XerXesXu
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And I think when most of your Lit library consists of stories about white dudes exploiting poverty-stricken Filipina bar girls, it's probably a wise idea to ease back on that kink-shaming throttle.
Speaking as someone who writes in both I/R and NC/R: they're both about kinks that come from the darker side of human nature and I do think it's important to approach writing them with eyes wide open and an awareness of what that means, if you're going to do it. It's not necessarily as simple as "oh, it's just fantasy," and being extra-aware of what you do and say both inside and outside the fiction does matter. That applies to interracial or noncon just as it applies to incest or, say, sex tourism. All of these are kinks tied to things that are objectively negative in the real world. It's a good thing to be aware of that.
That said, these kinds of kinks aren't going anywhere. They're part of the human condition, the lived world that we draw erotic inspiration from, warts and all. And I don't want anyone getting it twisted: none of what I've said about interracial in this thread is about kink-shaming or attempting to moralize at people writing in these categories. That interracial kink exploits a racist trope is obvious; that doesn't mean it appeals solely to dyed-in-the-wool supremacists or that getting off to any form of it inherently makes you evil. NC/R kink is much the same, and reducing it to "feed the rapist" is more rhetorical gamesmanship than serious analysis.
“And I think when most of your Lit library consists of stories about white dudes exploiting poverty-stricken Filipina bar girls, it's probably a wise idea to ease back on that kink-shaming throttle.”
There are two stories ‘Bar Girl’ and ‘Sex Tourist’. They're introductions to the concept of different cultural and moral universes, promiscuity being the particular strand of morality.
I’d remind you that this thread, as initiated by the OP, was about his personal unease using certain tropes. If you find it offensive to find that others may have conflicts and doubts where you have none, Authors Hangout contains many threads where you’ll be safe from offence.
As for the rest of your post, see my response to Simon.
I haven’t declared my view on the original BBC issue or the NC side-wind yet, I’ve simply asked questions; I‘m still listening to peoples arguments.
Tip. If you’re going to excoriate supposed kink-shaming, it looks better if you don’t open your post by doing it yourself.