A question for hotwife couples

[luckyseven]

Yes, she liked to be desired, and I was proud to have someone who other men lusted for.

I love seeing my wife sexually satisfied, and why should a sexual lady be limited to one man?

 

[gtnlynn]

I love seeing my wife sexually satisfied, and why should a sexual lady be limited to one man?

Lynn proved in college that she could have sex with other men without impacting our relationship. It was fun, and I enjoyed her stories.

 

[luckyseven]

It has never impacted in our marriage and for me it is arousing hearing her stories as well!

 

[cuckoldbill]

Thats a lovely sentiment fella... I can tell you are a pleasure giver, as am I

Add me to that list. I have done everything to put my wife’s pleasure and fun above all else.

 

[lc69hunter]

I hate the term Hotwife as it implies that a woman must be hyper sexual if she has occasional sex outside of her marriage. I think the opposite may be closer to the truth.

I believe that in many marriages the woman's libido declines more quickly than the mans, and perhaps disappears entirely with the arrival of menopause. I think some husbands encourage their wife to have occasional sex with other men as a catalyst to reinvigorate her overall interest in physical intimacy. It's like the sexual equivalent of jostling the logs of a fire that has nearly gone cold. And of course his expectation is that when her libido increases, her sexual interest in him will increase as well.

This would also explain why some husbands are fine giving their wife this latitude, even if she is unwilling to reciprocate. Put simply, she needs outside sex to restore her diminished libido whereas he may not.

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me. The next morning, over breakfast, she admitted what happened and why, and we determined that both of us should have a hall pass when out of town, away from friends, family and co-workers, as we decided that a random one-off 1000 miles from home, was no threat to a good marriage. She has actually helped me get laid, by talking with any woman I was with, over the phone, telling her what our dynamic was.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me. The next morning, over breakfast, she admitted what happened and why, and we determined that both of us should have a hall pass when out of town, away from friends, family and co-workers, as we decided that a random one-off 1000 miles from home, was no threat to a good marriage. She has actually helped me get laid, by talking with any woman I was with, over the phone, telling her what our dynamic was.

For any man in a long term marriage/relationship, sooner or later your wife will begin to feel less and less thrilled when you tell her she is "beautiful, adorable, kind, intelligent, and SEXY." The shine has worn off our compliments, and it isn't her fault. That is just the way it works. My wife felt the same way, that it was my 'job.' to encourage and compliment her. Then along comes a 'stranger,' who compliments her, flirts with her, and ends up fucking her. She feels re-energized, and as you said, her libido is increased, making it beneficial to not only her, but the husband, and any 'boy toy,' along the way. I say "Go for it." If your marriage is strong, it will survive.

 

[bjlatx]

My wife and I fantasized about it for years. I had fantasized about it since before we got married. I had been the side piece to her out of town boyfriend while we were in college. She wouldn’t break up with him though to date me. He was really hung! He and I were friends before he moved, so we would all hang out when he was in town. I’d have to watch her be his girlfriend in social situations and then know that she was about to go ride his huge dick all weekend. She ended up having yet another side piece and I ended it with her as I was insanely jealous about this new guy. I knew she loved me, but she really wanted to fuck this new guy. She eventually came back to me after a few months and we began dating and then got married. She was faithful to me for 25 years before she finally became a hotwife. I really really wish that we had just talked it out when we were you. I wish she had just said that she loves me and will always love me, but I need to fuck other men. I probably would have gone along with it as she has always been the love of my life. We both regret that we weren’t as mature back then. She could have really plowed through some dicks over the years. She’s very attractive and has no problem finding guys.

 

[Bayzapper10]

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me.

That was the exactly the preamble to our moving into the lifestyle. My wife “lost” feeling desirable during the “mom” years, no matter how many times I said it, or how many times men OPENLY were flirting with her, she maintained some cognitive dissonance that she was beautiful and sexy. When she was 47 we went to a party with a bunch of my friends, so she posted up in a quiet corner while I made the rounds. The 28 year old son of a friend of mine sat down and spent two hours trying to seduce her - and almost succeeded. It flipped some switch in her, broke through whatever barriers she had erected over the years telling herself that she wasn’t desirable. And her turbocharged libido that resulted from that two hour seduction hasn’t waned. I raise a silent toast to that guy all the time.

 

[readinggp]

In our situation its 100% about her, I have zero desire to be with another woman, its all about her having fun with other guys and I enjoy knowing she is getting fucked and I enjoy the stories, mess, and reclaiming her after. It’s incredibly hot for me.

 

[Justusnluv]

Like many other cuckold couples we shave many similarities. Me, myself seemed to be a natural born cuckold. Thinking back every girl I have ever been in a serious relationship either cheated in me or cuckold me. I never ended a relationship because she found herself in the arms of another man. My first wife cuckold me (although didn't even know the word existed back then) me after a party with my boss. As you can imagine he became a regular at my house. Every weekend he would spend the nights. After our relationship ended for other reasons. I met my current wife.
I quickly realized that this wonderful woman needed to experience pleasure. We both decided to be swingers. After a few not great encounters with other couples I suggested that we really don't need a couple. We need a man for her, as she was more than enough woman for me. Well, this arrangement worked so much better. My beautiful wife was truly being pleased and pleasured and I was able to reap the sexy rewards of her encounters. We as a couple have discovered a few important things about this lifestyle. communication is key. This is true for all relationships, but feel like it actually happens in cuckold relationships. Love. We quickly realized that love and sex are not inclusive. We do NOT confuse love with sex or sex with love. We have gone through many what I called Cuckold stages in pur relationship and are still in love.

 

[bjlatx]

In our situation its 100% about her, I have zero desire to be with another woman, its all about her having fun with other guys and I enjoy knowing she is getting fucked and I enjoy the stories, mess, and reclaiming her after. It’s incredibly hot for me.

This is exactly like us. I have no desire to be with another woman. It never really even comes up in my fantasies. I alway fantasize about her fucking other men.

 

[magicalmoments]

Not sure why I'm replying to his thread, I've never been in what I understand a hotwife relationship to be. However the question posed, about guys raising the issue with their wives a ameans to get them access to sex with other women rang true.

My wife and I were high school sweethearts, we lost our cherries to each other, married at age 20 and neither of us had had sex with any one else. about 5 years into the marriage I started wondering what I may he missed out on, sexually by only ever having the one sexual partner. I began to obsess over it. I didn't want to cheat and I developed the idea of convincing my wife to try partner swapping. My sole motivation was my desire to experience fucking other women. I never admitted that to her, I always took the line that it was to enhance our sexlives, provide extra stimulus for us. Long story short, after a couple of years discussing the idea we entered the lifestyle. I got my wish. We had the next 18 years living it. She discovered fairly quickly that couple swapping was not her thing, she preferred MFM 3'sums but she was happy for me to carry on seeing others so I could also have some fun. She preferred to have a permanent FWB on call as opposed to a string of different lovers, she only had 3 different guys over the 18 years, so not a true hotwife as such. But my point is, my motivation at the beginning was to use my wife as the means to fuck other women, it worked for me.

 

[SlutAddicted]

So I read on lit couples or guys that talk about having a hotwife lifestyle or fantasizing about wanting a hotwife lifestyle and the thing I read over and over again is " You want this so you can be with other women "
Next comment to almost 100% is the guys denying they want that.
Really????
Just this past weekend we were out together and she had on an ankle bracelet and I made the comment that I see you have your hotwife ankle bracelet on. It was a joke as she doesn't look at ankle bracelets that way.
Anyway back to the subject and question I need answered.
Why is that the first question out of so many wives mouths? " You looking to be eith other women?" And the husband immediately falling over and saying no.
I don't see myself not seeing others if she is and honestly I am ok if she does. We have talked about it with both sexes.
To me a hotwife doesn't just mean being with other men it could be women too.
Please share why so many guys feel they would just sit back and not look for a playmate also.

I think that whether I am ok with (or enjoy) her being with other men is a very different matter than whether I want to be with other women. The former doesn't make the latter automatically true. It is just a matter of what each person wants being different.

We tend to think of the two going together and they do for many people, but there is no reason that they must go together. We just default to that because it is wired into how we think about monogamy, jealousy, etc. If she is "getting away with" something then so should I - we must be even. Conventional thinking implies that I am denying myself something rather than simply not wanting it.

If my wife likes skiing there is no reason that I must also want to ski. Maybe it is because she is a better skier and therefore has a better experience. Or maybe she just enjoys it more than I do. Maybe I'd rather be on my snowmobile while she skis. It is just personal preferences and desires that differ.

Or as another example I like golf more than my wife. She enjoys playing a round with me as a couples thing, but doesn't (or rarely) plays with others. Meanwhile I regularly play with other people. Why is she content to just sit back and not pursue other partners while I play with others? There is no reason. It is just her preference.

 

[num1scamp]

So I read on lit couples or guys that talk about having a hotwife lifestyle or fantasizing about wanting a hotwife lifestyle and the thing I read over and over again is " You want this so you can be with other women "
Next comment to almost 100% is the guys denying they want that.
Really????
Just this past weekend we were out together and she had on an ankle bracelet and I made the comment that I see you have your hotwife ankle bracelet on. It was a joke as she doesn't look at ankle bracelets that way.
Anyway back to the subject and question I need answered.
Why is that the first question out of so many wives mouths? " You looking to be eith other women?" And the husband immediately falling over and saying no.
I don't see myself not seeing others if she is and honestly I am ok if she does. We have talked about it with both sexes.
To me a hotwife doesn't just mean being with other men it could be women too.
Please share why so many guys feel they would just sit back and not look for a playmate also.

I am a hotwife. I can fuck who I want to. My husband and I have an open marriage. I am also his sub as well, and I gladly submit to him and do sexually whatever he wants me to. He also lends me to other Doms sometimes as well. I do enjoy being used as a sub, it is freeing actually. We originally met as swingers. He sometimes date's other women, but not very often actually. I do sometimes wear anklet's as well. My favorite one is a female symbol surrounded by male symbol's tha also says hotwife. When men ask to see it I usually lift my foot and put it in their lap. If they are smart they'll look up my skirt or dress and see there is no underwear. If a good looking man touch's my leg I automatically spread them. Some men are smart, others not so much.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I am a hotwife. I can fuck who I want to. My husband and I have an open marriage. I am also his sub as well, and I gladly submit to him and do sexually whatever he wants me to. He also lends me to other Doms sometimes as well. I do enjoy being used as a sub, it is freeing actually. We originally met as swingers. He sometimes date's other women, but not very often actually. I do sometimes wear anklet's as well. My favorite one is a female symbol surrounded by male symbol's tha also says hotwife. When men ask to see it I usually lift my foot and put it in their lap. If they are smart they'll look up my skirt or dress and see there is no underwear. If a good looking man touch's my leg I automatically spread them. Some men are smart, others not so much.

Mmmm! Cum to Daddy!

 

[bjlatx]

I am a hotwife. I can fuck who I want to. My husband and I have an open marriage. I am also his sub as well, and I gladly submit to him and do sexually whatever he wants me to. He also lends me to other Doms sometimes as well. I do enjoy being used as a sub, it is freeing actually. We originally met as swingers. He sometimes date's other women, but not very often actually. I do sometimes wear anklet's as well. My favorite one is a female symbol surrounded by male symbol's tha also says hotwife. When men ask to see it I usually lift my foot and put it in their lap. If they are smart they'll look up my skirt or dress and see there is no underwear. If a good looking man touch's my leg I automatically spread them. Some men are smart, others not so much.

Damn, I wish my wife would get to this level.

 

[Beachsyrf]

My longterm girlfriend recently made it very clear to me that she is well aware of my fantasy that she have sex with other men and, frankly, quite tired of my talking about it and urging her to do it.

It seems my bringing it up during sex is having the opposite of the intended effect. It was a difficult thing to hear (once I finally understood) and accept; that what I thought was exciting and stimulating was a real turn-off for her.

I have stopped with all the sharing & experimenting pillow talk per her stated wishes .... but I still find the thought of it to be very stimulating .....

Ever since I’d posted this, I have abstained from bringing up the topic of my gf having sex with other men while we’re having sex. Honestly, I missed that component of our sex life when we were fucking. In fact, it didn’t really feel like “fucking”. I realize there are times for making love but I missed them”fucking”.

Then, one night, my gf reminded me of a porn video we watched where the cougar wife is nude sunbathing in the back yard and the HOA president drops by to inform her there had been complaints by neighbors …. well, of course they end up fucking. She said it was kind of hot when, after they’d moved into the living room to fuck, the housewife says, “ ….. hurry up and cum before my husband gets home!”

Her response to that was super hot and it wasn’t long before we were fucking (as in; NOT “making love”).
Another thing that was a turn-on was that the guy looked a LOT like a guy I had been pretty sure she had been hooking up with several years ago, a couple of years into our relationship.

So, this past weekend, we were in bed and I brought him up. His name was Scott. I said, “That HOA guy in the video looked like Scott …. “ Then I said to her, as I have several times in the past, “I’m pretty sure you and Scott hooked up … “. She said, “Not even …”

I reminded her of their conversations she’d told me about, how he & his wife didn’t have sex because his cock was too big and it hurt his wife. She maintained that they never fucked but I said,

“But did you ever see his cock?” …… (this was just this past weekend) and she said,

“Yes, I saw it.”

“Did you fuck him?”

“No …. “

Erring on the side of caution, mindful of her prior admonishment to stop encouraging her to fuck other guys, I let it go and we continuing having sex. But I could tell the conversation was arousing to her. She got very wet and was soon enjoying a nice, loud orgasm..Afterwards, she reverted to the whole, “It’s never gonna happen”, “Stop bringing it up.” She even said my mind was “skewed”.

Ever since then I have been thinking about her “seeing” Scott’s dick. I strongly suspect that it was a dick-pic he texted her because I am CERTAIN if she’d “seen” it in person she would done much more than “see” it! Actually, I am now more sure that they did fuck, and many times. And it’s a huge turn-on.

I so want to bring it up to let her know my honest response to her, after all there years, confessing to have seen his dick, that my response wasn’t and isn’t jealousy or anger. I’d like to let her know that it has been on my mind and that, if they were fucking, she can tell me and I won’t be angry or upset; either that it happened or that she kept it from me for so long.

 

[Isinlarsa]

Although I'd be excited as hell for her to meet a single guy it never came to that, I was always with their wife. To me I looked at it as a means for her to fuck someone else. I had little interest in what I did with their wife it was always about how much fun mine had. Sex is supposed to feel good, and it was but there never any?? spark? connection?? with the few other wives. The other men got the better part of the deal.

In the beginning she asked why I wanted to do this expecting I'd say yes, I wanted another woman. It didn't take long before she realized I had this kink of her being with someone else and didn't get off on what I did with them.

When we have swapped with another couple I'm always thinking about my wife getting fucked by another man, whether they are laying beside me, or in another room. I'm not sure I would get hard otherwise.

 

[Beachsyrf]

Ever since I’d posted this, I have abstained from bringing up the topic of my gf having sex with other men while we’re having sex. Honestly, I missed that component of our sex life when we were fucking. In fact, it didn’t really feel like “fucking”. I realize there are times for making love but I missed them”fucking”.

Then, one night, my gf reminded me of a porn video we watched where the cougar wife is nude sunbathing in the back yard and the HOA president drops by to inform her there had been complaints by neighbors …. well, of course they end up fucking. She said it was kind of hot when, after they’d moved into the living room to fuck, the housewife says, “ ….. hurry up and cum before my husband gets home!”

Her response to that was super hot and it wasn’t long before we were fucking (as in; NOT “making love”).
Another thing that was a turn-on was that the guy looked a LOT like a guy I had been pretty sure she had been hooking up with several years ago, a couple of years into our relationship.

So, this past weekend, we were in bed and I brought him up. His name was Scott. I said, “That HOA guy in the video looked like Scott …. “ Then I said to her, as I have several times in the past, “I’m pretty sure you and Scott hooked up … “. She said, “Not even …”

I reminded her of their conversations she’d told me about, how he & his wife didn’t have sex because his cock was too big and it hurt his wife. She maintained that they never fucked but I said,

“But did you ever see his cock?” …… (this was just this past weekend) and she said,

“Yes, I saw it.”

“Did you fuck him?”

“No …. “

Erring on the side of caution, mindful of her prior admonishment to stop encouraging her to fuck other guys, I let it go and we continuing having sex. But I could tell the conversation was arousing to her. She got very wet and was soon enjoying a nice, loud orgasm..Afterwards, she reverted to the whole, “It’s never gonna happen”, “Stop bringing it up.” She even said my mind was “skewed”.

Ever since then I have been thinking about her “seeing” Scott’s dick. I strongly suspect that it was a dick-pic he texted her because I am CERTAIN if she’d “seen” it in person she would done much more than “see” it! Actually, I am now more sure that they did fuck, and many times. And it’s a huge turn-on.

I so want to bring it up to let her know my honest response to her, after all there years, confessing to have seen his dick, that my response wasn’t and isn’t jealousy or anger. I’d like to let her know that it has been on my mind and that, if they were fucking, she can tell me and I won’t be angry or upset; either that it happened or that she kept it from me for so long.

This guy looks a bit like "Scott" and he may be the guy who played the HOA guy in the video I mentioned ....

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I wish I knew who he is or other videos he's been in so I can show my gf & ask her if Scott's dick was this big. He has a BIG dick!

 

[Sgts19]

When we have swapped with another couple I'm always thinking about my wife getting fucked by another man, whether they are laying beside me, or in another room. I'm not sure I would get hard otherwise.

Just knowing what she was probably be doing would make me hard

 

[Isinlarsa]

Just knowing what she was probably be doing would make me hard

It does me to, when she goes out solo.

 

[Beachsyrf]

This guy looks a bit like "Scott" and he may be the guy who played the HOA guy in the video I mentioned ....

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I wish I knew who he is or other videos he's been in so I can show my gf & ask her if Scott's dick was this big. He has a BIG dick!

I was informed that this is Danny D. He's apparently quite well known. I wish I knew what video of his this is from.

 

[Beachmomny1966]

So I read on lit couples or guys that talk about having a hotwife lifestyle or fantasizing about wanting a hotwife lifestyle and the thing I read over and over again is " You want this so you can be with other women "
Next comment to almost 100% is the guys denying they want that.
Really????
Just this past weekend we were out together and she had on an ankle bracelet and I made the comment that I see you have your hotwife ankle bracelet on. It was a joke as she doesn't look at ankle bracelets that way.
Anyway back to the subject and question I need answered.
Why is that the first question out of so many wives mouths? " You looking to be eith other women?" And the husband immediately falling over and saying no.
I don't see myself not seeing others if she is and honestly I am ok if she does. We have talked about it with both sexes.
To me a hotwife doesn't just mean being with other men it could be women too.
Please share why so many guys feel they would just sit back and not look for a playmate also.

For me, hotwife means all of that, while the husband is denied. My husband chose to let me pussy be everyone else’s and no longer his.

 

[John_Q_Dough]

So he’s forever pussy free?
Are there medical issues, or you’re done with 3” dick? You should cage him!

 

[num1scamp]

I'm a hotwife. Do i have sex with other men than my husband, yes. He can have sex with other women too, but he rarely does. The more sex I have, it seems the more I want. My husband always knows where I'm at and what I'm up to. For safeties sake, as well as I always let him know what I'm up to. While I dislike condoms I always use them unless i know someone very well. I carry 3 sizes in my purse always. I love to dance and go to clubs a lot to do so. My husband can't, he has a bad leg. Sometimes i meet men that really turn me on, if that happens, I let him know and tell him where I'm at. We've had an open marriage for a while. I really appreciate the freedom of being able to respond when a man turns me on.