❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[Indie]

On the friendships topic. I see what I will refer to as “collectors” (for want of a better term) around me here at Lit. People that gather humans around them like bees, they list you know maybe twenty people in the grateful threads etc and have a continual flow of different names as their best friend at any given moment, that changes so randomly and often. I don’t judge those people, (sometimes I feel like they maybe have it right maybe that’s how Lit SHOULD be done) but I also don’t understand them and I question the terminology they use, how they manage their collections, and what those friendships actually look like when you sink into them. coz I’m nosey like that ya know.

 

[Photog1rl]

On the friendships topic. I see what I will refer to as “collectors” (for want of a better term) around me here at Lit. People that gather humans around them like bees, they list you know maybe twenty people in the grateful threads etc and have a continual flow of different names as their best friend at any given moment, that changes so randomly and often. I don’t judge those people, (sometimes I feel like they maybe have it right maybe that’s how Lit SHOULD be done) but I also don’t understand them and I question the terminology they use, how they manage their collections, and what those friendships actually look like when you sink into them. coz I’m nosey like that ya know.

I often find myself thinking about how people lit and wondering if I’m doing it wrong.

 

[Shenanigans90]

I don't know if long thoughtful convos are Lit's thing anymore but... let's try again.

05.01.24
Adult Friendships

How do you even? Do you make friends easily or does just the right person need to come along? Are they lifelong connections or do they burn bright brief? What are some hints that someone you meet is friendship material for you? Are you a good friend to have? Have you ever had to end a friendship?

I’m outgoing and generally make friends very easily in real life. Online has been a little more difficult because I have to really build a trust with someone before I let my guard down. Anyone that I share my personal life with is a friend to me. Friendship to me is about trust, loyalty, and patience.

I’ve had a few friendships fade into the sunset for one reason or another but they are still near and dear to my heart.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

I don't know if long thoughtful convos are Lit's thing anymore but... let's try again.

05.01.24
Adult Friendships

How do you even? Do you make friends easily or does just the right person need to come along? Are they lifelong connections or do they burn bright brief? What are some hints that someone you meet is friendship material for you? Are you a good friend to have? Have you ever had to end a friendship?

I find it hard to make new friends. I'm shy and introverted. I'm also very anxious and struggle going to different places.
The friends I have I've known for years and they've weathered the storms my mental health has thrown at them so I know they're there for life.
I'm part of a close group of 4 that met each other while working the same job in our 20's. We only see each other maybe once a year but the conversations and jokes pick right back up again and the only signs of time passing are the grey hairs and our kids growing up.
I've had more casual, circumstantial friendships where we've bonded for a particular reason but had no common ground outside of it. They don't last as people move on but they've still been valuable.
I like to think I'm a good friend. It takes me a while to get comfortable enough with someone that I want to let them in to my life but when I do I'm loyal and giving of my time and energy.
I'm drawn to all kinds of people I guess. I like people who are open, kind and funny. I'm too insecure for anything else.

 

[devilsanus]

As a hardcore introvert. I've found it really difficult to make friends here and in real life.

It probably doesn't help that I'm a completely selfish asshole as well.

 

[GSDom]

On the friendships topic. I see what I will refer to as “collectors” (for want of a better term) around me here at Lit. People that gather humans around them like bees, they list you know maybe twenty people in the grateful threads etc and have a continual flow of different names as their best friend at any given moment, that changes so randomly and often. I don’t judge those people, (sometimes I feel like they maybe have it right maybe that’s how Lit SHOULD be done) but I also don’t understand them and I question the terminology they use, how they manage their collections, and what those friendships actually look like when you sink into them. coz I’m nosey like that ya know.

What an interesting idea, but as I think about being here on lit for as long as I have, it’s all true. And you’re right, sometimes I also find myself wondering if they are doing it right, who’s to say. Anywho, thanks for making me think so early in the day. Lol.

 

[GSDom]

I often find myself thinking about how people lit and wondering if I’m doing it wrong.

Welcome to my world!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

What a busy day but I've so enjoyed reading everyone's responses. Some of you have perfectly put words to some of my feeling.

@StillRain - I'm also not a needy friend's friend. I like being wanted and hate being needed (probably definitely unhealthy). Though I can be kind of scattered sometimes so I so appreciate my friends that stay on top of checking in.

@orangecurious - Making friends by proximity is such an adult thing and hard when you're in a period of life where there aren't many friendable folks in proximity.

@sallysparrow23 - I could have written almost every word of what you wrote and the feeling of your life changing significantly and the affect it has on the people around you is so deeply felt. The only part of leaving the church I regret is the community I lost. I also fight opening up.

@Orchidea - the terminology of friendship has to be something other languages do better. There is a place between acquaintance and FRIEND. I hate to use tiers but sometimes that's the only way to explain it.

@Photog1rl - I often think I do Lit wrong. But I also think a lot of other people do it... weirdly so I think we find people who do it the same way we do and those become our people? Maybe? I'm probably wrong!

@RosewoodTulip - Another one I could have written. It takes a while for me too and also a natural chemistry. Friendship chemistry is a thing right?

 

[Whiskeyjack]

I don't know if long thoughtful convos are Lit's thing anymore but... let's try again.

05.01.24
Adult Friendships

How do you even? Do you make friends easily or does just the right person need to come along? Are they lifelong connections or do they burn bright brief? What are some hints that someone you meet is friendship material for you? Are you a good friend to have? Have you ever had to end a friendship?

I'm reminded of the closing scene of "Stand By Me," where Richard Dreyfus writes, "I never had friends later on like I did when I was 12. Jesus, does anyone?" And that hits the nail on the head. Adult friendships are so much harder to come by, so much more work to maintain, and so much more easily broken. At least in my experience. I have a fair number of acquaintances - people I'm comfortable being around, having a beer with, that sort of thing, but with the exception of my wife, no one I'd say is a close friend. Maybe there are some adults that make friends easily? I'm not one of them. I'd like to think I'm a good friend to have, but I don't know how true that actually is. I'm out of practice.

 

[TunnelKing089]

I don't know if long thoughtful convos are Lit's thing anymore but... let's try again.

05.01.24
Adult Friendships

How do you even? Do you make friends easily or does just the right person need to come along? Are they lifelong connections or do they burn bright brief? What are some hints that someone you meet is friendship material for you? Are you a good friend to have? Have you ever had to end a friendship?

I would say almost every friend I have approached two or three separate times before I actually spoke back to them,I just don't warm up too quickly but I do pretty well after I'm comfortable around them.I don't mind solitude,actually I prefer it most of the time but I like company/chat now and then.But if you ever get in my circle you are gold for life lol.

And I think G.Washington said "No company is better than bad company" so yeah.

 

[StillRain]

I'm reminded of the closing scene of "Stand By Me," where Richard Dreyfus writes, "I never had friends later on like I did when I was 12. Jesus, does anyone?" And that hits the nail on the head. Adult friendships are so much harder to come by, so much more work to maintain, and so much more easily broken. At least in my experience. I have a fair number of acquaintances - people I'm comfortable being around, having a beer with, that sort of thing, but with the exception of my wife, no one I'd say is a close friend. Maybe there are some adults that make friends easily? I'm not one of them. I'd like to think I'm a good friend to have, but I don't know how true that actually is. I'm out of practice.

This movie. That line.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.04.24

Ok fun random question. I think set designer is one of the great unspoken arts so ... What TV kitchen is the most iconic to you? This can be a show that you grew up with or one with a memorable scene that took place there.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.04.24

Ok fun random question. I think set designer is one of the great unspoken arts so ... What TV kitchen is the most iconic to you? This can be a show that you grew up with or one with a memorable scene that took place there.

For me, there are threw which stand out for the use of the space and the scenes that took place.

The classic I Love Lucy kitchen

The Golden Girls (has to be the best used for hilarity)

And for my childhood nostalgia ... we've gotta go with Full House

 

[sallysparrow23]

Fun question!

Friends

And, The Simpsons

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Fresh Prince kitchen is pretty iconic

 

[LadyLascivious1]

There are more, but the first that came to mind was the Home Alone kitchen for the holiday and late 80s nostalgia factors.

 

[GhostOfFAS]

 

[Mav Unlimited]

 

[Indie]

This one!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

This one!
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I was hoping this one would pop up!

 

[Whiskeyjack]

05.04.24

Ok fun random question. I think set designer is one of the great unspoken arts so ... What TV kitchen is the most iconic to you? This can be a show that you grew up with or one with a memorable scene that took place there.

Lot of great answers already said. A couple others that come to mind are just shows where the kitchen is a center of the action.
The Honeymooners


Who's the Boss?

 

[hotwords229_A]

05.04.24

Ok fun random question. I think set designer is one of the great unspoken arts so ... What TV kitchen is the most iconic to you? This can be a show that you grew up with or one with a memorable scene that took place there.

I still think this was one of the best shows ever on tv.
The kitchen was also the family room, dining room, entertainment room and living room.
It was sparse in everything but life lessons and love.

 

[beachbaby179]

 

[Broken_paladin]

best kitchen ever

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.16.25

What's one thing you wish you could change about the way people perceive you?