Escorts, prostitutes and paying for sex.

[human_male]

Have you ever posted personals on Lit? If so, how were they received?

Once or twice and I didn't get any replies accept some "Just chearing you on" sort of posts, and one guy who wanted to know if I got anyone could he join in.

I found another place not too far away and enquired if any ladies did what I was looking for and there were a few. So it sounds like I was just unlucky with that first place. But now wouldn't you know it I seem to have lost the urge. But I will doubtless go eventually.

Thanks agian. And just a comment on your above post... it seems a shame that some people want to respond to you like that when all you want to do is help people. *shoulder squeeze*

 

[Shadowann2]

Thanks hon. I've had some really nice pms since I started this thread. Some from guys who have enjoyed escort services, some from girls who used to work or are considering it. Those who are abusive really have no idea what they're talking about. I've never understood people who can mudsling like that from positions of supreme ignorance.

God does not hate me.

God does not hate. Therein lies the fundamental difference between a deity and his DIY, Sunday afternoon biological experiment.

God may well exist and he may well dislike how I live. If he was that bothered however, he would have left humankind more guidance than a poorly translated collection of whimsical fairy tales.

God is welcome to judge me. Everyone else can fuck off and go yank the rafter out of their own eye.

We're a violent, avaricious, greedy, arrogant, lustful and ultimately destructive race that will likely cost the life of every organism on this planet by the time we're done fucking it up. We're inherently sinful, the place where the falling angel meets the rising ape. We are no better and better cannot therefore be expected from us.

He who is without sin... would not have a pocket full of stones.

Well said! I am a Catholic but not a very devout one. I think the Catholic Church judges too much and that a lot of it's members think they are so high and mighty and can, as you said, cast stones. They seem to forget the line in the Bible that says, "Judge not; lest ye be judged." To be a good Christian, one should not hate or judge others.

Your life style is not for me, and but it wouldn't stop me from being friends with you, here, or IRL. You have made a choice which works for you, and doesn't directly hurt anyone (who doesn't want to be hurt ), so who am I to judge? I'm sure I've made choices in my life that you wouldn't have made for yourself, or don't agree with, so why should I condemn you for what you have done? Live and let live, I say.

 

[BrushStrokes]

WG,
I am in no real position to do any judging. Of anybody
I have a hard enough time living up to the expectations of my dog, who requests little more then walkies, fresh water, good food, and love and attention when he wants it......

Given that as my starting premise, I am real aware of my own failings......

two thoughts......
When ever I meet some one, am I adding to their load, or lightening it?
(sometimes lightening it means not adding any more to what people already carry)

When you sling mud, really all you do is lose ground.....

So I'll leave God to do his thing......

Cheers

 

[RUbensBeautY]

Just stopping by to say, I really enjoyed reading your thread. Thank you.

 

[mickwannabe]

Bit presumptuous of me but I've been lurking here for ages and I've despaired of some of the daft ideas guys have posted about female sex workers. I'm here to dispel the myth and to advise those who are determined to take that route to satisfy their needs. I'm a bisexual escort and pro-switch so there isn't a great deal that I haven't dabbled in.

Go on... you know you want to.

Do you discriminate based on client size? I mean like body size, weight, etc. Are a majority of your clients overweight and/or unattractive?

How do you go through with it if you find the person unattractive?

 

[MiliktheRed]

I love this thread and I commend you on your courage to live life in your own way. I have always found it very hypocritical that guys are expected to get sex when ever and where ever they can, but women are judged harshly for doing the same.
You have said that some of the call girl stories on the sight are painfully unrealistic. I myself am writing a novel on the subject called Kelly's Passion and would be very greatfull to hear your thoughts on it if you had the time to read it.
Here is a link.http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=421937
It is, of course only fiction so some things may seem silly or foolish to you, but I do try to at least capture the mood.

 

[working_girl]

Do you discriminate based on client size? I mean like body size, weight, etc. Are a majority of your clients overweight and/or unattractive?

How do you go through with it if you find the person unattractive?

The majority are average I suppose. I see more desk workers than manual workers so that it a factor. I don't discriminate too much on size but I dislike people who perspire an awful lot and I do discriminate about personal hygiene. If a guy can't be bothered to shower before seeing me I'm very unlikely to spend time with him again.

As with all these things, it varies. I discriminate far more on the basis of personality and attitude than looks. If I can connect with someone as a person and enjoy their company, their looks become proportionately less important.

My clients aren't mostly overweight or unattractive. Some are lonely, some just don't have the time for commitment, some don't get what they want sexually from their SO. I see a lot of guys who lack confidence and so they don't present themselves well but that's not the same thing as being unattractive really. I've only ever seen a few guys who I'd say were obese but they've been nice people with good personal hygiene.

It just varies so much that conjuring averages is really difficult for me. I see a fairly broad cross-section of guys, for any number of reasons. Because I screen clients carefully, and in London there's enough demand that I have that luxury, I know who I'm meeting with. Agency girls are sent to houses and hotel rooms with no idea who they'll be seeing but I work privately so it's not so much of an issue for me.

 

[wellnow]

WorkingGirl, you are amazing.

Your experience, perspective and candor have made this the most interesting thread for mi on Lit.

Thank you.

 

[wellnow]

In the country that I live in, I have started to see advertising for mail escorts with additional benefits such as tall, handsome, "well endowed" etc, not very discreet. Their adds are specifically heterosexual or in some cases for couples. The gay ads have existed for several years but this is new. Is this becoming more common in the more "developed" countries as in GB? I would have to assume that there is a market which does surprise me a bit.

 

[mntcmn]

how?

The description of your early years is saddening. Thank you for your writing.
How can an old guy in the Midwest of the US, who didn't have a great childhood but has learned a few things here and there, help you?

 

[human_male]

What are some ways that working girls advertise? I've found a couple of brothels quite near me through a website, but I'd really prefer a private escort (I'm a bit on the shy side and just the thought of going in a brothel and picking someone puts me off). There are tons of adds for the central city and most other areas but none in the areas close to me. But surely there must be some. Maybe they just don't advertise, or don't advertise online. So how do you find them?

 

[rosco rathbone]

What are some ways that working girls advertise? I've found a couple of brothels quite near me through a website, but I'd really prefer a private escort (I'm a bit on the shy side and just the thought of going in a brothel and picking someone puts me off). There are tons of adds for the central city and most other areas but none in the areas close to me. But surely there must be some. Maybe they just don't advertise, or don't advertise online. So how do you find them?

Check the AUckland Craigslist under "erotic services".

 

[rosco rathbone]

http://auckland.craigslist.org/ers/1253573008.html

cute!

 

[human_male]

Thanks.

I've contacted a few private escorts I've found in the paper and websites and none have even gotten back to me. They don't answer the phone, they don't return my messages, they don't answer my email, they won't come to the door. I wonder why that is. Maybe they don't need the business but if that's the case why do they advertise?

I went to an asian massage that's literally ten minutes walk from me and no one answered the door. I rang the phone number and I got Vodafone, which is a mobile phone and internet provider. What's up with that?

 

[JohnMBrowning]

I paid one time, at a wild, coke-drenched party years ago, where a couple hookers performed on each other for an appetizer, and then were open for biz. Not a fab memory or experience.

Since then I never have. Knowing that the girl is putting on an act is just a compete turn-off.

Years ago the there was term, "semi-pro." It denoted girls who did not take on all comers, but picked up guys they were attracted to in bars and integrated this with getting paid. The execution is tricky, but this always sounded like a decent approach.

I'm glad that the maker of this thread appears to not harbor illusions, and seems to be definitely making her own choices rather than the victim of any kind of explicit or indirect exploitation. Given that, it seems like honorable work - value given for value received.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Thanks.

I've contacted a few private escorts I've found in the paper and websites and none have even gotten back to me. They don't answer the phone, they don't return my messages, they don't answer my email, they won't come to the door. I wonder why that is. Maybe they don't need the business but if that's the case why do they advertise?

I went to an asian massage that's literally ten minutes walk from me and no one answered the door. I rang the phone number and I got Vodafone, which is a mobile phone and internet provider. What's up with that?

Keep trying, you'll get lucky sooner or later.

 

[satindesire]

You know what the world needs more of?

Women that actually advertise to help a guy lose his virginity, teach him all about sex and educate him about all kinds of sexual things, and also teach him how to be comfortable around women.

Sort of like a prostitute, but one you go to for multiple "classes" or something like that. A woman who really cares about her clients and wants to help them break out of their shell.

Hell, if I wasn't married I would do it in a second. I always feel such compassion towards guys who are so nervous and shy about women and sex.

 

[human_male]

You know what the world needs more of?

Women that actually advertise to help a guy lose his virginity, teach him all about sex and educate him about all kinds of sexual things, and also teach him how to be comfortable around women.

Sort of like a prostitute, but one you go to for multiple "classes" or something like that. A woman who really cares about her clients and wants to help them break out of their shell.

Hell, if I wasn't married I would do it in a second. I always feel such compassion towards guys who are so nervous and shy about women and sex.

I think they're called sex surrogates. Ever watch Boston Legal? There was a woman who did exactly that. She was a therapist who also (when it was appropriate) had sex with the clients. It was all about helping men feel comfortable around women, just like you said. I don't know if the woman on the show was an accurate depiction of a sex surrogate or what, but it would be awsome if it was.

I've looked into that but could not find any. Well, I found a website for one in New York. I emailed her and asked her how women in her field advertised so I might find one near me, but once again... no reply.

 

[satindesire]

I think they're called sex surrogates. Even watch Boston Legal? There was a woman on who did exactly that. She was a therapist who also (when it was appropriate) had sex with the clients. It was all about helping men feel comfortable around women, just like you said. I don't know if the woman on the show was an accurate depiction of a sex surrogate or what, but it would be awsome if it was.

I've looked into that but could not find any. Well, I found a website for one in New York. I emailed her and asked her how women in her field advertised so I might find one near me, but once again... no reply.

Seriously, more women need to do that. Think of how many more happy and confident men would be out there.

 

[chicotoo]

A Thanks is in order.

I wish to thank you for providing the services you do. I know you are abused and underappreciated. But, I do know what you provide and if only others would be less opinionated or self-righteous, we would get along much better.

 

[human_male]

Seriously, more women need to do that. Think of how many more happy and confident men would be out there.

I agree. I'm sure that's all I'd need to fix me.

How do you find such a person?

 

[bobinks2]

I agree. I'm sure that's all I'd need to fix me.

How do you find such a person?

I don't have any first hand experience with this, so my suggestion may be off base, but I think you want to look for a tantra coach. I've been studying up on tantra for awhile. There are a number of tantra coaches that seem to offer what you're looking for. I did a little searching on the net, but I only found one in NZ, and it's a dude! Probably not what you're looking for.

A lot of them go by the titles 'Goddess', 'Tantriki', they use the terms 'sacred sexualty' and 'tantra touch' a lot. Some have the term 'sex surrogate' in their websites.

Since I've never been to one, it's possible that they offer nothing more than a massage with a 'happy ending'. It's also possible that they just offer a 'happy ending' without the beginning or middle'. However, I get the impression that some of them are legit.

Most of them are offering knowledge that's beyond your current need, but a lot do things like 'intimacy coaching' and relationship help.

If you read the description of 'sexual coaching' here,
http://www.sacrederos.com/terms/view/209
I think what you're looking for is in there somewhere.

 

[satindesire]

I agree. I'm sure that's all I'd need to fix me.

How do you find such a person?

Haven't got the foggiest, honey. Sorry.

 

[Sir Victor]

Have you tried going to an upscale strip club, just to get more comfortable around half naked gorgeous ladies?
You might think about going just for a drink during off hours to check out the place and the girls of course.
I also suggest that you not go with a specific goal in mind, just relax, let the girls suggest things, they will
want your money of course, as much as they can get, it is their job after all.

 

[Sir Victor]

Is this near you? http://www.thewhitehouse.co.nz/whitehouse.php?detectflash=false