Game (i dont have it, but want it)

[shiny5437]

I wrote this really long, essay like post, and then this stupid forum software ate it. That'll learn me.

What it boiled down to is:

1. Lose the predator-prey dynamic. I don't know why dudes think women want to be treated as sexual prey by strange men, but that'll get you creepzoned faster than just about anything. Mostly because we don't want to get rapezoned.

2. There are different kinds of attention. Women are bombarded with sexual attention. Give them something else. Steer the conversation to them. Listen to what they say about themselves, their thoughts and opinions. Ask them questions and really listen to and respect what they have to say. Women are used to having their thoughts, opinions, and feelings dismissed, corrected, or treated like something that has to be endured to access the punani.

In our ADD society, undivided attention is fucking sexy as hell. Having it will make her feel like the most fascinating person in the room. You do that by keeping the conversation focused on her. We're used to listening to men talk about themselves (and talk and talk and talk...) Keep her talking. If she's not giving you the attention back, if she's texting or looking for someone else to talk to, walk away.

3. It helps if you're hot and smell good.

Let's be honest here, the number one thing that helps people to get laid is alcohol. A chemically induced cognitive dysfunction and personality disorder helps things along no end.

Unfortunately, whilst Sweetfanny's points would be great if they were true, in the state of inebriation the opposite is pretty much the case. People get more obnxious, tedious, nobody cares how much of a dullard you might be, you can barely focus your eyes on her let alone focus the conversation, and both men and women's standards drop faster than you can say 'emotional-connection'.

As far as attracting men or women goes no one knows the real underlying factors, however the reality of those factors is likely to be unpleasant to most of those involved.

Damn I'm feeling bitter tonight!

 

[Lord Pmann]

I have never gotten the impression the original poster is just trying to get laid. I think he's asking how he can get a little more comfortable meeting girls. Meeting a girl under the premise of alcohol is usually not the best icebreaker. I'm sure some successful relationships are started from there. But I do not believe it is the norm.

 

[Emerson40]

Let's be honest here, the number one thing that helps people to get laid is alcohol. A chemically induced cognitive dysfunction and personality disorder helps things along no end.

Unfortunately, whilst Sweetfanny's points would be great if they were true, in the state of inebriation the opposite is pretty much the case. People get more obnxious, tedious, nobody cares how much of a dullard you might be, you can barely focus your eyes on her let alone focus the conversation, and both men and women's standards drop faster than you can say 'emotional-connection'.

As far as attracting men or women goes no one knows the real underlying factors, however the reality of those factors is likely to be unpleasant to most of those involved.

Damn I'm feeling bitter tonight!

Ah, yes. The ol' find a 2 or 3 and drink her up to a 9.

Or are we aiming for the 8 to 10s, just getting them wasted enough so they are unable to discern you from Matthew McConaughey?

It's been going on since cavemen and cavewomen realized their partners looked less dinosaur-like after eating fermented fruit.

More subtle (and expensive) than the "act the asshole" bit, but perhaps not less douchey.



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I think the OP is looking for ways to approach the ladies, make that connection, and perhaps improve his odds in these areas.

Booze... Why not tell him where he can purchase rohypnol cheap online, or suggest he try the "Hi there. Does this smell like chloroform to you?" ice breaker.

 

[sweetfanny]

I have never gotten the impression the original poster is just trying to get laid. I think he's asking how he can get a little more comfortable meeting girls. Meeting a girl under the premise of alcohol is usually not the best icebreaker. I'm sure some successful relationships are started from there. But I do not believe it is the norm.

Yeah, I took his post about fishing being more fun without having to clean and cook your catch to mean that he wasn't interested in actually sexing up the women in question, just flirting. At least, I hope it was a metaphor.

 

[sweetfanny]

or suggest he try the "Hi there. Does this smell like chloroform to you?" ice breaker.

I just snorted absinthe out my nose. (Ow.)

I suspect I am a deeply fucked up individual, but a guy with the cojones to use that line (sans actual chloroform) is the kind of person I would spend a party giggling in the corner with.

Unless he was creepy.

 

[sweetfanny]

Also, this discussion has reminded me of the hilarious pua-txt.tumblr.com

 

[ShyNerdHere]

if its leads to sex thats fine... but not the prime goal. the fun is in the hunt.

we're all adults at these shindigs, the booze is abundant.

im hilarious, just ask me... i'll tell you.

 

[sweetfanny]

if its leads to sex thats fine... but not the prime goal. the fun is in the hunt.

we're all adults at these shindigs, the booze is abundant.

im hilarious, just ask me... i'll tell you.

Stop hunting women. That's creepy. Plus now I've got that Misfits song stuck in my head. And I don't care what anyone says, Famous Monsters is a good album even if it is post-Danzig.

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How hilarious are you?

 

[ShyNerdHere]

the good post danzig misfits albums are published under the names Samhain and Danzig


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my hilarity goes to 11

 

[Aphro]

The fun is in the hunt...sounding very Hunger Games to me. "May the odds be ever in your favor!"

Oh, and Emerson, that photo...I have tears in my eyes from laughing...

 

[sweetfanny]

Danzig Misfits are superior to post-Danzig Misfits, but still prefer the Misfits stylistically to either Samhain or Danzig, though Danzig is def. superior vocally to both Graves and Jerry Only.

Basically, post-Danzig Misfits would've been superior to either Samhain or Danzig if they'd had Glenn Danzig.

Now. How do you feel about the Ramones? And what else goes to 11?

 

[Lord Pmann]

Question to the OP...

Have you had success in the past with girls? Like, have you had a successful relationship? If so, how did you meet? Why did it end? What were her complaints about you?

 

[sweetfanny]

Question to the OP...

Have you had success in the past with girls? Like, have you had a successful relationship? If so, how did you meet? Why did it end? What were her complaints about you?

I've been assuming he's married because his profile says he has a Mrs.

 

[shiny5437]

Booze... Why not tell him where he can purchase rohypnol cheap online, or suggest he try the "Hi there. Does this smell like chloroform to you?" ice breaker.

I was talking more generally than the OPs specific question. He may or may not be interested in getting laid. Either way he seems to be heading towards pickup artist route (talking about 'game', thrill of the chase, etc). I've been out with these PUA types which was interesting but a little soul destroying at times.

Finally, I wasn't at all suggesting he try to get a girl drunk and commit rape. The point I was trying to make was that when considering the processes of interpersonal attraction alcohol seems to enhance it in majority of cases. Alcohol disrupts the normal function of the mind. So if the processes of interpersonal attraction are enhanced by a disruption of the normal function then that normal function must be pretty screwed up in the first instance. Hence we end up ideas like 'guys just like bimbos' or 'women just like jerks' which may or may not be true (from the POV of this comfy fence I'm sitting on here).

 

[sweetfanny]

I've been out with these PUA types which was interesting but a little soul destroying at times.

"A little"?

 

[naughty76]

The answer is yes to Mr shynerds history with woman. He was skilled enough to land a hot ass redhead for cumming up on 18years. My complaints.. too many to list

 

[ShyNerdHere]

ramones, distilled rock n roll: 200proof

the mrs temper goes to 11

as for past successes, married nearly 20 years. otherwise i think the original question answers the success/history question.

Biography:
iv always learned the wrong lessons, i didnt figure out that it was better to be The Skipper an it was Gilligan till id been Gilligan for awhile.
Location:
in my head
Interests:
makin the mrs smile
Occupation:
makin the mrs squeal

 

[sweetfanny]

ramones, distilled rock n roll: 200proof

the mrs temper goes to 11

as for past successes, married nearly 20 years. otherwise i think the original question answers the success/history question.

So is the Mrs. down with you closing some strange at drunken house parties? Or is her temper gonna go to 11?

 

[ShyNerdHere]

more ok than not

but with my skill set (not skilled), its not really a problem.

 

[sweetfanny]

more ok than not

but with my skill set (not skilled), its not really a problem.

Yeah, I see what you mean.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I'm confused as can be.

 

[sweetfanny]

I'm confused as can be.

Read this and it will all become clear.

 

[satindesire]

Read this and it will all become clear.

Oh My Sweet Jesus...

 

[Aphro]

What the...? I am even more confused now.

 

[sweetfanny]

Did you go to the Okc_ebooks tumblr too? I almost peed myself laughing.

(General FYI these links are becoming less and less pertinent to the OP. But worth clicking. Oh yes.)