ASSHAT AWARDS: Best of the Worst PMs and Emails Received

[00Syd]

Great point! From the male side, the prevalence of "creepiness", primarily bcause of men, I hesitate a lot in talking to women. The specific reason is that I figure regardless of what I say, Im simply going to come across as a perv.

I'm hoping that women will take a second look at the way they respond to approaches for this very reason. Every man deserves to begin with a blank slate.

 

[Hisbeauty]

Every person deserves to begin with a blank slate.

i have been misjudged not on what i have said, but on how i look. And people deserve to be gotten to know for what is inside, not outward.

 

[00Syd]

Every person deserves to begin with a blank slate.

Of course

I only said "man" because I was speaking of a specific situation in which men are misjudged.

 

[bholderman]

Heck, even I blame mostly men for it. One of the reason I quit chat rooms was because of the "Any ladies wanna chat?"

Then the pornbots took over...

 

[00Syd]

Heck, even I blame mostly men for it. One of the reason I quit chat rooms was because of the "Any ladies wanna chat?"

Then the pornbots took over...

Me too, but despite the overwhelming amount of men who act in a creepy way, I still think that women should by and large give every guy the benefit of the doubt. I've caught myself thinking "oh god, not another creep" whenever some man approaches me, before I've even spoken to him, and that's wrong of me. Women are just as much to blame for making the scene an unwelcoming place as men are, IMO. Its something that we all need to work on.

 

[bholderman]

Syd,

Kudoes for thinking that way. I was taking a socialogy class back in the day, I read a piece on an experiment. A grad student dressed up like the toughest hood on the block and stood at a corner. They found that some overwhelming percentage (90% plus) of oncoming pedestrians would cross the street to avoid passing the guy.


I was a bit guilty of those scenario and took it on myself to try and stop doing that. The result, never got acosted, panhandled a few times, but most of the time got a "Hey, how's it going?" or friendly "Whats up?" CHallneging my own prejudices really did wind up changing my view on things, much for the better.

Me too, but despite the overwhelming amount of men who act in a creepy way, I still think that women should by and large give every guy the benefit of the doubt. I've caught myself thinking "oh god, not another creep" whenever some man approaches me, before I've even spoken to him, and that's wrong of me. Women are just as much to blame for making the scene an unwelcoming place as men are, IMO. Its something that we all need to work on.

 

[Homburg]

I was a bit guilty of those scenario and took it on myself to try and stop doing that. The result, never got acosted, panhandled a few times, but most of the time got a "Hey, how's it going?" or friendly "Whats up?" CHallneging my own prejudices really did wind up changing my view on things, much for the better.

People are people. By and large, that tough looking hood is just some guy like you or me. He just comes from a different background and dresses to suit that background. I know I've talked with some really scary looking people and had great conversations with them.

Honestly though, many people would probably say that about me.

 

[Tawny_Temptress]

I know that this might be getting a little too serious for this thread, but its something that I've been thinking about a lot lately.

I've been thinking about how pretty much everything that I find annoying or creepy in the scene comes back to assumptions. People making assumptions about orientation, role, status, relationship-type, whatever. Usually when we label a guy "creepy" its because he either made an assumption about us, approached us with obvious sexual intentions (without making any effort to be friendly first), or both. I'm sure that every woman on this board will agree, this happens a lot, both online and in real life.

I've noticed that because this happens so often, women in the scene (myself included) begin to expect every man who approaches them to be a creepy guy. This has caused the women being approached to start to make assumptions as well. Since I've started thinking more consciously about this, I've started to realize that a lot of guys who I would have previously automatically labeled as creepy (maybe even before they spoke to me) are actually just asking a question, or maybe a little shy, or awkward in some other way. I've really started to think about it, and have stopped writing off every male who approaches me as creepy. I am making a concerted effort to respond to these men politely unless they are truly "creepy guys," and identify themselves as such by making assumptions, having expectations of me (before they know me), and/or approaching me with a sexual offer before trying to get to know me as a friend.

So, yeah. Reading some of the "asshat's" on this thread with this new outlook, I've noticed that a lot of the time the men approaching are not actually doing anything wrong (yet). Many may have a poor hold on the english language, or are possibly a little too blunt, but for the most part many haven't done anything yet that would (now) ring the creep alarm bell in my head. I would advocate taking a second look at any asshat you may receive before responding, so that you cannot be accused of making an equally egregious assumption as the creepy guys we try to ward off.

You are probably right. However, it is hard to give the benefit of the doubt due to all of the cyber jockeys out there.

I have very few people who can PM me. I enjoy my time here much more that way. I used to hide my online status and stop posting when certain people showed up, just so I wouldnt be bothered.

I think because there are so many that "act badly" that we assume all of them are "bad" and I am sure that isnt true.

 

[Keroin]

Hey! I got my first official "Weird in a creepy way" pm today. (Cue fanfare).

Apropos to nothing...

"I am a male and have been seeing the same doctor all my life. She is a childhood friend of my mom and highly trusted by her. I remember the first time I had seen after becoming attracted to girls sexually. She as usual had me put on the paper gown and start the nurses beginning exams while she awaited her arrival. The nurse checked my vitals and took my measurements. As the nurse left and asked me to hop back on the table I jumped badly catching the gown on a corner and causing me to fall down hard on my testicles. I was too embarrassed to be seen so I hopped up quickly holding my balls. The door opened and the doctor entered seeing my gown ripped and my hands quickly leaving my crotch. She asked if anything happened and i said no. She asked me to lay back and the rip in the gown exposed my privates. She saw how swollen my balls were and asked about them. I played dumb and she began examining them in her hands. She asked if I ever felt a pressure like the need to pee but different and i said sometimes. She asked if i knew about masturbation and i said no. She kept up the sex questions and i began getting hard. She told me i was at the age to begin producing cum and needed to learn to release. She left and came back with a video and the nurse. The video was put on and it was an educational on masturbation. It even had a shot of a boy shooting cum for his first time. The whole time my hard cock was exposed for the women and it was twitching every second or so. I was trying to hide the twitches and my hand on it felt so good i squueezed a couple times. Suddenly i felt like i was going to pee and attempted to squeeze hard to hold it in. This made the cum release but only small amounts escaped. when i saw the white stuff shhoot i let go allowing all the cum to blast out all over me and the room. The women just stared as i poured out cum all over."

And deleted.

Now I have to go bleach my eyeballs.

 

[00Syd]

You are probably right. However, it is hard to give the benefit of the doubt due to all of the cyber jockeys out there.

I completely understand and also find it difficult at times, but I think it is important to try.

I think because there are so many that "act badly" that we assume all of them are "bad" and I am sure that isnt true.

Me too.

 

[00Syd]

Hey! I got my first official "Weird in a creepy way" pm today. (Cue fanfare).

<snip>

Now I have to go bleach my eyeballs.

I don't blame you. That was pretty horrific.

 

[Keroin]

I don't blame you. That was pretty horrific.

Sometimes WTF?! doesn't even begin to cover it.

 

[Corylea]

There are days when I consider changing my signature to, "And why did you decide to tell me this," but I can't decide where to put the emphasis:

And WHY did you decide to tell me this?

And why did you decide to tell ME this?

And why did you decide to tell me THIS?

Decisions, decisions.

 

[Netzach]

I see non-response as the middle path of rudeness. I barely answer PM's I *want* to answer. I don't feel the need to carve anyone a new asshole for sending me weird mass mail, nor do I feel I must respond politely either.

 

[Bandit58]

There are days when I consider changing my signature to, "And why did you decide to tell me this," but I can't decide where to put the emphasis:

And WHY did you decide to tell me this?

And why did you decide to tell ME this?

And why did you decide to tell me THIS?

Decisions, decisions.

I'd emphasise the whole sentence. In caps. In RED caps. With exclamation points!

 

[00Syd]

I see non-response as the middle path of rudeness. I barely answer PM's I *want* to answer. I don't feel the need to carve anyone a new asshole for sending me weird mass mail, nor do I feel I must respond politely either.

I usually don't respond, but that's often more out of laziness than anything else.

 

[graceanne]

There are days when I consider changing my signature to, "And why did you decide to tell me this," but I can't decide where to put the emphasis:

And WHY did you decide to tell me this?

And why did you decide to tell ME this?

And why did you decide to tell me THIS?

Decisions, decisions.

How 'bout:

And WHY did you decide to tell ME THIS?

 

[graceanne]

I usually don't respond, but that's often more out of laziness than anything else.

I don't, but that's because I figure that people who send shit like that get off on humiliation (cause sending something like that is just ASKING to be humiliated), and I won't be involved in helping them get off.

 

[Tawny_Temptress]

I wonder if these dip shits actually think anyone believes BS like that when they send it?

 

[Corylea]

How 'bout:

And WHY did you decide to tell ME THIS?

*giggle* Indeed!

In actuality, what I do is simply not answer. I don't know if they're desperate, not entirely sane, or as graceann says, looking to be humiliated, but "back away slowly" is the usual advice for dealing with wild or unpredictable creatures of any sort.

 

[Primalex]

We're plenty tolerant.

We just don't like you.

Of course, we don't like you, too.

 

[MisterSir]

Of course, we don't like you, too.

Late and wide of the mark. Good shooting, soldier.

 

[Keroin]

Today's gem...

"I have a female friend that told me she had never been turned on as much as the time she first encountered her dads sperm scent. She was in high school and at night during a blackout went to her parents room. She found her way by feeling and when reaching the bedroom found the door open. She felt around for the bed and asked if she could crawl in. her mom said ok and my friend lay on top of the sheets next to mom. She soon got a wiff of an unknown smell and inquired. She was not satisfied by the answer and began crawling in darkness under the sheets causing them to expose the parents still hidden in dark. With a searching hand she felt a wet spot on the sheets and pulled a glob to her nose causing her nose to get wet. She found the smell and it was amazing. She asked what it was and they said ice cream spilled earlier. She tasted her wet fingers and said it could be. Suddenly the power was on and the naked cuople were exposed almost completely. Suddenly she looked at her moms face and saw a white blob drying to the side and lips. She looked at dad and saw his semi hard-on leaking pre-cum. She realized what it was and told mom to bottle the perfume coming out of dad and then rubbed moms face to show her the cum on it"



What's the deal? Is my perfume? Did I post "Please pm me with meaningless drivel" one night, while I was drunk and can't remember?

*Cue Twilight Zone Music*

 

[satindesire]

Late and wide of the mark. Good shooting, soldier.

*chuckle*

 

[BiBunny]

Today's gem...

"I have a female friend that told me she had never been turned on as much as the time she first encountered her dads sperm scent. She was in high school and at night during a blackout went to her parents room. She found her way by feeling and when reaching the bedroom found the door open. She felt around for the bed and asked if she could crawl in. her mom said ok and my friend lay on top of the sheets next to mom. She soon got a wiff of an unknown smell and inquired. She was not satisfied by the answer and began crawling in darkness under the sheets causing them to expose the parents still hidden in dark. With a searching hand she felt a wet spot on the sheets and pulled a glob to her nose causing her nose to get wet. She found the smell and it was amazing. She asked what it was and they said ice cream spilled earlier. She tasted her wet fingers and said it could be. Suddenly the power was on and the naked cuople were exposed almost completely. Suddenly she looked at her moms face and saw a white blob drying to the side and lips. She looked at dad and saw his semi hard-on leaking pre-cum. She realized what it was and told mom to bottle the perfume coming out of dad and then rubbed moms face to show her the cum on it"



What's the deal? Is my perfume? Did I post "Please pm me with meaningless drivel" one night, while I was drunk and can't remember?

*Cue Twilight Zone Music*

That is...quite disgusting. I gagged a little when I read it. *Shudder*