Daddy's Little Girl - Fourth Edition

[FrenchLopBunny]

. . . playing with his favorite mini metal Slinky

I imagine that was a happy bunny!

 

[BiBunny]

My little self has split personalities. I'm both bunny and kitten!

 

[FreckledSprite]

Don't forget the sprite!

 

[cascadiabound]

Such a pretty pendant.
*melts*

 

[barefootgirl69]

I wish I weren't someone who gets used to things or patterns of behavior, and feels vulnerable when they start changing. It's confusing. I start second guessing myself.

 

[matureman32]

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Such a pretty pendant.
*melts*

The perfect gift.

 

[cascadiabound]

I wish I weren't someone who gets used to things or patterns of behavior, and feels vulnerable when they start changing. It's confusing. I start second guessing myself.

It IS confusing. And it's reasonable to feel off balance, or even gaslit. Trust your gut. You know what you know. Your observations are valid. Such changes merit a conversation.

However...I'm currently needing to constantly remind myself that external factors are creating havoc in people's lives and that many of us are not at our best this month. I personally feel off balance and my normal patterns of behavior are off kilter. Just a bit.

 

[FreckledSprite]

I wish I weren't someone who gets used to things or patterns of behavior, and feels vulnerable when they start changing. It's confusing. I start second guessing myself.

This has made me stumble more than once. I tend to get into online relationships with high drive men. I get used to playing almost daily and the reassurance it gives that I’m needed and wanted.

If a lull hits (and of course adults with responsibilities are going to have busy times) I start to feel uneasy. It happened just yesterday I asked my someone if he is just really busy lately and his response was, “Let me guess…you’re not content because we haven’t played in a couple days and you want to break up. Am I close?” Obviously I’ve put him through a lot by running away anytime something is concerning.

It’s not just about play time or about a romantic relationship with someone. That’s just an example. Subtle changes in tone or amount of contact will also trigger me. But I have noticed that the times I stick it out and wait to see if things return to our norm, they usually will. Those times I’m thankful I didn’t burn down my world due to my insecurities and instead allowed them to come back to me.

 

[cascadiabound]

This has made me stumble more than once. I tend to get into online relationships with high drive men. I get used to playing almost daily and the reassurance it gives that I’m needed and wanted.

If a lull hits (and of course adults with responsibilities are going to have busy times) I start to feel uneasy. It happened just yesterday I asked my someone if he is just really busy lately and his response was, “Let me guess…you’re not content because we haven’t played in a couple days and you want to break up. Am I close?” Obviously I’ve put him through a lot by running away anytime something is concerning.

It’s not just about play time or about a romantic relationship with someone. That’s just an example. Subtle changes in tone or amount of contact will also trigger me. But I have noticed that the times I stick it out and wait to see if things return to our norm, they usually will. Those times I’m thankful I didn’t burn down my world due to my insecurities and instead allowed them to come back to me.

Patience and communication goes a long way. On line/distance relationships offer lots of opportunities to create worry and fact free scenarios which can definitely make us stumble hard. It's definitely happened to me too. One of the most insidious things that my submissive brain wants me to believe is the idea that if He knows me (and he does), and I've done my best to be honest and transparent with him about everything, then he must know everything in my head... like he has a camera attached to my forehead and is able to see and experience my life/my world without me having to use my words.

Now obviously that is stupid and ridiculous and seems more so when typed out here. Nonetheless... such idiocy has definitely tripped me up and I have to guard against such ideas.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Incredibly, lack of food and sleep are often the things that trip me up more than anything. Feeling puny makes me feel more emotional.

 

[cascadiabound]

Incredibly, lack of food and sleep are often the things that trip me up more than anything. Feeling puny makes me feel more emotional.

Pretty sure that describes all of us.

 

[FreckledSprite]

Patience and communication goes a long way. On line/distance relationships offer lots of opportunities to create worry and fact free scenarios which can definitely make us stumble hard. It's definitely happened to me too. One of the most insidious things that my submissive brain wants me to believe is the idea that if He knows me (and he does), and I've done my best to be honest and transparent with him about everything, then he must know everything in my head... like he has a camera attached to my forehead and is able to see and experience my life/my world without me having to use my words.

Now obviously that is stupid and ridiculous and seems more so when typed out here. Nonetheless... such idiocy has definitely tripped me up and I have to guard against such ideas.

My Little brain always assumes I’m not wanted anymore. I have to force myself to wait and see if that’s true or my own invention.

 

[cascadiabound]

My Little brain always assumes I’m not wanted anymore. I have to force myself to wait and see if that’s true or my own invention.

You might want to talk with your Sir about ways he can communicate his desire for you without requiring a full play session.
We have developed some little text short-hands that help keep us connected. They only take 5 seconds to send it is reassuring to both of us. No matter how busy we are, that sequence calms me. And it reminds each of us of the dynamic we have agreed to. Something like that might be helpful? Idk

 

[Mac380]

Never mind..

 

[FreckledSprite]

You might want to talk with your Sir about ways he can communicate his desire for you without requiring a full play session.
We have developed some little text short-hands that help keep us connected. They only take 5 seconds to send it is reassuring to both of us. No matter how busy we are, that sequence calms me. And it reminds each of us of the dynamic we have agreed to. Something like that might be helpful? Idk

Thank you. I’ll have to figure out what it is that I need to hear to be reassured. And what he would want as well. But that could work. We don’t have any form of D/s but I feel a lot of what happens in the dynamic can apply to other relationships as well.

 

[Strixaluco]

You might want to talk with your Sir about ways he can communicate his desire for you without requiring a full play session.
We have developed some little text short-hands that help keep us connected. They only take 5 seconds to send it is reassuring to both of us. No matter how busy we are, that sequence calms me. And it reminds each of us of the dynamic we have agreed to. Something like that might be helpful? Idk

I realised very early, that I need daily connection. We see about twice a week, and I asked him if I could get a goodnight sms. He's not active in messaging at all, and even less with social media, but he promised me that and there's 1-2 nights a year when he may falter (and I know that beforehand as it's during 4-day eventa). It keeps me calm, reminded of him caring about me.

 

[cascadiabound]

I realised very early, that I need daily connection. We see about twice a week, and I asked him if I could get a goodnight sms. He's not active in messaging at all, and even less with social media, but he promised me that and there's 1-2 nights a year when he may falter (and I know that beforehand as it's during 4-day eventa). It keeps me calm, reminded of him caring about me.

I need a daily connection too. I really falter without it. We have a morning routine and a before bed routine. They can be as brief as a few moments or a real check in, depending on other factors. I think it's important for both of us.

 

[Strixaluco]

I need a daily connection too. I really falter without it. We have a morning routine and a before bed routine. They can be as brief as a few moments or a real check in, depending on other factors. I think it's important for both of us.

Oh I'd love a morning routine too, and for the evening routine to be something like a call or a longer moment of chatting! Unfortunately that doesn't fit his communication style. (He doesn't even have a smartphone. And he's an it guy...)

 

[cascadiabound]

Oh I'd love a morning routine too, and for the evening routine to be something like a call or a longer moment of chatting! Unfortunately that doesn't fit his communication style. (He doesn't even have a smartphone. And he's an it guy...)

Geez.
Idk how people manage in our current electronic era without a smart phone...

 

[cascadiabound]

The simple touches mean so much. Creates so much connection. Reminds me that I am his.

 

[Strixaluco]

Geez.
Idk how people manage in our current electronic era without a smart phone...

Depends on what you get used to. He has private/work phone totally separately (as do I), and uses work phone strictly only at work. Oh and he used mostly cash, too... That's very uncommon here, this is a bank card country (check books haven't existed for decades, I can barely remember mom using one when I was a kid).

 

[Strixaluco]

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The simple touches mean so much. Creates so much connection. Reminds me that I am his.

Especially when he stops to keep that touch

 

[FrenchLopBunny]

Write a sonnet between my thighs, Daddy.

 

[Endless_Night]

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Such a pretty pendant.
*melts*

I

 

[Endless_Night]

This has made me stumble more than once. I tend to get into online relationships with high drive men. I get used to playing almost daily and the reassurance it gives that I’m needed and wanted.

If a lull hits (and of course adults with responsibilities are going to have busy times) I start to feel uneasy. It happened just yesterday I asked my someone if he is just really busy lately and his response was, “Let me guess…you’re not content because we haven’t played in a couple days and you want to break up. Am I close?” Obviously I’ve put him through a lot by running away anytime something is concerning.

It’s not just about play time or about a romantic relationship with someone. That’s just an example. Subtle changes in tone or amount of contact will also trigger me. But I have noticed that the times I stick it out and wait to see if things return to our norm, they usually will. Those times I’m thankful I didn’t burn down my world due to my insecurities and instead allowed them to come back to me.

So much of this resonates.

I'm incredibly sensitive in submission. It takes little to trigger my fear of rejection. So strange. Outside the dynamic, I'm a completely different person. Not remotely insecure, and certainly not high maintenance. The difference in emotional stability leads to a lot of mental confusion on my part.

Regular play helps tamp down my insecurity. Lets me know that I'm wanted. Lately, though, I've begun to wonder if it's not more about the regular contact that keeps me in a steady state. The sex is important, as I'm directive, but a temporary lull for some reason is less likely to crash me or wake up my doubt demons than lack of contact.

Not that it's impossible for me to go without. Life happens. But I need to know what is going on and why if that's the case. Out of town, crazy busy, whatever.

Contact needs to be a priority for my partner. Without, my insecurity soars. I just don't feel safe.