Boys Why Do You Crave Submission

I hope it is OK if I post in here.

I haven't visited this site for 7 months. I had given up on it. I came out here just now to delete my account, but when I read threads like this one, it makes me want to stay. For someone like me, there is a lot of information in this thread. Much thanks to everyone who has posted.
 
Why submissive? In truth I simply don’t know. But I know I am and there is no sense in denying it. I would like to explore my submissiveness more but my partner isn’t interested. That means I enjoy a rich submissive fantasy life
 
I hope it is OK if I post in here.

I haven't visited this site for 7 months. I had given up on it. I came out here just now to delete my account, but when I read threads like this one, it makes me want to stay. For someone like me, there is a lot of information in this thread. Much thanks to everyone who has posted.
This site is the largest treasure trove of info I've found... it's so voluminous, after months here, I KNOW that I haven't even scratched the surface of it!
 
Recently i was talking to a friend of mine and she had helped in some work and in return she was making fun of me about i should worship her and be thankful, and weirdly that turned me, happen couple of times before as well in different instances, thats why i believe becoming a sub will be fun..
 
Men, why do you crave submission? Do you find it easy or hard to talk about your needs? Do you expect your domme to be able to trad your mind or do you like to ask for your needs?
I have to be in charge and making decisions all day at work. So it’s nice to be able to give all of that up sometimes. I like to sometimes just do exactly as I am told and not have to make any decisions or please anybody unless I am asked to.

I also do find it hard to talk about my needs. I am definitely more of a pleaser and not as concerned with my wants and needs that I am someone else’s. So when I am with a Dom, I like to be teased to the point where she makes me tell her what I want. That is the ultimate for me.
 
I'm a person who enjoys all the contrasts in life. The more dominant and masculine I have to be in life the more I crave being submissive to balance it out. There's a part of me that just wants to be emasculated and dominated because it just feels so right after a hard week's work.
 
I don't know why and I have become less submissive the older I am but I still have a strong streak of it and can't escape it. Yes, escape because I haven't been with many dominant women and I am in the closet. It is not really possible for most men to come out as a submissive and on vanilla dates I wouldn't bring it up.
 
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Men, why do you crave submission? Do you find it easy or hard to talk about your needs? Do you expect your domme to be able to trad your mind or do you like to ask for your needs?
I love submitting since it's normally my nature to both power bottom a little but most Dom/mes tell me I actually submit to most of what they want and please them.

It's much harder to talk about your desires as a malesub or trans sub.

I never expect mind reading. I do have my own needs and I know a submissive should submit to their Dom/me properly, but just like a lot of submissives will get what they want anyway, a Dom/me shouldn't be too afraid of power bottoms unless they're extra bratty or sassy, which means they're jerks acting like subs.
 
You are right, it is harder, as a malesub or trans sub, to talk about your desires.

As a male sub, I've found (both on this site and on other kink-related sites) that sometimes when you talk about your kinks/desires on forums and blogs, some people tend to think it is cringey and don't always react positively to it. Granted, I try never to be judgemental, because as a malesub, I get it; I've experienced sub-frenzy like nobody else and yes, those feelings can be powerful. I've experienced them first hand. I do try to be open and understanding, but if you are a male dom or a female sub, I can also see why they would view male submission (to a woman specifically) as being un-manly, or worse. For a while, I had trouble, for my part, understanding the daddy-little girl male-dom/female sub dynamic as it clearly isn't my thing but the point is- at the end of the day, in the bedroom, it's all about finding and being who you are, and what makes you (and your partner!) happy, so to each their own.
 
You are right, it is harder, as a malesub or trans sub, to talk about your desires.

As a male sub, I've found (both on this site and on other kink-related sites) that sometimes when you talk about your kinks/desires on forums and blogs, some people tend to think it is cringey and don't always react positively to it. Granted, I try never to be judgemental, because as a malesub, I get it; I've experienced sub-frenzy like nobody else and yes, those feelings can be powerful. I've experienced them first hand. I do try to be open and understanding, but if you are a male dom or a female sub, I can also see why they would view male submission (to a woman specifically) as being un-manly, or worse. For a while, I had trouble, for my part, understanding the daddy-little girl male-dom/female sub dynamic as it clearly isn't my thing but the point is- at the end of the day, in the bedroom, it's all about finding and being who you are, and what makes you (and your partner!) happy, so to each their own.
Very, usually no one seems very interested.

And then they wonder why trans girls won't be good little sluts.
 
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Men, why do you crave submission? Do you find it easy or hard to talk about your needs? Do you expect your domme to be able to trad your mind or do you like to ask for your needs?
I’m not fully sure myself on why I crave submission, I kind of just fell down the rabbit hole when I discovered porn. Now I’m in a committed relationship and it’s hard to talk to my gf of how I want to submit to her. I want to be used dominated and humiliated by her, but if I tell her I’m afraid she’ll just leave me.
 
I’m not fully sure myself on why I crave submission, I kind of just fell down the rabbit hole when I discovered porn. Now I’m in a committed relationship and it’s hard to talk to my gf of how I want to submit to her. I want to be used dominated and humiliated by her, but if I tell her I’m afraid she’ll just leave me.
That’s rough, sorry to hear. I do hope the two of you will talk and it might go better than you fear. Could start with just asking about subbing for her.
 
That’s rough, sorry to hear. I do hope the two of you will talk and it might go better than you fear. Could start with just asking about subbing for her.
We’ve talked about it a bit and I have before, but not to the full extent of my fantasies. I always feel embarrassed about bringing it up.
 
We’ve talked about it a bit and I have before, but not to the full extent of my fantasies. I always feel embarrassed about bringing it up.
Aw, I get it and I sympathize. Maybe you could ask in the forums how others have broached those desires with vanilla partners? I know there was a book for vanilla folks with a kinky partner. Can’t remember the title. Can I DM you if I find it?

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I hope here you can feel more at ease.

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Found the title(s). Posting here in case they might be of use to anyone else. Have not read these myself yet so caveat emptor.

With Sprinkles on Top: Everything Vanilla People and Their Kinky Partners Need to Know to Communicate, Explore, and Connect


Vanilla to Kinky: The Beginner's Guide to BDSM and Kink: Discover the Keys to How to Be Dominant or Submissive in the Bedroom (BDSM Basics for beginners)


Vanilla to Kinky - The Domination Deep Dive: Real Conversations About All Things Domination (BDSM Basics for beginners Book 2)

 
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Aw, I get it and I sympathize. Maybe you could ask in the forums how others have broached those desires with vanilla partners? I know there was a book for vanilla folks with a kinky partner. Can’t remember the title. Can I DM you if I find it?

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I hope here you can feel more at ease.
Yes please I would appreciate that!
 
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