Do you share your fetishes with your partner?

[Yarglenurp]

My partner is aware of the themes of my stories, but doesn’t read them, not because of secrecy but a lack of interest in reading lol

Your partner is uninterested in hypnosis or uninterested in being a dom? Or uninterested in being a sub?

 

[Hypnobitch01]

Your partner is uninterested in hypnosis or uninterested in being a dom? Or uninterested in being a sub?

Honestly just not a fan of reading haha. We’re both very experimental in the bedroom.

 

[Yarglenurp]

Honestly just not a fan of reading haha.

Oof, that’s the worst one!

 

[Sunnyade]

I share with like minded partners.

 

[Luzi_]

Meine Frau teilt nicht alle meine Fetische, aber unterstützt mich immer diese an ihr oder anderen Frauen/Männern auszuleben.

 

[ronitamisha2824]

We share our fantasies with each other. A few doen and a few remaining. One of her fantasy is to have an orgy. Mine was to have her dresses like a hooker and I bargain with her for night while a few are around and know I am taking her tonight. Then go to a shady kind of hotel / motel. All wud think she is a hooker with her client.

We had an experience something like it but not fully. We were in Pattaya and were naked n fucking on an open balcony at night which other hotels and apartments nearby. The balcony railings were of glass and we were facing the silent street. One of the guard of other building was us. I was worried but she said don't worry it's Pattaya and thebhuh wud be thinking a shameless hooker is being banged openly.
That got me too hard thinking of our fantasy of her acting like a hooker.

 

[wifewatcher1997]

Share as in "talk about" and participate are two very different things. I do share fantasies with my partner, but some of them we both know will never be realized. Which is perfectly fine by me.

Yes, completely agree

Talking about fantasies/fetishes lead to toys in the bedroom, roleplaying about other men, and eventually her taking lovers for a period of 10 years. That ship has sailed and we don't 'talk' as much anymore about the world wind of thoughts that flood my mind daily!

 

[Goldenfinger]

What fun is keeping them to yourself.

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

I’ve tried and doesn’t go over very well. She’s pretty vanilla and anything on the edge even is in the pervert zone to her. She’s way to jealous to talk to much out of the box…but I keep trying.

 

[Sarge9mm]

I tell mine all of then except I'm curious. That's her main no never is anything bi.

 

[Travler99921]

I told my wife many of my fantasies and desires, including wearing panties, being smooth, and wanting gay sex. Eventually they all happened. It turns out we had some shared desires. We both preferred cunnilingus over intercourse.

 

[LisaMayTurner]

When I have a partner, of course I do.

 

[CuriousJInLA]

Yes. Even if they’re not into everything you find commonalities that can lead to new fun for both of you (and maybe others)

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yes. Not all at once, but I usually reveal them eventually. I might reveal them all if they're open minded, even the ones I might not do IRL.

 

[michael2956]

I've shared most of my fetishes with here. She listens and doesn't laugh, but isn't really into indulging them. I can't get her to wear stockings or pantyhose. She does get into spanking, a little bit.

 

[MrRandyWatson]

I really wasn’t able to share much with my first wife. She got maybe the tip of the iceberg.

My girlfriend (future second wife and I’m keeping her) knows about a lot of my fantasies; she knows I’m sub, that I want to get fucked in the ass, that I’m attracted to men and want her to watch me get fucked by men. The kink I have that I’m hesitant to bring up with her: diapers.

 

[Cardinal]

As it says on the subject...

I've just written one of the "main" chapters of my story - My Mom is a Slut - featuring the main themes of cuckolding, D/s, and incest. Kinda proud of it, or more so - proud of having written 12 chapters, about 60,000 words to date, of a story that's getting an average 4.4 out of 5 stars with 50k max and 10k min views per chapter.

My partner is fully aware of my cuckold, and Dom/sub fantasies, but not about the incest.

Back in the early days of our relationship I used to write custom sex stories for her to read, generally whilst I would lick her or use a toy on her; a variety of different themes were explored covering a few different fetishes etc. I didn't however venture too far into kinkdom in those stories, because - well - who wants to bare their soul and risk ending it all?

(Though, wouldn't it be great if I did, and she loved it...)

We have of course discussed various sexual fantasies, hence cuckolding and Domination/submission being in the open, but then you get to certain taboos and it's just so hard to take that leap...

I have considered the idea of telling her that I have something I want her to read, and opening the story up for her, but - as in the old days - she must agree to me eating her/etc, to help ensure she is, ah, in the mood... at least give myself a chance...

But if the topic really is too far beyond her interests, no tongue or vibe is going to be strong enough to persuade her.

So, I'm left with this fetish remaining a secret...

I’ve tried sharing a few freaky things that I’m into but it has never ended well or like I’d want it to so I quit trying

 

[Queenzray808]

Unfortunately no… my wife is extremely vanilla and if I told her about my fetishes she’d probably faint..

 

[van_delay]

Unfortunately no… my wife is extremely vanilla and if I told her about my fetishes she’d probably faint..

Same

 

[Edgeallday78]

Unfortunately no… my wife is extremely vanilla and if I told her about my fetishes she’d probably faint..

I know what you mean

 

[darkride]

It's reassuring to hear some good stories here... though seems plenty of us are living private lives from our partners.

 

[PMarky2]

It used to be a case of 'up to a point' and the fact that she would go some of the way made things highly satisfactory for me. For example, she did not mind me being dominant and holding her down during sex, or being spanked, but ropes and whips were beyond what she would go for. No anal sex, but she would go for a finger in there or being tongued on one of her more out there nights. On the whole, it was a pretty happy arrangement.

 

[Icekiller56]

Most definitely, it's a way to spice things up a bit. Why hide what you love, when you can share it

 

[cowboyup6977]

I don’t hide anything from my husband or my lover

 

[Britva415]

Do you share your fetishes with your partner?

I'm going to.

My partner and I don't have sex (mis-matched sexual orientations), so, our relationship is open.

Right now the agreements between us in that regard are about sex, so, if I want to find someone for kink play, kink play which might not necessarily involve sex, then, this is a conversation I'll have to have with my partner.

It kind of fits in to an ongoing conversation between us about "what counts as sex, what even is sex." I recently found out that apparently something we have been doing together, and which I don't see as sex, as sexy, or as sexual, somehow counts to her as sex.



I expect what will happen is she'll want to know what the kink is, but only enough information to feel like I and my extramarital partners are being safe and not getting too entangled*, and beyond that, she probably won't want to know any details.

* Not intended as a pun, but, since rope play is one of the things I want to find a playmate for, I guess it works as one. Emotionally-entangled is what I meant.