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Depression. It's a silent killer.

Spurtulator said:
Environment is a huge trigger of depression. I picked 3 of the points that you hit upon that resonate with where I am at now.

I'm 56 years old, been divorced for 13 years and really have not had any success with dating. Essentially I have been single for the past 13 years after being with my wife for a total of 15 years. I was getting out through meetup groups. Unfortunately COVID ended all of my groups. I retired from my job to go back to college. COVID shut down in-person classes for 2 years at the college I attend. Right now classes are back to classroom delivery.

This summer I have a math class on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I can get tutoring Monday through Friday. The days I go for tutoring, I feel a lot better because I have interaction. If I don't go for tutoring on Thursday and Friday, I end up not seeing people for 4 days, and I really feel that feeling of depression overcome me.

Your second point I would like to focus on "purposeful action." You nailed it. Prolonged time without purpose is also a depression trigger.

Community connection is big. I'm not a religious person, but I do see where church really helps a lot of people by creating a sense of community. "Finding your tribe" is important to relieving the feeling of isolation and creating healthy people. Please don't slag me for bringing politics into this, but I feel like that has been a thing that has spurred Trumpism. We've lost our sense of community and a segment of people have found that sense through going to MAGA rallies and finding a tribe.

Unfortunately, I've had a lot of solitude this summer when not in class. I start up my internship in the fall, which I feel will go a long way to getting me in a good place.
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Thanks for sharing all that! Agree with much of it.
 
Morning. Solitude is a killer. I know this. When I start to spiral I know I have to get out and find someone to be around, preferably doing some kind of work to improve something.
Whether I do or not makes a difference on how bad it’s going to get.

Be safe out there.
Love you.
 
Sometimes the darkness feels endless.
Like the world has gone quiet and your own voice is too tired to call out.
But if you’re here - reading this - it means some part of you still wants to be heard. And that’s brave. That’s beautiful. That’s enough.

Lit isn’t just a site. It’s a lifeline for many of us.
A place where thoughts spill out safely. Where pain becomes poetry. Where arousal, heartbreak, joy, and survival sit side by side like old friends whispering stories into the night.

Here, you can write the ache out of your chest.
Here, you can read something that makes you feel seen.
Here, you can find strangers who somehow know your soul.

If today hurts - let it.
But also let Lit hold you for a while.
Let your words be messy. Let your comments be quiet. Let your stories be unfinished.
You don’t need to sparkle here. You just need to be.

And if the only thing you’ve done today is survive, then I’m proud of you.
This place is proof that words can be a lifeline. That someone, somewhere within Lit, understands.

You are not alone.
 
Wetkitty09 said:
Morning. Solitude is a killer. I know this. When I start to spiral I know I have to get out and find someone to be around, preferably doing some kind of work to improve something.
Whether I do or not makes a difference on how bad it’s going to get.

Be safe out there.
Love you.
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How hard do you find it to find someone when you are in those lengthy stretches of solitude?
 
Wetkitty09 said:
Morning. Solitude is a killer. I know this. When I start to spiral I know I have to get out and find someone to be around, preferably doing some kind of work to improve something.
Whether I do or not makes a difference on how bad it’s going to get.

Be safe out there.
Love you.
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Wow, that's profound. I think it's not the goal to find someone, but to do something, some kind of work to accomplish something that's the first step and finding like minded people might result from it? Is that your view?
 
Eric60 said:
Wow, that's profound. I think it's not the goal to find someone, but to do something, some kind of work to accomplish something that's the first step and finding like minded people might result from it? Is that your view?
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That certainly would work.
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends that are caretakers of the property of a disabled woman. There’s always something to be done there to improve the quality of her life. That’s where I was last weekend.
 
Wetkitty09 said:
That certainly would work.
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends that are caretakers of the property of a disabled woman. There’s always something to be done there to improve the quality of her life. That’s where I was last weekend.
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Sounds like you have a great outlet to get you through those solitary stretches.
 
Wetkitty09 said:
That certainly would work.
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends that are caretakers of the property of a disabled woman. There’s always something to be done there to improve the quality of her life. That’s where I was last weekend.
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Yep, distract yourself with something that gives a sense of purpose. Since I retired, that's been an issue.
 
Yes!! Both I would think. By finding things that are fulfilling it would take the mind off of self. And would provide a sense of purpose. For me, isolation causes me to think more about my problems.
 
Spurtulator said:
Environment is a huge trigger of depression. I picked 3 of the points that you hit upon that resonate with where I am at now.

I'm 56 years old, been divorced for 13 years and really have not had any success with dating. Essentially I have been single for the past 13 years after being with my wife for a total of 15 years. I was getting out through meetup groups. Unfortunately COVID ended all of my groups. I retired from my job to go back to college. COVID shut down in-person classes for 2 years at the college I attend. Right now classes are back to classroom delivery.

This summer I have a math class on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I can get tutoring Monday through Friday. The days I go for tutoring, I feel a lot better because I have interaction. If I don't go for tutoring on Thursday and Friday, I end up not seeing people for 4 days, and I really feel that feeling of depression overcome me.

Your second point I would like to focus on "purposeful action." You nailed it. Prolonged time without purpose is also a depression trigger.

Community connection is big. I'm not a religious person, but I do see where church really helps a lot of people by creating a sense of community. "Finding your tribe" is important to relieving the feeling of isolation and creating healthy people. Please don't slag me for bringing politics into this, but I feel like that has been a thing that has spurred Trumpism. We've lost our sense of community and a segment of people have found that sense through going to MAGA rallies and finding a tribe.

Unfortunately, I've had a lot of solitude this summer when not in class. I start up my internship in the fall, which I feel will go a long way to getting me in a good place.
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I think it’s really brave to get out and start something new like you have; well done!
 
I am undatable, and "finding my tribe" hasn't worked out either, so I find purpose in writing. Granted, it doesn't always keep the "brain worms" away, but it keeps me here for the time being.

About my meds, I have an appointment on Monday, but it's not looking good for the ones on my "green list". Why did I even take the stupid test?
 
Bassytian said:
I am undatable, and "finding my tribe" hasn't worked out either, so I find purpose in writing. Granted, it doesn't always keep the "brain worms" away, but it keeps me here for the time being.

About my meds, I have an appointment on Monday, but it's not looking good for the ones on my "green list". Why did I even take the stupid test?
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I do agree that finding your group of people can be difficult. And it seems like it’s gotten more difficult post Covid.

Why do you feel that you’re undatable? Feel free to send me a PM if you’d like.
 
Feeling a bit better today, thinking of filing an appeal to my insurance about my meds, but I get the feeling it’s a waste of my time.

At work this morning, I was thinking about how depression, or mine anyway, feels.

Normally, it manifests as either sadness, indifference, irritability, or some combination of those and others I may be leaving out.

But, when it got so bad that suicide felt like my only way out, it didn’t feel like I was in Hell. It was more like Hell was crammed inside me. Crammed inside my mind, heart, and soul. The agony is just as physically painful as it is emotionally and mentally. Everything, even your personality, hurts.

Anyway, that was just a musing I had today, I get them randomly at times.
 
Bassytian said:
Normally, it manifests as either sadness, indifference, irritability, or some combination of those and others I may be leaving out.

But, when it got so bad that suicide felt like my only way out, it didn’t feel like I was in Hell. It was more like Hell was crammed inside me. Crammed inside my mind, heart, and soul. The agony is just as physically painful as it is emotionally and mentally. Everything, even your personality, hurts.

Anyway, that was just a musing I had today, I get them randomly at times.
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That’s a really interesting insight, thank you.
Glad you’re feeling better today.
 
Wetkitty09 said:
Off to the beach today. Getting outside is one of the ways to keep the depression at bay. Going to the beach with three kids isn’t my favorite thing but they will enjoy it and that helps me enjoy it too.

Be safe out there.
Love you.
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We're hoping for the bikini shots. :)

Enjoy the day!
 
Wetkitty09 said:
Off to the beach today. Getting outside is one of the ways to keep the depression at bay. Going to the beach with three kids isn’t my favorite thing but they will enjoy it and that helps me enjoy it too.

Be safe out there.
Love you.
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Hope you wore a suitable sundress with the minimal undergarments as is the prerequisite 🥰🥰🥰
 
LeeKee said:
A good relationship without sex can be a relationship with anyone. A significant other should be significantly more. To eliminate sex in that significant relationship, where there once was, it taking away from the relationship.
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I second that.
 
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