Anyone else?

[Fingerfuxs]

Very true. Less risk and still some satisfaction.

Hi , I bumped a old thread of yours I believe , maybe couple months ago


You scolded me for it too ,

That’s the best , hello I could come up with. Hi , .

 

[SgtSpiderMan]

I'm not in a relationship like that, but how do you stay in a relationship like that?

 

[javajug]

Same story as so many here. There can be many reasons to stay in a relationship. But, I never took a vow of celibacy. So, I've decided to go outside the relationship for sex. I reject the idea that it's cheating. Use it or lose it.

 

[curvyjae]

Hi , I bumped a old thread of yours I believe , maybe couple months ago


You scolded me for it too ,

That’s the best , hello I could come up with. Hi , .

was it really a “scolding”? Lol

 

[curvyjae]

Same story as so many here. There can be many reasons to stay in a relationship. But, I never took a vow of celibacy. So, I've decided to go outside the relationship for sex. I reject the idea that it's cheating. Use it or lose it.

I’ve often thought about just flat out telling him if he doesn’t want me he needs to let me find someone who does but that would hurt him so here I am on here.

 

[javajug]

I’ve often thought about just flat out telling him if he doesn’t want me he needs to let me find someone who does but that would hurt him so here I am on here.

I hear you 100%.

Would you mind if I PM you?

 

[Kodiak1975]

I hear you Curvy in the same boat for a while now. So just trying to make some friends and talk to people.

 

[Didntask]

I’ve often thought about just flat out telling him if he doesn’t want me he needs to let me find someone who does but that would hurt him so here I am on here.

I’ve thought about telling him the same damn thing. He’s either clueless or fine with rarely wanting sex.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

was it really a “scolding”? Lol

It’s a kool word , used in that context , at least I thought so.

I have a terrible habit of bumping old threads. But in my defense , sometimes I get lost in reading a thread and forget it’s older and not in the current flow of new posts. Then before I know it , bam !!

I’m in a comment dilemma lol , mods are alerted some times….. Breaking news , a old thread has been bumped. This son of a gun done bumped a older thread again and it’s a ticketing offense….lol

I get a mod warning PM , it reads , yadda , yadda , yadda …. I think *yo Self ……> oops my bad. Then carry on , it’s really the only thing to do. At best I’ll see the author around the boards , or in a current thread so I can apologize, somewhat in person.

My apologies for bumping your older thread

It’s nice to see you are posting again.

 

[melodymkr4u]

Anyone else mostly happily married? Like your life is good- have good jobs, don’t fight, all appears well, but there’s just nothing there. No spark. No passion. Literally like living with a roommate that you share a bed with? You try and try to initiate things, go on dates, do special things for them hoping they’ll return it or there will be a spark or passion, yet nothing happens. What do you do? Stay? Leave? Stay and just find someone on the side to fulfill those needs?

I can’t be the only one?!?

This is a situation where being in an Ethical Non-Monogamous relationship comes in handy. I went through menopause for a very long and painful 4 years. My libido tanked. I felt guilt, sadness, frustration, depression and many days thought my sex life was gone forever. I tried everything. Pills, creams, you name it. Nothing worked. Prior to those 4 years, I was a sexual machine. I couldn't get enough. I had multiple partners and the hubby had a couple. Our sex life was off the charts. Literally.

I can tell you that throughout those 4 years the thing that hurt the most was the guilt. My inablity to desire sex and be with my husband intimately was like a knife to the heart.

The worst possible thing you can do in this situation is act as though they are doing it to you. If you think you are going through it alone, you are sadly mistaken. Put yourself in their shoes and ask yourself, "What would I want from my partner if the shoe was on the other foot?"

Peace.

 

[Billyjoerayjimbob91]

Anyone else mostly happily married? Like your life is good- have good jobs, don’t fight, all appears well, but there’s just nothing there. No spark. No passion. Literally like living with a roommate that you share a bed with? You try and try to initiate things, go on dates, do special things for them hoping they’ll return it or there will be a spark or passion, yet nothing happens. What do you do? Stay? Leave? Stay and just find someone on the side to fulfill those needs?

I can’t be the only one?!?

Alas, you are not the only one. I am in that same boat.

 

[curvyjae]

Are you an ai bot account.

Me or the post you quoted?

 

[Dorc]

Anyone else mostly happily married? Like your life is good- have good jobs, don’t fight, all appears well, but there’s just nothing there. No spark. No passion. Literally like living with a roommate that you share a bed with? You try and try to initiate things, go on dates, do special things for them hoping they’ll return it or there will be a spark or passion, yet nothing happens. What do you do? Stay? Leave? Stay and just find someone on the side to fulfill those needs?

I can’t be the only one?!?

Hey, 60 GLMWM with a terrible guilt conscious that keeps me (mostly) in check. Marriage is good, very vanilla in bedroom which brings me here, to fantasy land. But, after 30 years of marriage I cum here often. I’ve had several opportunities to find someone else and been offered by 2 different couples to do a Mmf threesome which I turned from. Ive broached various fantasies to her but no go. Made me wish….. I’m in terrible conflict but still haven’t strayed. I feel like my life is mostly good, but damn I’d like to be bad once or twice with a bad girl without the guilt. I live out naughtiness through lit/porn.

 

[uboat1]

Hey, 60 GLMWM with a terrible guilt conscious that keeps me (mostly) in check. Marriage is good, very vanilla in bedroom which brings me here, to fantasy land. But, after 30 years of marriage I cum here often. I’ve had several opportunities to find someone else and been offered by 2 different couples to do a Mmf threesome which I turned from. Ive broached various fantasies to her but no go. Made me wish….. I’m in terrible conflict but still haven’t strayed. I feel like my life is mostly good, but damn I’d like to be bad once or twice with a bad girl without the guilt. I live out naughtiness through lit/porn.

Dorc, I totally agree with your statement. If you dont use it , you will lose it with time.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Me or the post you quoted?

Me , the post he quoted , I don’t think he likes me , or he’s a cockblocker !!

No , I’m not a AI bot or time traveler

I’m a podcaster , sometimes a goofball , human man

 

[Rt127]

Anyone else mostly happily married? Like your life is good- have good jobs, don’t fight, all appears well, but there’s just nothing there. No spark. No passion. Literally like living with a roommate that you share a bed with? You try and try to initiate things, go on dates, do special things for them hoping they’ll return it or there will be a spark or passion, yet nothing happens. What do you do? Stay? Leave? Stay and just find someone on the side to fulfill those needs?

I can’t be the only one?!?

You just pretty much summed up my life, but i sleep on couch.

 

[Colo567]

Missing the touch

Very true. Less risk and still some satisfaction.

Agree but sometimes online is just not quite enough. Lacking physical, sexual touch can hurt a lot. But something is always better than nothing!

 

[Rt127]

Makes you wish for a free pass to do whatever you want a few nights a year!

I'll take one of those please!!!

 

[jaycolt]

I agree with many of the posters on this thread and am in a very similar situation. Open to talk with anyone about it too.

 

[CambridgeDom]

Keep the faith

No, you're not the only one. I've used your exact words repeatedly with my wife. Every time we have any sexual encounter is like her very first one. Clumsy, awkward, not enjoyable, and there is no romance or passion. There is zero spark. But, we try to take care of the kids together, etc.

I stay for 2 reasons; she'll attempt to destroy my relationship with my kids (she can be quite vindictive), she'd bankrupt me though the courts if I tried to leave, and that would end up with less provision for my kids.

I just want to feel alive.

I hear you buddy - same here, and Lit is kind of saving my mind. I ache for proper physical connection though, and the way it lifts my spirits. Peace x

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Without quoting a bunch of people. Might I suggest you visit this section of the site.

https://forum.literotica.com/forumdisplay.php?f=57

Online Companionship is just a post away actually. Here on Lit with the written word you can be anyone you want to be. Any age you want to be as a consenting Adult . Talk about anything you don’t now with your current situations being whatever they are.

In that section of the site it’s a given that you have a imagination, want to share thoughts and sexuality along side of every day stuff normal people talk about. You don’t have to be a writer of any certain level to make a thread there. Suggest what you want to talk about in a ongoing conversation and go from there. Or read some of the other intro threads , there home bases if you will.

Online companionship has the potential to be more , but in reality lonely is lonely and you don’t have to be. The first real step is being who you want to be , not the poor slob stuck in a relationship that is depressing you.

It’s making the effort , remembering the singles game of seduction if you find someone’s intro thread you like and can relate to. See Lit through a different Lens then a sex site for hookups. See it as a social site that people read and interact with each other with small talk and such first and foremost.

Good luck

FF

 

[chuckypip69]

confusion

I know the feeling all too well, and it is easy to get caught up in all those missing sexual desires.

 

[KDBisback]

Anyone else mostly happily married? Like your life is good- have good jobs, don’t fight, all appears well, but there’s just nothing there. No spark. No passion. Literally like living with a roommate that you share a bed with? You try and try to initiate things, go on dates, do special things for them hoping they’ll return it or there will be a spark or passion, yet nothing happens. What do you do? Stay? Leave? Stay and just find someone on the side to fulfill those needs?

I can’t be the only one?!?

It’s as if I wrote this myself

 

[Booboobear84]

Anyone else mostly happily married? Like your life is good- have good jobs, don’t fight, all appears well, but there’s just nothing there. No spark. No passion. Literally like living with a roommate that you share a bed with? You try and try to initiate things, go on dates, do special things for them hoping they’ll return it or there will be a spark or passion, yet nothing happens. What do you do? Stay? Leave? Stay and just find someone on the side to fulfill those needs?

I can’t be the only one?!?

I stay because other than sex she is amazing. As humans we tend to overrate the thing we are missing and under appreciate the things we have.

 

[Lovethefox]

Anyone ever get away with it. For real?

I sincerely doubt it.
One way or another, it will come out as it did for me. Either you’ll get caught or get tired of hiding it. Save yourself the prolonged agony and have the discussion.