Bisexual.

[Wolfman1982]

bi/pan/omni sexual. All those labels... hmmm what is it I am seeking at the moment ? well I am always seeking a woman, but I did fall for a guy quite a few years ago, and I have a feeling, that he is a closeted gay guy, and he is my best friend too. But I decided not to pursue it, because I personally prefer his friendship. So what do I prefer ? well I prefer a person, that I feel is the one at the moment, no matter whether the person is male, female or transgendered/transsexual. To me it does not matter . It is the personality I fall for, not what gender they are.

 

[Phydeax69]

Truthfully...I'm male and attracted to women, I love women...BUT....I love cock, and do not find men that attractive, except for their cocks....that said, I'm a big fan of she-males!!! Chicks with dicks are my biggest turn on! But as a rule, I'm pretty much attracted to women!

 

[PenIsMightier1]

I think definitely more to the woman, I find myself being picky about my men, but when the mood grabs me they can turn me on a lot easier.

The problem with me is that most of the guys I find attractive would be completely wrong for, like being just as dominant as me, I can't look at a guy and think one night stand I have to imagine being able to have a relationship with them, but I don't find myself in the same bind with women....aah the wonders of the human mind

 

[Jades]

I've dated Gay ladies that hated that about me and it kind of ate away them a little bit. I know women that won't date a Bi-girl at all because they've had their hearts broken by straight and bisexual women already. They don't know when that bi-girl is going to see a fella and decide that they'll just take a walk across the street into straight heterosexual privilege land. I understand their fear and it is fear. We've all had our hearts broken by at least one straight girl. After awhile you just stop handing it to them to crush.

This is it exactly!

I have never been into casual sex, and so I want a relationship. If I was looking for a hot pussy so to speak, I could find one on fubar or craigslist... but something has to be there for me to want to get sexual with someone.

 

[Mmmmmm06]

Bi - which way?

I am a bisexual female. I enjoy being with men and women equally. Each bring something equally fabulous to the table. But I find if I'm just out in public it will be men who catch my eye. Rarely females. And I'll tell you why (because I've given this entirely too much thought ) Because I automatically assume that people I meet are straight. And I would think the vast majority are. So I kind of turn off that "bi" side because why want what you can't have? I know the younger set is more open about approaching members of the same gender these days. But a more mature, married gal doesn't have that luxury.

 

[PenIsMightier1]

I am a bisexual female. I enjoy being with men and women equally. Each bring something equally fabulous to the table. But I find if I'm just out in public it will be men who catch my eye. Rarely females. And I'll tell you why (because I've given this entirely too much thought ) Because I automatically assume that people I meet are straight. And I would think the vast majority are. So I kind of turn off that "bi" side because why want what you can't have? I know the younger set is more open about approaching members of the same gender these days. But a more mature, married gal doesn't have that luxury.

Mind reader, exactly, I do tend to assume people are straight when I meet them unless I can tell straight away or I find out.

With guys especially, straight guys anyway, get very defensive if you try to find out their sexuality. Ofcourse that is a fairly sweeping generality.

 

[RestlessRenee]

attracted more to women

I have been referring myself as a bisexual woman because I am attracted to men and women, or so I think I am. However, if I am to be brutally honest with myself , I am finding that I am only having the desire for females, not just in a physical way but also on an emotional level. When I am out and about in the real world I am constantly noticing women, my mind begins to ponder questions I have regarding their life. What is their personality like?, what turns them on?, what do they like to do with their free time?, etc . etc. This hasn't happened with males. If I see a male that is good looking I think in my head " wow, he's a great looking guy" but I don't do anymore than that.

I have been quite insatiable these days with watching women only porn. I prefer the porn to be sensual, erotic kissing, lots of verbal communication between the two women of how good it feels. I never watch straight porn.

So who knows what the heck I am. LOL. Perhaps , the way society has been changing in regard to sexual orientation, there may be one day when labels are a thing of the past, and we can just say we are SEXUAL BEINGS!

 

[CNYCarol]

Thank You Renee for so perfectly describing how most of us feel (at least in my mind).

I consider myself GAY.

I've been called bi because I don't have a problem with guys, it's just that my pussy is closed to all but women! I have done ffm and mmf and have no problem going down on a guy, I just am turned off when a guy tries to enter me!

...but to cuddle up on the couch with Diane is Heavenly!

 

[trask9]

For those out there who are Bi, do you find you are attracted to one sex more than the other... or is it about the same?

Do you find it harder to find someone or easier?

Attracted to women alot more than another guy. I tend to be dominate and seek out guys that are feminine and submissive. Love to have another guy on his knees begging me to cum.
Very difficult to find guys that are only into it for sex as I do not want to kiss and hug ect. When I am without female companionship I seek out guys.
I love the act of sex with a woman. Touch, kiss, explore, and bring her to orgasm as many times as I can. To watch a women orgasm, moan, some scream, sends me over the edge.

 

[Mistress]

We've talked of this many times and you know how I feel. I am very sexually attracted to women but at the same time when it comes to sex I lean more toward men...it's the penis.

However, just because I like the man's appendage better for sex doesn't mean I wouldn't try to have a relationship with a woman. I crave the feel of a woman in my hands, but have yet to actually make love to one...in person is much different then on paper/internet/or phone I'm sure lol.

Being bi-sexual does seem to be hard because as you said most full on lesbians aren't sure about a relationship with a bisexual female who is still strongly attracted to men.

 

[haurni]

I do think of myself as a bi guy - I'd call myself a 2 on the Kinsey scale (0-6), i.e. predominantly heterosexual but more than incidentally homosexual. When I'm out in public, I look at women. Most of my fantasies are about women, and I prefer straight (or shemale) porn to gay porn, but I could have an emotional relationship with the right guy and I like the thought of turning guys on and of sucking cock. I've had sexual encounters with roughly equal numbers of males & females (3 & 5 respectively), but so far intercourse only with women (though I hope that will change soon!). I think it's easier to meet and get it on with guys because, in general, they're more interested in and willing to engage in 'just sex'.

 

[satyr987]

I have found it's crucial to distinguish between two drives: sexual attraction and romantic love. The latter is what allows for committed relationships and new families. In my case, I feel this exclusively for women. I am sexually attracted to both sexes, but in slightly different ways.

I find a higher percentage of females attractive than men. In other words, I'm way more picky when it comes to male bodies. However, when I see a man's body that pleases me thoroughly, there is nothing that turns me on as much as that. The times in my life when I was most aroused were caused by men. I think it's the cocks which put me over the top. There's no body part that exudes raw sexuality like a penis, and it can be intoxicating.

Since I desire sex with men but not love partnerships, one might argue that I'm seeking empty gratification. I don't think so. My ideal bed mate is also a good friend; there is plenty of affection there. Furthermore, a man's body affects me at such a deep level, I think it's natural to my makeup. I consider it fulfilling in a way unique from my experiences with women. Now if I could only find a woman who approved of my relations with other men.

In the end, I'm very grateful for my bisexuality. I wouldn't want to go through life deprived of dick, having found out how much pleasure it provides. I don't envy those who sleep exclusively with one sex or the other.

 

[JohnnyVert]

I can love a man as much as I love a woman. I have had boyfriends and girlfriends and an ex-wife. Some at the same time. It is the person with me. It hurts just as much breaking up with a guy you have been seeing and sleeping with, a guy you have kissed and told him that you love him, just like a heterosexual relationship. I still remember the first time I kissed a man and told him I loved him, we were both rock hard in bed, but in the morning I still loved him. We were together for quite awhile. I could marry another man, and if I did I would be the wife for lack of a better word.

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

I don't think any two people will have exactly the same answer to this question; that's the wonderful mystery of human sexuality!

When I first began to think of myself as bisexual, I was used to a previously straight lifestyle, so I thought of men as the norm, and women as a naughty outlet. But at a pace which surprised me, I began to realise women were more important to me than men, both sexually and romantically.

So to answer the question, as a bisexual - sometimes I preferred men, and sometimes women, and it changed. Another individual would have had their own distinct experience.

Nowadays, I no longer identify as bisexual. I am a lesbian. There's no doubt in my mind about that now - it just took until my late twenties, or thereabouts, to realise it.

A huge part of that - to use a pompous word - journey, was when I fell in love with my girlfriend. She is my true love - in a gushy, head-spinning, yearning, soulful way. I'd never felt that way, or experienced real love, when I dated men...at the time I thought I did, but I was wrong.

The idea of having sex with a man again doesn't repel or disgust me - instead, I feel neutrally about the idea. I have no desire for it. If I were ever to break up with my girlfriend, I would seek another woman to share my bed and my life. I just like vaginas too much...

 

[rm1969]

In the past I never thought of myself as bisexual, up until a few months ago. I have always had oral sex only relationships with men and never been attracted to them other than that. Recently I have had quite an attraction to men. I would still say that women attract me more but it is now like 70/30 where before it was like 95/5 split.

I still find women to be sensual, beautiful, sexy and stunning while I find men to be rugged, strong and there is more of a base level of sexual excitement.

I would still prefer to be with women the majority of the time (my wife and GF both like that) but now I do find myself checking out guys and thinking about more than just getting their dick in my mouth.

 

[Little Bird]

It's not really that I'm more attrcted to women than men. I'm rather attracted to certain things in a person, and these things seem to be much more rare for men then for women, so most people I'm attracted to are women. But the fact that they are women doesn't make them more attractive by themselves.

 

[BentSecrets]

For those out there who are Bi, do you find you are attracted to one sex more than the other... or is it about the same?

Do you find it harder to find someone or easier?

I'm a bisexual male, and I find myself more attracted to women, but more sexually turned on by cock. It's not consistent however; sometimes all I can think about is pleasuring a hot, wet pussy with my tongue, fingers and cock.

I'm open to all kinds of play and sharing, though

 

[BentSecrets]

In the past I never thought of myself as bisexual, up until a few months ago. I have always had oral sex only relationships with men and never been attracted to them other than that. Recently I have had quite an attraction to men. I would still say that women attract me more but it is now like 70/30 where before it was like 95/5 split.

I still find women to be sensual, beautiful, sexy and stunning while I find men to be rugged, strong and there is more of a base level of sexual excitement.

I would still prefer to be with women the majority of the time (my wife and GF both like that) but now I do find myself checking out guys and thinking about more than just getting their dick in my mouth.

I can totally relate to that. Earlier this year I started playing with a guy, and it advanced to a regular thing. Eventually I began to bottom for him (well, we did for each other, eventually even progressing to bareback) and I don't know why, but when he'd put me on my back and fuck me like a girl, licking my nipples and kissing me, I got SOOOO turned on.

Too bad he became a possessive asshole.

 

[rm1969]

I have yet to be with another guy other than orally. I love giving and receiving oral sex with men but I need to take it to the next level. I just have this total desire right now to make out with a guy, suck him til he is hard and wet and let him fuck my virgin ass.

 

[sasaou]

I married my husband because I fell in love with him as a whole person, not just because he is beautiful. That being said, I find myself physically attracted to women more often than men.

 

[april-wine]

Jades, Mistress, hello!!! Long time no see ladies!

I have been in a long term relationship (7 years) with a self proffessed "Queer" girl. I have to confess in the beginning I wondered if she would go back to men. But, if you want a relationship to work you gotta go all in! 7 years later and still going strong. The risk is always worth it.