Goldenfinger
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Long story, and I’m not even sure it’s correct. It’s easier than therapy.
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This site is the largest treasure trove of info I've found... it's so voluminous, after months here, I KNOW that I haven't even scratched the surface of it!I hope it is OK if I post in here.
I haven't visited this site for 7 months. I had given up on it. I came out here just now to delete my account, but when I read threads like this one, it makes me want to stay. For someone like me, there is a lot of information in this thread. Much thanks to everyone who has posted.
I have to be in charge and making decisions all day at work. So it’s nice to be able to give all of that up sometimes. I like to sometimes just do exactly as I am told and not have to make any decisions or please anybody unless I am asked to.Men, why do you crave submission? Do you find it easy or hard to talk about your needs? Do you expect your domme to be able to trad your mind or do you like to ask for your needs?
I love submitting since it's normally my nature to both power bottom a little but most Dom/mes tell me I actually submit to most of what they want and please them.Men, why do you crave submission? Do you find it easy or hard to talk about your needs? Do you expect your domme to be able to trad your mind or do you like to ask for your needs?
Very, usually no one seems very interested.You are right, it is harder, as a malesub or trans sub, to talk about your desires.
As a male sub, I've found (both on this site and on other kink-related sites) that sometimes when you talk about your kinks/desires on forums and blogs, some people tend to think it is cringey and don't always react positively to it. Granted, I try never to be judgemental, because as a malesub, I get it; I've experienced sub-frenzy like nobody else and yes, those feelings can be powerful. I've experienced them first hand. I do try to be open and understanding, but if you are a male dom or a female sub, I can also see why they would view male submission (to a woman specifically) as being un-manly, or worse. For a while, I had trouble, for my part, understanding the daddy-little girl male-dom/female sub dynamic as it clearly isn't my thing but the point is- at the end of the day, in the bedroom, it's all about finding and being who you are, and what makes you (and your partner!) happy, so to each their own.
I’m not fully sure myself on why I crave submission, I kind of just fell down the rabbit hole when I discovered porn. Now I’m in a committed relationship and it’s hard to talk to my gf of how I want to submit to her. I want to be used dominated and humiliated by her, but if I tell her I’m afraid she’ll just leave me.Men, why do you crave submission? Do you find it easy or hard to talk about your needs? Do you expect your domme to be able to trad your mind or do you like to ask for your needs?
That’s rough, sorry to hear. I do hope the two of you will talk and it might go better than you fear. Could start with just asking about subbing for her.I’m not fully sure myself on why I crave submission, I kind of just fell down the rabbit hole when I discovered porn. Now I’m in a committed relationship and it’s hard to talk to my gf of how I want to submit to her. I want to be used dominated and humiliated by her, but if I tell her I’m afraid she’ll just leave me.
We’ve talked about it a bit and I have before, but not to the full extent of my fantasies. I always feel embarrassed about bringing it up.That’s rough, sorry to hear. I do hope the two of you will talk and it might go better than you fear. Could start with just asking about subbing for her.
Aw, I get it and I sympathize. Maybe you could ask in the forums how others have broached those desires with vanilla partners? I know there was a book for vanilla folks with a kinky partner. Can’t remember the title. Can I DM you if I find it?We’ve talked about it a bit and I have before, but not to the full extent of my fantasies. I always feel embarrassed about bringing it up.
Yes please I would appreciate that!Aw, I get it and I sympathize. Maybe you could ask in the forums how others have broached those desires with vanilla partners? I know there was a book for vanilla folks with a kinky partner. Can’t remember the title. Can I DM you if I find it?
You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I hope here you can feel more at ease.