General bitch followed by a question

[Native Alien]

Ju st my two cents worth here.

You didn't get that damned distant all on your own. But if it helps any that was also my thought. Maybe it is time to start dating again. Just the two of you after the baby is born.

I don't agree with what he did and I am not sure that I agree with the whole councilling thing, but if it works for the two of you then I say go with it.

 

[Mstrskey]

Thanks Native...

there are times I wonder what the hell counseling is doing myself, but in the end it sometimes takes an impartial person to hear both sides and basically say" that's bullshit" or " you've lost your damn mind" I do know that it's really helping my hubby open up and talk more with a " mediator" there, so I'll stick with it.

Ahhh dating...I dunno how we're gonna manage that w/ 3 kids now when we couldn't do it with 2, but the therapist mentioned that very thing himself as well!

O I know I didn't get that distant on my own and overnight, but it was the first thing that came to my head when he said it and then stayed there. I'm hoping the more he talks the more I'll understand and the better WE will be able to work on changing things.

 

[SlickTony]

I dunno how we're gonna manage that w/ 3 kids now when we couldn't do it with 2,

If y'all's 2 mommas can pile on him in the back yard they can damn well do something else constructive to help.

 

[lovechild27]

Well msytrys...if you lived in Az I would gladly sit on your monkeys so you and the hubby could get some one on one time

Glad the bebe is good Mmm...foood...lol

 

[sheath]

If y'all's 2 mommas can pile on him in the back yard they can damn well do something else constructive to help.

LOL That's what I was thinking!

S.

 

[Native Alien]

Yeppers to what sheath and SlickTony said.

 

[Mstrskey]

those women are amazing!!!!

They have offered so many times tro watch our kids forus so we could have an evening out. My mother even went so far once as to have my aunt who manages a local bistro totally comp a meal there for us, and my MIL kept the kiddos overnight and you know what we did?
We rushed through the meal, ordered a dessert to take back to the house for our kids, went and bought groceries and went home to bed!!
I think we're going to have to learn how to date again ya know? It seems like whenever we have kid free time we either talk about the kids or go do things that are quicker and easier to do w/o them like grocery shopping. The romance element seems to have gotten laid by the wayside.

Love~
...watch what you say hun...catch me on a moody pregger day and ya may find two lil ankle biters Fed-exed to your doorstep...lol!

 

[lovechild27]

well seeing as how I have no ankle biters of my own..im sure Id find some weird unhealthy way to occupy their time...

hey kids...who wants to shave the neighbors cat? lol..jk

 

[SlickTony]

The romance element seems to have gotten laid by the wayside.

Well, then you need to pick it back up again. All in all, I'd say that your marriage stands a better chance of being saved than Sheath's brother's.

 

[gravyrug]

those women are amazing!!!!

They have offered so many times tro watch our kids forus so we could have an evening out. My mother even went so far once as to have my aunt who manages a local bistro totally comp a meal there for us, and my MIL kept the kiddos overnight and you know what we did?
We rushed through the meal, ordered a dessert to take back to the house for our kids, went and bought groceries and went home to bed!!
I think we're going to have to learn how to date again ya know? It seems like whenever we have kid free time we either talk about the kids or go do things that are quicker and easier to do w/o them like grocery shopping. The romance element seems to have gotten laid by the wayside.

Love~
...watch what you say hun...catch me on a moody pregger day and ya may find two lil ankle biters Fed-exed to your doorstep...lol!

I can relate to this one only too well. My girls are teens now, and sometimes they're both gone visiting overnight at once. If I know about it beforehand, I get all excited, make sure I get a good bath, that sort of thing. But we usually end up watching movies (rented or cable) until after midnight, by which time we're both too tired to do very much. Sometimes I think counseling might be good for us too, even though there's nothing threatening to break us up. It's just that I think it could be a lot better.

sorry to ramble so much, I'll shut up now.

 

[Mstrskey]

lol...ramble away hun

I swear that sounds so familiar...kid free night= a blockbuster night and take out chinese food followed by an early bedtime!

 

[ozraven]

Re: lol...ramble away hun

I swear that sounds so familiar...kid free night= a blockbuster night and take out chinese food followed by an early bedtime!

Actually, that may not be bad, as long as you cuddle while watching the video, and share some jokes and smiles over dinner.....

Closeness is what it's all about, you can be close walking down the aisle of a supermarket.......

Also, he may be a little shy of too much intimacy, ie he may feel that with some alcohol and body contact he could end up in the shit that started it.........