For all women who wished to be lusted after...

[Batch]

hmm yes, if it's the AV i'm thinking of, I'm right beside you swooning.

luv if you only knew what this one AV does for me...and the whoole series of photos he put up.....WOW

 

[bubman]

but the sad thing is ......... when you lust for one, that one, at that time is lusting after another.......... i have been of both sides of this coin, and at the time it hert , but i would have to say the feeling it gives you is all worth it

 

[Bug Eyed Monster]

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[Jewelz]

Buggy babe? Lust me...........

 

[psyche]

levels?

For me it seems that there are different levels of lusting for someone.......

I have simply looked at a man and based on his physical appearance been hot for him. This is usually based on a physical attraction connected to a certain type of male. I like dark hair and dark eyes. And there are other aspects that I find attractive at this very superficial level.

There is also lust based on some knowledge of the person, not just how they look. This could be attraction to his personality, for example. Someone who has a sense of humor a sparkle in his eye.

And there is lust based on past sexual experience with a person. Someone who has seduced you, and done everything right sexually. I can hear a word from this person and be instantly wet because he knows exactly what turns me on.

In a long term relationship I think the lust for someone probably begins to change to something else, and this is where we many lose the excitement of sex in a long-term relationship unless we work at making it exciting.

 

[TantaLiza]

IMHO....

Lust can cum in all forms....

You can find it in the eye candy sort of way...looks, dress, cars.... basically anything visual...

You can find it inside...personality, sense of humor, respectfulness, basic treatment of person to person contact....

Then there is also the chemical side of things....the feeling of when they're close to you...tingles in your most private of places that seem to start when they come into the room....the way you feel sexier around them....that kind of thing...

You can be attracted in one or more but it basically boils down to the chemistry to make things flow smoothly....to my way of thinking, if there ain't that, then there ain't nothin else....

IMHO......

Liza

 

[wildrose70]

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm well I do happen to be the one lusted after
but a lot of it came with age and experience...once in awhile I also do the lusting....to me it has a lot to do with the inner person...not just what you see with your eyes...to me it's what you find out...taking to them...listening to them...

And once in awhile...it's just the Hot dammmm sex appeal!!!!

 

[Wintermute]

To me the object of my lust varies greatly but it tends to be more in the vain of mental rather than physical.

Any women not afraid of her own sexuality is a huge attraction or shy girls who have a certain gleam in their eye, especially now that I have been on Lit for a while. I can almost recognize the quiet girl who might have a secret wild side.

Or maybe, I'm just projecting...

Anyhow, a good looking women who is rude and not willing to get to know me is a total turn off. I don't even want to be associated with people like that.

Bottom line, I lust after any women who posts or submits stories to Lit.

 

[Freya]

Some people and I were discussing women the other night - what attracts them ,what doesn't. The general consensus was women who are haughty or rude, or aggressive and difficult, obviously do not attract most men. Being a confirmed people watcher for years now (one of those shy ones), I have noticed that a certain amount of confidence seems to attract the opposite sex to one another. It doesn't necessarily have to be due to drop dead good looks, or a killer body - but more the way some people carry themselves in a public situation. Even being shy, due to recent weight loss, I find that at times I can act more confident around men than I used to. I can wear the same clothes now that I did 6 months ago, and feel more attractive in them. This seems to draw the men to me a lot more.

To sum up my ramblings, I think that lust begins with a superficial feeling - you look at someone in a bar and feel an instant attraction to their looks. Maybe you make eye contact with that person, which tends to deepen the feeling. At the point that you have a conversation with them, the lust can either grow or can die a quick death, depending on their personality.

Now if you are talking online lust - or lust towards someone with which you speak to or chat with on here - it's a totally different story. You have to be more directed to their personality than looks - at least initially - so you might possibly tend to become lustful towards someone you wouldn't have in public. But I find, there's almost more nervousness in some ways due to the fact that you just dont' know. You have no resources (ie: freidns, family, reputation) to confirm or deny what they say to you. But the lust that lasts (the lust based on sense of humour or personality) is more apt to be found online because you're not judging them by looks or body or height. And they always remain a slight mystery to you - which tends to increase my lust a lot of times. The challenge, the chase, the uncertainty is found more online than in real life.


*probably didn't make any sense....will just take her ramblings and go now*

 

[Wintermute]

For Freyna2

That is about the best way I could put it. Eye contact is what really does it for me in RL. That moment your eyes catch and it last a bit longer than it should.

I try to share a quick smile during that moment and more often then not the smile is returned. Sometime a converstation starts. I do find that these a fleeting moments one time chance encounters that lead to nothing more than a pleasant evening and a little dancing. That little bit of attention is more than I could hope for most of the time and we both can walk away knowing that we had a good time without the hangups involved in getting more involved yet still recognising the attraction.

Cyberspace is a odd animal for romance and lust. The anonimity tends to make people bolder than they are in real life which makes for some more interesting interactions and fantasy couplings. I find these to be quite compelling, but it is easy to fall into a trap of infatuation. I'm a victim of the charms of certian women of this board, admittedly enough, but they (one in perticular) have grown into solid freindships that I cherish above my lustful urges.

 

[Freya]

I suppose every online experience is different - but in this place, in particular, I find the people to be extra kind and warm. I'm a relative newbie to it still, but I can certainly see how people can and have developed friendships with others from here. You do tend to be bolder and more outgoing online - I'm a great example of this. While I tend to be a bit shy and reserved in real life, I find myself able to say things easier on a computer.

As far as eye contact with strangers, that's a gift I'm just learning to develop. Thank god I have bolder friends who help me take it to the next step beyond the eye contact.

 

[Wintermute]

I suppose every online experience is different - but in this place, in particular, I find the people to be extra kind and warm. I'm a relative newbie to it still, but I can certainly see how people can and have developed friendships with others from here. You do tend to be bolder and more outgoing online - I'm a great example of this. While I tend to be a bit shy and reserved in real life, I find myself able to say things easier on a computer.

As far as eye contact with strangers, that's a gift I'm just learning to develop. Thank god I have bolder friends who help me take it to the next step beyond the eye contact.

You have to be able to put yourself out there without fear and just have fun with it. Don't read to much into first contact, just have some fun. Don't be afraid of rejection. Be yourself and be fun.

If you see a guy with a boyish smile, glasses and a flat top who happens to sing Karaoke, give him a smile, I'll... err... he'll be sure to give one back.

If you need a hand with your flirting skills, I'll be glad to help you out with a few practice sessions.

 

[Freya]

You have to be able to put yourself out there without fear and just have fun with it. Don't read to much into first contact, just have some fun. Don't be afraid of rejection. Be yourself and be fun.

If you see a guy with a boyish smile, glasses and a flat top who happens to sing Karaoke, give him a smile, I'll... err... he'll be sure to give one back.

If you need a hand with your flirting skills, I'll be glad to help you out with a few practice sessions.

I'm starting to put myself out there more, and it's paying off - confidence is most certainly not overrated.

I happen to love guys who have boyish smiles and can sing...music is so good for saying what you cannot.

And anything you'd like to help me practice would be more than welcome.

 

[Wintermute]

I'm starting to put myself out there more, and it's paying off - confidence is most certainly not overrated.

I happen to love guys who have boyish smiles and can sing...music is so good for saying what you cannot.

And anything you'd like to help me practice would be more than welcome.

Now, that is the kind of response that will get me lusting after you.

I wasn't always so bold myself. I took a lot of positive re-enforcement to get me to where I am now. I must say the positive feedback I get singing Karaoke and the continual improvement that I make every time I step behind the mic is an awesome thrill. I've literally and figurative become a different person.

Hi, I'm Wintermute. I bought this rose for you. But now that you have it, the rose looks so sad. It has to complete with your beauty now.

 

[Freya]

Now, that is the kind of response that will get me lusting after you.

I wasn't always so bold myself. I took a lot of positive re-enforcement to get me to where I am now. I must say the positive feedback I get singing Karaoke and the continual improvement that I make every time I step behind the mic is an awesome thrill. I've literally and figurative become a different person.

Hi, I'm Wintermute. I bought this rose for you. But now that you have it, the rose looks so sad. It has to complete with your beauty now.

We go to see Karaoke every Thursday night where I live. It's just amazing the amount of talent that goes unnoticed - except for the people in that bar. I'm glad that it's helped you discover who you are - because from what I see that person is amazing.

Thank you for the rose...it's beautiful! And I send you this in return....

 

[Wintermute]

We go to see Karaoke every Thursday night where I live. It's just amazing the amount of talent that goes unnoticed - except for the people in that bar. I'm glad that it's helped you discover who you are - because from what I see that person is amazing.

Thank you for the rose...it's beautiful! And I send you this in return....

I'm glad you think so. I try very hard to respect people and treat them the way I would like to be treated. Although for some reason, women are still draw to the men who are obvious not going to be respectful to them. That aspect of relationships boggle me.

What kind of music do you like? Perhaps there is a special song that I might try to sing for you?

 

[Freya]

I'm glad you think so. I try very hard to respect people and treat them the way I would like to be treated. Although for some reason, women are still draw to the men who are obvious not going to be respectful to them. That aspect of relationships boggle me.

What kind of music do you like? Perhaps there is a special song that I might try to sing for you?

Ya kknow..women do like the bad boyz - as sad as it is to say. But its because they are exciting and challenging. Now there's no reason that a nice guy can't be exciting and challenging as well. Basically we just don't want a door mat. I want a man who is man enough to tell me to piss off if I'm being a bitch. So because "nice" guys think they need to be utterly respectful and considerate all the time, they tend not to do things like that.

As far as a song - I grew up listening to a great variety of music, so I'm actually quite flexible regarding my music choices. I dislike rap - although I love eminem - but other than that I'm easy. Big sucker for romantic tunes though. A friend just sent me "Ave Maria" - it's so beautiful.

 

[Wintermute]

Ya kknow..women do like the bad boyz - as sad as it is to say. But its because they are exciting and challenging. Now there's no reason that a nice guy can't be exciting and challenging as well. Basically we just don't want a door mat. I want a man who is man enough to tell me to piss off if I'm being a bitch. So because "nice" guys think they need to be utterly respectful and considerate all the time, they tend not to do things like that.

As far as a song - I grew up listening to a great variety of music, so I'm actually quite flexible regarding my music choices. I dislike rap - although I love eminem - but other than that I'm easy. Big sucker for romantic tunes though. A friend just sent me "Ave Maria" - it's so beautiful.

Wow! That is a wonderful insight and so true, but I'm far from being a doormat. I tend to be a bit of a smart ass and have a very sharp sarcastic streak. It's rare that I use it cause I can tolerate a lot, but I'm not afraid of tell anyone I'm not happy.

Hummm.... I have a very diverse song list I've only recently started apprechiating country music (a hazard of Karaoke ), I do several 70's and 80's songs (Favorite one is I'd Really Love To See You Tonight - England Dan & John Ford Cowley), I do a lot of hard rock tunes and new rock like Linkin Park. Wicked Game is also frequently on my list as is Sunshine Of Your Love by Cream/Eric Clapton.

I came in third place in a 5 week contest singing an old Styx song Suite Madam Blue. Not many people know it but I love that song.

I would be interested in talking to you more in a less public envornment if that would be ok with you?

 

[Freya]

Wow! That is a wonderful insight and so true, but I'm far from being a doormat. I tend to be a bit of a smart ass and have a very sharp sarcastic streak. It's rare that I use it cause I can tolerate a lot, but I'm not afraid of tell anyone I'm not happy.

Hummm.... I have a very diverse song list I've only recently started apprechiating country music (a hazard of Karaoke ), I do several 70's and 80's songs (Favorite one is I'd Really Love To See You Tonight - England Dan & John Ford Cowley), I do a lot of hard rock tunes and new rock like Linkin Park. Wicked Game is also frequently on my list as is Sunshine Of Your Love by Cream/Eric Clapton.

I came in third place in a 5 week contest singing an old Styx song Suite Madam Blue. Not many people know it but I love that song.

I would be interested in talking to you more in a less public envornment if that would be ok with you?

I am a big fan of almost all Styx songs...love them!

PM me and I'll give you my yahoo id

 

[Batch]

Some people and I were discussing women the other night - what attracts them ,what doesn't. The general consensus was women who are haughty or rude, or aggressive and difficult, obviously do not attract most men. Being a confirmed people watcher for years now (one of those shy ones), I have noticed that a certain amount of confidence seems to attract the opposite sex to one another. It doesn't necessarily have to be due to drop dead good looks, or a killer body - but more the way some people carry themselves in a public situation. Even being shy, due to recent weight loss, I find that at times I can act more confident around men than I used to. I can wear the same clothes now that I did 6 months ago, and feel more attractive in them. This seems to draw the men to me a lot more.

To sum up my ramblings, I think that lust begins with a superficial feeling - you look at someone in a bar and feel an instant attraction to their looks. Maybe you make eye contact with that person, which tends to deepen the feeling. At the point that you have a conversation with them, the lust can either grow or can die a quick death, depending on their personality.

Now if you are talking online lust - or lust towards someone with which you speak to or chat with on here - it's a totally different story. You have to be more directed to their personality than looks - at least initially - so you might possibly tend to become lustful towards someone you wouldn't have in public. But I find, there's almost more nervousness in some ways due to the fact that you just dont' know. You have no resources (ie: freidns, family, reputation) to confirm or deny what they say to you. But the lust that lasts (the lust based on sense of humour or personality) is more apt to be found online because you're not judging them by looks or body or height. And they always remain a slight mystery to you - which tends to increase my lust a lot of times. The challenge, the chase, the uncertainty is found more online than in real life.


*probably didn't make any sense....will just take her ramblings and go now*

Freya, you did make sense...and you have thought about this....I appreciate your response. It made sense.

 

[naughtygirl]

Batch...im sorry that I havent made it here til now! (especially after all of the egging on that i did the other day lol) But Im glad you started this thread. I have read through the conversations and the people who have posted so far have given amazing insight.

To me, I do think that lust is often due to a connection. I agree with what people have said about this...often its just a look, a spark and most often times its not something that can be controlled, it just is there. In RL, its often physical attraction that will start if off. Often though, I may find a man totally sexy and then if he opens his mouth and spews unintelligent crap or negativity, well then the lust dies quickly for me.

Online...well thats tricky...i often lust after people here who have great personality, a sense of humor...and who know how to turn me on through their words. I have found myself "building" lust towards someone after getting to know them and being attracted to aspects of their personality. but I also contradict myself in a sense when I say this because I can also get turned on by what someone says to me without any real connection and feel lust towards them....but I do believe that this is often times spurred on by the fantasy that I have created and then kind of thrown them into at the moment. We all know that for some people that is why we cum to Lit, for the fantasy of it all.

To be lusted after, I think confidence is the big winner on that one. I think that people who are lusted after often present themselves as sure of themselves without being conceited and cocky....but also demonstrate a level of respect for the people they cross paths with. I think that an ability to flirt is also important to a degree and that a sense of humor is reflected in ones ability to flirt and be playful.

And again, I think everyone's desire, or what they lust after is different. Its based on their own life experiences and that essentially determines what they are attracted to, what they desire, what they lust after.

ok I will stop rambling now and hope that I made some sense.

*kisses*

NG

 

[meop79]

hmmm....watching quietly from the corner to see how the responses pan out.....

Sits down next to Jewelz and whispers this is kind of funny

Meop79@yahoo.com

 

[meop79]

Hmmm lust for me it's the person inside but I'm weird I look at a gand her smile and the way she holds herself when she moves.

Inside is what I look at and people are so easy to read

Meop79@yahoo.com

 

[Batch]

Batch...im sorry that I havent made it here til now! (especially after all of the egging on that i did the other day lol) But Im glad you started this thread. I have read through the conversations and the people who have posted so far have given amazing insight.

To me, I do think that lust is often due to a connection. I agree with what people have said about this...often its just a look, a spark and most often times its not something that can be controlled, it just is there. In RL, its often physical attraction that will start if off. Often though, I may find a man totally sexy and then if he opens his mouth and spews unintelligent crap or negativity, well then the lust dies quickly for me.

Online...well thats tricky...i often lust after people here who have great personality, a sense of humor...and who know how to turn me on through their words. I have found myself "building" lust towards someone after getting to know them and being attracted to aspects of their personality. but I also contradict myself in a sense when I say this because I can also get turned on by what someone says to me without any real connection and feel lust towards them....but I do believe that this is often times spurred on by the fantasy that I have created and then kind of thrown them into at the moment. We all know that for some people that is why we cum to Lit, for the fantasy of it all.

To be lusted after, I think confidence is the big winner on that one. I think that people who are lusted after often present themselves as sure of themselves without being conceited and cocky....but also demonstrate a level of respect for the people they cross paths with. I think that an ability to flirt is also important to a degree and that a sense of humor is reflected in ones ability to flirt and be playful.

And again, I think everyone's desire, or what they lust after is different. Its based on their own life experiences and that essentially determines what they are attracted to, what they desire, what they lust after.

ok I will stop rambling now and hope that I made some sense.

*kisses*

NG

You weren't rambing...you have clarified some aspects of theissue...that for amny it is so personal ..what ever it is that first attracts and draws us to others...
I am glad you came to offer your views.

 

[Freya]

I don't really think anyone can define lust for another person. It's so individual to the person involved. What I like, you may not. What person you like, may not return the feelings. Whether it be physical attraction, or a sense about that person - it might not be returned, it might not be understood by others.

The problem is we take it so personally when it is not returned by the one we wish for. But if you look at it logically, there should be no expectation that because you like them ,they need to like you back. There are others out there that may like us, for which we don't feel the same...but yet, we don't change our minds because we feel badly for them...but we get hurt when someone doesn't return our feelings.

I guess the best we can hope for is that the connection we feel when looking at someone, might possibly be felt back by them. If not, we move on in life and hope they find someone for who the feelings are truly there.