❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[munch2much]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

Hmm that’s a good question.

Mostly I don’t care as I feel well liked and know I am a very decent human being.

But recently somebody important to me has interpreted things I’ve said in the least generous way.

I’d be much happier if they recognised the good intentions.

 

[orangecurious]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

Interesting as I don't really know how they perceive me, but the general idea i get is that people think i am happy and friendly.. whereas I am a mass of nerves who is scared shitless in social situations, so jabbers away like an idiot as the other option is to hide in the corner. My boss thinks I am chatty and jolly... because it's not good to not talk and ignore people at work.

Maybe i should just shut up, then people would see the pathetically shy loner. Then again, i might get sacked.

 

[beachbaby179]

People actually think I'm confident and have my shit together.
LOLOLOLOLOL!

 

[StillRain]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I really have no idea how I am perceived here, so

 

[base10]

I really have no idea how I am perceived here, so

I feel the same way

 

[Wand3rlust]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I wish that I wasn't such a hot exhibitionist - and that people knew there was a brain and personality behind this extraordinarily hot exterior.

I think people are intimidated by me. Cos of me being so scary.

When I'm not. I'm lovely. And way more insecure than people maybe realise.

Grrrr. *scares you all*

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

I wish that I wasn't such a hot exhibitionist - and that people knew there was a brain and personality behind this extraordinarily hot exterior.

I think people are intimidated by me. Cos of me being so scary.

When I'm not. I'm lovely. And way more insecure than people maybe realise.

Grrrr. *scares you all*

 

[AngelicaS1780]

I think that my introversion is often interpreted as aloofness or disinterest, when it's just that I'm quieter and less outgoing. Having a moderate level of social anxiety and self doubt doesn't help the matter. I also think that people perceive me as generally "nice", but not as particularly interesting or funny or fun to be around. I wish I was more confident in showing those sides of myself and in more actively pursuing friendships.

 

[Bry1313]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

It’s hard to be so sexy to so many people. Im not just a piece of meat everyone. I mean it’s pretty great meat, but there is more.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I feel the same way

I really have no idea how I am perceived here, so

It's not Lit specific.

 

[Photog1rl]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I’ve been told I’m intimidating. I think I am just direct and outspoken.
I do know what I say is sometimes misinterpreted and that it must be at least partially due to my communication skills. I guess I wish people knew my intentions are almost always good.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I know people don't see me how I see myself and I'm very grateful for that because my self image is god awful.

If I could change anything?
I think I'm tougher than some people assume. My quietness and efforts to always be kind have sometimes been interpreted as me being too fragile and naive. I'd like that to be recognised I think

 

[Indie]

I think people are intimidated by me. Cos of me being so scary.

Guilty as charged.

 

[Yesok1]

I know people don't see me how I see myself and I'm very grateful for that because my self image is god awful.

If I could change anything?
I think I'm tougher than some people assume. My quietness and efforts to always be kind have sometimes been interpreted as me being too fragile and naive. I'd like that to be recognised I think

I think your self image has affected your idea as to what needs to change.

You are no one's fool, you are steadfast and true.

I think you need more self confidence, because you are viewed a lot more strongly than you give yourself credit for.

 

[Biggalute]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I wish I wasn't seen as so Galute/Neanderthal/Silverbackgorillaish and people could see the soft, delicate soul within

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I'm not 100% sure how people perceive me but I know it's all my fault.

I've spent a lot of time keeping people at an arm's length, for a variety of reasons and then can be surprised when I've trained people to stay back. I think when you try to be yourself all the time, the perceptions can be mixed but that's just because no one is all one thing. So if I'm confusing, I guess it's because I'm authentic? But I wish I was perceived as a little more delicate than I let myself give off.

Jesus that answer made no sense. (hits post anyway)

 

[GhostOfFAS]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

Honestly, I don’t really have a problem with the way I’m perceived both here and IRL. I guess maybe I’d like to be viewed as more approachable, overall. And maybe a little more put-together in person.

 

[BlackBacchus]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I don’t know how people perceive me.
I know who I am, but it’s hard to allow that to completely come across anymore.

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

I'm not 100% sure how people perceive me but I know it's all my fault.

I've spent a lot of time keeping people at an arm's length, for a variety of reasons and then can be surprised when I've trained people to stay back. I think when you try to be yourself all the time, the perceptions can be mixed but that's just because no one is all one thing. So if I'm confusing, I guess it's because I'm authentic? But I wish I was perceived as a little more delicate than I let myself give off.

Jesus that answer made no sense. (hits post anyway)

It made sense.

Our perceptions of people that we don't know every well are typically simple one dimensional ideas. Even our perceptions of people we do know well are most often much less complex than all of who they are. And we tend to understand people's actions through the lens that we see them, confirming to ourselves our own flawed interpretations.

So I try not to worry too much about what people think of me other than how it would affect my relationships with people I care about or things that are important to me. No one can really understand anyone else exactly right and I think that's ok.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

It made sense.

Our perceptions of people that we don't know every well are typically simple one dimensional ideas. Even our perceptions of people we do know well are most often much less complex than all of who they are. And we tend to understand people's actions through the lens that we see them, confirming to ourselves our own flawed interpretations.

So I try not to worry too much about what people think of me other than how it would affect my relationships with people I care about or things that are important to me. No one can really understand anyone else exactly right and I think that's ok.

That's definitely a very healthy way to look at it.

Being overly self-aware is my Achilles heel (or so my therapist would have you believe )

 

[BlackBacchus]

That's definitely a very healthy way to look at it.

Being overly self-aware is my Achilles heel (or so my therapist would have you believe )

Mine says the same thing. Lol

 

[Yesok1]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I'm not the bully or outlandish woman some people see me as.

I wish I wasn't perceived as cruel by some here.

I am willing to change because I do listen. I try too hard to be liked and go too far the other way.

 

[Photog1rl]

But I wish I was perceived as a little more delicate than I let myself give off.

This is so, so important. Coming off as strong and competent (which you do) often is misinterpreted for not being delicate.

 

[LadyLascivious1]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I’ve answered a similar question in the past and said I wished people didn’t assume I was cold just because I don’t get very obviously emotional about most things.

So this time I’ll go with another one. I wish that family, friends, and colleagues didn’t perceive me as immune to stress. Yes, I’m generally unflappable and will figure out how to handle almost anything. That doesn’t mean I want to or that it doesn’t negatively impact me. I’m doing it because I care and can help, but it takes a toll.

 

[AlexBailey]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?

I wish people could see me as just being myself instead of assuming or projecting that I’m trying to fool anyone or appropriate anything from anyone else.