How’s your married sex life?

[Polranny]

Thanks for all the replies and continued enthusiasm for the thread.

Ok I’ll pose this question for those that resparked a sexual relationship with your spouse: how did you do it?

For me I used to stress constantly about quantity over quantity and was hyper aware of how many times per month we did it. I would be worried if we weren’t hitting say once a week. Slowly I let that behavior go and started not to focus on the number but on the quality of my affection. I am now trying not to initiate or “pressure” my spouse for sex but just enjoy her company regardless of what we are doing. After talking to her I told her I don’t want her to “take one for the team” or be intimate if she’s not feeling it. Sure the number is down but now when we do it I know we are both wanting and are actively involved in the act. I would say we are about 4-6 X a month but those times are better than 10 not so great times.
Ok ok sorry for the rambling haha.

My wife kissed me last night for the first time in about 4 years. I dont think she will let her defences drop any further ☹

 

[mellowyellows]

Sadly nope nope nope

 

[Strixaluco]

I would say we are about 4-6 X a month but those times are better than 10 not so great times.

I think I've read somewhere that once a week is the average for couples, so you are actually even above that.

 

[PMarky2]

<laughs bitterly>

 

[Polranny]

I think I've read somewhere that once a week is the average for couples, so you are actually even above that.

As the saying goes: "once a king always a king but once a knight is enough!" Chance would be a fine thing!!

 

[Mtnmike]

Zip, zilch, nada for soooooooo many years...

I feel your pain. Think i'm a Born Again Virgin.

 

[PMarky2]

I think I've read somewhere that once a week is the average for couples, so you are actually even above that.

Growing up in eastern England there used to be a joke about Saturday night being bath night, pub night, and nookie night. Saturdays were looked forward to.

 

[Polranny]

Growing up in eastern England there used to be a joke about Saturday night being bath night, pub night, and nookie night. Saturdays were looked forward to.

We had a bath whether we needed it or not

 

[Strixaluco]

Growing up in eastern England there used to be a joke about Saturday night being bath night, pub night, and nookie night. Saturdays were looked forward to.

In Finland Saturday was the sauna night, in the old times also social dancing night for the younger generation, and then sex. Yes, definitely looked forward to.

 

[jimmyjib72]

me (m) 50 her 56 married 26 yrs our whole marriage has been a struggle with her health and very low sex drive its been over 4 yrs since we have had sex
my heart breaks like women i just want to be wanted desired seen as attractive etc i battle with severe depression

 

[NippleNympho]

I'm 40, hubby is 41
Married 17 1/2 years
At least 3 times a week...completely monogamous now

How long were you not monogamous

 

[tolyk]

I'm 41, she's 38. Been married nearly 13 years and average 3 times a week I'd say. Sex life is better than when we met.

 

[AnnieLit]

Age 51 for both
Married 29 years
3 kids, all teens.
Daily for the last 10 years or so, unless one of us is sick or really really tired, but that doesn't happen often, so I would say it is 6 times per week on average.

 

[Marielani]

Me, 43 him 47 we have sex 3 or 4 times a week.
weather it be oral or intercourse.
we both love it so we find the time

 

[Fingerfuxs]

I’m 63 , she is 55 we are married 25 years , living together 31. Sex has evolved from daily , or multiple times daily for well over 20 of those years to mostly weekend sex these days. We both enjoy a healthy masturbation routine , solo and together. Our personal *spank banks are well stocked with swinger adventurers from over the years as well as our favorite toys. We have been very fortunate that we are both healthy and never really had any health issues that dampened our desire for each other mentally or physically. Lit * erotic has been adventurous at times too adding to our mutual spank banks.

 

[Tayloroc]

That’s sad. For me, it’s 2-3 times a year :-(

 

[Tayloroc]

I’m 63 , she is 55 we are married 25 years , living together 31. Sex has evolved from daily , or multiple times daily for well over 20 of those years to mostly weekend sex these days. We both enjoy a healthy masturbation routine , solo and together. Our personal *spank banks are well stocked with swinger adventurers from over the years as well as our favorite toys. We have been very fortunate that we are both healthy and never really had any health issues that dampened our desire for each other mentally or physically. Lit * erotic has been adventurous at times too adding to our mutual spank banks.

That sounds wonderful. Good for you!

 

[Leigh81]

How long were you not monogamous

7ish years which ended Sept of '20

 

[LikeitLikeThat69]

It’s really good still.
I’m 34 he’s 31
I would say we do it at least (sometimes more) 10-15 times a month.

We’ve been together for 11 years and married for 3.

 

[Polranny]

I regret to inform everyone that it is non-existent; however, on the plus side, it is how I found Lit several years ago.

 

[One_ping_only]

Our kids are older now and often at friends house so we're given our quality time. We've already discussed rekindling our sex life and I guess joining LIT is a good start!?

 

[Chillygirl]

Well it had been nearly 2 years. He decided he wanted a divorce and we realized this might be the last bit of sex for a bit so NSA sex for the last 2 weeks he was here.

I have a feeling I’m in for a long dry spell.

 

[One_ping_only]

Well it had been nearly 2 years. He decided he wanted a divorce and we realized this might be the last bit of sex for a bit so NSA sex for the last 2 weeks he was here.

I have a feeling I’m in for a long dry spell.

You think?? I'm sorry if a woman actually wanted to avoid a " dryspell " I truly believe it can be avoided unlike men who has less say in the matter.

It all depends on how picky said woman is perhaps? From what I've seen of you ummm I'm sure your dryspell wouldn't be more than a few hours but that's up to you!

 

[AmandaKellyUK]

You think?? I'm sorry if a woman actually wanted to avoid a " dryspell " I truly believe it can be avoided unlike men who has less say in the matter.

It all depends on how picky said woman is perhaps? From what I've seen of you ummm I'm sure your dryspell wouldn't be more than a few hours but that's up to you!

The old you are being too picky line -

 

[Strixaluco]

You think?? I'm sorry if a woman actually wanted to avoid a " dryspell " I truly believe it can be avoided unlike men who has less say in the matter.

It all depends on how picky said woman is perhaps? From what I've seen of you ummm I'm sure your dryspell wouldn't be more than a few hours but that's up to you!

Well, one can avoid a dry spell if anything goes, no matter the quality or the lack of it.

But frankly, often that can be even worse than the dry spell. Most women aren't turned on by just any man (no matter how good, decent, handsome or skilled), even less satisfied by just any man.

And not all women enjoy casual sex anyway. I haven't had really any good casual sex ever.

And then add the situation in life. Not everyone even has time "to go hunting".