Gay/BI One night stand, or affair?

[Phatfeet]

I think having a relationship makes sex much better, and especially so with bisexual relations.

While I can understand the novelty of one-night stands, there is a lot of trust in male upon male sex for many of us. While that can be betrayed, it can also provide a lot of comfort.

For starters, me knowing what the man is like and knowing that passion is not going to outweigh any pain I might get. And the opposite is true as well. Having had lengthy discussions he will not hold back, but because he does know my kinks, makes sex especially good since he knows what we both want. A lot of time that takes non-verbal clues that might cause a one-timer to stop when really I might want it harder. And knowing what I like, I know I can get that again which creates anticipation even when I am not with him. With a one-timer the unknow is more of fear.

 

[Travisspank]

I’ll take it anyway I can get it, but would love an overnight with a guy I had chemistry with. I want to ache in the morning

 

[TheF1x3r]

This is not the most sexually thrilling thing you'll ever read but you might get some value from it.

Being with a stranger only appears safer, it's actually a lot sketchier than you may imagine. An older guy I spoke to (50s) was doing a lot of stuff with strangers for the same reason.

Loves his family, is a genuinely nice guy, but like a lot of guys he had buried part of his sexuality and eventually the pressure was too much and he had to blow off some men steam.

Went ok until he had two incidents one after the other:

1) A guy turned up out of his head on some kind of stimulants and poppers (apparently they ruin kissing?)

2) A guy robbed and blackmailed him

he also got an STD at some point

Anyway, the point is that you're better off finding someone you can trust and establishing the rules. Also; if they become a friend you don't need to say you're going somewhere you're not - you can just go hang out of your friend.

 

[SPARTAN047]

This is not the most sexually thrilling thing you'll ever read but you might get some value from it.

Being with a stranger only appears safer, it's actually a lot sketchier than you may imagine. An older guy I spoke to (50s) was doing a lot of stuff with strangers for the same reason.

Loves his family, is a genuinely nice guy, but like a lot of guys he had buried part of his sexuality and eventually the pressure was too much and he had to blow off some men steam.

Went ok until he had two incidents one after the other:

1) A guy turned up out of his head on some kind of stimulants and poppers (apparently they ruin kissing?)

2) A guy robbed and blackmailed him

he also got an STD at some point

Anyway, the point is that you're better off finding someone you can trust and establishing the rules. Also; if they become a friend you don't need to say you're going somewhere you're not - you can just go hang out of your friend.

Oh FFS, that's horrible. Yes, poppers make you a bit crazy, I've had a billion of them ask if I use them and I'm getting tired of it.

The second one was disgusting. IDK why we still have people like that.

 

[sticky6]

I prefer forming friendships first.

 

[Swuchrow]

I have had both but the more memorable tops were the ones that fucked me on multiple occasions.

 

[TheF1x3r]

Oh FFS, that's horrible. Yes, poppers make you a bit crazy, I've had a billion of them ask if I use them and I'm getting tired of it.

The second one was disgusting. IDK why we still have people like that.

The second one was nuts - big bodybuilder guy (the guy I was talking to is a small guy). Arranged a car meet and the guy just got in and robbed him in a public place. Totally get it as well - totally exposed.

 

[SPARTAN047]

The second one was nuts - big bodybuilder guy (the guy I was talking to is a small guy). Arranged a car meet and the guy just got in and robbed him in a public place. Totally get it as well - totally exposed.

Disgusting. Most bodybuilders I've talked to are very chill, but there are body builders and non body builders who do this.

It's really sad. This is why men are generally given advice on how to learn to fight. And they should - I hope to learn as well one day.

 

[TheF1x3r]

I've been a bodybuilder and a fighter at different points. I agree with what you said; it's difficult for a lot of guys because it goes against their sexual persona, but you know... world be like dat.

 

[Phatfeet]

Disgusting. Most bodybuilders I've talked to are very chill, but there are body builders and non body builders who do this.

It's really sad. This is why men are generally given advice on how to learn to fight. And they should - I hope to learn as well one day.

Or always conceal carry a firearm

I know it is not possible in every country, but we can here in the USA and I am always within reach of a firearm of some sort. Home, work, doing errands, grocery shopping...

 

[PFWilly]

I’ve had a few single encounters, but none quite as satisfying as a relationship that is ongoing.


That being said, the most incredible orgasm ever was my first reception of a deep throat blow job. lol

YMMV!

 

[SPARTAN047]

Or always conceal carry a firearm

I know it is not possible in every country, but we can here in the USA and I am always within reach of a firearm of some sort. Home, work, doing errands, grocery shopping...

That works too. Or a knife.

Can't do it in the EU, I think there's a 80 year prison sentence for illegal firearms. I think the process might be harder here to get one.

 

[CuriousMature]

I am 57 now but when I was 27, I met a new guy at work. He was 45 and through powerful gay vibes. I had never had a gay thought much less attraction to another man but I got an erection as we were introduced and our eyes locked on each other. That night I had a wet dream about him as my wife slept next to me. My first wet dream about another guy and so late in life to have a wet dream for that matter. I got in the shower to go to get ready for work and jacked off two more times I was so horny.

Bill and I hit it off quick. We had similar interests in books. We started going to lunch monthly. He would make subtle passes at me that I would ignore and brush off. I was struggling. I loved my wife and kids. My wife had 36E breasts and we had a great sex life but Bill got in my head. My attraction to him just would not fade. Between the ages of 27 and 30, I would deny to myself yet I started reading gay erotic love stories each morning to start my day and cumming at least twice thinking of Bill before I went to work. And then I started watching gay porn every chance I could get and cumming a lot.

Finally after 3 years of that, Bill was having problems with his home PC. He was not technical at all. I took a Friday off and went over to his house arriving about 7:30 since we were both early risers. I started working on his computer as he went to make us coffee. I took a quick look at his temp internet files and found tons of pics and videos of gay porn with men about our age difference. I closed the files and started defrag and scandisk as he walked back in. He started rubbing my shoulders and neck:

"How goes the battle?"

"If you keep doing that I am going to be here all day"

"That's ok with me"

"You may get more than you bargained for"

"Oh, I hope so"

I stood up, turned and faced him, and we kissed and it was on. I was there until 4 pm. We had sex multiple times, made out, and just dove into each other all day. I had never had sex that much and cum that many times in my life. He and I carried on an intense secret love affair for about 10 years and then we became friends with benefits. He lives in France with his husband now.

We worked together all those years and would try to go to the same trainings and live like a gay married couple for a week. Omg such a dear man.

Other than that, all my gay experience has been playing on-line and a on-line relationship with another married guy for 10 years.

 

[TryGuy35]

I am 57 now but when I was 27, I met a new guy at work. He was 45 and through powerful gay vibes. I had never had a gay thought much less attraction to another man but I got an erection as we were introduced and our eyes locked on each other. That night I had a wet dream about him as my wife slept next to me. My first wet dream about another guy and so late in life to have a wet dream for that matter. I got in the shower to go to get ready for work and jacked off two more times I was so horny.

Bill and I hit it off quick. We had similar interests in books. We started going to lunch monthly. He would make subtle passes at me that I would ignore and brush off. I was struggling. I loved my wife and kids. My wife had 36E breasts and we had a great sex life but Bill got in my head. My attraction to him just would not fade. Between the ages of 27 and 30, I would deny to myself yet I started reading gay erotic love stories each morning to start my day and cumming at least twice thinking of Bill before I went to work. And then I started watching gay porn every chance I could get and cumming a lot.

Finally after 3 years of that, Bill was having problems with his home PC. He was not technical at all. I took a Friday off and went over to his house arriving about 7:30 since we were both early risers. I started working on his computer as he went to make us coffee. I took a quick look at his temp internet files and found tons of pics and videos of gay porn with men about our age difference. I closed the files and started defrag and scandisk as he walked back in. He started rubbing my shoulders and neck:

"How goes the battle?"

"If you keep doing that I am going to be here all day"

"That's ok with me"

"You may get more than you bargained for"

"Oh, I hope so"

I stood up, turned and faced him, and we kissed and it was on. I was there until 4 pm. We had sex multiple times, made out, and just dove into each other all day. I had never had sex that much and cum that many times in my life. He and I carried on an intense secret love affair for about 10 years and then we became friends with benefits. He lives in France with his husband now.

We worked together all those years and would try to go to the same trainings and live like a gay married couple for a week. Omg such a dear man.

Other than that, all my gay experience has been playing on-line and a on-line relationship with another married guy for 10 years.

Wow amazing story, lucky

 

[write_or_wrong]

For me, it's been casual sex with other men. I have a few regulars, men who are also in sexless marriages. It's not a relationship, no emotional complications, just horny men who trust each other and help each other satisfy the urges.
I've had only one affair and it broke my heart. My Lit story,, Alex and Me, is presented as fiction, but it is 100% autobiography. Ever since then (that over 20 years ago), I've guarded my heart and kept everything casual, even with my regular sex buddies.

To other Lit readers of this thread, Rob has a very nice collection of highly rated stories which I recommend you reading. Thanks, Rob.

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

To other Lit readers of this thread, Rob has a very nice collection of highly rated stories which I recommend you reading. Thanks, Rob.

Why, thank you very much! It seems that a lot of the Forum denizens don't venture into the Literotica stories all that much. I sometimes find myself wound up in the Forum threads so much that I forget what brought me to Literotica in the first place: the stories. I do hope that others will read my stories. Thanks for the endorsement.

 

[write_or_wrong]

Why, thank you very much! It seems that a lot of the Forum denizens don't venture into the Literotica stories all that much. I sometimes find myself wound up in the Forum threads so much that I forget what brought me to Literotica in the first place: the stories. I do hope that others will read my stories. Thanks for the endorsement.

You're very welcome, recognition totally deserved. I am also one of those who joined Lit to start writing but have been sidetracked by the forums. It's a little late for a New Years resolution, but maybe that's just an excuse. I know! a Valentines Day resolution!

 

[SPARTAN047]

I forgot it'll be valentine's day soon, I should go cruising on that day.

 

[TheF1x3r]

Or always conceal carry a firearm

I know it is not possible in every country, but we can here in the USA and I am always within reach of a firearm of some sort. Home, work, doing errands, grocery shopping...

I envy that - here we have a philosophy that if we don't have weapons there'll be less violence and less escalation. Sounds great, doesn't work. Just end up with a load of innocent people dying at the end of a $5 kitchen knife.

I forgot it'll be valentine's day soon, I should go cruising on that day.

Where? Asking for a friend.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I envy that - here we have a philosophy that if we don't have weapons there'll be less violence and less escalation. Sounds great, doesn't work. Just end up with a load of innocent people dying at the end of a $5 kitchen knife.

Oh yes. No one needs to have weapons to sell. Anyone who wants to kill can do it with a teacup, mug, or glass. They can just use broken glass on the side of the road - if you know where to hit, your victim won't live.

Where? Asking for a friend.

Probably the neighbors and I'll ask if they're taking me out to be shown off. They're a bit more relaxed since we met.

Not necessary and I'm happy with them, we have gone to BDSM clubs though a good bit.

 

[TrailerHitch]

I've had a couple one timers and now a FWB that I have been seeing for several months. I much prefer the FWB idea over essentially anonymous hit and run sex.

 

[AG31]

Fascinating thread. I'm glad I found it. I recently asked if there were any GM people in AH, where I spend most of my time. Only one response, not from a gay male. So I did some searching here. This is the only thread with "gay" in the subject on the first page. But it's a good one. There's a matter-of-fact quality in virtually all of the replies that I find appealing.

Once, in Reddit I think, someone asked why straight women like GM literature. My reply is because straight women like men. Also, there's the attractive feature that it's really clear when a man is aroused.

Well, again, thanks to all!

P.S. I have a couple of terminology questions.

cursing the trails

Couldn't find this in Urban Dictionary

gay faggot

The seems redundant. Does it have a special meaning?

 

[sexynerdyhotndirty]

Between my marriages, I was active in our local kink/fetish community, and took a date to a club, and then the after-club. We are both bi, and she knew I didn't have much experience. There was a lot of public sex, including us at times, and as she was blowing me, a man came behind and started to eat my ass. Eventually, I couldn't take it any more, and turned to let him suck me while my gf found another man. And then again, I couldn't take it, and sucked his gorgeous cock until he came in my mouth.

I really regret not getting his number.... I would have loved to have a bf and a gf....

 

[RobLivesInTexas]

Fascinating thread. I'm glad I found it. I recently asked if there were any GM people in AH, where I spend most of my time. Only one response, not from a gay male. So I did some searching here. This is the only thread with "gay" in the subject on the first page. But it's a good one. There's a matter-of-fact quality in virtually all of the replies that I find appealing.

Once, in Reddit I think, someone asked why straight women like GM literature. My reply is because straight women like men. Also, there's the attractive feature that it's really clear when a man is aroused.

Well, again, thanks to all!

P.S. I have a couple of terminology questions.


Couldn't find this in Urban Dictionary

The seems redundant. Does it have a special meaning?

I'm quite certain that klippert meant "cruising the trails." Unless it was a very unlucky and unproductive cruising experience, in which case he might have been cursing the trails.

 

[newhere2learn]

As for M/M sex, I've only ever had one night stands with strangers, and I've never seen them again. This seems the best way to avoid complications, and having to make explanations or excuses. Also, that means nobody else will ever know what the 2 of us did that night. And I can hide remorse or shame, if I feel any. Plus there's no emotion or attachment to it, it's just sex and satisfaction, nothing more.

I've fantasized about cousins or co-workers who I suspect are gay, or my wife's gay friends, but I never acted on it. Too close, and I'm afraid a gay affair with someone I know would never remain a secret.

What's your experience?

Same as yourself, over the years must've met 20+ guys. Always same rules; no names, safe sex, and rarely see them twice. Couple of exceptions who I had fun with, and we maybe met 2-3 more times. But that's it.

I've cum in, on or over more unnamed men than I can remember.