Endless Curiosity

[Azuldrgon]

A question for the ages, are you messy or neat, clean or a slob? How does that affect your relationships?

Technically, I am neater than my so.
Luckily we get along great.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I am clean! I actually have been known to clean other people's houses when visiting This one could even make the deal breaker list for me... Are you a couch potato slob? BZzzzzzz! Next. I'm not fanatical, though. I just like orderly, with an exceptionally clean kitchen. Fuzz on the carpet? Meh, no biggy.

 

[beachbaby179]

I'm inbetween. Generally neat and clean but so busy that things get away from me sometimes.

 

[Endless_Night]

A registered member of the neat freak/clean freak club.

I seem to be relaxing a bit, meaning I no longer vacuum every single day. Neat still has a pretty firm grip, though. I'm the kind of person who rearranges the cupboards, closets, storage space, every three months - minimum. I'm also a little freaky about my visual(?) environment. My living space needs to feel...serene. Sometimes that means color, sometimes beauty of line, sometimes a certain vibe. It leads to decor changes on a fairly regular basis.

My SO is very clean, but not so neat. The subject occasionally comes up for...discussion. Yep. Let's call it discussion.

 

[ViciousTease]

I'm all of the above. My office is organized and spotless, both at work and at home. Kitchen and bathrooms must be clean, always. Bedroom and living room are tidy, but never spotless unless my mother is coming over. My truck ... well, it looks like I live in it. The laundry room is in a constant state of chaos.

My husband was raised by a domestic goddess who "loves to clean". He complains frequently. I offer to help him pack just as frequently. It's become a meaningless exchange that neither of us take seriously.

 

[ViciousTease]

How much of your down time is spent on Lit? Are you addicted? Do you get most of your social interaction here? Or is Lit a light relaxation when you have nothing better to do?

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

How much of your down time is spent on Lit? Are you addicted? Do you get most of your social interaction here? Or is Lit a light relaxation when you have nothing better to do?

My time here varies wildly. Usually I drop in several times a day because I don't like having to spend large chunks of time playing catch up in the threads sometimes I am only here once or twice a day if I am busy.

All that said, I recently spent some time in an area without any internet or cell access, and it was actually kind of refreshing to just step away and then come back without bothering to try and catch up

Maybe I'm addicted, I'm not really sure. I know I missed a few people while I was gone, so if I am addicted it's definitely due to the social interaction and not the kinky sexy fun times. I don't get the majority of my social interaction here, because I talk to people everywhere I go. About anything. Until they tell me to shut up

 

[Azuldrgon]

How much of your down time is spent on Lit? Are you addicted? Do you get most of your social interaction here? Or is Lit a light relaxation when you have nothing better to do?

I spend some of it here.

When I took my three year hiatus, it was wonderful to an extent because I was able to focus on other things. That being said, I missed the friendships I have made on here and the interaction.

I made many good friends here that I like to chat with off of here and that has made it better. Plus I know myself better than I did three years ago which helps also.

 

[Hypoxia]

Can we still do regrets here? I regret my zillions of bad choices, dumb (re)actions, careless and hurtful responses, sliminess, and just general fuckups. I've been a liar, thief, cheater, scoundrel. Yet I somehow emerged from fucking chaos with a loving family and much better lifestyle than I deserve. We can afford a comfortable life. My generous remote home is full of gorgeous arts and artifacts. I need hardly exert myself. I can have pretty much whatever I want, as long as I don't want too much.

What I really want is more self-control. Force myself back to writing and posting stories rather that only cruising the fora. ('Fora' is the Latin plural of forum.) Force myself to be more useful. Stop taking the easy path. Don't post this note; write that time-travel series, those bizarre incest stories, the tales of the autogyro pilot. Break my addiction to LIT forum scanning. Right.

 

[Endless_Night]

How much of your down time is spent on Lit? Are you addicted? Do you get most of your social interaction here? Or is Lit a light relaxation when you have nothing better to do?

Lit is my first, and only, experience with social media. I don't do Facebook. I might have been a tad addicted, back in the beginning o). So much to see and read! These days I'm less infatuated, and also much busier. I just don't have the same kind of time. If I can, I drop in several times a day for a quick check on my subscribed threads. If busy, I might go a few weeks between logins.

I don't get the majority of my social interaction here. Like Collar, I'm one to strike up conversation with strangers.

I enjoy my time here. Even my friendships that have moved off Lit are fun to engage with on the board. The flirting and silly piffling are fun.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Piffling?
Piffling?!?
Ok, yeah.
Piffling

 

[ViciousTease]

Are there posters on Lit you like, even post-stalk, but never interact with? Why not?

Bonus Question: Who?
Bonus Points: Send them a PM.

 

[beachbaby179]

Are there posters on Lit you like, even post-stalk, but never interact with? Why not?

Bonus Question: Who?
Bonus Points: Send them a PM.

There are. Of course. I'd have to be on here 24/7 to interact with all the folks I find interesting. But the really "popular " ones. I tend to avoid them because I feel like I will get lost in their inbox.

Every once in a while they contact me and I am surprised. Huge self esteem issues here. Clearly.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Are there posters on Lit you like, even post-stalk, but never interact with? Why not?

Bonus Question: Who?
Bonus Points: Send them a PM.

*guffawing*
I'm not answering this one....lol

 

[pvt_addiction]

Are there posters on Lit you like, even post-stalk, but never interact with? Why not?

Bonus Question: Who?
Bonus Points: Send them a PM.

I have a similar response to beachbaby's. There have been women on here in the past and currently that I was drawn to because of a certain something, but I never talked to them. A lot of times it's their snarkiness on the threads, or their flirty personality. Other times it might be their AV or profile pic. Something included in their profile that caught my eye. Whatever it is, I often find myself checking out a random thread if I see the person just posted on it. The reason I don't interact with them? A few reasons...Like BB said, I don't want to get lost in their inbox. I feel like there might be a specific group of people they socilize with and I'm not part of that group. I don't want to come across as one of "those guys" by attempting to initiate conversation with a random PM.

I've been on the flip side of this question too having Am Pic threads in the past. It happened with my most recent thread and actually turned me off from posting anymore pics. You can see that people are stopping by and checking out your thread, but there weren't many posts or reactions. It made me wonder what was stopping people from interacting.

I hope this makes sense.

 

[Endless_Night]

Are there posters on Lit you like, even post-stalk, but never interact with? Why not?

Bonus Question: Who?
Bonus Points: Send them a PM.

Yes, there are a few I always read when I see they’ve been posting. Even post stalk on occasion, when I have the time. (I wouldn’t want to miss anything interesting!) Why? Hmmmm. One is witty, urbane, and well-informed. Another is humorous and has an extensive lexicon - he’s improved my vocabulary.

Why don’t I interact? I suppose…because…it’s Lit? A PM to a stranger without at least board interaction almost seems to imply something of a sexual overture!

BQ: Ummmm…Nope!
BQQ: Maybe. I'll let the thought percolate through the day....

 

[Endless_Night]

Piffling?
Piffling?!?
Ok, yeah.
Piffling

Piffle good.

 

[ViciousTease]

*guffawing*
I'm not answering this one....lol

Awww, c'mon! This question has the potential to be lots of fun. Start naming names!!

 

[ydahecnot]

Yes, there are a few I always read when I see they’ve been posting. Even post stalk on occasion, when I have the time. (I wouldn’t want to miss anything interesting!) Why? Hmmmm. One is witty, urbane, and well-informed. Another is humorous and has an extensive lexicon - he’s improved my vocabulary.

Why don’t I interact? I suppose…because…it’s Lit? A PM to a stranger without at least board interaction almost seems to imply something of a sexual overture!

BQ: Ummmm…Nope!
BQQ: Maybe. I'll let the thought percolate through the day....

*numerous Lit men wondering if they are being referred to, though the urbane cohort is far more limited.

 

[AbsintheFather]

Are there posters on Lit you like, even post-stalk, but never interact with? Why not?

Bonus Question: Who?
Bonus Points: Send them a PM.

Fewer these days than when I first started here. Everyone intimidated me back then. These days, I'll send a pm if there's someone I see a lot in the same threads I post in and feel I shouldn't seem like I'm ignoring them. Often it might take months or years though

With few exceptions, I don't post stalk unless I'm trying to learn about someone. Somebody picked me in the 'Send a Random PM' this past week, so I did a little stalking before replying. Other than that, it's time consuming. To Enny's point, I don't take receiving a random PM as a sexual thing. We're all part of a community here and it's good to know your neighbors. Just because you talk to them, doesn't mean there's sexual chemistry. Like BB said, It's also a matter of time. I don't have time to pm everybody, so I welcome pm's.

BQ - Off the top of my head, I can think of one recent Litster who I found really pretty, sexy and smart but who I never approached because I was too shy. She doesn't come around too often anymore, but BackdoorBella always seemed out of my league to me.

No bonus points for me today

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Awww, c'mon! This question has the potential to be lots of fun. Start naming names!!

*cough**hell no**cough*

Ok, there are a few I post stalk but do not interact with because i find them rather fascinating. However, I choose not to interact with them because of various reasons. The main one honestly being I think we'd really hit it off and I'm dog ass tired of getting involved with people halfway across the globe who have no intention of actually getting together.

I'm not much of a "fantasy" person, so I get no pleasure out of pretending to be with someone when I'm not. I envy the lot of you who can take it all so nonsensically. I guess it's because I've had so much "reality" in my short little life, that I prefer not to gaze at a carrot I can't take a bite of.

It's kind of weird. I can see the gray areas and think they're perfectly fine for others, however, for me, myself, and I, there tends to be a great deal of either black or white. That's just how my clock ticks.

As for who?
You could roofie me and I don't think I'd tell.
I chose to interact one time with a crush I had, but backed out very quickly because his words moved me so much I knew I'd be in trouble if continued the dialogue. And he lives way up in the NE, so no chance of that blossoming into anything else. Plus, his soothing talk underscored with a heavy dose of erotic innuendo was the way he interacted with everyone. And I'm not a Wednesday girl, if you know what I mean. You engage with me, and I expect to be your everyday girl, not a once-in-a-while.

 

[Endless_Night]

< To Enny's point, I don't take receiving a random PM as a sexual thing. We're all part of a community here and it's good to know your neighbors. Just because you talk to them, doesn't mean there's sexual chemistry. Like BB said, It's also a matter of time. I don't have time to pm everybody, so I welcome pm's. >

Thanks, Abs.

A silly paranoia on my part, perhaps. It may be that I’m overly influenced by receiving the occasional overtly-sexual random PM. Not every person on the board expects to dive straight into the sexy talk.

Not that I’m against the sexy talk, you understand! It just needs to be the right sexy talk, with the right sexy talkee.

Abs heads another group that I almost mentioned in my previous answer. People I’ve swapped a couple PMs with, but then, for whatever reason, quit engaging. (In Ab’s case I think I went on a Lit break.) For me, that’s always a little awkward. Is it okay to PM again? Will they remember me? Lit is so different from face-to-face interactions. Real time I can, and do, talk to anybody. A perfect stranger? No problem. I have lots of social confidence D).

On Lit, many of the normal social cues are missing. No facial expressions, no tone of voice, no body language to read. It definitely makes me slower to open dialogue.

 

[Endless_Night]

*numerous Lit men wondering if they are being referred to, though the urbane cohort is far more limited.

LOL! And here I was, picturing them all turning off their PMs for fear I might go for today's Bonus Points.

 

[Amalgamation]

I used to spend a bunch of time here. Now, I go days without logging in or posting. Then I have days where I post a bunch. It's random for me now. I think I posted so much in the past because I had plenty of connections to keep me integrated and engaged.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Are there posters on Lit you like, even post-stalk, but never interact with? Why not?

Bonus Question: Who?
Bonus Points: Send them a PM.

Not that I can think of. If I find someone interesting I will inevitably interact with them in threads. If that leads to PMs, fine. Usually...

I have tried to be nice a few times only to end up with a psycho on my hands. That's never fun. It tends to turn me off of sending messages to people, even those I see posting regularly

BQ: Nobody!
BP: Errrrrrr... Ok