haurni
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Safe Bet, it is a real pleasure to read your comments when you're not being angry. You make so much more sense 
I identify as bi, or perhaps 'heteroflexible' (which I think is an interesting word and about which I recently read an amusing article), and could have a loving and faithful relationship with a same-sex partner if they were the right person. That is, as others have stated, it's less about the plumbing than the person. I suppose that if I were to break up with them and later go out with someone else, or if I were to cheat on them, odds are the new relationship would be with someone of the opposite sex, but I don't think that my risk of cheating is any higher than for any other person.
I'm inclined to agree with Stella and Etoile that the issue here is really one of perceived fidelity. I guess that bisexuals, having 'double the options', are seen as potentially having double the risk of straying. However, I wonder if there might also be a(n unspoken?) sentiment that it would be more hurtful if you're gay to have someone leave you for someone of the opposite sex (or, conversely, to have a partner leave you for a gay relationship if you're straight).
So perhaps, all things (including fidelity) being equal, I wonder if maybe the possibility of being rejected itself is seen as bringing with it a higher risk of perceived future hurt when your partner is bi. In other words, "if I'm going to get dumped by someone, I'd rather get dumped for another relationship of the same type [hetero or homo, depending on who you are] than of the opposite type because the latter would imply that it was doomed from the start and [by implication] I was a fool for getting into it in the first place." Did that make any sense?
I identify as bi, or perhaps 'heteroflexible' (which I think is an interesting word and about which I recently read an amusing article), and could have a loving and faithful relationship with a same-sex partner if they were the right person. That is, as others have stated, it's less about the plumbing than the person. I suppose that if I were to break up with them and later go out with someone else, or if I were to cheat on them, odds are the new relationship would be with someone of the opposite sex, but I don't think that my risk of cheating is any higher than for any other person.
I'm inclined to agree with Stella and Etoile that the issue here is really one of perceived fidelity. I guess that bisexuals, having 'double the options', are seen as potentially having double the risk of straying. However, I wonder if there might also be a(n unspoken?) sentiment that it would be more hurtful if you're gay to have someone leave you for someone of the opposite sex (or, conversely, to have a partner leave you for a gay relationship if you're straight).
So perhaps, all things (including fidelity) being equal, I wonder if maybe the possibility of being rejected itself is seen as bringing with it a higher risk of perceived future hurt when your partner is bi. In other words, "if I'm going to get dumped by someone, I'd rather get dumped for another relationship of the same type [hetero or homo, depending on who you are] than of the opposite type because the latter would imply that it was doomed from the start and [by implication] I was a fool for getting into it in the first place." Did that make any sense?
