Depression. It's a silent killer.

[Ratchetman1982]

Just remember...

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. Nearly all packed for my trip on Friday. I’m anxious to get going, you think?

Have the best day you can.
Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[MrPimms]

I don’t think it’s over-diagnosed, I think it’s under and improperly diagnosed. And I think the heart of depression is that humans aren’t living the way evolution designed us to.

We’re aren’t made for big cities and thousands -let alone millions- of people.
We’re aren’t made for prolonged solitude.
We aren’t made to work non-stop, but we need purposeful action every damn day.
We aren’t made to blindly accept casual abuse or indifference.
We need community connection like we need air, by design.

Humans are full of so many contradictions and this civilization has made its priorities about money and perceived security. Depression is not only about chemical imbalance- acknowledging the true nature of the society I was raised in was huge in helping me gain perspective and heal.

This makes sense!

Thank you.

 

[RemoteShadeofGreen]

This makes sense!

Thank you.

My pleasure. Evolutionary psychology is fascinating.

 

[Bassytian]

Well, it turns out that my insurance doesn't want to pay for any of the meds that could help me, according to the GeneSight test. It's a "now what...?" situation.

 

[Xxllrs69xx]

Its frustrating when your with someone who is depressed. You try so hard to try and help them.
A friend of mine was going through a battle with this. He wouldn't answer the door or phone he would lose touch with people and I always thought he killed himself. Then he would just pop up somewhere. I always went out of my way to socialize with him. It was like talking to a wall. The only thing that kept me hopeful was that he always thanked me when he left and I was one of the few people he would say goodbye too.
To this day I always wonder about him and he would text me out of the blue. I think he is doing better now. Hard to tell since we moved apart.
Now you can get pissed at me. I feel depression is over diagnosed. I'm not talking about my friend just generally speaking.

I think everyone suffers a bit of depression from time to time. Some more than others, some long than others.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I think everyone suffers a bit of depression from time to time. Some more than others, some long than others.

Of course. People are built differently different life experiences. Many variable.

 

[Spurtulator]

I don’t think it’s over-diagnosed, I think it’s under and improperly diagnosed. And I think the heart of depression is that humans aren’t living the way evolution designed us to.

We’re aren’t made for prolonged solitude.
We aren’t made to work non-stop, but we need purposeful action every damn day.
We need community connection like we need air, by design.

Humans are full of so many contradictions and this civilization has made its priorities about money and perceived security. Depression is not only about chemical imbalance- acknowledging the true nature of the society I was raised in was huge in helping me gain perspective and heal.

Environment is a huge trigger of depression. I picked 3 of the points that you hit upon that resonate with where I am at now.

I'm 56 years old, been divorced for 13 years and really have not had any success with dating. Essentially I have been single for the past 13 years after being with my wife for a total of 15 years. I was getting out through meetup groups. Unfortunately COVID ended all of my groups. I retired from my job to go back to college. COVID shut down in-person classes for 2 years at the college I attend. Right now classes are back to classroom delivery.

This summer I have a math class on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I can get tutoring Monday through Friday. The days I go for tutoring, I feel a lot better because I have interaction. If I don't go for tutoring on Thursday and Friday, I end up not seeing people for 4 days, and I really feel that feeling of depression overcome me.

Your second point I would like to focus on "purposeful action." You nailed it. Prolonged time without purpose is also a depression trigger.

Community connection is big. I'm not a religious person, but I do see where church really helps a lot of people by creating a sense of community. "Finding your tribe" is important to relieving the feeling of isolation and creating healthy people. Please don't slag me for bringing politics into this, but I feel like that has been a thing that has spurred Trumpism. We've lost our sense of community and a segment of people have found that sense through going to MAGA rallies and finding a tribe.

Unfortunately, I've had a lot of solitude this summer when not in class. I start up my internship in the fall, which I feel will go a long way to getting me in a good place.

 

[Ratchetman1982]

We all have work to do...

 

[Eric60]

Environment is a huge trigger of depression. I picked 3 of the points that you hit upon that resonate with where I am at now.

I'm 56 years old, been divorced for 13 years and really have not had any success with dating. Essentially I have been single for the past 13 years after being with my wife for a total of 15 years. I was getting out through meetup groups. Unfortunately COVID ended all of my groups. I retired from my job to go back to college. COVID shut down in-person classes for 2 years at the college I attend. Right now classes are back to classroom delivery.

This summer I have a math class on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I can get tutoring Monday through Friday. The days I go for tutoring, I feel a lot better because I have interaction. If I don't go for tutoring on Thursday and Friday, I end up not seeing people for 4 days, and I really feel that feeling of depression overcome me.

Your second point I would like to focus on "purposeful action." You nailed it. Prolonged time without purpose is also a depression trigger.

Community connection is big. I'm not a religious person, but I do see where church really helps a lot of people by creating a sense of community. "Finding your tribe" is important to relieving the feeling of isolation and creating healthy people. Please don't slag me for bringing politics into this, but I feel like that has been a thing that has spurred Trumpism. We've lost our sense of community and a segment of people have found that sense through going to MAGA rallies and finding a tribe.

Unfortunately, I've had a lot of solitude this summer when not in class. I start up my internship in the fall, which I feel will go a long way to getting me in a good place.

Thanks for sharing all that! Agree with much of it.

 

[Wetkitty09]

Morning. Solitude is a killer. I know this. When I start to spiral I know I have to get out and find someone to be around, preferably doing some kind of work to improve something.
Whether I do or not makes a difference on how bad it’s going to get.

Be safe out there.
Love you.

 

[Carmina24]

Sometimes the darkness feels endless.
Like the world has gone quiet and your own voice is too tired to call out.
But if you’re here - reading this - it means some part of you still wants to be heard. And that’s brave. That’s beautiful. That’s enough.

Lit isn’t just a site. It’s a lifeline for many of us.
A place where thoughts spill out safely. Where pain becomes poetry. Where arousal, heartbreak, joy, and survival sit side by side like old friends whispering stories into the night.

Here, you can write the ache out of your chest.
Here, you can read something that makes you feel seen.
Here, you can find strangers who somehow know your soul.

If today hurts - let it.
But also let Lit hold you for a while.
Let your words be messy. Let your comments be quiet. Let your stories be unfinished.
You don’t need to sparkle here. You just need to be.

And if the only thing you’ve done today is survive, then I’m proud of you.
This place is proof that words can be a lifeline. That someone, somewhere within Lit, understands.

You are not alone.

 

[Spurtulator]

Morning. Solitude is a killer. I know this. When I start to spiral I know I have to get out and find someone to be around, preferably doing some kind of work to improve something.
Whether I do or not makes a difference on how bad it’s going to get.

Be safe out there.
Love you.

How hard do you find it to find someone when you are in those lengthy stretches of solitude?

 

[Eric60]

Morning. Solitude is a killer. I know this. When I start to spiral I know I have to get out and find someone to be around, preferably doing some kind of work to improve something.
Whether I do or not makes a difference on how bad it’s going to get.

Be safe out there.
Love you.

Wow, that's profound. I think it's not the goal to find someone, but to do something, some kind of work to accomplish something that's the first step and finding like minded people might result from it? Is that your view?

 

[Wetkitty09]

Wow, that's profound. I think it's not the goal to find someone, but to do something, some kind of work to accomplish something that's the first step and finding like minded people might result from it? Is that your view?

That certainly would work.
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends that are caretakers of the property of a disabled woman. There’s always something to be done there to improve the quality of her life. That’s where I was last weekend.

 

[Spurtulator]

That certainly would work.
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends that are caretakers of the property of a disabled woman. There’s always something to be done there to improve the quality of her life. That’s where I was last weekend.

Sounds like you have a great outlet to get you through those solitary stretches.

 

[Eric60]

That certainly would work.
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends that are caretakers of the property of a disabled woman. There’s always something to be done there to improve the quality of her life. That’s where I was last weekend.

Yep, distract yourself with something that gives a sense of purpose. Since I retired, that's been an issue.

 

[Spurtulator]

Yep, distract yourself with something that gives a sense of purpose. Since I retired, that's been an issue.

Is it distraction or finding legitimate solutions to making your life fulfilling?

 

[Eric60]

Yes!! Both I would think. By finding things that are fulfilling it would take the mind off of self. And would provide a sense of purpose. For me, isolation causes me to think more about my problems.

 

[RemoteShadeofGreen]

Environment is a huge trigger of depression. I picked 3 of the points that you hit upon that resonate with where I am at now.

I'm 56 years old, been divorced for 13 years and really have not had any success with dating. Essentially I have been single for the past 13 years after being with my wife for a total of 15 years. I was getting out through meetup groups. Unfortunately COVID ended all of my groups. I retired from my job to go back to college. COVID shut down in-person classes for 2 years at the college I attend. Right now classes are back to classroom delivery.

This summer I have a math class on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I can get tutoring Monday through Friday. The days I go for tutoring, I feel a lot better because I have interaction. If I don't go for tutoring on Thursday and Friday, I end up not seeing people for 4 days, and I really feel that feeling of depression overcome me.

Your second point I would like to focus on "purposeful action." You nailed it. Prolonged time without purpose is also a depression trigger.

Community connection is big. I'm not a religious person, but I do see where church really helps a lot of people by creating a sense of community. "Finding your tribe" is important to relieving the feeling of isolation and creating healthy people. Please don't slag me for bringing politics into this, but I feel like that has been a thing that has spurred Trumpism. We've lost our sense of community and a segment of people have found that sense through going to MAGA rallies and finding a tribe.

Unfortunately, I've had a lot of solitude this summer when not in class. I start up my internship in the fall, which I feel will go a long way to getting me in a good place.

I think it’s really brave to get out and start something new like you have; well done!

 

[Bassytian]

I am undatable, and "finding my tribe" hasn't worked out either, so I find purpose in writing. Granted, it doesn't always keep the "brain worms" away, but it keeps me here for the time being.

About my meds, I have an appointment on Monday, but it's not looking good for the ones on my "green list". Why did I even take the stupid test?

 

[Spurtulator]

I am undatable, and "finding my tribe" hasn't worked out either, so I find purpose in writing. Granted, it doesn't always keep the "brain worms" away, but it keeps me here for the time being.

About my meds, I have an appointment on Monday, but it's not looking good for the ones on my "green list". Why did I even take the stupid test?

I do agree that finding your group of people can be difficult. And it seems like it’s gotten more difficult post Covid.

Why do you feel that you’re undatable? Feel free to send me a PM if you’d like.

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Beauty is everywhere

 

[Starscream_UK]

Ugh, so the black dog is sitting at my door... just keeping my head down...

 

[Wetkitty09]

At my daughter’s house and hanging out with my grandkids. Makes me realize just what a grumpy grandma I am. Lol.

Be safe out there.
Love you.