How’s your married sex life?

[vibes]

married, late 30, nothing for 8 years

you get it elsewhere?

 

[Burlx]

In our mid fifties, married 30 years.
First 5 years passionate, next 5 years enjoyable, next 5 years nice, next 5 years interesting, next 5 years adventurous, wild, naughty. Last 5 years fun.

 

[philly7233]

We're both 41
Married 13 years
Sex around 2-3x a month - it's very fulfilling, just not enough for me. Wishing it was a bit more adventurous at times too. I guess I should still be grateful that it's good sex.

I’m with you on that 100 percent! This married guy here can totally relate!

 

[30bandits]

She wants cock twice a week. She initiates each session. All that pussy gets in the way of my Literotica jack off time.

poor fella.

 

[ctarrantella]

Both mid 40s
Married 20+
Kids

We average about once a week. However we hit these 10-14 day stretches with nothing. The sex is good when we have it, but would like to have sex at least twice a week regularly. It’s been a strain on the relationship the last decade.

 

[pumperguy191]

I've been having issues with ED for a few years. No erections for about a year now. After going to the doctor last week and she doubled my blood pressure meds, things aren't looking promising. Also, my wife asked to have her hormone meds changed. I don't think she has much desire for sex any longer.

 

[tell_me_more_]

honestly when we have sex, it’s really good, it just doesn’t happen as often as it used to

I guess that’s natural, or at least typical, after decades together, and I love him so much, but sometimes I wish we still had that newlywed chemistry

but maybe if I keep scrolling here long enough I’ll be horny enough tomorrow to really get his attention haha

 

[Easygoinggirl]

F 47, M 39, married 19 years. Two kids. We have it 2-3 times a week.
When the kids were younger and we were both exhausted, we did schedule it for a while. It worked for us- we both made the effort to be in the mood and made sure that it didn’t get forgotten in the busyness of life.

 

[7inchglory]

Amazing! We do it twice a week with each other, and twice a week with other play partners virtually. I've recently been bringing my wife and babygirl together in the same room for play sessions. We give each other the freedom to play with other partners as long as they can prove that they are clean and don't have a lot of their own sexual partners in rotation.

 

[rodeoclown]

Married 20 years, have had struggles with ED for a while, took some help pills, but they messed with my blood pressure. Had to stop taking them. I want it way more than she does, she has no desire, which sucks. I would find ways to give her more if she would just be open to having sex more often. Been without for about 12 years now.

 

[Showmewhatchugot84]

Ups and downs like most relationships but has been real hot and exploratory past couple months

 

[hornyhubby508]

Both mid-40’s
Married 21 years
2 adult kids living at home

Just 5 years ago I could never complain. The only nit I had back then was that we were both subs so initiation could sometimes be an issue, but horniness would override that for one or both of us.

Now it sucks. We haven’t had sex since 2021 and we haven’t even come close. Despite mostly compatible schedules, she avoids me like the plague. She sits on the toilet for hours goes to bed so late that I can’t stay up to talk with her let alone have physical intimacy. When we do have time she doesn’t want to touch me, and reluctantly will give me a closed mouth kiss but only after I feel like I’m forcing it upon her like a creeper.

The thing is, I could handle the lack of physical intimacy but it’s the lack of emotional closeness that is driving me mad. I’m not tempted to have a physical affair more than I crave an emotional one.

 

[MikeLucas]

How many of you have kids?

2 for me. Definitely changed things.

 

[MikeLucas]

Up and up lately, not necessarily in quantity but definitely in quality. I took some of the pressure off for making it happen so now when it does it’s much more passionate and engaging.

 

[MikeLucas]

Ups and downs like most relationships but has been real hot and exploratory past couple months

What brought on the change?

 

[PMarky2]

Let's hope there are many more glitches!

Not so far.

Tried in mid-March. I eased a well-lubed old soldier in, pumped a few times and I got, 'ouch, ouch, sorry - it's too big!' (OK, I do have a little more length and girth than usual, but, my dear, I am not huge.)

I tried again last week when she was feeling if not exactly frisky, then at least amenable to reason. In other words, I had made a few suggestive comments, and none of the replies involved reproduction and travel or anything anatomically impossible, so, I went down on her. Two minutes in, she straight up told me that vaginal sex was out, which I can live with - if I must, I guess - and although she gave the old soldier a tongue bath, she did not have the manners to finish me off. Good job we don't have a cat - it would have got kicked.

I worked out years ago that our relationship was based on having a similar sense of humor, personality, and sex drive, and in all truth, very little in the way of shared interests and common attitudes. With the effects of the disease on her personality and sex drive, a similar sense of humor is having to do a hell of a lot of work right now.

 

[LustyScribe]

My married sex life? I like to refer to it as Politician Style: Lots of talk, lots of promises, very little fulfillment and in the end, you're pretty sure you're going to fall for the same crap over and over again.

 

[Rob_Royale]

We had a terrific sex life until about two years ago when I started dealing with ED and she started menopause. So at the moment, not a whole lot of sex. BUT, we are making sure we take time out for physical intimacy. I'm working on my issues, and hers won't last forever, so I'm hopeful.

 

[PrincessxXxDarkstarr89]

My sex life is still pretty good, try to have sex at least 2-3 times a week even though I'm a mom of 2 so time is limited.

 

[Trubbycat]

...my what...?

 

[Wld1936]

My sex life is still pretty good, try to have sex at least 2-3 times a week even though I'm a mom of 2 so time is limited.

That’s awesome.

 

[Trubbycat]

My WHAT?

 

[Polranny]

Both married and unmarried are non-existent.

 

[spankableBelle]

Zip, zilch, nada for soooooooo many years...

 

[MikeLucas]

Thanks for all the replies and continued enthusiasm for the thread.

Ok I’ll pose this question for those that resparked a sexual relationship with your spouse: how did you do it?

For me I used to stress constantly about quantity over quantity and was hyper aware of how many times per month we did it. I would be worried if we weren’t hitting say once a week. Slowly I let that behavior go and started not to focus on the number but on the quality of my affection. I am now trying not to initiate or “pressure” my spouse for sex but just enjoy her company regardless of what we are doing. After talking to her I told her I don’t want her to “take one for the team” or be intimate if she’s not feeling it. Sure the number is down but now when we do it I know we are both wanting and are actively involved in the act. I would say we are about 4-6 X a month but those times are better than 10 not so great times.
Ok ok sorry for the rambling haha.