Ask Doctor Liz ... Again

[LizVegas79]

JustPlatonic just helped me have an interesting thought that maybe might be food for thought for a few other people this weekend, so I thought I'd share:

You're absolutely right about being attracted to people we want to fix. And I would even take it one step farther and say we are sometimes attracted to people we want to fix because we want to fix something in us.

Wow, when did psycho-sexual therapy get so heavy?

Way to kill a thread Liz, right?!!

Sorry.

But if anyone has any thoughts or experience with this, please do share. I welcome any and all comments about it.


- Doctor "You're Fucked Up. I'm Fucked Up. We're All A Little Fucked Up" Liz

 

[whenagain]

JustPlatonic just helped me have an interesting thought that maybe might be food for thought for a few other people this weekend, so I thought I'd share:

You're absolutely right about being attracted to people we want to fix. And I would even take it one step farther and say we are sometimes attracted to people we want to fix because we want to fix something in us.

Wow, when did psycho-sexual therapy get so heavy?

Way to kill a thread Liz, right?!!

Sorry.

But if anyone has any thoughts or experience with this, please do share. I welcome any and all comments about it.


- Doctor "You're Fucked Up. I'm Fucked Up. We're All A Little Fucked Up" Liz

My current crush has so many problems, and I just wish I could help. She’s Fucking another guy tho, one she’s admitted is bad for her.

Does this make me a simp?

 

[LizVegas79]

My current crush has so many problems, and I just wish I could help. She’s Fucking another guy tho, one she’s admitted is bad for her.

Does this make me a simp?

Dear Eager To Help,

No, I don't believe so. It may indicate that you're thinking with the wrong head again, but that can be forgiven if she's ever confided in you, which it sounds like she has. If she's cute on top of that, well then, you can't be blamed for wanting to make her happy. Even if that means it makes you happy too.

When a woman confides in a male friend about her love life, an implicit bond and vulnerability is established. She is, consciously or unconsciously, reaching out to you for help, or at the very least advice. Whether you give her any is up to you and whether she takes any is up to her. Which has the reverse effect on the implicit bond that was created earlier.

Of course, giving a woman advice about anything is the slipperiest of slippery slopes. She can resent you for overstepping the perceived bounds of your friendship and you can resent her for not taking what might very well be sincere advice that is indeed in her best interest.

But sometimes, people don't want to be helped. Sometimes they are most comfortable in the center of the chaotic world they have created for themselves. When a chaos junkie and a more stable person meet and/or try to get together it's a real challenge. Honestly, it usually doesn't work out.

But, sometimes it does. I am living proof of it. My husband saved me from myself way back when but it wasn't easy. I broke up with him three times because I felt like he was trying to control me. If it hadn't been for his patience, and his willingness to answer his phone every time I called at 2AM to cry on his shoulder, we wouldn't be together today.

So hang in there. But don't give her too much advice. Be there for her when she needs you and she may eventually realize that you're the guy she wants AND needs.

- Doctor "It Takes Time To "Fix" People AND They Have To Want To Be Fixed" Liz

 

[LizVegas79]

"Has anyone seen my lab coat? Who the fuck stole my fucking lab coat?
Who's going to pay me for my advice if I'm not wearing a lab coat?"

 

[n8Romantic]

Me: "I want you to pick one and tell me why you picked her.
It will tell me a lot about you and help me determine the
best course of therapy for you and your little problem."


- Doctor "We Evaluate You In Many Different Ways" Liz

Heck Doc, I'm so conflicted! None of these lovely ingenue flip my switch. Honestly, it's not them. It's me. Now if they were about 20 - 30 years older with a little more flesh...

What's wrong with me?

 

[LizVegas79]

Heck Doc, I'm so conflicted! None of these lovely ingenue flip my switch. Honestly, it's not them. It's me. Now if they were about 20 - 30 years older with a little more flesh...

What's wrong with me?

Dear Taking Responsibility,

Oh it's not them, sweetie. It's definitely you!!

Older women are great and it's nice to hear a guy appreciating them for once.

But, I know, and all the other women on here know, that deep down (or about half way down anyways ) you're totally lying.

That's okay though because we appreciate it! We are also now fully committed to rocking your world. Which may have been your plan all along.

So, I'm sad to report, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you.


- Doctor "Lie To Me Today and I Might Be Extra Nice To You Tonight" Liz

 

[LizVegas79]

I was kidding about killing my thread!

I didn't really did I?

 

[whenagain]

Dear Eager To Help,

No, I don't believe so. It may indicate that you're thinking with the wrong head again, but that can be forgiven if she's ever confided in you, which it sounds like she has. If she's cute on top of that, well then, you can't be blamed for wanting to make her happy. Even if that means it makes you happy too.

When a woman confides in a male friend about her love life, an implicit bond and vulnerability is established. She is, consciously or unconsciously, reaching out to you for help, or at the very least advice. Whether you give her any is up to you and whether she takes any is up to her. Which has the reverse effect on the implicit bond that was created earlier.

Of course, giving a woman advice about anything is the slipperiest of slippery slopes. She can resent you for overstepping the perceived bounds of your friendship and you can resent her for not taking what might very well be sincere advice that is indeed in her best interest.

But sometimes, people don't want to be helped. Sometimes they are most comfortable in the center of the chaotic world they have created for themselves. When a chaos junkie and a more stable person meet and/or try to get together it's a real challenge. Honestly, it usually doesn't work out.

But, sometimes it does. I am living proof of it. My husband saved me from myself way back when but it wasn't easy. I broke up with him three times because I felt like he was trying to control me. If it hadn't been for his patience, and his willingness to answer his phone every time I called at 2AM to cry on his shoulder, we wouldn't be together today.

So hang in there. But don't give her too much advice. Be there for her when she needs you and she may eventually realize that you're the guy she wants AND needs.

- Doctor "It Takes Time To "Fix" People AND They Have To Want To Be Fixed" Liz

Thank you doctor. That helps.

 

[hairball18]

I was kidding about killing my thread!

I didn't really did I?

Still alive and kissing.

 

[whenagain]

Dear dr Liz,
I have a problem. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a while now, and she’s great! However I have a bit of a crush on her and lately I’ve been looking up therapy porn on pornhub. I feel so bad about it but I can’t stop!
Do you have any advice?

 

[LizVegas79]

Dear dr Liz,
I have a problem. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a while now, and she’s great! However I have a bit of a crush on her and lately I’ve been looking up therapy porn on pornhub. I feel so bad about it but I can’t stop!
Do you have any advice?

Dear Self-Medicating,

What have I told you about trying to self-mediate sweetie? :caning:

Leave it to a professional. A professional like me who knows what she's doing and has been down this road with countless other patients and eased all of their pain with glowing, sticky 5 Gold Star reviews!

Now, be a good boy and come into my office for a PRIVATE SESSION.


- Doctor "Now Offering Limited Time Only Private PM Sessions" Liz

 

[HoneyedChocolatelips]

Dear Dr Liz,

I can not believe I have only just found this thread! I love it! I also have a question, is it possible to have too many shoes, especially when some are just for playing in? Apart from this I am very eco-friendly.

Also will my wish to get people to start saying things like that guys got a big clit instead of big balls ever take off? You know like 'that was a clitty move, hats off to you, you must have flaps of steel!

 

[LizVegas79]

Dear Dr Liz,

I can not believe I have only just found this thread! I love it! I also have a question, is it possible to have too many shoes, especially when some are just for playing in? Apart from this I am very eco-friendly.

Also will my wish to get people to start saying things like that guys got a big clit instead of big balls ever take off? You know like 'that was a clitty move, hats off to you, you must have flaps of steel!

Dear Honeyed Chocolate Lips,

Your username is just too good to re-invent (the first time )!

Uhh, no. Obvs you aren't familiar with my other thread Shoe Porn LOL. I personally have several pair that have never made it out of the bedroom and in my "professional opinion" there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!!

Shoes are my not eco-friendly weakness as well so let's use our shoes to save the planet. Maybe we could start a fundraiser for Save The Whales or the Sierra Club or something by letting guys pick out the shoes they want to see us to wear after they make a $100 donation.

Or should we make it a $1,000 donation?

Hmm, idk. I have heard and even used the phrase "that was a clitty thing to do" before and although it is fun to say, I haven't heard it very often. Not yet anyway. Love the "flaps of steel" though. That's fucking hilarious! I'm totally using it the next chance I get at work!

It totally has potential though.

QUICK SURVEY: What does everyone else think?


- Doctor "Let's Make It Happen!" Liz

 

[HoneyedChocolatelips]

Thank you doctor, so I will administer the shoe porn thread twice a day for medical reasons?

$1000 donation, sounds great for the whales and such. Wow doctor, you are one damn fine woman with flaps of steel!

 

[LizVegas79]

Thank you doctor, so I will administer the shoe porn thread twice a day for medical reasons?

$1000 donation, sounds great for the whales and such. Wow doctor, you are one damn fine woman with flaps of steel!

Dear Medical Advice Truster,

That's right. Twice a day for medical reasons.

But don't be a clit and never check-in to let me know your progress or if you have any other psycho-sexual medical issues come up!

Flaps of steel - LOL - hmmm, I wonder what that says about my husband's junk?


- Doctor "Yep, Sorry, Flaps of Steel" Liz

 

[BrainTeez]

"... She's got legs, and she knows how to use them ... "

And, that photo is cropped to tease.

Brain "Some Legs Make Great Ear Muffs" Teez

They do indeed.

Now shuttup and keep humming some rock 'n roll for me because I ran out of batteries for my favorite toy. Do you take requests?

Ha, for you Liz, ANYTHING you want!

Brain "You Can Never Have Too Many Batteries" Teez

 

[LizVegas79]

Ha, for you Liz, ANYTHING you want!

Brain "You Can Never Have Too Many Batteries" Teez

True, you can never have too many batteries.

 

[LizVegas79]

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One of my favorite things about going blonde for a little while
is that I can double my billing rate. I trust that won't be a problem?

 

[LizVegas79]

Hmmm, no one liked the idea of me increasing my billing rates, huh? LOL

 

[Azuldrgon]

Hmmm, no one liked the idea of me increasing my billing rates, huh? LOL

Dear Doctor:
*hugs*

Special delivery.

PS, I think blond would be awesome, but I like the other color also.

 

[LizVegas79]

Dear Doctor:
*hugs*

Special delivery.

PS, I think blond would be awesome, but I like the other color also.

Darn. Too late. I already rinsed it out before it set.

 

[CuMex1]

Dear Dr. Liz

Is it perfectly normal for a man to enjoy a little teasing in the bedroom from his wife or girlfriend? You know our dynamic and it’s something that really gets me going when I’m teased especially in regards to size. I’m not sure why it just does lol. Last night in particular was a fun night with role playing and teasing.

 

[LizVegas79]

Dear Dr. Liz

Is it perfectly normal for a man to enjoy a little teasing in the bedroom from his wife or girlfriend? You know our dynamic and it’s something that really gets me going when I’m teased especially in regards to size. I’m not sure why it just does lol. Last night in particular was a fun night with role playing and teasing.

Dear Cute Mexican,

Absolutely perfectly normal.

In fact, sometimes I tease my husband about being small down there too. (even though he totally is not ) He actually loves it and even plays along, apologizing over and over again and asking if there's anything else he can do to please me.

(although sometimes it backfires on me - pun intended I guess lol - because sometimes he takes it as an invitation to flip me over and "do me" in my ass because he's "so small it won't hurt")

So, if you're saying it's not perfectly normal, you can talk to him. Oh, btw, he's 6'4" and trained as a professional security guard and he's got a really bad temper when anyone smaller than him disagrees with him. He also loves to start fights so if you feel like getting your ass kicked, go ahead and keep thinking that you're weird for liking it when you wife teases you in the bedroom. I dare you


- Doctor "If You're Right Then I'm Wrong And We Both Know I'm Never Fucking Wrong, Right?" Liz

 

[LizVegas79]

"Welcome to my clinic. Yes, of course I'm a fully unlicensed professional.
No, Fridays are casual dress day. Saturdays are comfy lingerie day.
Is that going to be a problem? If you would like me to put on my lab coat
before we begin your session that's perfectly fine with me. Although,
I charge an extra $75 if I have to wear my lab coat on Saturdays
so the choice is yours. Lab coat? Or no lab coat?"

 

[hairball18]

"Welcome to my clinic. Yes, of course I'm a fully unlicensed professional.
No, Fridays are casual dress day. Saturdays are comfy lingerie day.
Is that going to be a problem? If you would like me to put on my lab coat
before we begin your session that's perfectly fine with me. Although,
I charge an extra $75 if I have to wear my lab coat on Saturdays
so the choice is yours. Lab coat? Or no lab coat?"

Is it cheaper if you take the lingered off?