Depression and Bipolar Support

[elizabeth22673]

giving a bump to this thread and to everyone out here....

My dr has changed my meds again....3rd time in 9 weeks....it seems like everything she has tried so far, starts another health risk...*fingers crossed* that we will get the right cocktail soon......i go back to see her in about 10 days

Hi (((gypziedoll))), oh my goodness..three times in nine weeks. I will keep my fingers crossed for you sweetie!

 

[gypziedoll]

Hi (((gypziedoll))), oh my goodness..three times in nine weeks. I will keep my fingers crossed for you sweetie!

Hi ((( Elizabeth )))...thank you sweetie....it seems right as the meds are in my system good a blood test finds something wrong....the last time my Dr. told me my bi-polar disorder has been upgraded to bi-polar illness...pretty scary for me because I now know from the little bit of family history I was able to recover....that is not a good thing.....

so everyday I try to keep my will up and not let this illness get the better of me,....

 

[jaded_lily]

Hi ((( Elizabeth )))...thank you sweetie....it seems right as the meds are in my system good a blood test finds something wrong....the last time my Dr. told me my bi-polar disorder has been upgraded to bi-polar illness...pretty scary for me because I now know from the little bit of family history I was able to recover....that is not a good thing.....

so everyday I try to keep my will up and not let this illness get the better of me,....

At least there's a family history, I swear I am bipolar as well and we know my son is.......if I am bipolar, I would be the first one in the family (other than my son)

 

[gypziedoll]

At least there's a family history, I swear I am bipolar as well and we know my son is.......if I am bipolar, I would be the first one in the family (other than my son)

I understand, my family history was so buried it was not funny....I live in an area where the elders never talked of such things...kinda one of those what would the neighbors think sort of thing......

it slipped out in a conversation one day....and it was hard to research it all

my heart goes out to you and your son....*hugs*

 

[elizabeth22673]

hi all, ever notice how your depression kicks in 10-fold when you are ill
sucks

 

[jaded_lily]

Warning: This is a rant!


Why do people feel the need to use other people? I have a friend that I give a ride back and forth to work because their car needs repaired and they don't have the extra cash to do so at this point. They let his sister move in with them to help them out with bills and whatnot because she is working.......here's my rant.

I do not have a problem giving the one a ride to work because she is a close friend and she does give me gas money when she gets paid. The sister I do have a problem with because she is a user, the only reason she asks me for a ride instead of her boyfriend is because I am convienent (meaning that I am in the same town and the boyfriend is really unreliable). She called me an hour before she had to be at work and I quote "If I give you gas money, can you give me a ride to work?" Did not tell me what time she had to be there and she knew that I had to pick up my friend around the same time she had to be in.

What pisses me off to no end is that she knows that I'm doing this and thinks that because I'm doing it for one that I should do it for her too, that I should have to completely rearrange my schedule to fit her needs. This woman won't get off her ass to raise her own kids but she expects me to give her a ride here and there and every fucking where else...........................


Am I wrong to feel like a taxi service?


I'm just not in a really good place right now

 

[wally2450]

Warning: This is a rant!


Why do people feel the need to use other people? I have a friend that I give a ride back and forth to work because their car needs repaired and they don't have the extra cash to do so at this point. They let his sister move in with them to help them out with bills and whatnot because she is working.......here's my rant.

I do not have a problem giving the one a ride to work because she is a close friend and she does give me gas money when she gets paid. The sister I do have a problem with because she is a user, the only reason she asks me for a ride instead of her boyfriend is because I am convienent (meaning that I am in the same town and the boyfriend is really unreliable). She called me an hour before she had to be at work and I quote "If I give you gas money, can you give me a ride to work?" Did not tell me what time she had to be there and she knew that I had to pick up my friend around the same time she had to be in.

What pisses me off to no end is that she knows that I'm doing this and thinks that because I'm doing it for one that I should do it for her too, that I should have to completely rearrange my schedule to fit her needs. This woman won't get off her ass to raise her own kids but she expects me to give her a ride here and there and every fucking where else...........................


Am I wrong to feel like a taxi service?


I'm just not in a really good place right now

I had similar issues several years back. The counselor I was seeing suggested the following book which is well written and easy to understand. Boy, did I see myself and but good in the first thirty pages.
http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310247454

You should be able to find this in the library as it has been out for years. There are more titles by this author as well.

 

[sweet_bitch]

after i come to amerika, i very sad. hubby work 9 - 9 job. me alone at home. watch television show, lern slang. take english lesson.

but i still sad. ppl not nice to me here. some very nice, some not so nice. i sad.

 

[jaded_lily]

I had similar issues several years back. The counselor I was seeing suggested the following book which is well written and easy to understand. Boy, did I see myself and but good in the first thirty pages.
http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Dr-Henry-Cloud/dp/0310247454

You should be able to find this in the library as it has been out for years. There are more titles by this author as well.

Thank you I'm gonna go see if they have it........

 

[sweet_bitch]

now all you peeps no talk weeth me, except one nice sweet man.

 

[jaded_lily]

now all you peeps no talk weeth me, except one nice sweet man.

You didn't give anyone the chance to respond...........

 

[Spenser41]

Well then...

Several days ago, I sent out a PM to quite a few people here - actually, in two versions: One for those whom I consider to be "acquaintances - with a just a bit of an explanation as to where DF and I have been, why we haven't been here much lately, and the other to a few *very* close friends with much, much more detail.

I received a *great* number of responses from people to those PM's. I was quite surprised at the number of people who told me that they have had direct experience in dealing with people who live with bipolar disorder, either with a friend or with a family member. This PM was the first time, really, that I've ever "gone public" with being bipolar; not that I hide the fact from people, but I also don't run around in my day-to-day activities announcing to everyone that I'm bipolar.

As I thought about these responses, I decided that perhaps a thread that deals with the issues that face people who are bipolar, as well as the people around them, might be something that could be useful here. I was told of one person who posts here who lives with this disorder, and I would imagine that there are probably more. From the responses, I *know* that there are quite a few who deal with a friend or family member who is bipolar.

So, I decided to give this thread a try. Ideally, this will be a thread where people can come to discuss the daily problems that often face bipolar people and their friends and family, to get help and suggestions from others, and most importantly, to get support and understanding from people who have experience with this condition.

I decided to name the thread "Depression and Bipolar Support" because I don't want to limit this discussion just to manic-depression. Depression is a huge part of being bipolar, even when the bipolar person doesn't recognize that s/he is depressed. This was the case with my recent problems - I was completely focused on the manic part of this, and not even recognizing the depression that was going on at the same time.

So, with that, I'd like to invite those who suffer from bipolar disorder or chronic depression, as well as those who are dealing with a friend or family member with this problem, to come here and talk about what's going on for you. Just a place to vent, talk, and hopefully get some constructive advice and support from others.

Hopefully, this thread will prove to be of some use to people. If it dies, well... This *is* a site that devoted to fun, after all. I understand that often people use this site to escape from daily problems, unwind, relax, and just have a good time...

Excellent idea for this thread and I hope you get great support from this as well as others who have these problems and they also can find support and strength from others.

 

[Spenser41]

Thank you I'm gonna go see if they have it........

Bondries is an EXCELLENT book and very popular. They have many versions of this from dealing with families, marriages, and dating. Plus workbooks as well. Very good source of help and support.

 

[Cathleen]

Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin

This is another excellent book on boundaries. Good healthy boundaries are so important; they can make a huge difference on the quality of ones life.

Bi-polar disorder, most mental health problems, are still hugely ignored, misunderstood and are seen as a stigma. It's like the 1950's hush of "The C word". It is foolish of our society and further slows the understanding.

I have a family member with it and it is so hard to see them struggle, I want to help so much but it's difficult (which is part of depression anyway) another added issue is the behavior of lashing out at those trying to help. I have to admit I do my caretaking with some protective armour because hurt goes both ways. Life sure is tough at times and very beautiful too.

I wish it didn't exist, my best to all those who suffer.

 

[wally2450]

I took two MMPI's and I had depression but no bi-polar. Only 20mgs of Prozac was all I needed. Anyone else ever take a low dose like that?

What the MMPI is:
http://www.healthatoz.com/healthato..._multiphasic_personality_inventory_mmpi-2.jsp

 

[wally2450]

Thank you I'm gonna go see if they have it........

If you like that book, here is another one the really helped me:
http://www.amazon.com/Safe-People-Relationships-Avoid-Those/dp/0310210844

Also should be in libraries.

 

[sweet_bitch]

If you like that book, here is another one the really helped me:
http://www.amazon.com/Safe-People-Relationships-Avoid-Those/dp/0310210844

mr. rodney,
please cleen your pms

 

[phantasi]

Just a gentle...

...bump. With the holidays coming up, depression and mania can sneak in on little cat feet and kick you square in the ass.

To all: Don't forget that YOU are the most important person in your life. Yes, if you have children, they are a priority. But if you're not taking care of YOU, you most certainly cannot *truly* take care of them. Same goes for spouses, parents, friends, lovers...whomEVer.

YOU. COME. FIRST.

Be well, and don't ever feel alone.

 

[blindhound]

That bumps was well placed, and good advice to all.
Thanks

 

[Ladybird]

Great idea for a thread, and I applaude everyone who has posted here.

I am bipolar type2 and although I haven't had an episode for a few years now I still fall victim to depression... in fact I'm low at the moment.

I'm on a maintenance dose of Lithium and fortunately haven't needed antidepressants for a while.

Hugs and support to all those that need it.

 

[starrynightin64]

**peeks in to bump & hug**

 

[gypziedoll]

hugs you back Starry

hugs for everyone who posts here....

 

[elizabeth22673]

i, too, wanted to leave my hugs here for anyone that wants them. it's not the same as a real hug...but just know i would if i could.

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[Mhorashty]

In the last month and a half I've been diagnosed with Severe Depression, Moderate Anxiety, Slight Motivational Issues, and a Rule Out for Bi-Polar/Hypo mania.

In the past week and a half my fiance'e of a little less than a year (but we'd dated for 2 and a half before I asked her to marry me) broke up with me.

In the last three days I've had to move some of my stuff out of our apartment and crash at a friends while she decides if she wants to try to work things out or not.

In five days, the friend's room that I am sleeping in will be back from his training a few states away and I won't have a bed to sleep on. It'll be the couch here, or the couch bed back at my apartment with a girl who probably won't want me around but can't kick me out cause I'm on the lease...

...my therapist said I can take 15 minutes a day to feel sorry for myself and mourn the loss of my relationship but she needs me to refocus after that.

-=Mhorashty=-

 

[gypziedoll]

In the last month and a half I've been diagnosed with Severe Depression, Moderate Anxiety, Slight Motivational Issues, and a Rule Out for Bi-Polar/Hypo mania.

In the past week and a half my fiance'e of a little less than a year (but we'd dated for 2 and a half before I asked her to marry me) broke up with me.

In the last three days I've had to move some of my stuff out of our apartment and crash at a friends while she decides if she wants to try to work things out or not.

In five days, the friend's room that I am sleeping in will be back from his training a few states away and I won't have a bed to sleep on. It'll be the couch here, or the couch bed back at my apartment with a girl who probably won't want me around but can't kick me out cause I'm on the lease...

...my therapist said I can take 15 minutes a day to feel sorry for myself and mourn the loss of my relationship but she needs me to refocus after that.

-=Mhorashty=-

oh Sweetie, you have had a hellacious month....*hugs you tight* I hope things get better for you....if ever you need to vent...I am just a pm away....