people don't see me how I see myself and I'm very grateful for that because my self image is god awful.

If I could change anything?
I think I'm tougher than some people assume. My quietness and efforts to always be kind have sometimes been interpreted as me being too fragile and naive. I'd like that to be recognised I think

I think your self image has affected your idea as to what needs to change.

You are no one's fool, you are steadfast and true.

I think you need more self confidence, because you are viewed a lot more strongly than you give yourself credit for.

 

[Biggalute]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I wish I wasn't seen as so Galute/Neanderthal/Silverbackgorillaish and people could see the soft, delicate soul within

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I'm not 100% sure how people perceive me but I know it's all my fault.

I've spent a lot of time keeping people at an arm's length, for a variety of reasons and then can be surprised when I've trained people to stay back. I think when you try to be yourself all the time, the perceptions can be mixed but that's just because no one is all one thing. So if I'm confusing, I guess it's because I'm authentic? But I wish I was perceived as a little more delicate than I let myself give off.

Jesus that answer made no sense. (hits post anyway)

 

[FormerAllStar2]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

Honestly, I don’t really have a problem with the way I’m perceived both here and IRL. I guess maybe I’d like to be viewed as more approachable, overall. And maybe a little more put-together in person.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

I'm not 100% sure how people perceive me but I know it's all my fault.

I've spent a lot of time keeping people at an arm's length, for a variety of reasons and then can be surprised when I've trained people to stay back. I think when you try to be yourself all the time, the perceptions can be mixed but that's just because no one is all one thing. So if I'm confusing, I guess it's because I'm authentic? But I wish I was perceived as a little more delicate than I let myself give off.

Jesus that answer made no sense. (hits post anyway)

It made sense.

Our perceptions of people that we don't know every well are typically simple one dimensional ideas. Even our perceptions of people we do know well are most often much less complex than all of who they are. And we tend to understand people's actions through the lens that we see them, confirming to ourselves our own flawed interpretations.

So I try not to worry too much about what people think of me other than how it would affect my relationships with people I care about or things that are important to me. No one can really understand anyone else exactly right and I think that's ok.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

It made sense.

Our perceptions of people that we don't know every well are typically simple one dimensional ideas. Even our perceptions of people we do know well are most often much less complex than all of who they are. And we tend to understand people's actions through the lens that we see them, confirming to ourselves our own flawed interpretations.

So I try not to worry too much about what people think of me other than how it would affect my relationships with people I care about or things that are important to me. No one can really understand anyone else exactly right and I think that's ok.

That's definitely a very healthy way to look at it.

Being overly self-aware is my Achilles heel (or so my therapist would have you believe )

 

[Yesok1]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I'm not the bully or outlandish woman some people see me as.

I wish I wasn't perceived as cruel by some here.

I am willing to change because I do listen. I try too hard to be liked and go too far the other way.

 

[Photog1rl]

But I wish I was perceived as a little more delicate than I let myself give off.

This is so, so important. Coming off as strong and competent (which you do) often is misinterpreted for not being delicate.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I’ve answered a similar question in the past and said I wished people didn’t assume I was cold just because I don’t get very obviously emotional about most things.

So this time I’ll go with another one. I wish that family, friends, and colleagues didn’t perceive me as immune to stress. Yes, I’m generally unflappable and will figure out how to handle almost anything. That doesn’t mean I want to or that it doesn’t negatively impact me. I’m doing it because I care and can help, but it takes a toll.

 

[AlexBailey]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I wish people could see me as just being myself instead of assuming or projecting that I’m trying to fool anyone or appropriate anything from anyone else.

 

[AlexBailey]

Oh hey! Remember me? No? Totally fine. Want a question. Good! I have one!

04.22.24

Let's talk spank banks!

Do you have sexual encounters that after a time still spark your sexual imagination in the same way they did when they occurred? Are you ever surprised by what memories stay in your erotic imagination? Is your spank bank lovingly curated or do you have a wealth of material to pull from? Can you even use memories to get you off or do you need fresh material?

For bonus points, feel free to share one of your special memories. Don't worry. It's a safe place.

My wife is not vanilla but she is compared to me. Fortunately I’ve had a lot of fun and varied kinky experiences and a good memory that I can tap into anytime.

I did many things earlier in life that are only crazy fantasies for most people. Many of the choices I’ve made are now limiting my options but I have no regrets. I see them as roads I chose instead of others and I love the life I have.

Being a toy for a married couple, having ecstasy orgies where I was the only ‘guy’ among more than a dozen participants… yeah, those and many other experiences were things dreams are still made of.

 

[Apisto42]

Oh hey! Remember me? No? Totally fine. Want a question. Good! I have one!

04.22.24

Let's talk spank banks!

Do you have sexual encounters that after a time still spark your sexual imagination in the same way they did when they occurred? Are you ever surprised by what memories stay in your erotic imagination? Is your spank bank lovingly curated or do you have a wealth of material to pull from? Can you even use memories to get you off or do you need fresh material?

For bonus points, feel free to share one of your special memories. Don't worry. It's a safe place.

Oddly maybe, but there’s three encounters that could have happened but I didn’t pull the trigger. The fantasies of what could have happened have always stuck with me.

One was a stripper I worked with. She had been dating one of the bartenders I worked with for years. I had spent many many hours at their house over the years. Do we knew each other well and I never got any indication that she fucked around on him.

One day I was chilling at home and she just showed up at my door. Asked me for a massage before she went to work. Stripped off and got in the bed. So I gave her a hell of a massage and then sent her in her way.

I knew she wanted to fuck, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it and then work with her boyfriend.

Turns out she skipped town the next week without any warning.

Should have railed the shit out of her.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

 

[Joxlrg]

Open all the way.. And unlike some today.. I can even see and try to understand their point of view.. Even if I disagree.. Hey were all on this spinning ball... Let's get along!!

 

[RosewoodTulip]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

Hmm I am happy to talk about simple easy things - small talk I guess - for a little while as I try to figure out if it's someone I could risk being a bit more open with. I don't think I hide who I am but I know I can be guarded.
I definitely get more chatty as I become comfortable around someone.

In person I have sometimes been called snobby because I'm quiet but I think I'm just an introvert with a little RBF.

There's nothing that makes me want to talk more than when a stranger points out how quiet I am in front of a group of people . Super helpful

 

[Wriggle]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I'm a both here, too.

I'll talk all the bollocks to anyone, but then suddenly some will connect with my way of conversing and how my mind flows and then our conversation will go anywhere and everywhere.

 

[Deleted member 6592667]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I think it's a little general chit-chat and small talk at first, then the floodgates open once I sense you're a real person. So...a little of both?

 

[orangecurious]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

Usually one of two... manic talking about nothing, especially personal or silence.
I was told i was too shy, so tend to revert to the former and talk utter shit.
In terms of getting to know people, i usually don't as very few people are interested in someone who talks utter crap and, generally, avoids any personal info. If someone does get further, then i am very wary and distrustful until i know them better and i open up more and calm.
There a couple of people on Lit i am like that with and about the same in real life.

I get on better with animals (except dogs and spiders)

 

[hotwords229_A]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I’m not sure how to answer this one. Both?

I tend to reveal myself through humor and extreme statements. That seems to cut down on the majority of people who might have an interest in me, so then I can start to refine what I really think and believe and all that when getting to know someone.

I’ve been told it takes about three years to get to know me and even then I’m a walking contradiction.

I certainly don’t show up ready and open, but, in a weird way, I think I also present exactly who I am and what I’m about right out of the gate without actually committing to anything I say.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

I'm definitely more of a grower. I find initiating conversation awkward unless I have a specific point of connection and small talk only gets me so far. But if you want to discuss kink dynamics or the failures of the modern American church - I'm a show-er loud and proud baby.

ETA - Like @hotwords229_A it takes a while to crack into my candy shell bc I'm cautious and stubborn and probably make too many assumptions. But I think my gooey center can be worth it.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

06.04.24

Are you a grow-er or a show-er? Ok I don't mean your dick, calm down, but when you first get to know someone. Do you immediately show up open and ready to talk or does it take time for you to grow into a conversation?

Definitely more of a grow-er. Very rarely I'll find some spark with someone and connect right away. 99% of the time I'm a lot more reserved and hold a lot of myself back. I've gotten burned putting too much of myself out there too soon.