First time swingers club advice

[peekingone]

Just thought I’d post an update as I’ve had a few DM’s about our next steps.
We’ve spoken a lot and took our time but have felt that the experience was so good we’re ready to go further if the opportunity arises. So we’ve booked to go back to the club early November (it ties in with his birthday so it could be a very big celebration!! Ha ha)
We’re not setting any expectations but have opened up the limits and boundaries we had from the first visit.

I will obviously update here if people are interested in how it evolves

That is wonderful news. Wishing the best and a great Birthday for hubby.

 

[deft]

Just thought I’d post an update as I’ve had a few DM’s about our next steps.
We’ve spoken a lot and took our time but have felt that the experience was so good we’re ready to go further if the opportunity arises. So we’ve booked to go back to the club early November (it ties in with his birthday so it could be a very big celebration!! Ha ha)
We’re not setting any expectations but have opened up the limits and boundaries we had from the first visit.

I will obviously update here if people are interested in how it evolves

I’m really interested. It sounds so thrilling for you both.

 

[cuckoldbill]

Ok- I have no idea where to start.

We had a great night. Everyone we met was super welcoming and curious, especially when we told them it was our first visit.

We had a lot of nerves in the immediate lead up to going but we managed to keep it together.

I wore new red lingerie and a black dress, nothing too over the top but both got a lot of complements during the night.

You enter into the social area and it was busy but not overly packed. We got a drink, one of only two alcoholic ones that night. That helped calm a few nerves. There were lots of people chatting, mingling and it wasn’t long before we started talking to a few couples. Nothing explicit, a lot about how often we’ve been (never) have we come far, how long in the lifestyle etc. everyone was nice but I didn’t feel immediately connected to any couple. And a lot of people seemed to be taking their time. There was a mezzanine looking down to this area and upstairs led to the main play area. Downstairs was more geared towards bdsm which we did explore later in the night

I needed the bathroom after about 45 mins and as I went into the ladies another lady was coming out. She was slightly older than me, shoulder length darl hair. She complemented me on my dress and shoes. When I can back out my husband was still sitting in his own but as soon as I sat back down the lady from te bathroom and her partner came over and asked if they could join us. They introduced themselves (for this purpose we’ll call the Paola and Steve) and we started to chat. She was American/Venezuelan and he was British and we had a few work things in coming that helped the conversation. We spoke about the club, how long they’d been in the lifestyle and our firts impressions and hopes for the night, including our limits for the evening. After about 15 minutes another coupes came over and they knew Steve and Paola, we chatted again all for about 10 mins before they left to go to the play rooms. Steve said they’d be up soon. It was shortly after that that Paolo asked if we wanted them to show us aroudn upstairs with no pressure, just a friendly hand to hold.

We felt we were comfortable and relaxed so we’re happy to.

We had to go upstairs and to the locker room to change as the play areas tended to be more risqué outfits, they stripped down straight away with lout any hesitation but it took a little courage for me to take the dress off and just be in my underwear. Again, both complimented me on my outfit, Steve especially couldn’t seem to get enough and I was flattered and embarrassed at the same time.

The play areas had lots of private sode rooms. Some with doors open and couples and more inside, others with doors closed which we knew meant they wanted privacy.

But it was the big play area that had the most action. So many people on various stages of nakedness and sexual activity. It was quite overwhelming with the sites, the sounds and even the smell. Very very arousing. My husband and I were holding hands as Paola led us around the room until we settled in one corner taking in some of the action.

There was a lot going on.!!!

Steve then asked if he could put his arm around me. I was comfortable with that, squeezed my had to indicate to my husband and he looked and smiled as agreed. Steve’s hand was on my waist but also stroked up and down my body, including my bum. He was chatting as we watched, saying that when I’m ready I could probably have anyone I wanted, and was there things I was seeing I liked. His hand was definitely exploring and I really liked the feeling holding my husbands hand as another man felt my body. My husband was chatting to Paola as we continued to watch so much.

Paola than lent over to ask us both if we’d be open to joining them to find a more private room. Again, she was very clear that they respected or boundaries but thought we might like a more private space to explore them. My husband checked in with me and o could tell he was up for it. And I was really liking Steve’s company so we agreed.

It took a few minutes to find an empty room. And as we went in Steve asked if we were ok to keep the door open. I wasn’t totally sure but I also knew we weren’t going to be doing too much so I agreed .

We sat at chatted as we relaxed on a big bed area, a few couples looked in but passed on by when they saw nothing was happening. Steve then asked if he could kiss me. Now kissing is a big thing for me, a huge turn on. And we had said kissing, making out, touching was our limits for the night. No penetration or oral of any kind.

So we shifted spots and Steve came over next to me and we slowly started to make out. I could see my husband and Paola watching and then they started. He was a great kisser. Really good. His hands explored but he checked in on each different part of my body.then he asked if i wanted to take my bra off. Paolo was already topless , her boobs were smaller than mine but long nipples.


I took it off and then he started to play with my boobs as we continued to make out. I felt his cock over his underwear and he stroked me over mine. I was very very very turned on.


I didn’t take my underwear off with him but his fingers did touch me , and I stroked his cock for a bit without taking his off.

I felt I wanted to stop there and he totally accepted that and my husband came back to me( with a raging hard on).

They then asked if we wanted to watch them fuck. And I really wanted to, so they started to have sex whilst we watched and my husband fingered me. A few minutes later the other couple that knew them walked past and saw them having sex and asked if they could join us.

Paola said we weren’t playing but they could if we didn’t mind. So they joined and all four of them started to have sex.

We actually left them to it about 10 minutes later, there were too many legs. Ha ha.

I grabbed my bra and we find a smaller room empty. We had sex with the door open, so people walking past could see. We had a few people hover for a while, but I was so into the sex I didn’t really notice .

After we finished we went back downstairs and got a drink. And recovered. The social area was really busy then. We took a short walk through the bdsm area, just to see it. And then felt we’d down enough for the night. We had no idea that by this time it was already 1am.

So we got dressed and got a taxi home.

A very very successful night. I hope this reads well, I’m missing out a lot of detail but o wanted to give a general review of the night.

Let me know to you have any questions s

Great report. Thanks for posting it

 

[Jimmy119_190]

The countdown begins @LittleGreene?

Have you already got plans for how to approach your visit? New ground rules in place? What rooms you wanna explore?

Or is it just going to be a case of going with the flow?

….or suck it and see?

 

[LittleGreene]

The countdown begins @LittleGreene?

Have you already got plans for how to approach your visit? New ground rules in place? What rooms you wanna explore?

Or is it just going to be a case of going with the flow?

….or suck it and see?

We’re not approaching n any different way attitude wise. We’re going to go and have fun, no pressure or expectations to do anything.

But if we do meet people we connect with we are both open and ready for much more sexually.

We have set new rules, never solo, always same room, I have the final say on anything we do but we are open to full swap if it feels right.

 

[deft]

We’re not approaching n any different way attitude wise. We’re going to go and have fun, no pressure or expectations to do anything.

But if we do meet people we connect with we are both open and ready for much more sexually.

We have set new rules, never solo, always same room, I have the final say on anything we do but we are open to full swap if it feels right.

I hope it goes excitingly for you both!

 

[Jimmy119_190]

We’re not approaching n any different way attitude wise. We’re going to go and have fun, no pressure or expectations to do anything.

But if we do meet people we connect with we are both open and ready for much more sexually.

We have set new rules, never solo, always same room, I have the final say on anything we do but we are open to full swap if it feels right.

Sounds fantastic, and you’re going in with eyes open and boundaries clear, which sounds the absolutely right way to go about it!

You say no expectations, but hopes? It feels like you’re hoping things will go further than last time, is that fair?

Exiting times!!

 

[LittleGreene]

Sounds fantastic, and you’re going in with eyes open and boundaries clear, which sounds the absolutely right way to go about it!

You say no expectations, but hopes? It feels like you’re hoping things will go further than last time, is that fair?

Exiting times!!

I think that’s fair to say.

We have hopes and hopes ideas of what we’d love to experience, but as we’ve been told many times, we shouldn’t force things

 

[Jimmy119_190]

I’m gunna go out on a limb, and say we’re all pulling for ya @LittleGreene!!

Thanks for the update too

 

[frappingwilly]

We’re not approaching n any different way attitude wise. We’re going to go and have fun, no pressure or expectations to do anything.

But if we do meet people we connect with we are both open and ready for much more sexually.

We have set new rules, never solo, always same room, I have the final say on anything we do but we are open to full swap if it feels right.

My new girlfriend and I are going through the same thing, we are off to a swingers resort and have agreed to spectate until we are both comfortable and if we do find a couple we like we will discuss that then. Same room as a couple only.

 

[LittleGreene]

My new girlfriend and I are going through the same thing, we are off to a swingers resort and have agreed to spectate until we are both comfortable and if we do find a couple we like we will discuss that then. Same room as a couple only.

A whole resort! That’s sounds very overwhelming for a first time! But also very sexy.
Good luck.

 

[frappingwilly]

A whole resort! That’s sounds very overwhelming for a first time! But also very sexy.
Good luck.

Thank you, we figured it would be less pressure and they have areas of the resort which are designed for a more peaceful experience. More chance to meet people and take our time rather than go-to 3 or 4 events and meet people only for a few hours. If that makes sense?

 

[LittleMissSunshine12]

This has been really interesting to read, it sounds very exciting, I hope the experiences continue to go well!

 

[LittleGreene]

Thank you, we figured it would be less pressure and they have areas of the resort which are designed for a more peaceful experience. More chance to meet people and take our time rather than go-to 3 or 4 events and meet people only for a few hours. If that makes sense?

Makes total sense. When are you guys going? And will post a review!

 

[LittleGreene]

This has been really interesting to read, it sounds very exciting, I hope the experiences continue to go well!

Thank you!
Glad you’ve enjoyed the thread.

 

[Jimmy119_190]

Makes total sense. When are you guys going? And will post a review!

I second this notion @frappingwilly, I hope you come back to tell us how it goes.

 

[deft]

Thirded. I love to hear about others’ experiences.

 

[Rrick]

Hi everybody. I have been reading posts in the lit forum for over a year. Lately got intrigued by swingers clubs and jack off clubs. I am in a solid marriage, but no sex for over a decade. So these clubs are intriguing, but here is my question. I am 78 years old, good shape and seem to be attractive to women I meet in nonsexual community gatherings. How would a man my age be received at a swingers club or a jack off club? Both are available in my home city.

 

[Jimmy119_190]

Good luck today @LittleGreene, hope you have a great time and lots of fun!

 

[pace_purr]

Going to a swingers club for the first time is very daunting personally I’d recommend a smaller group or just a couple going to a club you will feel more pressure to perhaps do something you weren’t ready for and feel you can’t say no. Also one of you might change your mind at the last minute so don’t go thinking its all sunshine and roses some times it can be the exact opposite.

 

[LittleGreene]

It seems that quite a few have been keeping up with our journey and were aware that we were due to attend the club so a second time this weekend gone.

To give a quick update before finding time to write a full account - we did go to the club Saturday night. We had another very successful evening, that resulted in us both playing extensively with another couple.

We also did a bit more than that but I’ll try and write it up fully this weekend. We’re still processing everything ourselves .

Real life unfortunately comes around very quickly

 

[deft]

I’m so glad you had another successful visit!

 

[Jimmy119_190]

To give a quick update before finding time to write a full account - we did go to the club Saturday night. We had another very successful evening, that resulted in us both playing extensively with another couple.

Great news that it sounds like a positive second trip, and that you found another couple that piqued your interest together.

And, of course, thanks for coming back and sharing the news.

I hope it was everything you wished for, and that processing everything is equally positive for you both.

 

[ernesthornimann]

I am SO looking forward to hearing about this dear LG x

 

[Artfan2]

Glad to hear that you went back to the club and had a good time. Looking forward to hearing more about it.