A question for hotwife couples

[luckyseven]

I have never been with anyone other than my wife, and she knows that. She also knows that I enjoy hearing her stories of sex with others from before we married and after I gave her permission during our marriage. It worked fine with us. She decided to stop having sex with others when she turned 40, although she still got offers.

I assume you were both very flattered that men wanted to have sex with her - my wife loves it and is often tempted!

 

[gtnlynn]

I assume you were both very flattered that men wanted to have sex with her - my wife loves it and is often tempted!

Yes, she liked to be desired, and I was proud to have someone who other men lusted for.

 

[luckyseven]

Yes, she liked to be desired, and I was proud to have someone who other men lusted for.

I love seeing my wife sexually satisfied, and why should a sexual lady be limited to one man?

 

[gtnlynn]

I love seeing my wife sexually satisfied, and why should a sexual lady be limited to one man?

Lynn proved in college that she could have sex with other men without impacting our relationship. It was fun, and I enjoyed her stories.

 

[luckyseven]

It has never impacted in our marriage and for me it is arousing hearing her stories as well!

 

[cuckoldbill]

Thats a lovely sentiment fella... I can tell you are a pleasure giver, as am I

Add me to that list. I have done everything to put my wife’s pleasure and fun above all else.

 

[lc69hunter]

I hate the term Hotwife as it implies that a woman must be hyper sexual if she has occasional sex outside of her marriage. I think the opposite may be closer to the truth.

I believe that in many marriages the woman's libido declines more quickly than the mans, and perhaps disappears entirely with the arrival of menopause. I think some husbands encourage their wife to have occasional sex with other men as a catalyst to reinvigorate her overall interest in physical intimacy. It's like the sexual equivalent of jostling the logs of a fire that has nearly gone cold. And of course his expectation is that when her libido increases, her sexual interest in him will increase as well.

This would also explain why some husbands are fine giving their wife this latitude, even if she is unwilling to reciprocate. Put simply, she needs outside sex to restore her diminished libido whereas he may not.

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me. The next morning, over breakfast, she admitted what happened and why, and we determined that both of us should have a hall pass when out of town, away from friends, family and co-workers, as we decided that a random one-off 1000 miles from home, was no threat to a good marriage. She has actually helped me get laid, by talking with any woman I was with, over the phone, telling her what our dynamic was.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me. The next morning, over breakfast, she admitted what happened and why, and we determined that both of us should have a hall pass when out of town, away from friends, family and co-workers, as we decided that a random one-off 1000 miles from home, was no threat to a good marriage. She has actually helped me get laid, by talking with any woman I was with, over the phone, telling her what our dynamic was.

For any man in a long term marriage/relationship, sooner or later your wife will begin to feel less and less thrilled when you tell her she is "beautiful, adorable, kind, intelligent, and SEXY." The shine has worn off our compliments, and it isn't her fault. That is just the way it works. My wife felt the same way, that it was my 'job.' to encourage and compliment her. Then along comes a 'stranger,' who compliments her, flirts with her, and ends up fucking her. She feels re-energized, and as you said, her libido is increased, making it beneficial to not only her, but the husband, and any 'boy toy,' along the way. I say "Go for it." If your marriage is strong, it will survive.