For the Babygirls: Please and Thank You, Daddy

[MSH2]

Are you talking about the relationship in general, or the D/s dynamic?



Hi! Your input is always welcome.

Input eh? hihi

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Input eh? hihi

Not that input.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I am dominant but don't like to be called Daddy or call you Little Girl. I prefer to claim property MY BITCH MY SLUT etc.etc.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I am dominant but don't like to be called Daddy or call you Little Girl. I prefer to claim property MY BITCH MY SLUT etc.etc.

Wow. Well. Wow.

I think we may be talking about different things, here.

In an actual relationship (vs.a kinky hookup), most women I have spoken with expect a top/Dom to earn the right to call her those sorts of things. That's been my experience, anyway...

 

[MSH2]

Wow. Well. Wow.

I think we may be talking about different things, here.

In an actual relationship (vs.a kinky hookup), most women I have spoken with expect a top/Dom to earn the right to call her those sorts of things. That's been my experience, anyway...

Its actually a quite....... formalised and almost ritualistic relationship in many ways. And in ways that arent easy to explain to other people either

 

[shadow_anon2u]

The relationship is different in more ways than one. However, I was referring to the D/s aspect. I'm not used to being taken care of at all. Sex is just sex, you get up & leave. Even at home, I don't like cuddling or snuggling. But for him to hold me after felt right. Like I was finally where I'm supposed to be.

As far as names, SA, I'm whatever I get called. When he's tender it's baby girl (he knows no man will ever be Daddy except for the man who helped make me), all the way to being his bitch slut in heat, lol. It doesn't bother me, nor will it define me other than in the heat of the moment.

 

[barefootgirl69]

One thing more, and then I'm out for the night.

*snip*

My new one is 'What Would Daddy Say?'

When I need advice, Honey, and he's not around, I often run it through 'What would Daddy say?' I think we know each other well enough, and I've not been wrong once. Could I make these decisions on my own? Of course, but I like to feel 'connected' with Him.

I have a question for you ladies. How do you know if he's the one? These feelings are all new & I am not used to being treated like he did today.

It's different for everyone, because we are all different. For me, it was a little awkward, because we were friends first and foremost. I wasn't looking for a Dom or a Daddy, and he wasn't looking to be someone's Dom. But, I couldn't resist the pull to submit, and we discussed it, like we discuss everything; then, one day he referred to himself as Daddy. Done deal! No formal questions, no formal anything. It just is.
When it's right, it just IS.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I can't explain how you "know". One just simply knows. And the name calling can't be jumped into right away. If you start right into calling me "your slut", "your whore", "your 'pyl'", I'm likely to give you "the look" and hope you don't catch fire where you stand.


ETA:
Same goes for saying stupid shit like "my Titties"... "My pussy".. Etc.
They aren't "yours" until I say they are. Be respectful or go kick a can...

 

[makemewet69]

When it's right, it just IS.

^^^^
This right there, perfect! I knew the first time we were together that CJ had dom tendencies and that I am by nature more submissive than anything. It's not formal. I don't have to call him anything, he doesn't have to call me anything. Everything just falls into place and we just are who we are. I know he'll take care of me and my needs and he knows that if he wants or desires anything, all he has to do is say so and it will happen because I love to please him.

 

[MSH2]

I can't explain how you "know". One just simply knows. And the name calling can't be jumped into right away. If you start right into calling me "your slut", "your whore", "your 'pyl'", I'm likely to give you "the look" and hope you don't catch fire where you stand.


ETA:
Same goes for saying stupid shit like "my Titties"... "My pussy".. Etc.
They aren't "yours" until I say they are. Be respectful or go kick a can...

Well there goes your Birthday present, wonder if the local charity shop will take a "My Bitchslut" T shirt and a couple of KG of chocolate

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Well there goes your Birthday present, wonder if the local charity shop will take a "My Bitchslut" T shirt and a couple of KG of chocolate

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Wow. Well. Wow.

I think we may be talking about different things, here.

In an actual relationship (vs.a kinky hookup), most women I have spoken with expect a top/Dom to earn the right to call her those sorts of things. That's been my experience, anyway...

Of course trust must be earned but I am speaking of the words used such as Daddy I am Hispanic and don't even like to be called Papi. I fully agree with you a man must earn and show through actions he is worthy of taking full control. For me personally I use possesive words instead of parental/child type of names.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Of course trust must be earned but I am speaking of the words used such as Daddy I am Hispanic and don't even like to be called Papi. I fully agree with you a man must earn and show through actions he is worthy of taking full control. For me personally I use possesive words instead of parental/child type of names.

*looks up at the title of the thread*

 

[SoulAssasin247]

*looks up at the title of the thread*

BFG I totally understand I just came to say what I prefer. You guys continue on.

 

[shadow_anon2u]

I think it's the fact that until recently, and almost 99% is a person from here that I can't physically be with, I've never had any sub tendencies. If anyone had dared even speak to me like he does I'd go to their ass. Both my parents taught me not to take shit from anyone unless I asked for it. Lmao, even my beastie would have a hard time believing this....& she knows where all the bodies are hidden!

 

[MSH2]

I think it's the fact that until recently, and almost 99% is a person from here that I can't physically be with, I've never had any sub tendencies. If anyone had dared even speak to me like he does I'd go to their ass. Both my parents taught me not to take shit from anyone unless I asked for it. Lmao, even my beastie would have a hard time believing this....& she knows where all the bodies are hidden!

Sometimes a relationship dynamic just works out in certain ways, there's no science to these things. It just works the way it works, go with it, enjoy exploring a new side to yourself

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Blurt!

Something someone said to me a long time ago...

'I miss you, and I adore you, and I'll be thinking about you all day.'

I am still in love with the sound of his voice.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Blurt!

Something someone said to me a long time ago...

'I miss you, and I adore you, and I'll be thinking about you all day.'

I am still in love with the sound of his voice.

This is beautiful, and I miss it. Having that emotional connection without the physical was destroying me, though.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

This is beautiful, and I miss it. Having that emotional connection without the physical was destroying me, though.

Word.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Word.

it's amazing what the heart will make your mind believe and your eyes blind to when it wants something so badly...

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

it's amazing what the heart will make your mind believe and your eyes blind to when it wants something so badly...

We talked about moving to Texas. It would have been fun to have been your neighbor!

Ah, the days of Lit-love...

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

We talked about moving to Texas. It would have been fun to have been your neighbor!

Ah, the days of Lit-love...

well...*I* think I'd make a decent neighbor...lol

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

well...*I* think I'd make a decent neighbor...lol

Can you teach me to crochet crotchless undies?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Can you teach me to crochet crotchless undies?

if you can find a pattern, I can crochet it...lol

 

[ViciousTease]

if you can find a pattern, I can crochet it...lol

You should use some of the "baby blanket" yarns. It could be a nod to babygirl, but also because they are sooooooo soft.