CCG’s Cave of Confessions

Can we judge but just not say we're judging? But also make comments that make it clear that we might be secretly judging in our minds but aren't actually saying the judgy thing? 👀
No joke my friends in real life have told me I have a face that tells them I’m judging them but trying not to let it show. They call it my “monkey face”. I don’t actually know what it is but my family assures me it exists 🤣
 
“I started chatting (platonically) with a person on Lit and we clicked right away. We even took our conversation off Lit and onto an app. We would ask each other questions and text each other multiple times a day. I even started confiding in them about personal things I was going through.

One time they texted me all day, keeping me company while I was nervously cleaning my home before a date was supposed to arrive. When the date never showed, I sent them pictures of the lingerie I had chose to wear. Their compliments made me feel sexy, and cheered me up.

I was starting to fall hard for them, and I thought they felt the same. Feeling bold, I asked if they had ever cybersexed before and they said no. I was excited to be their first and admitted as much. They kind of laughed and said they liked my confidence, but they weren't into that.

Over the course of a couple of months they stopped texting me as frequently as they had been. At first I didn't think too much about it, but then I started to realize they might be distancing themselves from me.

I decided that I was becoming too dependant on their attention and it was making me depressed, so I gave them my email address and deleted my app. I haven't seen or spoken to them in about 6 months. I feel guilty for doing that, but ultimately I think it was the right thing to do for my mental health.“
 
No joke my friends in real life have told me I have a face that tells them I’m judging them but trying not to let it show. They call it my “monkey face”. I don’t actually know what it is but my family assures me it exists 🤣
I make a facial gesture where I just tighten my lips and nod a bit, sort of like a smile except my lips are straight. I usually use it in a disagreement, and it means "I acknowledge I heard what you said, but another comment I make will extend this argument. I have nothing more to say."

Even after explaining that multiple times, my ex still interpreted it as "fuck you, bitch." :unsure:
 
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“I started chatting (platonically) with a person on Lit and we clicked right away. We even took our conversation off Lit and onto an app. We would ask each other questions and text each other multiple times a day. I even started confiding in them about personal things I was going through.

One time they texted me all day, keeping me company while I was nervously cleaning my home before a date was supposed to arrive. When the date never showed, I sent them pictures of the lingerie I had chose to wear. Their compliments made me feel sexy, and cheered me up.

I was starting to fall hard for them, and I thought they felt the same. Feeling bold, I asked if they had ever cybersexed before and they said no. I was excited to be their first and admitted as much. They kind of laughed and said they liked my confidence, but they weren't into that.

Over the course of a couple of months they stopped texting me as frequently as they had been. At first I didn't think too much about it, but then I started to realize they might be distancing themselves from me.


I decided that I was becoming too dependant on their attention and it was making me depressed, so I gave them my email address and deleted my app. I haven't seen or spoken to them in about 6 months. I feel guilty for doing that, but ultimately I think it was the right thing to do for my mental health.“
When you think "it was hard, but probably for the best," you are usually spot on.
 
Can we judge but just not say we're judging? But also make comments that make it clear that we might be secretly judging in our minds but aren't actually saying the judgy thing? 👀
It is in our nature as human beings to judge. That’s what we do. People are motivated by their own self interests. With that comes judgement.

So yes, we can judge people and things and say we’re not judging. People do that all the time.

So go at it folks and judge me for this comment. Because whether you say it out loud or not, you’re doing it anyway!
 
"I'm still haunted by that relationship. I think I always will be."
Sugar, don't keep that skeleton in a closet, to haunt you any time you want to walk down that hall! May I suggest you disarticulate that skeleton, shove it in a cache, wrapped in duct tape, then build a bunker that will withstand nuclear disaster, and shove that thing to the bottom, throw in a hand grenade, put the lid on it, and move on with your life.

Just kidding...mostly.

Some thing are so surprisingly painful that you have to forgive yourself, let go of any right or wrong they did, and do your best to just say, "well, that happenned" and move on. Don't waste your time on horny hornets, when there's someone out there who thinks your the bees knees!
 
It is in our nature as human beings to judge. That’s what we do. People are motivated by their own self interests. With that comes judgement.

So yes, we can judge people and things and say we’re not judging. People do that all the time.

So go at it folks and judge me for this comment. Because whether you say it out loud or not, you’re doing it anyway!
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