Daddy Doms

[Lost_Yonder]

 

[Oldsoul991]

On the topic of Daddy Doms:
Ive had my daddy dom for nine years (less a 2yr break) he is in a sexless marriage that he is commited to keeping. I accept this and we're only online so his wife is a non issue. I dont however like sharing him with anyone else in the realm of a daddy dom relationship. I know is not abnormal for daddies to grave other girls. I just don't want to know. Any other girls have problems with jealousy, particularly with online relationships?

 

[Beth87]

On the topic of Daddy Doms:
Ive had my daddy dom for nine years (less a 2yr break) he is in a sexless marriage that he is commited to keeping. I accept this and we're only online so his wife is a non issue. I dont however like sharing him with anyone else in the realm of a daddy dom relationship. I know is not abnormal for daddies to grave other girls. I just don't want to know. Any other girls have problems with jealousy, particularly with online relationships?

I just don't ask. If anything, sharing a daddy means that when im less able to be around, he is not left without anyone.
I couldn't be with a Daddy who pointed out the other ones and compared us or even played in a way that attention between us was reward/punishment. They are few and far between but ive met some and i cant think of anything more cruel.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I just don't ask. If anything, sharing a daddy means that when im less able to be around, he is not left without anyone.
I couldn't be with a Daddy who pointed out the other ones and compared us or even played in a way that attention between us was reward/punishment. They are few and far between but ive met some and i cant think of anything more cruel.

In DD/lg relationships I can think of nothing more un-DD than abusing a little's trust and playing games with jealousy! It might have a place in other kinds of bdsm relationships, but certainly not for one who has taken responsibility for the care and nurture of a little...

 

[Beth87]

It's hard to respond to something that sets of my little as she responds to what sounds like anger and protectiveness...but yeah, its such a gross misuse of power and trust.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

It's hard to respond to something that sets of my little as she responds to what sounds like anger and protectiveness...but yeah, its such a gross misuse of power and trust.

none of us are perfect and I know I've done things in my relationships with a little, irl and virtually, I should not have done. But what seems to be an intentional playing with their trust is a slippery slide towards abuse...

 

[AnnieLit]

On the topic of Daddy Doms:
Ive had my daddy dom for nine years (less a 2yr break) he is in a sexless marriage that he is commited to keeping. I accept this and we're only online so his wife is a non issue. I dont however like sharing him with anyone else in the realm of a daddy dom relationship. I know is not abnormal for daddies to grave other girls. I just don't want to know. Any other girls have problems with jealousy, particularly with online relationships?

I don't like sharing either. I can easily share a Dom, just not a DD. It does not matter much to me if it is online or real life, as this kind of relationship does not leave much space for anybody else in my head either way and I need it to be the same for him too.

But for me it does not have anything to do with jealousy. I am not jealous that he spends his time with somebody else, but it leaves me wondering if he really needs me in the first place. Because if he does not, if I am easily replaceable...well, then something is very wrong there.

 

[DirtyLittleDiva85]

On the topic of Daddy Doms:
Ive had my daddy dom for nine years (less a 2yr break) he is in a sexless marriage that he is commited to keeping. I accept this and we're only online so his wife is a non issue. I dont however like sharing him with anyone else in the realm of a daddy dom relationship. I know is not abnormal for daddies to grave other girls. I just don't want to know. Any other girls have problems with jealousy, particularly with online relationships?

I don't think I would ever want to share a DD. For me, a DD is quite different than a regular dom. At least in the aspect of the relationship/connection between the two. If he's married and the two of us shared a DD/lg relationship, that would be different for me.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I don't think I would ever want to share a DD. For me, a DD is quite different than a regular dom. At least in the aspect of the relationship/connection between the two. If he's married and the two of us shared a DD/lg relationship, that would be different for me.

Being married and being in a DD/lg relationship sucks. I could never give her the attention and time she deserved. When we both realized that she needed more we decided it was best for her to find another DD - and that was worse...

 

[DirtyLittleDiva85]

Being married and being in a DD/lg relationship sucks. I could never give her the attention and time she deserved. When we both realized that she needed more we decided it was best for her to find another DD - and that was worse...

I have yet to meet someone who's not married that's interested in one. Even with that, I haven't met anyone to fulfill that need in me. I will admit, though, recently I began chatting wish someone from Lit who has my undivided attention. He has this way of making me feel beautiful and adored, yet making me drip too. But, he too is married.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I have yet to meet someone who's not married that's interested in one. Even with that, I haven't met anyone to fulfill that need in me. I will admit, though, recently I began chatting wish someone from Lit who has my undivided attention. He has this way of making me feel beautiful and adored, yet making me drip too. But, he too is married.

I hope it continues to work out for you - he is one very lucky guy!

Interesting observation though that most DDs are married... hmmmmm

 

[Oldsoul991]

I'm thrilled with all the responses to my questions. I dont have anyone in daily life that would have any useful in put. If there are any dd/lg relationships in my circle of friends I have yet to discover them. There is not currently any other girls. But I had a memory the other day of a time when the were & my post followed.

 

[Oldsoul991]

Oops, forgot something. On the point of daddy doms and marriage: I dont find this being common too surprising. I think my daddy is naturally dominant sexually & has no outlet. Sexless vanilla etc. Wife seems to have all the power in the marriage and seems not to "need" him. I think the dynamic of the marriage has made him need to Express the pent up sexual dominance as well as a need to care take. Seems like the making of a daddy to me. I'm sue other things provoke this sexual proclivity, but this seems like a likely one. I could pick my psyche apart too. But for now I won't. Ive rambled

 

[Beth87]

I have a single dd but im not single. Always an outlier

 

[vidiman]

I do like it when i find a thread that 'makes some sense to me' and one that gives me some useful information that i can process and sits well for me..

I sometimes struggle with the written word, meaning, and making sense of it all... so dont alwasy read in that much detail - maybe i should read in more detail!!

Anyhow... this para particularly had an impact
'In a very basic sense, we all have a child ego that stays with us and that we will always need to take care of throughout our lives. This dynamic I think is in some ways an exaggeration of traditional mf roles. But..it provides an outlet for men to be nurturing in a way they might not elsewhere.'

Especially the last line..

I can relate to the first bit as some of my personal 'emotional traumas' happened in my younger years.. and to a degree part of me never grew up form that time.. but the nurturing bit is more pertinent now than it has ever been... and it feels good to be able to 'give' (of me)

Hope that comes across !!

 

[Enchanted_DreamSam]

I'm glad my thread is going well. I'm BeautifulBlueSky218

Decided to come back to the Forum. I needed a break. Hope this is something others understand after losing my brother. I'll keep this thread alive by posting images and gifs I like online.

 

[Acktion]

It is said that “a Top is for tonight, a Dominant is for as long as she is submissive, a Master is there until she is no longer a slave, but a Daddy is forever.” Daddy may have to give his girl away to a husband. He may eventually run out of things to teach his little girl. She may ultimately not need his sage advice and his experience any more. Hopefully he will be too old by then to have to deal with it, because when there is nothing left to teach, no need for a confidant, no discipline needing to be meted out, when his little girl no longer needs her Daddy, that’s when he will die inside. The need that Daddy has for his girl is every bit as potent as the need she has for her Daddy. ~ WizarDavid

 

[AnnieLit]

It is said that “a Top is for tonight, a Dominant is for as long as she is submissive, a Master is there until she is no longer a slave, but a Daddy is forever.” Daddy may have to give his girl away to a husband. He may eventually run out of things to teach his little girl. She may ultimately not need his sage advice and his experience any more. Hopefully he will be too old by then to have to deal with it, because when there is nothing left to teach, no need for a confidant, no discipline needing to be meted out, when his little girl no longer needs her Daddy, that’s when he will die inside. The need that Daddy has for his girl is every bit as potent as the need she has for her Daddy. ~ WizarDavid

That moment when somebody writes a quote, but you know it by hart and can tell the author right away...
Though I don't think he was talking about online dynamics.

 

[Acktion]

DUH-leted for irrelevency.

 

[AnnieLit]

And we belittle Doms as "not real" if they show the slightest emotional pain.

Who are "we" that you are talking about? For me it is a two-way street -- if after a while I am the only talking about my problems, I would get a bit uneasy. If after a longer period the only emotions I see from him are connected to sex, more likely than not I will be out of there. Not because I need (or even want) to know what his problems are, but because we are all humans and we do have our problems. If he chooses to close off that side of him from me, I can't call it a close relationship. And if it is not, than it is definitely not a DD/lg dynamics from my pov.

Perfect facade is a lie, why would anybody insist on a lie in any relationship?

 

[Lost_Yonder]

I'm glad my thread is going well. I'm BeautifulBlueSky218

Decided to come back to the Forum. I needed a break. Hope this is something others understand after losing my brother. I'll keep this thread alive by posting images and gifs I like online.

 

[Enchanted_DreamSam]

Thank you for the rose.

 

[Ropebunny]

Who are "we" that you are talking about? For me it is a two-way street -- if after a while I am the only talking about my problems, I would get a bit uneasy. If after a longer period the only emotions I see from him are connected to sex, more likely than not I will be out of there. Not because I need (or even want) to know what his problems are, but because we are all humans and we do have our problems. If he chooses to close off that side of him from me, I can't call it a close relationship. And if it is not, than it is definitely not a DD/lg dynamics from my pov.

Perfect facade is a lie, why would anybody insist on a lie in any relationship?

Because many people live lies. And most don’t even know it. Because a vast many of us were taught to fear honesty, especially around anything close to emotions and even more especially when applied to oneself. This is why childhood educators actively teach emotional awareness now, to prevent the cycle perpetuating. But we neglect to teach adolescents how to maintain a healthy and functioning relationship so I don’t have much hope really.

We are truly the lucky ones. The ones that not only can be honest about our naked, sexual selves but also allow someone else full access to that, on both sides. I have no idea how other, more ‘normal’ people manage to live without this. And I pray I never need to again!

 

[Enchanted_DreamSam]

"I always want you to look into my eyes when your kneeling in front of me."

 

[Jimmm2020]

Verrry lovely photo...