Do you share your fetishes with your partner?

[JohnyJ09]

It took some time, but eventually yes, both my wife and I fully opened up to each other about our experiences, kinks, and desires. Not only did it lead to a much better understanding of each other, but also in some cases we were actually able to fulfill each other's fantasies and delved into some exciting new territory.

 

[LMWM321]

The one fantasy you can count on never getting fulfilled, the one itch that will never be scratched.... Is the one you don't share with your partner.

When I told my wife I wanted her to put a finger in my ass, then peg me, I was prepared to rationalize my interest with a bunch of Q&A from Sex Columns where the Sex Expert reassured the concerned wife that, "No, wanting a finger or dildo up the ass does NOT mean your man is Gay - it's a normal desire for quite a few people, including many straight men." ..Instead I simply told her I wanted to know what it feels like to have her inside of me. ..To have her behind me gliding in and out of me just like I have done to her thousands of times. ..It was a very easy sell. She offered no push back at all.

So, her response when I finally mustered the courage to ask..?

"Sure, I'll do that for you. We can do it tonight If you want..."

I was quite surprised that when I asked and was clear about it, it was a quick and easy YES. My only regret was waiting so long to ask her. And if I had waited for her to suggest it, well, I'd still be waiting - it's my kink, not hers. These days, Pegging me is in our rotation of activities and it's awesome.

C'mon people... Communication is everything.

 

[joclfc]

I share some fantasies. like the men and a few women in our circle of friend that turn greatly . I have kept private some of the situation of sexual nature that tI feel are non of him business. An example I love being an exhibitionist in my hotel suite , striping and masturbating with the blinds open.

Can I still message you?

 

[joclfc]

I share some fantasies. like the men and a few women in our circle of friend that turn greatly . I have kept private some of the situation of sexual nature that tI feel are non of him business. An example I love being an exhibitionist in my hotel suite , striping and masturbating with the blinds open.

Hi again, can I still follow you?

 

[LMWM321]

i think there are so many fetishes for one person to get into that it's impossible for the person you love/lust to get into exactly the same fetishes

Well said. ..My wife is happy to hear about my fantasies and will consider helping me fulfill them. But if the answer is, "Sorry, that's not for me." then that's the end of it. She'll tolerate NO pressure once the answer is no. And that is her right.

Like porn, fantasies are fun and can be harmless so long as they don't become an obsession that dulls a person's interest in the sexual activities their partner is comfortable with.

 

[van_delay]

My wife is ambivalent but non judgemental about the ones she knows about which I consider a great approach

 

[Sol41]

Some overlap. He likes peeing on me and I like being peed on, but he cant do scat. He doesnt shame or judge me for doing it in the past or still liking it as a fantasy though.

I call him daddy a lot, which he loves so yay on daddy issues

 

[TonyF862]

Some overlap. He likes peeing on me and I like being peed on, but he cant do scat. He doesnt shame or judge me for doing it in the past or still liking it as a fantasy though.

I call him daddy a lot, which he loves so yay on daddy issues

Are you the scat-or or the scat-ee? Do you still do "scatting" (is that the term)?

BTW I've/we've recently taken to the whole "daddy" dynamics when we're fucking (wife of 30 years). hearing her moan or scream "fuck me Daddy" really gets me going and often puts me over the edge especially when she is riding me and kissing/whispering in my ear. Fuck it is HOT!

 

[Sol41]

Are you the scat-or or the scat-ee? Do you still do "scatting" (is that the term)?

BTW I've/we've recently taken to the whole "daddy" dynamics when we're fucking (wife of 30 years). hearing her moan or scream "fuck me Daddy" really gets me going and often puts me over the edge especially when she is riding me and kissing/whispering in my ear. Fuck it is HOT!

I have no idea if thats the "official" term. I have heard it though and its convinent to say.

I played solo.
Not actively. I still have a fantasy here or there but the thought of all the prep work and clean up outweighs the thrill these days.

Thats awesome, every girl wants a daddy she can ride on.

 

[Crownvic]

I have no idea if thats the "official" term. I have heard it though and its convinent to say.

I played solo.
Not actively. I still have a fantasy here or there but the thought of all the prep work and clean up outweighs the thrill these days.

Thats awesome, every girl wants a daddy she can ride on.

Love when she rides me...her favorite...

 

[TwystedDzyre]

With the wife, no.

With the girlfriends, absolutely.

 

[Sam5557]

Absolutely! Seems only fair since she shares hers.

 

[TonyF862]

All but cock sucking. However, her fetish, or one of them, is fantasizing about her, and another man, while I put his cock in for him. I've pushed it to ask her if she wants me to hold on while he fucks her, and she says yes. Then I say, "it's almost like I'm jerking him off, do you like that?" She usually says yes, then squirts all over her dilido and my hand. I've asked her if she wants me to jerk him off on her tits, and face when he cuts, she usually says yes, then cums some more

that's REALLY hot!

 

[TonyF862]

Really been enjoying this thread, and the variety of experiences and fantasies shared.

I thought I'd shared everything with my wife, and I, more or less, have. However, there is one fantasy I don't think she full understand the depth of my desire, or the breadth of what all it includes

First off, context: My gorgeous wife is 4'10" and barely 100 lbs soaking wet. 58 yo, and the body that still reflects her gymnastics career/passion that lasted into her early twenties. A hot little number by any measure.

And we fuck like porn stars almost daily - so I am a VERY satisfied man - in SO many ways.

All of that said: I LOVE BBW women. I always have. and oddly enough I never really knew it until porn became ubiquitous. My body literally reacts to certain BBW shapes, sizes etc. Often triggered by the woman's face - eyes, smile etc. I love HUGE hangers, BIG round asses, shapely legs, and that gleam in a large woman's eye that says she enjoys, nee NEEDS, sex!

Within this backdrop of BBW lust, there are a few specifics I crave:

• Burying my face in her ass while she's on all fours - When I see a large, beautiful woman with a big round ass - especially if she has a equally small(er) waist, I get filled with lust and desire to bend her over and bury my face in her backside. Tonguing that pussy and clit and tongue-punching that elusive brown-star!!
• Hangers - I LOVE big, o'l floppy titties that hang down and knock your face senseless when she's on me, riding and grinding into my cock with her clit. Cumming and moaning, all the while having those illustrious orbs pounding my head senseless. Nirvana!
• Facesitting - having those, bald, large pussy lips straddle my mouth, ideally with a clit the size of a small cock, and having her ride my mouth like her personal toy - until she squirts in my mouth!

So - there you have it. I confess. a fantasy, the depths of which my beautiful love does not fully understand and would probably be slightly offended if she knew. but - I gotta be me

 

[Will527]

When I met my wife and discovered that she liked anal sex, I jumped right in with my fetishes, and she engaged in every one except a threesome with another woman. Surprising someone with talk of a fetish is best done in a public environment, like at dinner where she can't get too loud to protest. If she likes talking about it, she'll do it .

 

[Crownvic]

When I met my wife and discovered that she liked anal sex, I jumped right in with my fetishes, and she engaged in every one except a threesome with another woman. Surprising someone with talk of a fetish is best done in a public environment, like at dinner where she can't get too loud to protest. If she likes talking about it, she'll do it .

She sounds very exciting..sexy in public too..

 

[chrisatb5]

No

 

[Dearelliot]

My wife thinks fetishes are stupid, "Why would anyone want to do that?" Why not just fuck and get it over with.

 

[Dearelliot]

My wife thinks fetishes are stupid, "Why would anyone want to do that?" Why not just fuck and get it over with.

That's not my attitude, it's hers.

 

[joclfc]

That's not my attitude, it's hers.

Well I've never mentioned mine to the wife or asked about he's to be honest

 

[Dearelliot]

Well I've never mentioned mine to the wife or asked about he's to be honest

Over the years as conversations took place, fetishes have been mentioned, and she never responded positively to them, and in general as I said that is her attitude toward fetishes

 

[1789llx]

I’ve shared mine with varying responses. She claims not to have any sexual fantasies at all, ever, of which I am somewhat sceptical, and we have been married a while. I’d be interested if anyone else on here has the same claim, especially any women that may be reading or responding.

 

[9to5]

I’ve shared mine with varying responses. She claims not to have any sexual fantasies at all, ever, of which I am somewhat sceptical, and we have been married a while. I’d be interested if anyone else on here has the same claim, especially any women that may be reading or responding.

mine says the same no fantasy. I have tried to share mine and she doesn't like and have no interest. just vanilla sex is all. I was lucky to tie her once and get her to ride me cowgirl

 

[razor33a]

mine says the same no fantasy. I have tried to share mine and she doesn't like and have no interest. just vanilla sex is all. I was lucky to tie her once and get her to ride me cowgirl

Mine is the same. I have gotten her to use a dildo on me but she says it's "meh" and doing it for me.

 

[MamaBitte]

What a hellish life to have to hide who you are and what you like from your partner. But many people do. They get together and try to hide themselves from each other. Madness!

Let's put it this way, I've learned to hide myself ...