❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[BongoGal]

And Harry Houdini (he's a looker and good with ropes and probably his fingers )

I don't know about looker, but the dude was ripped. I imagine that he'd let me tie him up, but while I was doing it I'd ask with surprise, "Wait a sec... how the hell did you tie me up while I was tying you?!"

 

[hotwords229_A]

I'm going to doc you 1pt for Medusa unless you can cite the historical era she existed

She continues to exist in my pervy thoughts. Is that an era?

She also existed in Ancient Greece—prove she didn’t!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

She continues to exist in my pervy thoughts. Is that an era?

She also existed in Ancient Greece—prove she didn’t!

Ok ok! Until my time machine is out of the shop, you can have your 1pt back!
You just like her because she makes you SO hard right??

 

[hotwords229_A]

You just like her because she makes you SO hard right??

It’s like you’ve read my mind.

 

[AveryElle]

The whats of history?
Oh!

Annals joke for me???

 

[UsuallyPresent]

I'm going to doc you 1pt for Medusa unless you can cite the historical era she existed

So kind, doc'ing instead of docking. *wince* That'd've just been cruel.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

I'm het, but I'd have loved to have a chat with Ben Franklin. The author of Fart Proudly and the saying, "In wine there is wisdom, in beer there is freedom, in water there is bacteria" would have been fascinating to pick the brain of. Does nothing for me sexually, but time travel ain't all that available, and while he'd be disappointed in my education we'd at least have English in common.

I'd have loved to talk with Michaelangelo, but I don't speak Italian. . . . would'a made it rough to actually talk.

 

[Neanderthal247]

01.08.25 (happy new year! )

(suggested)

If you were going to have a threesome with any two historical figures (assuming all modern day cleanliness standards), who would you chose from the annals of history?

Bonus points for visual aids!

Nefertiti Egyptian Queen




Helen Queen of Sparta, then Helen of Troy Trojan Princess

 

[AlpineFresco]

Annals joke for me???

I'd happily dedicate nigh-on anything to you!

 

[Jeph77]

It’s like you’ve read my mind.

You could only do her in the mirror.

 

[Jeph77]

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Nefertiti Egyptian Queen


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Helen Queen of Sparta, then Helen of Troy Trojan Princess

lovely, but not bewitching enough, no tragedy in her eyes, if she jilted you, you'd be fine

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.12.25

This weeks questions comes in two parts and requires some deep thoughts. Fair warning.

1. I had a discussion with a friend last week about a meme I read that I instantly disagreed with but thought was probably true (see part 2). The meme stated "To much availability kills your value". Do you think someone's availability affects how you feel about them? Do you love when someone is always available for you? Or does the "leave them wanting more" type leaving your craving them more? Are there things that do affect someone's "value" to you? Do you feel like you are too available or do you wish you could be more available? Let's be honest, friends!

2. Are there idioms or adages that you inherently disagree with but think might be true in their essence? I'll give you an example. The phrase "if they wanted to they would" is widely accepted to be true but I disagree with its premise, sometimes people very literally can't. Can you disagree with someone else's truth? (This could get very political obvs so please be kind)

 

[UsuallyPresent]

1) In general the more available the less valuable - people, places, food & drink, etc. Scarcity drives a large portion of our valuation of 'stuff'. However there are exceptions - the biggie is love, IMO.

Available love (erotic, agape, etc etc etc) SHOULD always be highly valued. It's possible to lose sight of it against newer shinier options, but those with mixed or positive family relationships should know what I mean. It's easy to jump after someone/something new when you've got loving support all around you, even to the detriment of the older relationship.

2) I'm sure there are, pithy sayings tend to be pissy realities, but I don't recall any other than your example above. Frain's bried, come back later. *wry grin*

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

. It's possible to lose sight of it against newer shinier options, but those with mixed or positive family relationships should know what I mean. It's easy to jump after someone/something new when you've got loving support all around you, even to the detriment of the older relationship.

I hadn't really thought about the "newer, shinier" idea but that's an interesting take on availability. I think using family relationships as a juxtaposition for that is even more interesting.

"treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen"

Lol, I've never heard this saying before but I know exactly the type of people you're talking about. I'm stealing.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.12.25

This weeks questions comes in two parts and requires some deep thoughts. Fair warning.

1. I had a discussion with a friend last week about a meme I read that I instantly disagreed with but thought was probably true (see part 2). The meme stated "To much availability kills your value". Do you think someone's availability affects how you feel about them? Do you love when someone is always available for you? Or does the "leave them wanting more" type leaving your craving them more? Are there things that do affect someone's "value" to you? Do you feel like you are too available or do you wish you could be more available? Let's be honest, friends!

2. Are there idioms or adages that you inherently disagree with but think might be true in their essence? I'll give you an example. The phrase "if they wanted to they would" is widely accepted to be true but I disagree with its premise, sometimes people very literally can't. Can you disagree with someone else's truth? (This could get very political obvs so please be kind)

1. I think availability, for me, is about intentionality and quality > quantity. For the vast majority of people, I'd rather have a really good talk once a week than feel the need to check in every day (there are a few exceptions to this) but I don't intentionally keep away or go silent in an attempt to make someone want me more. That feels weird and manipulative, to me personally. Sometimes (a lot of the time) I just don't feel very people-y.

How I feel about other people's availability falls somewhere squarely in the middle. I don't want most people to assume I can be around 24/7 because I can't and it can feel like I'm someone's entertainment. But it's nice to know someone wants to talk to you and makes an effort to touch base. I think it's just very dependent on the person and the type of relationship. I'm not the interesting so most people will probably enjoy a random check in vs a daily relationship. Lol.

I hate the idea of putting a "value" on people and here I will put an adage that I do agree with - Do you like them or do you like how they make you feel? I think a lot of people want someone to be available to give them a quick dopamine boost, Lit especially. I'm not even saying there's anything wrong with it as long as you're being honest with yourself.

2. Now... this questions has been percolating in my brain for a while. I think, especially with these statements that sound good and are easy to pop off in an argument or in support of a friend, etc., they sounds good and so they feel truthful or like things we can live our lives by but.... nothing is every so simple or black and white.

Nuance is the spice of life and every relationship, interaction, decision, etc, has so many strings connecting a million other things together. It's kind of wonderful how complex things are ... exhausting... but wonderful. So, I like the idea of making idioms that just apply to my and my situations (no I'm not telling!). I find them infinitely more helpful than some generic phrase. I think something can be true for you and not for me, emotionally. Differing points of view change everything but (and I hate that I have to say this) some things are just facts and you can't have different versions of facts just how you feel about those facts.

Ok, that made no sense but there it is.

 

[TomTeacher19]

01.12.25

This weeks questions comes in two parts and requires some deep thoughts. Fair warning.

1. I had a discussion with a friend last week about a meme I read that I instantly disagreed with but thought was probably true (see part 2). The meme stated "To much availability kills your value". Do you think someone's availability affects how you feel about them? Do you love when someone is always available for you? Or does the "leave them wanting more" type leaving your craving them more? Are there things that do affect someone's "value" to you? Do you feel like you are too available or do you wish you could be more available? Let's be honest, friends!

2. Are there idioms or adages that you inherently disagree with but think might be true in their essence? I'll give you an example. The phrase "if they wanted to they would" is widely accepted to be true but I disagree with its premise, sometimes people very literally can't. Can you disagree with someone else's truth? (This could get very political obvs so please be kind)

1) No. The first two things I thought of regarding this were me and my dad. I'm a teacher. My availability changes massively at different times during the year. I'm super available in the summer. When I'm also coaching I'm almost totally unavailable. But I don't believe my value changes. Value is determined by skill and interest and passion and relationship. My dad is retired. He has a lot more availability now than ever. But I don't think of him as being any less valuable or valued. I think I understand the sentiment they are shooting for there but I don't think it works.

2) the one I immediately thought of that I disagree with and always have is "whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger". I know many things with many people that didn't kill them but did not make them stronger. Sometimes I think adages are really just cleverly phrases excuses.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Some thinking was done, and I think the phrase I'd like to consign to the dustbin of the English language is "love conquers all". I used to believe it, but it doesn't. That's all I have to say on the matter.

That's a good one. It reminded me of something someone told me before I got married - which annoyed me at the time but was altogether very true. "Love isn't all you need."

 

[hotwords229_A]

Do you think someone's availability affects how you feel about them?

Not really. There are certainly times when I wish someone was more available, but it doesn’t make me like them more or less.

Do you love when someone is always available for you? Or does the "leave them wanting more" type leaving your craving them more?

I think with friends/family availability is implied. Meaning, when needed, they will be there unless it’s impossible.

Example: I may not be available for dinner, but if you really need me for something important, I will be there.

Are there things that do affect someone's "value" to you?

Sure. Actions will always determine a person’s value to me.

Do you feel like you are too available or do you wish you could be more available?

I think I’m just available enough.

Can you disagree with someone else's truth?

Yes. Their truth may not be, and probably isn’t, the truth.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.18.25

How important is it to you to be liked by others? Do you consider yourself generally likeable? What's more important that being liked? What's less important? Does it bother you when you sense someone doesn't like you? Do you strive to change their mind? Does how your likability matters change depending on the person (i.e. do you want one type of person to like you more than another)? How have your feelings on this changed as you've gotten older?

 

[Wand3rlust]

01.18.25

How important is it to you to be liked by others? Do you consider yourself generally likeable? What's more important that being liked? What's less important? Does it bother you when you sense someone doesn't like you? Do you strive to change their mind? Does how your likability matters change depending on the person (i.e. do you want one type of person to like you more than another)? How have your feelings on this changed as you've gotten older?

I'd like to say it isn't important, but I think every one wants to be liked, even those who profess not to care. I don't lose sleep over it though, unless it's somone I really car about.
I'm adorable, so who wouldn't like me? But joking aside, of course everyone is different and not everyone is everyone's cup of tea. And that's fine. As long as the person isn't being actively dislikable to YOU, then you need to let it go. I'm sure there are people who find me annoying, and I'm sure there are people I find annoying. Doesn't have to be an issue, or affect anything. It's not that deep.

I wouldn't try to change their minds. Sometimes, you need to accept the reality. And just try to be civil and stay out of each other's way. Passive aggressive digs are not the answer.

I think as I got older I'm more aware of people not liking me. I don't think it impacted me when I was younger. But again. I'm not aware of anyone actively disliking me.

 

[Peter_Out]

I'm more or less that same as @Wand3rlust. I'm normal (well, ish!), I want to be liked. I won't change who I am, or pretend to be someone I'm not, to try to make that happen. There's a whole lot of DGAF in me, expecially these days. I've been an outsider for most of my life, and being quite aware that I'm, at best, "an acquired taste", and at worst actively disliked and excluded. C'est la vie.

Having said that, most people on here, for example, only get to see one side of me - like holding up a playing card (the Ace of Spades, in my case, obviously ) - but there are some who get to see other faces of my card (and if the card seems to occupy more than the traditional three dimensions, that's because it does). They're all me, it's just that very few people get to see them all.

You know I'm born to lose, and gambling's for fools,
But that's the way I like it baby,
I don't wanna live forever,
And don't forget the joker!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

01.18.25

How important is it to you to be liked by others? Do you consider yourself generally likeable? What's more important that being liked? What's less important? Does it bother you when you sense someone doesn't like you? Do you strive to change their mind? Does how your likability matters change depending on the person (i.e. do you want one type of person to like you more than another)? How have your feelings on this changed as you've gotten older?

Hello question inspired by therapy

I think I'm a pretty likable person when I want to be (and that's the key). I supposed I prefer people to like me vs not but the effort I've put into making people like me has waned as I've gotten older. I like people who are just themselves and why wouldn't I want to be liked for just being myself?

I can also admit that I'm not for everyone. I'm silly. I always play devil's advocate. I talk too much and think too much and am rarely happy to settle instead of grow or change. I think the only time someone not liking me bothers me is when their opinion of me is based on one side of a story or what they heard about me instead of their own interactions but then do I want to be liked by someone who does that? Maybe. That's a thinker.

I'd prefer someone to respect me or be kind to me more than like me. (It's like the old debate of would you rather be around someone kind or someone "nice" or "sweet" because one certainly doesn't equal the other.) What's less important than being liked? Hmm someone agreeing with me. I'd prefer a nice debate than a yes man.

I'd prefer the people I respect and like to like and respect me. Is there any better compliment than someone who you think is really smart telling you that they think YOU'RE smart! What! Yes! That's the absolute best feeling.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

01.18.25

How important is it to you to be liked by others?

I don't need everyone to like me. In fact too much attention stresses me out. But if I care about someone then yes it is important.

Do you consider yourself generally likeable?

I think so? I try really hard to be kind, a good listener, open minded etc but I'm not a naturally confident or outgoing person and sometimes I keep myself closed off - like when my mental health is bad.

What's more important that being liked? What's less important?

I think it's important to just be true to yourself and not try to fit into a persona that you might think is more socially desirable.

I am a huge overthinker and this week I have actually really struggled with wondering if people actually "like" me (anxiety brain) but I think the truth is probably more that I never know if I'm doing things right. The joke I made - was it funny or was I being humoured. The questions I ask - do people not want to tell me to back off?

But ultimately all I can be is me. I can't fake character attributes to try and win popularity points and I wouldn't want to either.

Does it bother you when you sense someone doesn't like you?

If it's someone I like then yes absolutely. I'm annoyingly sensitive to vibe changes and if I think they're off with people I'd thought I was close with then it sends me into a huge spiral, wondering how to fix it again.

Does how your likability matters change depending on the person (i.e. do you want one type of person to like you more than another)?

I just want the people I like to like me

How have your feelings on this changed as you've gotten older?

I'd want to think I'm too mature to worry about things I can't control but I do. It's maybe because I'm quite a solitary person by nature so if I reach out and try and make a friend and I value it more than them - it happens - then it really affects me because I am always all in with a friendship and want that person to be the same.

I've also gone through a lot of therapy and had experiences of being badly hurt by people I trust so my spidey sense is off. I know I'm insecure and a pleaser. I worry that if I make myself unavailable for even a day then I'll be forgotten about.
It's exhausting living in my brain

 

[Neanderthal247]

01.18.25

How important is it to you to be liked by others?

Not important to me at all

Do you consider yourself generally likeable?

On Lit, not so much.

In person, almost everyone likes me.

What's more important that being liked?

Being respected

What's less important?

People I don't respect

Does it bother you when you sense someone doesn't like you?

Not at all 

Do you strive to change their mind?

No, for what ?
Just be yourself, if they like you it's cool, if they don't it doesn’t matter

Does how your likability matters change depending on the person (i.e. do you want one type of person to like you more than another)?

Only if it's a woman I want, but I won't change unless, I feel I was wrong about an issue.

How have your feelings on this changed as you've gotten older?

In a way, I didn't care much and now I care even less lol

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I am a huge overthinker and this week I have actually really struggled with wondering if people actually "like" me (anxiety brain) but I think the truth is probably more that I never know if I'm doing things right. The joke I made - was it funny or was I being humoured. The questions I ask - do people not want to tell me to back off?

Very relatable. I think the idea that I'm just being humored or tolerated is one I constantly struggle with. But honestly, if we talk everyday and you're just tolerating me? Work on those boundaries

If it's someone I like then yes absolutely. I'm annoyingly sensitive to vibe changes and if I think they're off with people I'd thought I was close with then it sends me into a huge spiral, wondering how to fix it again.

Lol are we the same person? Being an empath is the pits sometimes.